Men that go on missions have a longer lasting marrige

[stevenh]

:)Hay those who have served a mission or plan to I say go for it cause you will be happier then you have ever felt I have a girlfriend and she I didn't have to ask her but she said she would wait for me when I return from my mission now that is crazy. Has anyone had that kindof experience in their lifetime. If so then good for you and on e simple quwstion Do you feel better after serving or do ya wish you could of served a mission?

Those that do become happier with their marrige and stay as one for a very long time but statistics show that those who dont' serve a mission tend to get devorced quicker then those who served on a mission so I plan to serve on one.

Follow the golden rule and you will be fine but also stay true and faithful to all around you friends, family and those who you love and those who love ya.:)

[pam]

Uhhh interesting introduction...but where's the intro?

[Mahone]

:)Hay those who have served a mission or plan to I say go for it cause you will be happier then you have ever felt I have a girlfriend and she I didn't have to ask her but she said she would wait for me when I return from my mission now that is crazy. Has anyone had that kindof experience in their lifetime. If so then good for you and on e simple quwstion Do you feel better after serving or do ya wish you could of served a mission?

Those that do become happier with their marrige and stay as one for a very long time but statistics show that those who dont' serve a mission tend to get devorced quicker then those who served on a mission so I plan to serve on one.

Follow the golden rule and you will be fine but also stay true and faithful to all around you friends, family and those who you love and those who love ya.:)

Do you mind if I ask what statistics? What is the source?

[Generally_Me]

I was wondering that too...I mean, 2 men, one a RM and one not, both get married around 22, both get sealed in the temple...both marriages are going to last eternity, how can one last longer than the other? :)

Seriously. A mission is a good thing to do, but a lot of men don't, for whatever reason.

[Bini]

I'd be interested in seeing a source as well :]

And if you return to this thread, hello and welcome!

[prisonchaplain]

My intuition says this may well be true. After all, learning to adapt to a foreign culture, where all the rules change, where rules have more flexibility built in, and where there is always a higher level of not knowing what's going on...this is excellent preparation for marriage! :-)

[Misshalfway]

There is no doubt in my mind that the mission is a great prep for marriage. (Not the only one.....)

But that doesn't mean that RM's don't have to face difficulties in marriage. It doesn't mean temple marriages won't go thru periods of trial of one heart wrenching kind or another. All this stuff is just part of the earth life deal and we all need further lessons and refining after the mission is over. The mission, imo, can only do so much. The rest is left for the wife to fix..... ( just kidding. hee hee)

[Maya]

Hi and welcome.... my son is going ona a mision very soon...

It does make sense that if you go on a mision your marriage may be stronger. You need to forget your self both in mission and in marriage. I think many girls today should serve a mision to get this experience of forgettingoneself too. Too many women want too much today.

[Mahone]

Some things can be counterintuitive, which is why I asked for a source - it's no good just to assume something is correct and state it as fact :)

[foreverafter]

Common Sense, which one prophet said is the Spirit, says that 2 years of learning to be unselfishness would make a person more likely to be able to be unselfish in marriage too & thus make it eternal.

When you say a marriage will 'last longer" if one serves a mission, the truth is, marriages only are worth anything if they last forever, not just longer.

Edited August 24, 2009 by foreverafter

[Mahone]

Common Sense, which one prophet said is the Spirit, says that 2 years of learning to be unselfishness would make a person more likely to be able to be unselfish in marriage too & thus make it eternal.

That's why I used the word counterintuitive. That means that what may seem obvious, isn't necessarily the case when you look into it deeply. There are lot of things like this, there is one mathematical puzzle in particularly I'm thinking of that even when told the correct logical answer, a lot of people don't believe it because it doesn't seem right. And that's why a source needs to be given really

[Dravin]

My intuition says this may well be true. After all, learning to adapt to a foreign culture, where all the rules change, where rules have more flexibility built in, and where there is always a higher level of not knowing what's going on...this is excellent preparation for marriage! :-)

Don't forget being forced to live with somebody 24/7, you'll learn patience or decide to die a bachelor. :) Actually in some ways its worse, missionaries spend more time with their companions then married folks with their spouse.

That and my wife will be a lot nicer to look at.

Edited August 23, 2009 by Dravin

[Honor]

I think it also has a lot to do with what someone takes from their mission and how they continue to develop and refine themselves. Even some people who were amazing missionaries end up getting a divorce. There are no guarantees. Hard work on a mission does not mean that 15 years later, they'll have kept up the hard work on a marriage. It's just not QUITE as black and white as some might think.

HOWEVER I don't think that should take away from the advice to do everything you can to prepare and condition yourself for marriage, I'd just avoid having a checklist of things that will guarantee your happiness. The hard work and dedication in life doesn't come with bump, hump, slump days OR transfers (or it's not supposed to anyway).

Edited August 23, 2009 by Honor

[mtnbikemom]

Hmmmm. LDS marriages end at nearly the same rate as non-LDS marriages. That would seem to imply that only those that haven't been on missions are the ones getting divorced? If you marry a returned female missionary does that mean it lasts twice as long? If you marry a girl who hasn't been on a mission does that then make your mission marriage bonus null and void? :)

[skippy740]

:)Hay those who have served a mission or plan to I say go for it cause you will be happier then you have ever felt I have a girlfriend and she I didn't have to ask her but she said she would wait for me when I return from my mission now that is crazy. Has anyone had that kindof experience in their lifetime. If so then good for you and on e simple quwstion Do you feel better after serving or do ya wish you could of served a mission?

Those that do become happier with their marrige and stay as one for a very long time but statistics show that those who dont' serve a mission tend to get devorced quicker then those who served on a mission so I plan to serve on one.

Follow the golden rule and you will be fine but also stay true and faithful to all around you friends, family and those who you love and those who love ya.:)

Can I be bold?

Statistics are only relevant to the masses. YOU are 100% responsible for 50% of the relationship.

However, may I suggest a reading comprehension &/or elementary listening course? You didn't read the instructions for the forum where you were supposed to introduce yourself. Do you act this way when someone gives you instructions for your job, a task, school work, your calling, etc.?

Make this kind of "lack of listening" mistake on your mission or in your marriage and you'll just be labeled as someone who just "doesn't get it".

[StallionMcBeastly]

Does that mean if both partners are RMs then you're guaranteed success?

IMO, being a RM is too often regarded as a solution to all problems.