RachelleDrew

I would agree with this. But using this idea to lord over other people who are perfectly capable of making a decision for themselves is stupid. I get really aggravated when other Mormons try and tell me that i'm not temple worthy for buying my Diet Coke. Then they use the "brother's keeper" nonsense whenever I politely tell them to mind their own business. It's a moot point. Making your stance and concern known to another person is perfectly acceptable. A child telling an adult what to do is not. The OP made it clear that she was trying to force her brother to stop behavior she disagreed with. This is not okay.

So it mentioned something about credit hours when I tried to register in class. So is in reference to college credits? How much money does this cost? It doesn't say anything on the website about prices.

I'm seeing a bigger issue here... Your brother is okay with drinking soda, and uses your father as an example as to why it's okay. This implies that your parents have allowed him to make that choice himself. The consumption of soda as a sin is debatable. A child second guessing and undermining the decision of their parents most certainly IS a sin. See where i'm going with this? If your parents have okayed it, then it's none of your business. If your brother is an adult, then it's no ones business.

What is it exactly? I would be interested in going if they have it here.....Is it a daily thing like seminary? Or more once a week?

There are a LOT of women here who have been through the same thing. Some had different outcomes than others. No matter what direction your relationship goes in, there will always be someone here to sympathize with you who has been there. First of all, have you been checked for STD's? Second of all, has he agreed to take every measure possible to correct his mistake? Third of all, are you prepared to fully forgive him and to look at yourself and your marriage with a critical and blunt point of view? Or would you rather divorce? These are the first questions you need to consider before anything else. Good luck sister, it's a hard road. But i'm 100% certain that if you and your husband have the right attitude that it can be overcome, and you can have an even better marriage than before. Or if it doesn't work out, you can be sure that you can have a fulfilling and happy life anyway.

Reading MormonMusic's and Vort's posts are horribly disheartening for some reason. Not that I disagree with them at all, attractiveness IS important. You and your spouse need to think the other is attractive. But still, it's like.....ugh. Man. I really wish I didn't have to worry about dating again. Especially after reading those posts.

Meh, I hugely disagree. Claiming that it's good that kids are reading something sub par, as opposed to nothing at all is a silly argument. King has every right to talk about her terrible writing. The difference between King's work and Myer's work is like the difference between reading "War and Peace" and the back of a cereal box. Which is saying something, because Stephen King isn't that great either. The occasional fluff book is okay. But most of the young adults I know are ONLY reading crap like Twilight. Nothing of substance, and nothing challenging or thought provoking. Which is a problem. I have several employees at my store (teenagers) who don't know who Shakespeare is (no, i'm not kidding) but they can quote Twilight verbatim. It's insane. I like Harry Potter, but the problem exists in that series too. But I won't hate on her for making a crapload of money. So long as she continues her careful marketing, she's got a lot more money coming her way.

Pablo Escobar was on it back in the late 80's early 90's. So i'm not surprised. This list is a good example of why power and money aren't always a positive thing.

This spring when I get my quarterly bonus I intend on taking a trip to the western US in general. Just to kind of check things out. I've maintained a 4.0 throughout college. I've considered continuing my education at BYU or BYU-I. I'm fairly certain I would be accepted to at least one of them, if not both. So that did factor into my choices. But I have no desire to live in Provo, i'm not really sure why. It just doesn't strike me as a good choice for me. Another question is the weather/seasons there. What is it like? I enjoy extremes in seasons.

So how many of you live/have lived in the Rexburg or Idaho Falls area? I need a change of pace. I need to be surrounded by more people who share the same values as I. I need a better educational system for my son. I've done some research, but nothing beats real opinions. I have a couple of job opportunities out there so i'm seriously considering making the move there this summer. Just for reference purposes; I live in Illinois now.

Or perhaps he will find a girl that is picky as well. It seems kind of baffling to us when we look at people who behave that way, but pushing someone on them who they are not interested in is never a good idea. Even if they are disinterested for shallow or superficial reasons.

