Moral dilemma re: coworker

[seashmore]

Short version: I work full time at one job and part time at another.  There is another person who also works at the same two places.  That is, until recently, when this person was fired from the full time job.  I have not been told that it was due to stealing, but cash came up missing and ten days later, we were told that person no longer worked there.  Due to some special circumstances and my full time employer being an incredibly merciful person, there were no criminal charges pressed for the theft; he considered termination of employment (and resulting consequences) justice enough.

Am I under any obligation to inform our other mutual employer?  (I don't think my coworker has because my part time manager is the kind of person who would have asked me about it had he heard anything.)

[anatess2]

3 minutes ago, seashmore said:

Short version: I work full time at one job and part time at another.  There is another person who also works at the same two places.  That is, until recently, when this person was fired from the full time job.  I have not been told that it was due to stealing, but cash came up missing and ten days later, we were told that person no longer worked there.  Due to some special circumstances and my full time employer being an incredibly merciful person, there were no criminal charges pressed for the theft; he considered termination of employment (and resulting consequences) justice enough.

Am I under any obligation to inform our other mutual employer?  (I don't think my coworker has because my part time manager is the kind of person who would have asked me about it had he heard anything.)

My 2 cents.

Its only your obligation if you are privy to all the details of the issue.

[NeuroTypical]

No.

That's easy.

 

It is your duty to love thy fellow man.  Go buddy up with the guy and let your light so shine.  Now is not a time to be judgmental.  If you ever find out he's got a victim chained up in his basement or something, that's another story.  But "no longer works here" and "cash is missing", plus gossip, does not equal grounds to judge.

Don't get yourself sued for libel/slander.

Edited May 6, 2018 by NeuroTypical

[Guest]

On 5/6/2018 at 3:44 PM, seashmore said:

Short version: I work full time at one job and part time at another.  There is another person who also works at the same two places.  That is, until recently, when this person was fired from the full time job.  I have not been told that it was due to stealing, but cash came up missing and ten days later, we were told that person no longer worked there.  Due to some special circumstances and my full time employer being an incredibly merciful person, there were no criminal charges pressed for the theft; he considered termination of employment (and resulting consequences) justice enough.

Am I under any obligation to inform our other mutual employer?  (I don't think my coworker has because my part time manager is the kind of person who would have asked me about it had he heard anything.)

If the first boss considers it a closed case without pressing formal charges, I don't know if I'd worry about it. But I'd keep it under my hat for future reference.  If something along the same lines comes up at the second office and no one is able to figure it out, I might suggest to the second boss to talk to the first boss about "an employee responsible for cash missing X months ago."

If you don't know all the details, then I wouldn't divulge a name.  You don't know the details, so have him talk directly to the man who does know all the details.

Edited May 8, 2018 by Guest

[Overwatch]

On 5/6/2018 at 3:44 PM, seashmore said:

Short version: I work full time at one job and part time at another.  There is another person who also works at the same two places.  That is, until recently, when this person was fired from the full time job.  I have not been told that it was due to stealing, but cash came up missing and ten days later, we were told that person no longer worked there.  Due to some special circumstances and my full time employer being an incredibly merciful person, there were no criminal charges pressed for the theft; he considered termination of employment (and resulting consequences) justice enough.

Am I under any obligation to inform our other mutual employer?  (I don't think my coworker has because my part time manager is the kind of person who would have asked me about it had he heard anything.)

Hi Carborendum,

I am glad you asked everyone. This is a simple NO.  It is not your place to "warn" your other employer as this might get you in trouble for slander. If for some reason money ends up missing from this second job THEN it might be good to pull your boss aside and let them.

Just because someone makes a mistake does not mean they should be shunned. Easier said than done, I know.

You sound like a good employee wanting the best for your employer C :  

Best wishes

[seashmore]

Interesting that this got bumped back into conversation.

There was, of course, more to the story than I shared. I had felt particularly betrayed because two of my three FT coworkers seemed to have it out for me and intentionally treat me like third string dirt. Our department manager was the only one who reached out to me in any way, and she was the one who was fired. By her brother-in-law. It caused me to question her sincerity in all the times she reached out to me. 

But she stopped in while I was working at our PT place Saturday (she had the day off) to wish me luck, as she heard I was leaving. She told me she had said to her husband she was almost glad she was fired because, in her own words, "I never would've changed my ways." It's been quite the emotional roller coaster I never would have had to ride if I had listened to the Lord during General Conference when He told me to move.

[Overwatch]

51 minutes ago, seashmore said:

Interesting that this got bumped back into conversation.

There was, of course, more to the story than I shared. I had felt particularly betrayed because two of my three FT coworkers seemed to have it out for me and intentionally treat me like third string dirt. Our department manager was the only one who reached out to me in any way, and she was the one who was fired. By her brother-in-law. It caused me to question her sincerity in all the times she reached out to me. 

But she stopped in while I was working at our PT place Saturday (she had the day off) to wish me luck, as she heard I was leaving. She told me she had said to her husband she was almost glad she was fired because, in her own words, "I never would've changed my ways." It's been quite the emotional roller coaster I never would have had to ride if I had listened to the Lord during General Conference when He told me to move.

Wow. What a beast. Maybe it was one of the other mean girls that stole stuff?  Glad you got through the bull crap.

 

[seashmore]

14 minutes ago, Overwatch said:

Wow. What a beast. Maybe it was one of the other mean girls that stole stuff?  Glad you got through the bull crap.

 

No, it was more embezzlement than hands in the till.

[Overwatch]

26 minutes ago, seashmore said:

No, it was more embezzlement than hands in the till.

ah, Well good riddance to them.