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lol i miscalculated sorry I was trying to work out stone in lbs I was 105lbs which was what my Drs charts call perfect weight for my height, I have a cone shape body although its short (they are usually taller lol). I am now a couple of lbs overweight

I kind of agree with most of your post but this came to mind: Sister Hinckley: When my daughter Jane was a young girl, she said to me one day that she had a friend who was grounded. I said, “Grounded? What does that mean?” We let our children figure things out for themselves. They knew when they were doing wrong, and they would fix it themselves. One of our daughters decided to stay home from church one Sunday. So she stayed home. She got very lonely. Everybody was in church but her, and she just sat on the lawn. She didn’t try that again. She figured it wasn’t any fun. It was lonely.

who said it was harsh/? I think its pointless and inappropriate, not sure what its supposed to teach. Its not logically attached to his behaviour - I struggle just as much when I think my husband is being petty with the kids which for me removing an Xbox for ONE day is. Maybe making him do one of his Father's chores might be more appropriate Personally if you want to go through the punitive route I don't think its punitive enough to teach a lesson. If he was going to lock it up for over a month maybe. I just think personally its petty causing unnecessary pain and further rift between Father and Son without actually achieving much

nope I got way more dates after I put on weight than before when I was under 100lbs (I am only 5ft3) Ultimately do you want someone that shallow?

well we play card games using dried peas or beans lol same way I was taught growing up. Personally I see nothing wrong with it. Not sure what you are doing is any different.

It may have a little to do with Mother's Instinct, the most difficult thing I have to do in my marriage is keep my mouth shut when I feel my husband is being too harsh with kids, or doing something with them I don't like, my major urge is always too protect my kids. Respect goes both ways, I know I often disrespect my children without realising it, it maybe worth taking a step back and just noting what you actually say to him and what you hope to achieve with him. Also do you do Lad and Dad time? Something that seriously helps us is How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, How to Listen so Kids Will Talk, by Elaine Mazlish and Adele Faber. They do a book specially for teens which I haven't read (mine are 6,3, or 1), the book is common sense but not easy to follow either because it challenges our bad habits. Whilst behaviour has consequences I don't believe they need to be punitive or at very least they should be related to the offence. I find it in line with the ideas the Hinckleys talk about here or logical consequences in another Ensign article: LDS.org - Liahona Article - At Home with the Hinckleys LDS.org - Ensign Article - The Truth of Consequences My question would be what does taking away his Xbox really teach him? I am not seeing how that helps him respect you, because its the right thing to do, do you really want him respecting you because you will take away his Xbox or do you want to be respected because its the right thing to do? My Mum based her discipline on if you behaved and were respectful you could be trusted - for example to go to bed when I was tired rather than a bedtime (had to be upstairs by a certain time), if I abused it and it affected grades or my mood then I would lose the priviledge. I could be out with my friends as late as I wanted and pretty much go where I wanted because if I treated her with respect she could trust me to be respectful outside the house, I was expected to call in, let her know where I was and come in at the time I had said I would be in, again I would have lost the priviledge and freedom to do that if I had abused her. Its something that comes through from the children of several prophets that they said they behaved because their parents expected them to behave, it was taken as a given they would, personally I think setting consequences in front of them ahead of time assumes they will break the rules. Instead of giving them the rule with the attitude I know you can keep this rule I have faith in you and your ability to keep them. I personally don't set any rules for my children that I am not prepared to keep as an adult - no shouting applies to us, telling someone where you are going and what time you will be home is something we do etc I have had a lot of people accuse me of being lax as a parent but mostly only at church, everyone else seems to think I have great well behaved kids. I have never had serious issues with them running away, being rude etc outside the house. Yesterday was lovely after behaving like little harradans alll morning I took them for a walk and they were brilliant. It was the first time my three year old had been allowed to walk with me by a road without holding hands, he earned that because he had shown he wasn't going to try and runaway and held my hand nicely when I asked. He was told he had to walk nicely by the pram, and he did.