You know it's funny, I don't disagree with what Fian is (was) saying at all. Physical appearance is important, we can dislike it until the cows come home but it's the truth. However, For a good two years I was a good 30lbs overweight because I had quit smoking and ate like an idiot to stave off the cravings. I was also almost 70lbs overweight after the birth of my son. But I never had a problem getting men to ask me on dates, or to think I was attractive. We're talking good-looking men too. Mormon men and non-Mormon men alike. Now that i'm fit again, the number hasn't gone up any. But then, the number was high to begin with. Attraction is essential, but I think you are thinking of attraction in too broad of a sense. It's not about looking like Barbie per se. Bathe daily, eat healthily and exercise. You don't have to go overboard for most guys, just follow the word of wisdom and you will be fit and healthy for your body type. Wear clothes that are flattering to your shape and that fit your personality. Don't go nuts with the makeup, but some looks nice. Smile, a LOT. Don't diss yourself or put yourself down in front of guys, they get annoyed when we do that. Don't put other people down in front of guys. Ask them about themselves, don't jabber on about your own crap constantly. Be gracious and appreciative on dates. Don't be a psycho, don't be desperate. Don't hint at marriage after you've known him all of three minutes. Don't go out with someone just because you think that's the best you can do. I don't care if you are a size six or a size sixteen, blonde, brunette redhead or purple haired. If you just act like a decent human being, look YOUR best and don't make an epic fool of yourself someone of value WILL find you attractive. So what if some others don't? I don't find Brad Pitt to be the most attractive man in the US, and i'm pretty sure he isn't crying himself to sleep over it.

My sentiments exactly.

Is there any extenuating circumstances that are compelling you to become endowed? I know that i'm in my early twenties, not going on a mission and not getting sealed anytime soon. But my leaders saw it fit to begin my temple prep now. But then, my circumstances are a bit different than most people's my age. If you have a special reason why you think you need to be endowed now then be persistent. But if not, then it's best you just work on making yourself temple ready for the future.

I don't personally agree with children over the age of 1 year old using a pacifier or drinking from a bottle. However, my personal thoughts on child rearing are irrelevant when i'm in the nursery. Like LM says, you have to keep your mouth shut sometimes. I hope that your nursery leader isn't letting her personal views on pacifiers take over her decision making process, because it's not her place. But I know that where i'm from the wards/branches won't allow any sort of oral placation in primary. 1. Germ issue 2. Causes problems with parents who don't want their kids to have pacifiers. Kinda like giving half of the class candy, and not the other class. Huge issues, I promise you. 3. We generally don't want various items in their mouths in case they fall. Those toddlers really manage to injure themselves in the worst of ways. Especially if they are running with a bottle/sippy/pacifier in their mouths. I'm guessing it's one of the reasons mentioned above. If not, then your nursery leader needs to stuff it.

Margin, that is REALLY cool information. On another note, sweet tea six? EWWWWWW. We are selling sweet tea at McDonald's and it's awful. I drank someone's by accident when I grabbed the wrong cup and thought I was drinking my diet coke. One jug of sweet tea has an entire package of sugar in it. It's foul.

Jeeze. Your bishop's story sounds terrifyingly like mine. You don't live in rural illinois do you? : D Yeah, my husband contacted all of his flings on facebook. But chances are, if a spouse wants to stray, they would do it regardless of having internet. The only difference is it might take them a little longer to find said person. Facebook is very addictive. I check mine a million times a day it seems. I have it on my phone too, with 3g network so I have checked facebook in all sorts of odd places. I have found however, that it can be amazingly useful in the church for those of us who are in a less-populated LDS area. I've been able to connect with lots of people in my stake and the surrounding stake who I would have not had a lot of contact with otherwise. It's opened up my social life dramatically actually. But for some people it does the exact opposite.

