BeccaKirstyn

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  1. I second what @Sunday21 has said! That takes a lot of faith to stick with something that you believe in while others you love may not anymore. This site has many people who have strong testimonies of the gospel, as well as a lot of knowledge about it. It's a great place to discuss questions you have if you aren't able to discuss it with friends or family, or people at church anymore.
  2. I have always found this chapter to be interesting, especially considering where it is placed. I've often thought of what it is like to be a new investigator reading the Book of Mormon, and only 4 chapters in this main guy is being asked to murder someone. What an odd thing to read at first, I can only imagine. But what significance it plays as well. I feel like as investigators (and even ourselves too when we reread the Book of Mormon to regain our testimonies), this very pivotal moment for Nephi of "follow me and my word" also parallels into our life. While we aren't being asked to murder someone in order to gain a very important set of plates that account important history, we are asked to consider this book and all that entails, despite the controversy that sometimes surrounds it or the doubt that may creep in from Satan. I can't always explain this how I want, but I just have always found this very "controversial" move by Nephi, commanded by the Lord, to be interestingly placed just 4 chapters in. I also like aspects of verse 3: "...Now behold ye know that this is true...wherefore can ye doubt? Let us go up; the Lord is able to deliver us..." Taken out of its literal context and into our lives, how easily we doubt the Lord's ability to deliver us out of trials or situations when we have spoken of our testimony of His strength and power. We are so much more like Laman and Lemuel who murmur and doubt when things get hard, when we should strive to follow the advice from Nephi. We know His power and will is true, so wherefore can we doubt? And of course, verse 31 will always give you a good laugh.
  3. I'll pop in from time to time when I remember to get on. I'm currently in Mosiah right now but I don't mind reading along with you all and discussing ideas.
  4. I agree completely with this. Our whole purpose here is to keep our eye focused on our eternal destiny. But, this means that we apply it in every step of our life. So in regards to your example, the step of taking a woman out on a date is apart of those steps necessary to reach eternity. Rather than focusing on the unknown aspects of eternity, focus on the things you do know. That we have to learn, grow, and develop in this Earth life in order to reach eternity. That includes dating!
  5. Thanks for all the responses. It's an interesting discussion with the different generation gaps (knowing that the majority of comments here are coming from people not in my generation). As Anddenex said, I think this will begin to become a common announcement in other wards and stakes, not just YSA wards.
  6. So at the end of our sacrament meeting today, our bishop announced that all phones need to be turned off during sacrament meeting per the request of the stake presidency. He reiterated "not put on silent, or put away, but turned off". I've heard a lot of different reactions about this from members in my ward. I'm curious what you all think. (This is a YSA ward, with a YSA only stake)
  7. So I'm a very petite person with a very small frame, so any shirts I wear will almost always show the lining of my garments or the garment itself on my shoulders. Just kind of inevitable. I could wear just plain t-shirts everyday, but like you, I like to be fashionable and wear cute clothes. I also live in a very humid area, so while the idea that I'm about to propose is going to sound insane, I promise it is doable. I wear the layered tops from downeast. I wear the demi shirts to cover my bra and my shoulders when the bottom of my shirt doesn't expose anything, and I wear a full layered shirt when I need the full coverage. While I know this sounds way too extreme for the humid weather, and I will admit I sweat a lot with all the layers, it's the sacrifice I make to wear my cute shirts that are not immodest but just don't work well with my frame and my garments that fit very tight to my body. I definitely recommend trying them out. You will have to let your body temperature adjust to all the layers, but with time I think you'll come to find the downeast shirts a lifesaver! They are for me. I don't care to show parts of the downeast undershirt through my shirts, cause it's just an undershirt and isn't exposing the garment. It makes me feel so much more comfortable in the clothes that are appropriate, but don't always fit right with my garments. I'm attaching a link to the demi shirts. I wear these everyday on top of my bra (I wear my bra on top of my garment). These help me out so much. These are much less "heavy" than the full shirts. It's a very thin cotton layer. https://www.downeastbasics.com/collections/layering-essentials/products/demi-tee-core-colors
  8. I definitely don't think those are equal comparisons if that was your intention.....while the book is a fictional story, it is based on the real life struggles of those who are paraplegic/quadriplegic or have similar deficiencies that require them to be cared for by a person. Because they can't do anything for themselves and suffer in pain every single day. I am simply saying that we are not to be the judge of those who don't want to live with that pain (emotional, physical, and mental) anymore. There's only one person who has that responsibility, and we are not Him.
  9. I don't think we ever have any right to judge from the outside looking in on those situations. Until you are living their life, and understand the full extent of what they feel everyday, then you can make that judgment. That movie specifically didn't portray exactly what the book did when it came to showing both sides of this conflict. The pain and suffering of the individual, and the want and desire of the loved ones to persuade them to stay. It is a very sensitive and difficult situation.
