BeccaKirstyn

I've kind of skimmed the discussion going on here, still slightly confused, but to address your original statement: -There are weirdos everywhere you go in the Church. I'm in my early/mid-20's in a very LDS-populated area (not Utah or Idaho!) and I just happen to be in a YSA ward with a lot of strange people. Our ward is a culmination of everyone who doesn't fit in with the other wards, along with those of us who are zoned for the ward and don't "ward hop" because we have callings. So I can only imagine how much stranger they would be if they were just a few years older with the knowledge that they're now in a different age bracket of dateable people. There definitely is something about being past 30 and still single in our culture. I've dated some pretty psycho people as well. I only really date LDS people but I'm sure if I expanded my horizons I would find some pretty psycho non-LDS people. Lots of fish in the water! Just keep looking and a not-so strange person will come along. Or they'll be just strange enough to match with your strangeness. Cause we're all weird.

I hope that brings some clarification and comfort to the OP. As zil stated earlier, we are strangers to you but we want to help you as much as we can. We're all brothers and sisters through this gospel. We want to see you be happy and there are a lot of people here who have a deep faith and trust in the repentance process, so please know that these words shared by these strangers today are truth and out of love.

But there are people here who have clarified exactly what that process entails, including what is recorded, why it is recorded, whether or not it is pulled up for future reference, etc. There are also people who have offered a great word of advice: men are imperfect. Bring your questions to the Lord in prayer. He can offer you words of wisdom concerning this. The Savior's atonement is exactly meant for this type of fear and doubt.

Kelli, I don't know what your true intention here is. Are you looking for truth? The people here have spoken it and given all the information they can about this matter without divulging information that they cannot share. I'd recommend that if you're still wanting answers, that you go to the Lord and then you go to your bishop. Right now, you're questioning the Church. All of us here who are members are very strong in our faith. You won't get anyone here who sides with your assumption that the "Church" isn't forgetting sins. So if you're looking for someone to stand with your assumption, you won't find anyone here to do that. What you will find are people who are willing to answer your questions to the best of their ability, people who will pray and encourage you to go through the repentance process, and to trust in your Savior who provided that process! Find it within yourself to know whether or not you're wanting a few questions answered about the disciplinary process or if this sin, along with the magnitude of the repentance process, is shaking your testimony. If so, I would say that there is something at the foundation of your testimony that needs work.

Kelli, this is Satan. As someone mentioned before, going through the repentance process fully is the last thing he wants you to do. He led you down the path of sin and isn't wanting you to find your way out. He's going to do EVERYTHING he can to make sure you don't fully repent (in this case, a disciplinary council). Do you believe your bishop, stake president, and other members who will sit on the disciplinary council are called of God? Do you believe in the repentance process, including the process of the disciplinary council, is God's creation? You say you're willing to do this the Lord's way, so do it and stop letting Satan control how you feel about it. Trust Him and His course of action.

I'm a waiter and I understand why they want you to order alcohol (increases your check average, thus increasing your tip amount, and many restaurants keep a ranking system of who gets what section depending upon how much in alcohol sales you had for the week along with other factors). But as an LDS member I hate selling alcohol so I'm a little different. I hate encouraging my guests to drink poison that will inhibit their ability to drive later that night. But even with all the reasons why selling alcohol is beneficial for servers, they still shouldn't treat your dining experience any different. That's just bad service.

Reminds me of this article I recently read... https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinion/i-used-to-be-transgender.-heres-my-take-on-kids-who-think-they-are-transgen

I was locked out as well. I was just able to log on today, so you weren't alone!

I have really narrow shoulders so every shirt I wear is usually on the edge of my shoulders (thus showing my garments), so I always have to have a DownEast layering shirt underneath. So I don't ever have a problem with that, since I already have a layer on underneath that covers my garments. It probably looks strange to non-LDS people who don't know why I have a shirt on underneath my shirt, but it helps me to not have to worry about my garments showing and makes me feel a little bit more secure.

I'm currently in a Psychological Anthropology class and am reading a book titled, "What Makes Life Worth Living?" by Gordon Matthews. It's an analysis of Japanese and American culture and the differences between the meaning of life for different individuals. It's quite interesting and it makes you reflect on your own life and what is your "ikigai" (Japanese for "what makes life worth living"). It's full interview accounts from a variety of ages and backgrounds. I'd recommend it for anyone interested in this idea of "the meaning of life" from other views. I found a piece of an interview that I think relates to what you are speaking about. This comes from a young man who lives in Japan and is a member of Soka Gakkai, which is essentially a sect of Buddhism. He says, "For me, Soka Gakkai is more important than the bank (where he works); the root of my life is religion. But my work is also part of my religious practice." (Matthews, p.169)

Can a "family event" be cleaning the house? I know your children are young and can't do much, but maybe there could be some sort of activity created that would both involve family time but also cleaning your house? Since it seems that the excuse to have family time over cleaning is the issue your husband has with it, maybe combining the two would break an even ground? I mean it would of course be great if he could communicate what's going on in his head about this, but I can see that this isn't something that seems plausible.