I was under the impression that it was the tannins, not the caffeine, that was the reason tea was spoken against in the WoW. If it were a case of the caffeine alone, we'd all be screwed. You can find it in a ton of stuff that's not mentioned in the WoW. On another note, most chai has regular black tea leaves in it like Assam. It just has a lot of spices in it to create it's flavor. However, because chai has so many spices and flavors in it, it's REALLY easy to create the taste of hot or iced chai tea without having any actual tea in it. So if your friend got a regular chai tea, chances are it does have tea leaves in it.

Bring on the wusses. Men who cry are insanely hot to me for some reason. Women who cry? I just want to punch them in the head. I have no idea why I appreciate when men do it, but dislike it when women do. I think it's because i've seen too many women fake crying for various reasons.

Yeah....he doesn't get to touch me anymore. I've made myself very clear. Hasn't stopped him from attempting it though. Ah well.

Yeah, mocha is just chocolate syrup. If there is one thing I miss about coffee it's those mint chip fraps at Starbucks. Holy crap those things are wonderful. Luckily, i've created an alternative that tastes similar. But it's a pain to drag out the blender.

Thanks for all the thoughts folks. Just for those of you who are concerned, i've already been tested for STI's and AIDS/HIV. Several times in fact due to his indiscretions. *sigh* I've spoken with a lawyer who is highly recommended in my area. He seems to be willing to work out some form of payment plan for the hourly work. He's also knocked a good chuck of money off the retainer fee, which is quite gracious of him. I've told my husband that we are finished completely and utterly; of course the boo-hooing and apologies began. I'm tired of it. I am convinced it's not sincere and if it IS sincere he is so mentally disturbed that he cannot possibly keep his word. He flexes in and out of psychiatric care, and never sticks with it. Whatever. Whatever is really the only word I can come up with to describe my situation. I'm somewhat flippant about it at this point because i'm just done. I will admit though, I will truly miss being a wife. It's what i'm good at, and what I enjoy most. I'll just need to focus on being a mother right now.

When I attended a Charismatic church everyone there could speak in tongues. There were a couple of people who have the gift of interpretation as well, who could more or less decipher what the speaker was saying. I have a lot of awe for people who speak in tongues. I never did it myself, mostly because at the particular church I was at it seemed like it was a show. EVERYONE seemed to be doing it in that church. Nonetheless, i've always been interested in it. It's kind of neat to witness in the right environment.

Haha! Nice

I wouldn't call him a sex addict by any means. While all of the relationships have been physical, they have not all resulted in sex. He's more of an attention addict, he fancies himself to be some kind of womanizer. He is fickle and "falls in love" at the drop of a hat. To be frank, even if he did have some sort of addiction I no longer care. He has been urged for years to seek professional help and he never sticks with it. That's IF he relents and goes in the first place. Once again, i'm completely puzzled by his choice in mistresses. The girl he is with now is not attractive. At all. I'm not pretty by any means, but this girl is severely overweight and not particularly hygienic. She's also a complete dolt and annoying as crap to be around. How do I know? She was one of my former classmates in high school. *facepalm* Perhaps I have an inflated ego here, but this is so confusing, all of the girls he's left me for don't have a fourth of what I have. I thought perhaps it was just my perception of the situation, but everyone who knows him is like "are you SURE he's sleeping with HER?" So I know it's not me. And he had the gall to tell me I was getting fat? This girl is a good three times bigger than I am. Sorry, just ranting. We are going to talk about details this weekend. The state of Illinois already takes care of child support. As soon as you separate from your spouse, you petition for them to garnish your spouse's wages through the DHS office. The amount they take would be more than sufficient to cover his end of the support. I won't ask for any more than what the state requires him pay. I could probably get alimony too, but I don't want it. Too much trouble to go through the system to get it and I just want to get this OVER with as soon as I can. We agree on assets, who gets what and everything. The only large items we own anymore are the computers and vehicles. We don't disagree on who gets which ones. Our bank accounts have been separated since he left this spring. We agree on custody sharing. With all of these things in mind, do we still have to go to court and get lawyers and such? We don't disagree on anything. I really want to make this as non-complicated as possible and it seems like he is willing to comply with everything.