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I'm not sure if I'm understanding you correctly when you say "It is my opinion that there is time after this life to decide definitely that a person wants it cancelled." Are you saying that you feel sealings should not be cancelled in this life, and we should wait until the next life to decide if we want to remain sealed to a spouse?

Every individual is unique, and for some, after going off the pill, pregnancy comes within a month or two, for others, it can take quite a lot longer. You've been given some great advice in the earlier posts. I don't have much to add. I'm an avid reader, and during my pregnancies I read a lot of books on pregnancy, and followed along with pictures of how my baby looked every step of the way. There are great internet sites that you can look at or post on FB, that shows what the baby looks like at week so-and-so, that could be fun for you.

I've lived in the same house for the past 23 years. Our ward has been split about 4 times with the dividing boundary being the street we live on or one street over from us. Unfortunately, it did have an impact on how often we saw our neighbors who were now in another ward. Because, the ward activities seems to be our main social life, we simply didn't see our acquaintances who were now in a different ward. It was like an invisible fence went up. It was hardest for our children. For some reason, friendships were often based on the ward the kids were in. Probably, because, outside of school, that's where the kids saw each other the most--Primary, cub scouts, YM/YW, activities, etc. We survived. The best part of it, socially, is we know a lot of different families in our community that we wouldn't have otherwise gotten to meet.

Happy birthday!

Thanks for sharing, Bini. She is sooo cute!

Wonderful to hear of your baptism. Congratulations!

Beautiful!

I agree with you Applepansy. It would be nice to know if a sealing had been cancelled. But, I don't see anywhere to put it in NewFamilySearch. I guess I could put it under marriage events. There's a place for divorce there. I'm just surprised there isn't a place for sealing cancellations. In that same place I do put in the dates of sealing to spouse. I know my step-grandmother had her sealing cancelled to her first husband, but I don't see it recorded anywhere. I'm thinking that might be pertinent so someone down the line doesn't decide to seal her to her first husband again. But, then again, I guess it wouldn't really matter.

I had two children go out at the same time on their missions. We were very blessed with the assistance that we received. We had an anonymous donor from our Stake who paid every penny of my sons mission costs. For our daughter, I'm not sure who donated, but I believe we received assistance from members of our wards' Elder's quorum and the ward mission fund. We couldn't have done it otherwise.

Are sealing cancellations recorded in family history? Is this pertinent information for families to know? Thoughts please.

I read the book back when I was a teenager during the Christmas holidays in the early 70s. The only reason I remember this is because one of my gifts was my first cassette player. And I only had one cassette tape--Led Zeppelin III. I played that tape over and over as I was reading the book. To this day, if I hear any of the songs from that album, especially "Immigrant Song", I get all tense and a terrible sense of dread. Very good book! Also a great album!

Wow, Lizzy, I've also been thinking lately about how few friends I truly have too. Sure, I have a lot of acquaintances, but very few true friends. And I know that I'm mostly at fault. In my younger years, I don't know how I came about with the friends I had. I just seemed to have them. Also, in college and after my mission, I just seemed to have friends. Though, I have to admit, before I got married a lot of my friends were guys. (Which reminds me of that YouTube video from Utah State "Can guys and girls just be friends"). My best friend became my husband, and I didn't think it was appropriate to remain friends with all of my guy friends. And after marriage I didn't have much in common with my unmarried friends. DH and I have made friends with several other couples, but I wouldn't call them a bff type. And, it's probably my fault that I haven't truly got someone that I would consider a bff. I simply haven't made the effort. And true friendship takes effort. I have been trying to remedy that. I've been making more of an effort to "be there" for my friends. And, I also realize, that I have to reveal more of myself to my friends. I tend to not want to share my true feelings with others. And how can I be friends with someone if I'm not willing to share my inner self with them? I don't know why it wasn't all that important to me before, and now I seem to have the need to have a truly good friend that I can confide in, share my sorrows, fears, and joys with.

I also would not be willing to subject myself to public scrutiny. I have a cousin that had a baby at the age of 16. Her daughter also had a child at age 16. So, she was a grandmother at the age of 32. Then her grandson had a child when he was 18. So, she was a great-grandmother at age 50.

The first major purchase my husband and I made after we got married was an upright Walter piano. I have loved it all these years. Of course I would love a grand piano, but it is simply out of my budget, plus I wouldn't have a room big enough to have one. In my younger years I learned to play the oboe in band. I had violin lessons and piano lessons as a youngster too. As a teenager I taught myself guitar--but never got very far with it. My mother was a widow with seven children. She had very little money. Her mother disapproved of her spending any money (that frankly, we didn't have) on music lessons for the children. My mother told her, "One day, I will meet my husband in the next life, and he is going to ask me what I did for his children". My grandmother didn't say anything about music lessons after that.

