MichaelCraig

Hatred and unforgiveness are both like taking poison......and waiting for the other person to die.

I've always wondered why she was there, but really wasn't. I knew she was under-cover right off the bat because SHE has a gingerbread MAN for an avatar. Now if it had been this: http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQlhPe6lbyTAgfVAPjNsbLSsaFNWYPsdTCAwSa81scut_n4B5SmWA2P0w It would have been more believable.

@Blackmarch, I thought it was just me that noticed that. Do you think the brain juices settle in different areas which control left/right brain type thinking depending on what side we are laying on or....what is your theory?

I was right there when all 3 of my sons were born. I believe that the closest a person can ever come to touching Heavenly Father while we are still on this Earth, is when we kiss the cheek of our JUST born baby. Gray stuff and all. Most emotional Holy Spirit filled moment of my entire life. How any person can understand and witness having a baby, from the time the mother knows she is with child, until the baby is born and STILL not know there is a Heavenly Father...I'll never understand. It is a complete miracle in it's truest form. How the female body adapts even after the child is born, how the mothers milk formula changes with time as the baby grows having different vitamins and nutrients needed just for that particular child at that particular time. I could go on and on. It is the most amazing thing to me. Almost too much for my simple mind to grasp.

I may have missed someone already posting this and if so I apologize. I have been told by my wife that one of the reasons she chooses not to talk about certain things, things that are of very sensitive nature is because in past relationships when she brought this information out in the open and in it's entirey it was later used as a weapon against her. We must all keep an open mind when trying to figure out what causes communication problems between us. In our case knowing that we have exhausted every possible resource, church and otherwise, to overcome our issues I feel that HF is waiting for US to do something before He steps in, and this thing is to stop putting all of our focus on the issues each of us have and put our serious focus on HIM. I feel IF/WHEN we do that HF will begin to break down the walls around our heardened hearts and pave the way for us to be one, with HIM being in the center of all we are and do. Just my 3 cents.

May I ask what your spiritual goals are Nathan? Also, how do you plan to obtain them? When growth stops, decay begins....plain and simple.

Well, actually....Mary was ill at the time and asked Pam to fill in for her.

Don't let them get to you Pam. They are all just jealous that they don't look as good as you do espcially at this advanced stage of your life. You should be proud. Look at the things you've experienced in your lifetime. Life changing from horse and buggy to space crafts, new ship engineering and safety rules made law since the Titanic sank. You're not old, you are wise and the most "spritely" person I know! I love you and all of your wrinkles just as you are Pam. (will this take away any of my suck up points?)

GROOOSSS!!!!!! Pam please spam filter that user name I pm'd ya before, well nevermind. I have a delete button.

Does anyone believe in that phase of the moon theory stuff? You know, the one that says people become more emotional or that more dramatic things happen during a full moon or times close to a full moon which I believe is not too far off. I'm a skeptic on things like that myself. I do know that our bodies are a large percent water and that the moon has an effect on the oceans and all but, we're not an ocean so....I just don't know. Anatess, what say we blame it on the moon, huh? :)

Money? This wants a pic of me and I won't say anything further. AAAHHHHH!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA!! :0 Listed as a 20 yr old female that just registered today..Probably a logger with a beard longer than ZZ Tops! HA! I LOVE IT!!!

Dr T!! Now I'm getting spam and it's all your fault! Not really, I sat myself up making the stupid comment I never get pm's. Now the spam gates have opened. I deserve it and it's ok. I have a delete button.

I'm a nut, and yes... there would be enough evidence to have me committed.

