Nicole bennett Posted May 13, 2020 Report Share Posted May 13, 2020 (edited) Hi my name is Nicole and I’m 17 years old. So, I’ve been struggling with watching pornography the last few days last night I did repent and I’m not sure if I fully repented or how to exactly fully repent. Even with repenting I still feel the need to watch pornography and look at pornography pictures. I’ve been thinking of discussing this with my bishop but I’m not sure if I should or not. If I would talk to him how would I confess this to him and how much should I confess to him I’m really struggling with this and I want help Edited May 14, 2020 by Nicole bennett Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Because of your age I feel like the person you need to talk to is your parents and your bishop. Providing advice to a teenager on such a sensitive subject from random people on the internet probably isn't the most appropriate of things. JohnsonJones, NeedleinA, Jane_Doe and 5 others 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 1 hour ago, Nicole bennett said: Even with repenting I still feel the need to watch pornography and look at pornography pictures. This is because your brain has been conditioned to respond to the pornographic images. It is a form of brain conditioning, or if you prefer, brain damage. It is reversible, though. You need to talk with your parents and your bishop immediately and break this addiction while it—and you—are still young. Nicole bennett, pam and KScience 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Ok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Nicole I seriously wish you the best. We all have our trials in life. It's how we overcome them that is important. You can do it!! Jane_Doe, Vort and KScience 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Ok but I’m also scared to talk to my bishop about it because I don’t know what he will say or think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Just now, Nicole bennett said: Ok but I’m also scared to talk to my bishop about it because I don’t know what he will say or think He will be loving and kind. He cares about your spiritual welfare. While it seems scary, especially as a young girl, it's the best thing to do. Just do it and get it over with. Jane_Doe, Nicole bennett and KScience 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane_Doe Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Remember your parents are also a resource too, assuming that the bridge is there. pam 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Yeah but I only feel comfortable with my bishop not my parents I don’t want them to know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeedleinA Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 10 minutes ago, Nicole bennett said: Ok but I’m also scared to talk to my bishop about it because I don’t know what he will say or think Bishops tend to be tremendously more understanding than most people realize. If your Bishop is like most, he will have already heard from multiple youth, both female & male, in similar situations. You won't be sharing something with him that he hasn't already worked on with others. Congratulations on trying to address this sooner than later. 4 minutes ago, Nicole bennett said: Yeah but I only feel comfortable with my bishop not my parents I don’t want them to know Then start with him first. He will mostly likely encourage you to share it with your parents, simply to seek addition support. However, the choice to share it with your parents is up to you. He will not share it with them. When my own teenagers speak to their Bishop, I do not pry. I'm grateful they are seeking assistance and trying to correct some issue even I don't know what the issue is. KScience 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 I would but what’s also stopping me is that I’m afraid he might tell my parents Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeedleinA Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 1 minute ago, Nicole bennett said: I would but what’s also stopping me is that I’m afraid he might tell my parents 7 minutes ago, NeedleinA said: He will not share it with them. When you speak to your Bishop on a personal private matter like this, it is between you and him only. He is interested in helping you, not running off and telling your parents. Have faith that he is on your side. KScience, Nicole bennett, Jane_Doe and 1 other 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Should I talk to him over email since I can’t speak with him in person cause of this whole covid 19 thing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 1 minute ago, Nicole bennett said: Should I talk to him over email since I can’t speak with him in person cause of this whole covid 19 thing Ask to meet with him. Tell him you need to talk with him. Then let him take the lead in how you talk. I assume he will not want to talk via email or text. I suppose it's possible he will want to Zoom or Skype or Google Hangout with you. Or maybe he'll want to mask up and meet with you. I don't know, but trust him to take the lead and figure out how to meet with you. Jane_Doe, KScience and Nicole bennett 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Or should I wait until meetings resume Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Or get support from friends and regular church leaders and when the time comes when everyone goes back to church buildings if I still have a problem with it then speak with him cause I think it’s something that I should talk to him in person not FaceTime or zoom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane_Doe Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 13 minutes ago, Nicole bennett said: Should I talk to him over email since I can’t speak with him in person cause of this whole covid 19 thing Video service is simplist. Skype/Zoom/FaceTime/etc. 5 minutes ago, Nicole bennett said: Or get support from friends and regular church leaders and when the time comes when everyone goes back to church buildings if I still have a problem with it then speak with him cause I think it’s something that I should talk to him in person not FaceTime or zoom He can support you totally fine via video. Same with friends / other church leaders. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 21 minutes ago, Nicole bennett said: Or should I wait until meetings resume I would not wait. The longer you wait the harder it is to do it. SilentOne and Vort 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Ok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 But even now I’m having a hard time doing it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeedleinA Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 10 minutes ago, Nicole bennett said: But even now I’m having a hard time doing it Do you know how to contact your Bishop? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Do you mean by that I’d I have his contact information Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 If* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeedleinA Posted May 14, 2020 Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Nicole bennett said: Do you mean by that I’d I have his contact information Yes. Do you know how to contact him and get the ball rolling? While this is fresh on your mind, could you simply send him an email saying, "Hi Bishop, this Nicole. Would you have some time to talk with me please?" That simple email would get the ball rolling. It is a doable baby step AND a step you can do in the next 5 minutes. Time/procrastination is your enemy. Edited May 14, 2020 by NeedleinA Jane_Doe and Vort 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole bennett Posted May 14, 2020 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2020 Yes I do have is email Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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