When I worked for the Airline industry, I would often get upset passengers or even downright "mean" people on the phone. Many of the problems the passengers had were valid problems. I did my best to help solve the issues. When a passenger called, whether with a problem, or just a question, "I" was the company. And any frustration a passenger had, "I" became the company they were having issues with. I found that if "I", (the company) owned the problem, and they could see that I was truly trying to help solve their issue, they would usually calm down and we could work together in getting their issue resolved. Some, just needed to hear an apology "Im sorry". I have to admit, there were a few people that I talked with who were just "mean". I can't think of any other way to describe them. They had no manners, refused to be courteous, and didn't care what kind of language they used. If they started to use foul language, I would tell them that I would not listen to such language and would hang up if they continued to talk that way. And there were times that I did have to resort to hanging up. Our calls were often recorded or monitored by supervisors. It was okay to hang up if we were being talked to in this manner. Btw, we also had prank callers who would call the reservations system. We had nicknames for some them. Enough of us would get the same prank caller, and would actually nickname them. And keep in mind that there were thousands of agents, so in order for us to remember someone and actually nickname, they must have been calling on a regular basis. One of them was the "Spanker". He would start out by asking for flight information, start chatting nicely, and then ask if we spanked our children. Weird. I won't go into detail on some of the others, they were just sick. Not only were there prank callers, but there were stalkers. Many of the employees did not give out their real names. I didn't. Our supervisors had to know what our "name" was that we used. I used a variation of my first name and then a totally different last name because my last name is uncommon enough that I could have been found. And we did have an employee from our center who was stalked. Not good.

I'm hoping your clearance comes through before the baby comes! The timing is coming down to the wire.

Had you been sealed previously? Or was it just your husband that had been previously sealed? If you hadn't been sealed previously, then your children wouldn't have been BIC and would need to be sealed to you and your husband. Jennarator is still technically sealed to her first husband, so her baby that is soon to be born would still be considered BIC. This is why she would love the cancellation to go through before the birth of her baby, so she and her second husband can be sealed together, and their baby, still BIC, would be sealed to her and current hubby, not her and ex.

I usually enjoy your posts Vort, but I have to agree with Eowyn on this. I, too, thought you lacked finesse. I understand that Mactechnm used the wordage "Women are not breeding machines to bring souls to Earth", and you expounded on that by stating that in fact we are "breeding machines...". I guess, what I found hurtful by this, is that I look at you as my brother, someone I admire, and may I say it?--even love. Even though I don't respond too often to posts here, I pretty much read everything that's on the boards. I have developed a love for those who post on these boards. I know I haven't met any of you in person, but I have developed a bond, and I look forward to the day in the next life, if not here, when I have the opportunity to meet many of you in person, give you a hug, and say "Thank you, I admire you, I grew to love you". So, with the feeling of love that I feel for you, when I read your post, that women are indeed breeding machines, I found it to be rather insensitive and hurtful. I ask myself, "Is that the way you would explain womanhood to your own daughter?"--"Honey, that's all you are...a breeding machine to bring souls onto this Earth". From your posts, I don't believe that you would. I get the feeling that you love your daughter and your wife very much and would never speak in such a way to them. And, to understand where I'm coming from, with my heartfelt admiration of you, (and yes, I look up to you as a sister would to a beloved brother), those words struck my soul, as if you were speaking to me directly, and it hurt, because it came from you (even if you were using another's words). I love being a woman. I love the fact that I have been the vessel in which I have been able to bring souls to this Earth. I fully believe that I chose my gender knowing full well what was expected of me. I don't feel you were putting women down, you were in fact, I feel, trying to explain what womanhood is. But, this time, I feel you missed the mark.

I love wearing earrings. I didn't get my ears pierced until I was 23 years old. It didn't seem to be the fashion when I was growing up. I suppose if it was the fashion back then, I probably would have gotten my ears pierced a lot earlier. If I remember correctly, with my two oldest girls, I wanted them to be old enough to care for their ears themselves. With my third daughter, I let her get her ears pierced at an earlier age. I can see the wisdom in having the girls old enough to care for their own ear care. Seems like my younger daughter didn't do so well with it, and her ears became infected. As for myself, I have to be real careful with the metal I wear. Any cheap stuff, and I seem to have a reaction to it. I don't have a problem with gold. If both you and your husband were okay with the ear piercing, then I would say "go for it". But, if one parent is against it, then I say wait.

