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- My Gran brought me up with Vinegar or Beer(Dark Ale) for brown hair and lemon juice if you were fair.. I use vinegar and lemon juice for everything around the house lol Charley

I know what you mean though -its like when people comment about Joseph Smith's behaviour I get in trouble for pointing out things the patriachs did - like Abraham abandoned a wife and child, etc Charley

It can be rough when you feel this way sadly church members arent perfect I know there are times when I have wished I had gone that extra mile wth people. When my branch was going through a particularly rough time couple of years I used this statement by Brigham Young people who take offence when none was intended are fools, and those who take offence when offence was ment are usually fools the onus is on the person being offended to deal with it, forgive, forget and move on - it sounds like hard advice but ultimately we are responsible for our own behaviour - those people who are offending you are the ones still feeling the spirit and partaking of sacrament. If you allow them to get to you you are the one missing out. I was brought up with the best revenge for any hurt is to forgive, forget and move on Charley

Wonder how many polar bears were killed during the making of this video lol http://youtube.com/watch?v=tcRiXOONqf0

You should see them when they get started! Vehemently anti-Mormon, I tell you! They start foaming at the beaks and start thumping their Bibles once they open up their Tanner books. Darndest thing I ever saw. LOL don't let my husband see this I am having trouble convincing him we want chickens and that they are not from the devil Charley

I just think when viewing Gods actions we need to remember we are mortal he isn't. To us when someone dies we can have faith that it isn't the end but we can't see it - if as we believe as LDS the spirit is immediatly resurrected we don't really die it isn't an end. For me when we view things like that its like watching one of those 3D films without the special glasses Charley

I love chickens - my daughter and I are doing a project would you mind if I used your pictures? Charley

they had deed of covenant when I served my mission in England....if they had that here in the states I would be the first to sign up......whats neat about it.....its a good way to help you pay a full tithe... I was surprised that the US doesn't do more direct banking an awful lot of people pay directly by cheque I would miss the conveinience of that if we moved over - that and an electric kettle, duvets, gravy and custard lol Charley

A lady was searching high and low in the ward and she just couldn't find her son she was beginning to panic eventually someone said they had seen him go outside. She found him sitting on the kerb with his head in his hands looking very miserable. She says to him come on son, he says Mom I am never going back there they all hate me nobody likes me - she says but son you have to come your the Bishop and we are waiting to start sacrament Charley

Me too... and I've got tons of parenting books! Is that book you're talking about called '1-2-3 Magic', by chance? I started using that when my son was not quite 3 and it didn't work for us. But I'm thinking about trying it again now that he's closer to 5. No its called How to Talk so Your Children will Listen and How to Listen so Your Children will talk - I do use 1,2,3 but that happened naturally as part of the logical consequences - I find a combination of the 2 works, I tell her what will happen then count to 3. Usually we only get to 1 these days - nearly made it to 3 yesterday lol I was using bribery though if she got round the store she culd have a My Little Pony Charley

I'd miss both of you loads you both respond to my posts lol and Yed I just adore the Satan's Future Quote Charley

I am one of those people who when I face a problem start reading lol so have lots of books I think our children have a similar temperament - Ellie is very high spirited and strong willed., I am fortunate I probably have ADD/ADHD myself (was diagnosed with very old terms for this and Dyspraxia) which helped me until she hit 3. Tantrums I took in my stride, but whining and arguing I could not deal with I had decided I would never ever spank a child but I was getting very close, found that article and the book I mentioned which seems very instep with what the gospel teaches - and my daughter has turned round almost over night - we count to 3 if it doesn't happen I tell her the consequence and just do it - things like if you don't take your clothes off you can go in the bath full dressed - just glad she didn't take me up on this mornings I threatend to take her out naked if she didn't get dressed. If you can get hold of Montessori books as well that might help I find if Ellie has ways to become independent that when she grows most. I do use time out but it is only for anger or violence - as those are the occasions I want her to learn to walk away, it has a picture of Winnie the Pooh and is called the Thotful Spot. Some other things we have done recently is to sit down and make a family code of honour together, and I have been teaching her some basic meditation (used the book Little Buddhas for that) which helps her calm down - Family Home Evening this week we are making Ellie a little contemplation space where she can say her prayers (not the same as the Thotful Spot lol), want to put some pictures and make a prayer pillow. I do know that slowly our family is starting to respond and I am shouting much less and enjoying Ellie more again. Charley