I usually find saying what's wrong with having 2 Gods usually dispels problems lol:)

Just thought you may need it :)

My illness isn't terminal but it is unpredictable and can be difficult for my children. Because of it they need in many ways to be more responsible and grown up than children of the same age. It hard for them. I think often it is harder for people around the person sick and in pain than for the person going through it.

LOL I just told my husband if he objected I'd assume he wasn't secure about his own sexuality, he's not said anything since. My middle child is gorgeous in pink, so I bought him some dark pink tops, and he has been known to choose pretty pink wellies and trainers etc his favourite garden outfit is nothing but a pair of his sisters old wellies with lots of bright flowers on them, he loves playing dress up, his favourite is Cinderella or He Man. Although I used my daughters tinkerbell kniickers (underpants for girls), renamed them tinklebell and told if he wet them a fairy would die, never had an accident in them lol and my best friend reckons I have scarred him for life Seriously though little jersey dresses or very long tshirts make around the house a lot easier with boys etc,

I kind of agree with this, although neither of my boys have objected to being dressed in pink:mellow: which i have been known to do. Dresses are useful with little boys especially round the house, nappy changing and potty training are much easier with them.

I entirely agree, a marriage based on entirely passion and lust won't get past the bumps like I am experiencing right now because my husband is experiencing man eyes when looking for a handbag:confused: Both of my bags are right underneath him lol

I've also had both, my third child had serious acid reflux, and my eldest had the jaundice because she was early, and its always just personal but I personally found over a week I had less work with cloth nappies and fewer clothes, it never seemed like a huge pile of washing that way, I regret not sticking to fewer clothes. I would need sometimes to use the dryer but I just whipped them off and rubbed them through in the sink. I have had times without a washing machine so it was easier that way

you can quickly handwash when you take them off much quicker:) and because I used cloth nappies there were no poo clothes. I have had three babies one that was constantly sick, managed with three outfits, I actually regret having more because its more work with all the washing. Even with three kids, a dog and a husband my washing machine only does 4 loads a week and UK washing machines are generally smaller than US ones

ultimately you don't need a lot, if you are planning to breastfeed you don't need bottles, you can use a sling instead of a stroller, ask around see what people have, baby can always sleep in with you or a laundry basket to start off with. All you really need to start is: Carseat nappies (diapers) - I used cloth they have come a long way and so have washing machines since applepansy had her first lot lol:) - sorry ap three outfits some blankets anything else is extra, we had that and a sling when I had my first

its not difficult lol I use fleece liners with mine because they keep baby dry. I just hold liner and if necessary nappy under the flush and flush the loo to get the worst off... then put them in the mesh bag in the nappy bucket. Mesh bag goes into washing machine with all the nappies. Usually everything comes out, if not place offending nappy in direct sunlight somewhere to remove a stain. Just can't use fabric conditioner as it affects absorbency. Its no worse than dealing with accidents in pants later on.

My passion for my husband is for who he is. He is a good, kind, wise, intelligent, decent man. Write down all the things you love about your wife, take away the pictures. Tell them to yourself. And go from there Like is way more important than love, love is what keeps the marriage together when you don't like each other very much. The other possibiity is you are gay.

do you not have a toilet its the best place to rinse them anyway? its not that unsanitary, don't tell anyone what you are washing lol and you can use bleach in your sink or even just really hot water afterwards. Actually with an apartment its probablymore sanitary because you clean the poo off if you add lavennder oil or teatree to the bucket they generally only smell when little one is teething, Its much easier in the middle of the night to sluice a nappy in the toilet than run outside and put one in the bin, those nappy wrapper things smell worse than my nappy bucket ever has

I had much less blood with my 2 normal labours not hampered by pre-eclampsia had less blood than my miscarriages they were also less painful

oh wish i hadn't looked lol never sure if cleaning buildings is a good thing, some don't look as good without the muck

I had pink hair at one point, sure you can be modest, i'm certainly not conservative in dress I love colour and to look a little different