Milluw

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  1. Oh... Linegirl...! Don't make me pull out my heavy artillery!
  2. Well i couldn't let our conversation on facebook end so suddenly, could i now <3 i love you too. Im a nerd!? Lotr..... *caugh caugh*
  3. LINEGIRL so you finally finished your introduction. And i was worried the computer actually might have fallen asleep before ever started typing.
  4. Well he wrote: "I've decided to do a blog about this and post this to get people's thoughts"
  5. I think i need to read that blog when it comes out
  6. How was that constructive? The big picture might not be all about her alone, but this thread is actually exactly about her situation, feelings and reactions towards it. Even if there might be some harsh words, its quite obvious that she is very sensitive to this situation. If you really wanted to help her by responding to her thread, wouldn't it make much more sense to use what she writes for thought, to perhaps help her out of the mindset you seem to dislike?
  7. While i can absolutely sympatise with how you're feeling. Not nessicarily just with the urge of having children and a family, but in general when a person assumes something about you, without questioning it. It makes you wanna hit your head in a brickwall sometimes, lol. It can both be if you're not dressed in pretty clothes, if your not good at attending meetings, being socially akward, overweight, underweight, unattractive, by the age, modesty, a huge number of things. But if you notice this pattern, its not so much "the church and its ways", its just humans. Throughout the world. Its a dangerous path to go down, to look at the evil within the church. Because oh yes, it is there. Because we're human, every single one of us. But its also out there. Its not nessicary to pretend to be blind, just to decide where you let your mind wander. You won't forget the paralleles in this world, by trying to see what is good at heart in this world and the people around you. It will only benefit you. The church is a place for us all, and when you start telling yourself that you are an outsider because you don't seem to fit the sorroundings, you will slowly fade out to be so. Trust me, it's something i've had to deal with my entire life. I've been told by my sister that i'm probably the hardest person to actually truly get to know, and she's known me my whole life. Which ofcourse has led to many odd situations and assumptions about me. Because people need to label. And it's hard to label something without knowing its content. So when someone assumes and don't question their assumption, the best thing is really to pity the person that can't and won't make the effort to see farther than that. One day we will all understand, i truly believe that. Even when you feel like your blood is boiling. Yes, even when someone is being so obviously rude, don't let the anger get you. Im not saying that you should'nt set your bounderies, you certainly should. If you're hurt, express it. And if the feelings are making you mute, give yourself a break. And then approach the woman/man when you're feelings have settled and you've thought of it all. Rather that, than risking to hurt another person. It could end up in a bad spiral, and get alot worse than it should have been. Im not saying all of this because i think these are things you don't already know, you probably do. But you seem so hurt and frustrated with it all, that i though you might have lost clear sight for a moment. If not, then i apologize for my assumptions. All i can say, is that when/if i get married in the future and have children. I wouldn't want anyone to judge me for being just another family-person. It's true that assumptions and generalisations are being thrown around, but more than just from one side, its probably both sided. Even if it's not with bad intentions, it is joining a bad spiral that needs to be broken. And i do hope you will find the possibility to start a family one day. Because you seem to have such a huge love and devotion to children, which i admire. I thank you for being a good example of waiting and deciding to follow the Lords lead. Any person that is in that situation's example is more greatly noticed than they often might think. Wow, im gonna end this thing before it turns into a novel! Thus, i end this with a quote : Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. Dale Carnegie
  8. There is two sides of it. Most people feel great at a gathering when each individual feels cared about. But on the other side, a hostess that runs around looking stressed and not being present kills it. So definantly look at how much time you would want to spend on your dinner/snacks/whatever before they come, so you'll have it all prepared for them in good time, then you can join the party/gathering yourself. It doesn't nessicarily need to be a feast, it could also just be snacks for a movie or a game night. Just put it in some bowls, in the fridge or whatever there is needed. So that when you pop the movie in or people start to play the games, all you have to do is go and grab the stuff, lean back and enjoy. :) * Also, if its something bigger you might wan't to prepare what needs to be ready in really good time, so you can go and take a relaxing bath or do what makes your nerves calm down. Since your guests may notice you feeling worn down after preparing. Oh, and if your doing something as (lets say) potatoes, which you might prefer not to have been out after being cooked for a long time, just peel them and put them in some water with a lid on. You just have to put the heat on when the guests arrives then. (Just an example) But thats more in the food department in relation to being a hostess, since it sound like the actual party and having fun with your friends is your homefield. :)
  9. I do relate to you as well. Big changes are coming up in my life too right now. One of those are to move to another city two hours away from where my family and everyone are. I don't know a single soul in this new city. There's 10-15 members there and they are about 60 years old and above. That's what i've been told anyway. It can be scary in a sense, but its an adventure. I think the attitude is the key. Feeling lonely and burned out can be really tough, but there is most likely a reason for you to be where you are right now. And im sure its not just for the purpose of feeling the things that you are. So maybe now is the time for you to open your eyes and your heart and see more than you've seen so faar. Talk to your father in heaven, and tell him about your worries. If you don't know what to do, or what to realise, tell him to lead you. He wants you to be happy, and if you've been answered in your prayers that you need to go a certain way, have comfort for now that if you do your part, he is leading you towards happiness :) But thats just sharing my thoughts about it. If you ever need to vent or just to talk to someone, then feel free to message me anytime.
  10. Milluw

    Medicine

    Thanks for the answers! So you just tell him about food storage and such to explain? What is generic drugs?
  11. Milluw

    Medicine

    But can a doctor write perscriptions for that large an amount of medicine? I've been told that they couldn't
  12. Milluw

    Medicine

    How do you build up a storage of the medicine you need? Isn't that impossible? If its a medicine you need to keep you alive, wouldn't that mean that in a bad situation you would well.. die as one of the first?
  13. What would you want him to do if he was going to do it? Since if your possibly starting off something that might become something more, you're probably both figuring out where each other are and learning to know each other better. So what you decide to do, might be setting the "bar". Not that its inchangeable If it makes sense.
  14. Ohh like that! Thats a cool idea
  15. MsMagnolia: Do you mean making a whole table of food storage? Don't know what you mean with the end table :) (My english fails me sometimes, hehe). And yeah, i've seen those bedrollers around, they're actually pretty affordable and often on sale. ^.^ Thought about buying thoose. Pam: That is cool O_O hm, do you know if it matters if its on a carpet or on a wooden floor? If it will be harsh on it, slide or whatever.
  16. Oh yeah, i probably should say that i am just one person! :) Yeah, i've heard alot of people recommend IKEA. Never heard of thoose blocks though, sounds clever.
  17. I will soon be moving to a smaller apartment than the one i already have, the one i am now moving too is similar to this: Fjordvej 46 And after figuring out that i have to throw about 80% of what i own away to fit it in there, i just remembered that there also has to be room for foodstorage! So im looking for some ideas in here. How do you store your food? And do you have some tips?
  18. The place where i am moving too in 3 months, there are about 10 members in the church. Every single one of them from 65+ years old and up. Now i could wonder why this is the place for me to be, being only 21 years old. But it would be a shame to let the oppertunity pass, where i could make a difference. The Lord knows the right place for us to be, i know that if you put your own wishes to the side and pray for an answer, you will know the answer to your question.