Actually having experienced healthcare in the UK and US - I would never ever trade the NHS for what you have as old clunky and problem ridden as it is there imo there is no better system yes it needs more money, yes the hospitals have huge waiting lists but at least people are looked after, today when my son cut his finger there was no second thought about taking him to the hospital, there were no financial questions and he was dealt with. Because of the NHS if you opt for private healthcare in the UK what you get is far superior to what I experienced when my Father In Law was dying in UCLA medical centre and ours doesn't cost as much. I would not want just a couple of weeks after my husbands death to have to deal with the question - who is going to pay for the ambulance that took him to hospital. The hospital was as dirty if not more so than any I have dealt with here and the staff the most unpleasent healthcare professionals (with the exception of one or two). My in Laws have really good insurance. Our maternity care may be bad in places but its also better informed because it doesn't have to worry about making money. I was shocked at the draconian information and care my Sister In Law was receiving. When I had the miscarriage in the UK I was treated badly but I was looked after, the one in the US I was pumped full of drugs and over looked after. Why because they needed to charge more to my insurance company - I could have told the Dr he was being an idiot for checking to see if my blood type had changed over the course of 3 days. I do remember being shocked at my Sister in Law having to weigh up whether to go to the Dr with a bladder infection whilst pregnant and drinking cranberry juice. The saddest example of the difference for me was my good friend from school in the UK and my husband's best friend in the US both had babies with exactly the same problem due in the same week - my friends baby was operated on whilst still in the womb, my husbands friends insurance didnt cover it she had to wait whilst he found a new job with insurance which did cover it - he accepted a massive pay cut in the end. My friends kid has no problems at all - my husbands friends child still has constant infections. My husband was adopted in 1978 because his parents medical insurance didn't cover babies born before a certain date (I think 35 weeks), he would have been resusitated but not recived NICU care. My daughter born under the same conditions here received wonderful care and is a happy healthy 4 year old, I cannot imagine what my husbands birth parents must have experienced having a child and having to give that child up. Even if it isn't perfect I appreciate the intent in my country to look after everyone as best they can. This is even with an illness that the NHS doesn't have the resources to look after but had I been in the US I would not be anywhere near as good a state as I am in the UK. If I have private health insurance it doesn't cost as much as what we paid for my husbands insurance and I would get private room, good TV, great food, pleasent staff the private hospitals feel more like a hotel and very few waiting lists. The Colon Cancer problem I suspect is because of a shortage of cancer specialists in the country more than a funding problem so doesn't matter how wealthy you are you gotta suffer or go to India for treatment. All I can say is go Hilary. Charley

can you not pay by Deed of Covenant in the States? In the UK we can pay by direct debit ie it comes directly out of our account once a month or once a year Charley

You are very brave - I hope you get to go back again, Charley

I agree with Ben and Emma on this one - I know its an old thread but I do believe its better to show love towards a person than preach. Anyone who is LDS all there life knows all the usual Sunday School answers they obviously aren't feeling them. If being LDS isn't helping you reach your full potential or bring you closer to God at that time its failing and maybe isn't the right place at that time A hug and a plate of cakes can often have more spirit in it than a lecture Charley

I like Gem but love Mimi or Mima however Richard will veto that I should imagine he almost let me have Minerva until I mentioned a potential nn lol Charley

Color me silly. yep, add me to that silly list... I like being silly can I join too? Charley

http://images.askmen.com/women/models_250/...ma_khan_150.jpg This is my image of a Jemima - I am now thinking of talking my husband into it if we have another girl - that and Matilda are my favourite names I actually like the idea of busting a racial boundary Charley

My brother had wanderlust - was capable of 5 of cycling miles would take Mum hours to find him. Have you thought of not punishing him? And sitting down with him and saying that you love him and worry so much when he runs off. Trying to bring him closer instead of driving a wedge between you? When my daughter plays up and stuff I am doing isn't working we sit down over a glass of pink milk (strawberry milkshake), something fun to eat and talk about it. We start with a prayer and I find scripture or story to read the prodigal son might be good for your son here I have a piece of paper and we write down the problems, then we both come up with some solutions and then cross out the ones that won' work. When I have finished I put it up on the wall in a prominent spot. For example the most recent one was Ellie not listening it was driving me crackers and I was shouting at her so often, we were both crying waay too much - The piece of paper on the TV room door says - Ellie doesn't listen, Mummy Shouts, Daddy is Nasty to me (she added her problems) - solution is if Ellie listens Mummy and Daddy will use kind and happy words to her. She can't read but she knows what the words say and she 'reads' it to people lol When I do punish I tend to use logical consequences for example when she was soaking the bathroom during her bath, I started putting her towel and PJs in range - this article on the church website was what inspired me then I read a book called How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and How to Listen so Kids Will Talk I am surprised how well it works at least with my daughter http://library.lds.org/nxt/gateway.dll/Mag...onsequences.htm Charley

The Poppy Seed Chicken sounds good - and we do lasagne a lot too. Although my current set prefer lunch so they tend to get soup and sandwiches or salad. If they want a second meal in the week as noone else is feeding them do tend to get them to work for it lol Susie your idea of doing Thanksgiving is great - although right now we have an English and German missionary so guess I need to look up some German holidays. Charley

no I wanted to do Forensic Anthropology before it became trendy - my fibromyalgia got really bad at college and I couldn't do the physical left in second year Charley

I just love the way it allows me to grow whilst keeping me grounded. I also love the people I have met - today I sat down with a missionary from my home town and one from Germany its great Charley

Its something I learned as an archaeology student had several incidents: There are these fascinating Celtic stone balls that academics have hummed over for years -saying what a mystery they are - a kid in a museum tour I was taking took one look and said my Dad has something like that for wrapping rope round. Its my favourite That and the group of archaeologists standing round discussing the wonderful stone features and what could it be the local farmer came by and said ooh ahh see you hit bedrock then:) Charley

I always assumed Joseph Smith just used the word in translation - like we do today sometimes use words from other languages. Charley