I feel the hug Calimac and thanks. What first inspired me was there is an American couple on the south pacific island of Fiji where my son is that are part of the mission staff in some way who see our young men and women a good bit. They invited a group of missionaries over to eat and asked if they had any requests. They all put in for some good old American food, Speghetti, Tacos etc (yeah-ok) and those kids enjoyed that so very much. From that it hit me and hit me strong to stop these crazy guys on the bikes the next time I see them which wasn't long so I could get to know them. The first time I tried they ran, guess they've had other crazy people my town scream at them from the vehicle, not sure, so I backed off and what do you know! Within one week guess who knocks on my front door! I was so excited I know they probably thought I was high on dope or something but I invited them in and now you know the rest of the story. There has been 4 or 5 blatant right in your face Heavenly Father inspired situations that have come about since I started supporting them. Things that happened that wouldn't have if a chain of events, all perfectly falling where they had to for this to happen, 1)because they would not have been in that particular part of town if it hadn't been I just dropped them all 4 off at our local bike shop because one just broke a spoke that day, and I was able to do that during my work hours because I had already taken off early for another appointment I had which had just finished and on thier way back to thier appartment they took a short cut, on a road out of the arranged/scheduled area two people saw them, started talking to them and are now members! That's when I knew that what I was doing was His Will and to keep on doing it no matter what crazy things people I know think about it. It is my personal feeling that EVERYONE, members especially should support these missionaries, shower them with love, feed them, support them in any way humanly possible. I believe that it is our JOB and DUTY to support these kids who are a million miles from home, in a VERY strange land, but they've committed thier lives for two complete years for the soul, yes soul purpose of spreading the Gospel, the Plan of Salvation, getting people to church, Baptized...is that not THE most awesome thing a 19 yr old kid or ANYONE could ever do in thier lives???? I just cannot understand why others don't feel the same way I do about this. If only they knew what I feel when I'm with them. We have had some of the most Holy Spirit filled conversations while traveling back and forth across town than I've ever had with anyone in my life. We spill our guts, share our testimony, we laugh, we cry, we fellowship and every time when I drop them off we pray. They usually ask, "brother Peak, what can we do for you?" Every time of course my reply is "You know the answer to that question...PRAY!" Most of the time they pray but I've even done it myself on several occasions and it is awesome! Missionaries are a very special group of people. A different breed. One that leaves home a young woman or man and returns full of wisdom from the life lessons learned, being around different cultures of the world, learing the scriptures getting closer to HF through His Word by way of reading AND teaching, they learn lanquages they never would learn on thier own, they earn a serious sized tool belt of things learned while on mission that will not only benefit them, thier wife and family but trickle down to grandchildren and even great-grands. You can tell I'm a little partial to missionaries, huh? :) If we who are not on mission could do 1/4 of what they do spreading the Gospel imagine how the world will be effected?

I was SO excited and then BANG! You gave me a forrest..and then burned down the trees! It DOESN'T HAVE THE 5 1/2 INCH FLOPPY DISK DRIVE!!!! I've been looking for a 5 1/2 floppy usb to retrieve some very important ancient data from the 80's and thought finally here was my tool but NOOOOOOOO! It has all modern drives, slots and connections. Come on Funky!!!

I agree. No name tag=Non-LDS. Not long after my son left for his mission I had a serious tugging on my heart to become as close as the rules allowed to our local missionaries. Mainly being there for support of any kind, 24/7-365 and for the last year and 1/2 they've called me an average of once a week to come save them when they had bike troubles on the far side of town. (I have a truck) To give them rides to where ever they needed to go when mileage on the mission car was approaching the limit, many different reasons...I even took my enclosed trailer and helped both companionships move from thier appartment to another appartment across town on thier preperation day (P-day). I've been with these guys during thier high and low times and I have never seen them, including thier P-day, when they were not at LEAST with dark slacks/white shirt and tie WITH NAME TAG. Most of the time they wore the dark jacket also. I've been around them long enough that we are comfortable around each other. Who knows who those guys were but I find it VERY hard to believe they were LDS. Think I'm saying all of this because I'm trying to cover for them? Here's a shocker...I'm not a member. I've been with them when we were cutting up and may have taken it a wee too far on some subjects but it was a VERY far cry from porn or anything that is against church or missionary rules. The ones that I am aware of anyway which are a good many due to both my son being a missionary and from me being around our companionships so long. Yes, missionaries are human too and they make mistakes but by the time young men/women make it through MTC and the other very sacred steps to become a missionary they are a well oiled Gospel teaching machine and #1 are too focused and too busy to do something like you are talking about, especially a group of them???? Ah, somethings wrong with that picture right off the bat. Who ever it was staging that to look like LDS, (if that's what they were doing) IMHO did a lowsy job impersonating them. No name tag, NON-LDS. Just my 2 cents. :)

Suzy, although this is a very touchy issue to approach I too, having the open mind-out of the box type thinking that I have, took the risked and asked my wife that question. Since it is and has been very obvious for a long time now that I have nothing that seems to "light her fire" we can't help but wonder....what does? Added with the fact that she has three very close bloodline relatives that have accepted and lived with thier "same-sex" partnership lifestype for many years now (which I personally do not believe in) however, felt it may be a possibility. My wife quickly denies this to be her issue or what she chooses or will pursue as a lifestyle but still I can't help but wonder. Is it something that she suppresses because she knows it's against what our faith says is right and because of the life issues she has witnessed her family members faced and had to deal with from the world because they embrace thier sexuality? Or, is the issue from some sort of awful experience deep in her subconscious from childhood or early teens? She admits to no type of aggrevated rape/sexual abuse or the like as a kid or adult, so what then? I face a brick wall. I've read and tried all of the things mentioned in books on this thread to no avail. We've gone to both church and professional counseling. No improvement. As hard as it is for me to believe a person can be born with little to zero libido it seems maybe because neither of us choose to accept the real truth of what is causing this we settle with the answer that she is just the type person who does not enjoy, does not need and is actually uncomfortable with intamacy. It's not like we 90 yrs old. I'm 50 and she's 5 yrs younger than me. I realize our bodies go through changes as we age but sheesh!! I just do not know what to do. I want so badly for her to be happy even if it means not being with me but she swears another person is not what she wants. If she had discussed with me before we married that after a year or so she was going to be completely celebate it would have been kind of nice, you know? She says she did not ententionally do it, that she did not know so how could she tell me something she was not aware of? Oh, the many wonderful challenges and life lessons our HF blesses us with during a lifetime. Even still in spite of it all I thank Him. I just wish He would tell me what I am to do but I guess it doesn't work like that. I've prayed until my knees bleed and I will continue to pray and have faith because I know, we need not extraordinary faith. Ordinary faith in an extraordinary God, can move mountains.