I served 1976-1977 in Duesseldorf Germany. The language was difficult for me. I became fairly fluent by the end of my mission. I can still understand the language, but speaking is difficult. Whenever I've traveled to Germany post mission, the language starts to come back. Fortunately for me, I worked for a major airlines and have free travel benefits--plus, I had a son stationed with the military in Germany for 4 years, so visited quite often in those 4 years. My mission experience was wonderful and it was difficult. Probably one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life. One of the comical experiences was when my companion and I were chased by a rat! It wasn't funny at the time, but now I laugh whenever I think about it. I rode a bike, just like the Elders. But, of course the major difference is that the Sisters had skirts/dresses on while riding bikes. It could be rather embarrassing to have a bike crash. There was a lot of tracting in my mission. I remember the saying "Whenever we knock on a door over here, they're baptizing someone in Mexico". Some missionaries didn't have any baptisms at all while on their mission. The average was 1 to 2 baptisms before going home. I wouldn't trade my mission experiences for anything. I loved it! I had wonderful companions. I am in contact with a majority of my companions via Facebook. The Elders were my best friends while there, and even after coming home. I learned to love the people I served and those I served with. The feelings I experienced when a convert was baptized was incredible--joy, exhilaration, peace, contentment--all mixed together. The love I still have for the members and the contacts I had over there is amazingly strong. I came home from my mission with a firm testimony of the Gospel and greater love for my Savior.

One of my favorite songs I love to listen to is "The Lord's Prayer". My aunt, who recently passed away, sang a beautiful rendition of it. Back in the 1950's she recorded it onto a record. Her family played that record at her funeral. It brought most of us to tears. I felt her wonderful testimony and love of the Savior through that recording.

I'm thinking the first meeting with your Bishop will probably be just to get to know one another a little better. You might want to tell him that you've been inactive, and are now just returning to activity. As time goes on and as the Bishop works with you and your husband, there may be issues that may need to be resolved by confession. Be open with your Bishop and he will guide you. You and your DH will most likely at some time in the future take the Temple Prep classes together. Your fear of your DH dying before you have the chance to attend the temple is a fear I also had before I was sealed to my husband. We were married about 18 months before we were sealed. I feel, that as long as you and DH are progressing towards the goal of temple sealing, then you are on the right track. The Lord knows your fears and your righteous desires. But, let's say, that your husband does pass away before you have the chance to be sealed. My understanding is, that spouses can be sealed to their deceased husband or wife. Children could also be sealed to them at that time. Or, some women do marry again after death of first husband and choose to be sealed to 2nd husband (when they were not sealed to 1st husband). Sometimes, prior children are sealed to 2nd husband. Some children choose not to be sealed to 2nd husband and wait until after mother dies so mother can be sealed to 1st husband and then the children can be sealed to their mother and biological father. Try not to let your fears overwhelm you. Everything will work out. As for wearing the same thing to church every Sunday, I have very few dresses/skirts. I'm a slacks/jeans person. So, I practically wear the same thing every Sunday. I don't think very many people even notice. But, it does get boring wearing the same thing. If you're like most women, you'll probably want to get a few other outfits you can rotate wearing. But, if you don't, it isn't anything I'd worry about. Also, as far as finding women close to your own age that you can share life's ups and downs with, I have found that age doesn't matter so much anymore. When I was a newly wed, I found that older women had so much more experience and advice they could share with me. As I got to know the women in the wards I've been in, age pretty much had no bearing on our friendship--common values was what mattered. Good luck, Bini! I'm rooting for you. I think you'll do fine.

I've read just a little over half of the list. Do watching movies count? If I add the movies I've seen, then I could add quite a few more to my list. lol I love reading. If I find an author I like, I tend to read most of their books. Some of my favorite authors are Agatha Christie, Ellery Queen, Lisa Scottoline, Dan Brown, P.D. James, Tom Clancy, Steve Berry, Robert Ludlum, Nevada Barr, Sue Grafton, John Grisham, Mary Stewart, Edgar Rice Burroughs, Ian Fleming, Robert Louis Stevenson, etc. etc. etc. There are so many more that I love. For me, life would be pretty dull if I couldn't sit down and read a good book. Books take me to far away places, fun adventures, and frightening scenarios. I vicariously experience love that is lost and then found. Most of the protagonists are strong characters that against all odds find a way to resolve their dilemmas. After a good read, I'm more energized, and enthused about my own life (even if it may not be as exciting as the books I read).

Thanks, Dravin. I was about to google it, because I had no idea what lumpia was.

You'll notice that on my post, I put you in as Ward Technology Specialist.