I'm much more of an observer of the majority of these forum topics than a commenter, but I always find myself scrolling through posts like this for a response from the OP....and then I get to the final page of the thread to see they haven't responded! But yet there are 3 pages of responses! It kind of makes me laugh. I am very interested to see what response from the OP will be given....

This was shared by a friend today on Facebook. I don't know if it is viewable, but if not it is a collage of photos of Officer Doug Barney. So sorry for your loss. https://www.facebook.com/NicoleVowellNewsReporter/photos/a.726239214055544.1073741828.726172047395594/1156059044406890/?type=3&theater

Cause someone's gotta win

Please don't. I know for your generation, the internet is an easy way to find help, and sometimes not good help. So the fact that you are here, on an LDS website where there are reasonably sensible people to help you, please stay and talk as much as you need about what you're going through. I think some others have given some great advice about how to approach this, with your concerns of your parents not believing you. As LiterateParakeet said, is there another adult you think would approach this problem in the way that you believe they would believe you? I think I am safe to say that none of us here want you to continue to feel the way that you do. We want you to find happiness and joy, especially at the age you are in. It is very far from easy being a teenager. So much is going on during those stages of life. But it is a time that can be wonderful, and exciting, and full of joy. What steps do you feel would be best in this scenario, knowing that you don't think your parents will believe you?

I came across this article from a friend. It's quite lengthy, but there is much to it that I believe is worth reading and considering. I'm in my graduating semester for my two undergraduate degrees and this article feels as though it has summed up my last 5 years of college education. Last semester I took a class for my criminal justice major titled "Women and Crime", in which the professor gave a "trigger warning" at the beginning of the semester stating that this material would be sensitive and much caution should be taken when discussing it as a class. That we would be discussing things such as race, gender, and sex in relation to the criminal justice system, and each student should ponder first how their statement might affect another student before speaking. I knew from that moment I was in for a whirlwind of a class, and indeed it was... I think this article intrigues me so much because I'm also a psych major, so to see CBT techniques used to address the overwhelming offended nature that exists in this college atmosphere is unique and very interesting. Any thoughts on the article? Experiences? Disagreement? http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/09/the-coddling-of-the-american-mind/399356/#article-comments

I don't think there is some "definite limit" for either scenario. If your desire to increase your income is to satisfy your worldly desires that do not attest to your current needs (ex: a new car for the pleasure of its beauty and status) then, from my take of the matter, you're living beyond what is required. If increasing your income would allow you, in regards to the former example, to afford a vehicle that would better suit your daily travels and miles per gallon, then your increase would be put to a need rather than a want. I think the balance of needs vs. wants are what drives the answers to these types of questions, and each are specific to an individual's personal scenario.

A Few Good Men. I love when it's on television so I'm able to watch it without the abundant amount of profanity.

As others have stated, I think you know the answer to this problem, but it's just hard to admit. Physical attraction is normal, but once those feelings have risen and you have acted upon them, there is no going back. Only moving further down the path of intimacy, thus leading to sex. The easiest (yet hardest, I'm sure for you) in this scenario is to stop the relationship now if you wish to stop breaking the law of chastity. There is just no other way for you to avoid committing that sin, knowing that you've crossed some very serious lines already. Try to think of the big picture in this case. What type of woman do you want to be like when you approach The Lord one day? Would He approve of the decisions you have made? If not, what can you do to change it so that you can find true happiness in His presence? Only you can make those choices in the end, not any of us. We can only provide the advice you probably don't want to hear.

Wow, that's surprising. Well I still think going to the RS President and now the Elders Quorum President and bringing this to their attention (if they don't already know)may be a good idea. They can reach out to those who may feel isolated or offended. I think a ward activity that is focused on service may help. If you can get people to attend, then maybe a team effort to render service unto others may soften the hard hearts that seem to have appeared after leadership changes.

Maybe you can bring it to the attention of the Relief Society president and she can sit down one-on-one (like visiting teaching) with those who are gossiping as well as those who are hurt? I'm assuming it's women.....

Here's another riddle to try to solve! If you love Sudoku, you'll love this one.

Trust. I've got a lot of potential paths that my life may take me. From the new year on, I need to put my whole trust in The Lord for the path He knows is right for me, even if it isn't what I want. He knows the bigger picture. I've done the work needed, now I just need to put my trust in Him.

These individuals (or those affiliated with this group) are present on UNLV's campus at least once a week. They are definitely trying to make themselves known. I had no idea they had escalated to such actions. Protesting on a public campus is different than barging into a private community meeting. Unfortunately though, I doubt any real legal measures will be taken with this group unless violence does occur. As the OP said, it is a misdemeanor, but I would be surprised if any legal action will occur.

We used to get (as girls) lip gloss, mini sized hand lotions, decorative hair ties/bows, chapstick, nail polish.....so if you have boys none of this is really that helpful. I always like the areas of shopping centers that have the mini-sized/travel items of stuff. It's cute and not candy related.