Just like the sewing machine brand name.....what if your surname WAS Brother and you were a male? "Hello, I'd like to introduce you to Brother Brother." Huh??? (Yeah, I'm goofy. So what.)

I agree Bini that animals need and deserve better treatment. I just wonder a little if the current cure isn't sometimes the actual instrument of death for animals who are not adopted because of the long process. I'm glad our medical system doesn't use the same rule for us humans. If our house is messy....oh! can't go home, lethal injection is the best for you. Here ya go! ZZZzzzzzz.........______________

So, if they are making it harder to adopt and realize that more than likely this will cause the animal to be in the shelter for much longer do they extend the time frame set before they put the animal to sleep? I guess I need to go to the HSPCA website or contact our local shelter for the info. Thanks.

Apo, if she actually made the statement, (not in these exact words) that if you pursue a faith based education bringing you closer to Heavenly Father and providing an education that will greatly benefit you, your family-kids, even grand children...she will leave you???, doesn't that tell you something? I'm no Dr. Phil by a long shot but I've been down a long bumpy road relationship wise, not something I'm proud of, BUT I learned a lot about love. I'm not totally sure what she has for you but it doesn't sound like the kind of love that I would want to spend the rest of my life with my friend. To be honest I feel a relationhip built on that type of love would be like building a house shifting sand. Pray, pray and pray some more...then follow your heart and what you feel Heavenly Father is leading you to do. Listen to HEAVENLY FATHER..not anyone else.

Speaking of the brother/sister title question...does anyone know what it takes to achieve the title of Mother, like Mother Teresa? On another note...I don't know how others feel but I've always felt a little funny calling a catholic priest father. I realize it's tradition though and I've done it out of respect. Just felt a little funny. I guess when I think father I think of Heavenly Father and there is no man on Earth equal to Him. Not even close. I mean no disrespect to anyone of any faith so I apologize in advance if I said something stupid. I'm just a simple minded country boy. :)

Wow, the rules for adopting an animal at the pound sure have changed since I was a kid. My 19 yr old son was thinking about getting a lab so he filled out an application he found online for our local animal shelter. It had all kinds of questions on it but we didn't think much about them. When he turned the form in the person at the animal shelter saw we had other animals, copied the contact info for the vet we use, called our vet asking if they had ever noticed any signs of abuse or neglect of our other animals when we bring them in for grooming or treatment then it snowballed. The lady at the vet of course knows us well so she called my wife at work getting her all upset. The animal shelter person said they even come to the perspective owners house to "inspect" making sure that we have a safe and clean environment, fenced in yard etc. SHEESH!!!! I understand and agree with the laws protecting animals but my goodness! Is it like this everywhere now? Back in the day they'd give you a dog or cat and I don't remember even signing a form. My son says he would rather buy a pup from the newspaper or a friend before going through all those hoops again. I'm afraid in thier attempt to protect animals they may be causing more to be put to sleep because it's so much trouble completing the adoption process that folks go elsewhere.

Bl8tant, He is the strongest when we are the weekest. Pray. Go to Him as a hurting child would go to thier loving Father. I know this sounds so simple, and I would imagine someones already mentioned this but for me it works. It worked when my wife left me for another man in 1994 and it has worked many times since then. I went through a time where I withdrew from everything and everybody and finally my oldest brother came over after I called him and he prayed with me. That night I got down on my knees and asked for help. He provided enough strength to pick myself up going one day at the time I starting my life over. This time I've worked very hard to keep Heavenly Father in the center of my everyday life. I pray and pray and pray and He grants, provides, sends His Comforter to help me. Heavenly father loves you more than you'll ever know, no matter what. His promise is to never ever leave you. That is a promise that no other person can truly do even though they may say it with words. For some they are able to hold to thier promise but for so many others they just can't. Try to put your focus on the one you can truly trust. Once you are able to get back in close relationship with Him all of the other things like church attendence will work out better. Just don't give up. These things take time patience and faith. You also have us Bl8tant. We're not perfect but many here love you and are here for you. Just take and focus on one day at the time and remember......"and this too will pass."