The cultural hall and KFC

[Drpepper]

I've been to a few weddings in my time but the most memorable are the ones in the LDS cultural hall with the bucket of KFC. Memorable for all the wrong reasons that is. I realise that the wedding is about the temple sealing. However it sure is nice when people put a little effort into the reception as well. so my 2 top tips for a nice wedding.

1) get married in the temple.

2) think outside the cultural hall.

Edited October 5, 2013 by Drpepper

[Dravin]

I've been to a few weddings in my time but the most memorable are the ones in the LDS cultural hall with the bucket of KFC. Memorable for all the wrong reasons that is. I realise that the wedding is about the temple sealing. However it sure is nice when people put a little effort into the reception as well. so my 2 top tips for a nice wedding.

1) get married in the temple.

2) think outside the cultural hall.

My top tips for a nice wedding:

1) Get married in the temple.

2) Don't invite people that will be annoyed you aren't spending enough money on the reception for their tastes.

Personally I think people who aren't planning and paying for a reception who complain that it's not 'nice' enough for them should make a myo-gravitational entrance into a lacustrine environment.

[john doe]

Personally I think people who aren't planning and paying for a reception who complain that it's not 'nice' enough for them should make a myo-gravitational entrance into a lacustrine environment.

If you spoke English I'd have some idea of what you're talking about.

[Vort]

If you spoke English I'd have some idea of what you're talking about.

Hint: "Lacustrine" = "of or having to do with a lake".

[NeuroTypical]

"Lacustrine" has to do with lakes, not hell. (I must admit I was a bit disappointed.)

[skippy740]

I've been to a few weddings in my time but the most memorable are the ones in the LDS cultural hall with the bucket of KFC. Memorable for all the wrong reasons that is. I realise that the wedding is about the temple sealing. However it sure is nice when people put a little effort into the reception as well. so my 2 top tips for a nice wedding.

1) get married in the temple.

2) think outside the cultural hall.

It's been my experience that those who complain or gripe about various things... end up being given those callings about which they gripe.

Kinda like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[LittleWyvern]

Personally I think people who aren't planning and paying for a reception who complain that it's not 'nice' enough for them should make a myo-gravitational entrance into a lacustrine environment.

[Drpepper]

I'd like to apologise for my judgemental post. I've come to see the error of my thinking and hope that I haven't caused others to sin. Perhaps my short sightedness can be a lesson to others but mostly for me.

[dahlia]

It's been my experience that those who complain or gripe about various things... end up being given those callings about which they gripe.

Kinda like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

How true. I live in fear that I will be sent to Primary.

[Smudge]

Cultural Hall weddings can be beautiful - and as for the food you don't know why they ended up with KFC - my friends reception was in the cultural hall (they had an early chapel wedding followed by a reception before heading to the temple to be sealed - as that is the only way to do it in the UK). The cultural hall was beautifully decorated - and they had tented it - but the food was a BBQ because at the last minute their caterer cancelled on them - that was all they could pull together. I was also reading another story in the national papers about a wedding planner who went bust without telling her clients - leaving them having to cobble stuff together on the day of wedding!

At the end of the day - a wedding isn't about the niceness of the settings or the how good the food is - but about expressing your commitment before God and their friends and family - and maybe they were having a church wedding before going to the temple so that non-member families could be a part of the event!

[Backroads]

Best wedding reception I went to recently was not only in a cultural hall (not the best decorations) but served Chick-fil-a waffle fries.

Seriously, my reception was in a cultural hall, and it looked great. But I have seen cultural hall receptions look tacky. I've also seen non cultural-hall receptions look tacky.

[skippy740]

I think KFC would've been better than the "Wood Ranch BBQ" that my brother had. The chicken was rubbery, the mashed potatoes didn't have any gravy (just BBQ sauce), and it was all cold.

Some 'original recipe' would've been much better, IMO. :)

[Guest]

My wedding reception costs $40 at Pizza Hut. Best. Reception. Ever.

[mnn727]

You'd rather it was at the local bar?

Sorry, most LDS I know don't spend the big $ on weddings that many non-LDS people do, making the cultural hall the perfect place for a reception.

And besides, who doesn't like KFC?

[JimmiGerman]

I've been to a few weddings in my time but the most memorable are the ones in the LDS cultural hall with the bucket of KFC. Memorable for all the wrong reasons that is. I realise that the wedding is about the temple sealing. However it sure is nice when people put a little effort into the reception as well. so my 2 top tips for a nice wedding.

1) get married in the temple.

2) think outside the cultural hall.