  10. Are you in an area that allows legal assisted suicide? From the small bits of information about this scenario it sounds like the individual is limited in all of those important capacities but their health is otherwise normal.
  11. Oh yes, of course. It just sparked my rant that I had brewing in my head all day after that incident. Nothing against you.
  12. Sorry that you're going to get the brunt of my rant about this, but this is due to an incident today during our choir practice. I think we put WAY too much pressure on people in their callings to do them "correctly". I'm currently the choir director and I have NEVER done anything like it in my life. Sure, I play piano but I don't know the proper way to conduct nor do I always do it correctly, yet I got the calling anyway. I try my hardest, but that doesn't stop the people who do know how to conduct properly from correcting my every error, and most of the time it is not in a generous and polite manner. I usually just brush aside the comments, but today I had a moment of "okay, this is a voluntary calling for a church I love but I'm ready to throw in the towel". We are all just people coming to church to hear the word of the Lord and these smaller and insignificant parts of church (e.g., conducting, the piano playing, the teachers who aren't great at teaching but are worthy to do it) are just there to help the "machine" work so to speak. I am guilty of judging and being irritated by these things myself, so I'm not excluding myself from this rant. I think we need to step back sometimes and stop focusing on the little things we like to pick at, and focus on the bigger picture of why we go to church and why we have callings that people aren't always "perfect" for. It is to feel the spirit, to come to serve, and to learn of Christ. TLDR; let's all just enjoy church for the actual purpose of what it is for.
  13. I'm obviously not one to interpret what impressions and feelings you got, but maybe to add a perspective that hasn't been considered: Maybe Satan was trying to put some doubts into your mind about this. I always find that when I'm closest to making the big decisions in my life, the strongest doubt and worry comes in that I'm making a wrong choice. I used to confuse this with the Spirit and then realized this was Satan coming in to create doubt and push me away from something that would bring joy in the long run. I know you're dealing with some problems in your marriage that you've discussed so this may seem like a weird option, but Satan provokes us in very interesting ways. But I do echo what Eowyn said. I think it would be helpful to discuss this with someone who can give you divine guidance.
  14. I did not read your original post. What feeling did you receive/get in the temple?
  15. How cool you're related. One of my favorite hymns to sing and play.
  16. I'm interested to know what got you to that understanding. For the sake of interest, care to expand?
  17. I've always been under the impression that to "rule on their thrones" is in a manner like God. Which isn't a sole position, but one in which is done by a Heavenly Father and a Heavenly Mother. So how does that come into play with this unique situation? Or am I interpreting things incorrectly?
  18. Yes (pretty common in YSA wards), but not at the ratio of 4:1. I'd put it at 2:1.
  19. Even at the YSA level, our ward temple trips consistently have more women than men in attendance. Usually 4 girls to 1 guy.
  20. Vort's comments about the ambiguous definition of abuse can sometimes apply to this statistic as well. What kind of sexual abuse? If it is specifically rape, I think the statistic is closer to 1 out of 6, but more broadly, sexual abuse is probably close to that statistic, and I believe it is just as close to 1 out of 4 for men as well with the broader definition of sexual abuse. You just get less reports of it for a variety of reasons.
  21. The "stranger danger" phenomena is a definitely a problem, when most violence is committed in a interpersonal relationship rather than by a stranger you've never met. But the problem of human trafficking extends to both realms. We see the interpersonal trafficking that Eowyn described, and then there are places like Vegas and other major cities where girls are approached by random women in malls or parks and seduce them into trafficking. They are almost always girls who are runaways, so it's a different population, but it is still this idea of a "stranger" beginning the process. As mirkwood stated, I think it's best to teach them to be cautious and careful, but not paranoid about strangers.
  22. A child still has their agency to choose how they want to live their life. As a parent, what do you do? If your child (and let's say this child is 18+) has come to you to tell you they are gay, not because they want you to try to help them because they don't feel it is something that can be changed, but because they want you to be aware of what they are going through, what do you do? I think the church hasn't put out a strong narrative towards how to address these situations because they are individually-based. Each scenario is different in my opinion, and maybe one "path" to addressing this isn't the right path for every family. The child in the video seems clearly set in the way he wants to live his life, since he has left the church. As parents, what do you do? I think they are parents who love the sinner, but do not love the sin. If their son wants to choose to leave the church because of his sexuality, what are they to do other than to love him anyway?
  23. Very interesting and different video. I hope this kind of story can bring hope or comfort to families in similar situations. At the end of the day, we have to show the kind of love the Savior would show, even when we don't know the answers to all the questions.