"KFC"... ? The bucket of "Kentucky Fright Chicken"...?

[Guest]

I'm already telling my daughters that I will pay them each $1000 to elope to the temple. I hope they invite their parents, but mostly I just want them to get married in the temple and forget the reception.

[dahlia]

If they have the reception at the cultural hall, do they at least have it catered by people who know what they're doing?

I thought people went to reception halls, or is that only in Utah?

[Guest]

I don't know why anyone should think they're entitled to a certain type of venue or food when they're attending someone else's reception. I think the couple goes with 1. What they can afford, and 2. What reflects their desires for celebrating the day. That has nothing to do with me. The notion that the bride and groom have to "pay their guests back" for their gifts is old-fashioned, and frankly, silly. They could go out and purchase things for themselves if that's what it was about.

[Backroads]

I'm already telling my daughters that I will pay them each $1000 to elope to the temple. I hope they invite their parents, but mostly I just want them to get married in the temple and forget the reception.

Husband and his ex did not have a reception at their wedding. He highly enjoyed having a reception.

I also enjoyed having a reception... yet... if I were to marry again, I probably would skip it.

[Dravin]

I don't know why anyone should think they're entitled to a certain type of venue or food when they're attending someone else's reception. I think the couple goes with 1. What they can afford, and 2. What reflects their desires for celebrating the day. That has nothing to do with me. The notion that the bride and groom have to "pay their guests back" for their gifts is old-fashioned, and frankly, silly. They could go out and purchase things for themselves if that's what it was about.

Mine was basically crackers, salami, cheese, and Country Time in an unadorned cultural hall (well, the Utah one, the Indiana one was more traditionally reception-like, though still probably not up to some people's standards, because we were having a ring ceremony). I think we did go through the trouble of center pieces but they were basically those glass stone things and fake flowers in glass bowls from Hobby Lobby and we gave them away at the end. Personally I find the idea that the reception is some sort of quid pro quo trying to snag gifts to be abhorrent and if you think the reason I'm inviting you is to get gifts rather than share the occasion with you I'd really rather you just not come as I've clearly misconstrued the nature of our relationship.

Edited October 7, 2013 by Dravin

[NeuroTypical]

I've been to three weddings/receptions in cultural halls. Two of them were "yeah, right, this will last a year" weddings, and neither of them lasted a year. One of them was a "These guys are fighting hard and I wish them the best" wedding, and as far as I know the couple are still married.

I've never been to a "Isn't it cool how we can not blow a lot of money on a perfectly good wedding/reception" event before, but I'd sure have no problem doing so.

[Lakumi]

My wedding reception costs $40 at Pizza Hut. Best. Reception. Ever.

jeez I've had meals more expensive then that:lol:

[applepansy]

What are receptions for?

They are suppose to be a place where friends and family can come together and congratulate the new couple. What they have become is something else.

We used the cultural hall for a family dinner. My VT and a couple of other ladies from the ward helped prepare the food and set up the buffet. I appreciate they're help so much! Even three years later I say thank you. I couldn't have done it all on my own.

But... I got some attitude from others in our ward who expected a big reception. One sister insisted on hosting a bridal shower and the invitation said "In Lieu of a Reception, the ward is giving a shower." What? It still bites a bit when I think about it.

I love my ward but when it comes to weddings there are a few who have expectations that overshadowed some of the good things.

[Lakumi]

I hate going to weddings, since the music is always so loud you can't talk to the one beside you.

The food is always terrible, its long and so boring, and of course I never go with anyone so have no one to go to a quieter place to talk to.

[Guest]

jeez I've had meals more expensive then that:lol:

Yep! Me too!

Basically, my husband and I had $40 to spend after paying $80 on the marriage license and $20 for the justice of the peace to wed us under the nicely decorated court arbors.

So, my husband told everybody we have $40 left and asked them where they want to go... and they said wherever holds the most meaning and we said Pizza Hut because we got engaged on that river at the Pizza Hut parking lot... We called all our friends - most of them were at work - and they all met us for lunch at Pizza Hut, they all paid for their food, my mother-in-law paid for ours, and I gave the $40 to the waitress for tip. And most of our friends decided not to go back to work, so we just hung out like we normally do. I had no family there since I was shunned for marrying a non-Filipino, non-Catholic, penniless, education-less dude. But my husband's family was there so it was cool. It was really really fun.

My mother-in-law held a reception at her house a week later and that was not fun because most of the guests were people from church that I don't know and my husband was very uncomfortable around them because he got married instead of going to a mission and he didn't get married at the temple.

Edited October 7, 2013 by anatess