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That was your back-of-the-envelope math?? Please try harder next time Vort. Geez, my envelope math is more like: 2 ducks + 1 duck = 2.5 ducks
I hope everyone realizes I was joking about using those heads...
My showers in Chile and Costa Rica with those would last about 2 minutes max... the fear!

I've run the math (back-of-the-envelope style) and concluded that you can't have a real in-line water heater if the water is room temperature. It simply draws waaaaay too much power. Like vastly too much.
Here's the math:
The typical US shower draws about 2.1 gallons per minute. Let's move to metric for ease of calculation. A bit over two gallons per minute is about eight liters per minute.
Let's also assume the water starts at room temperature (68° F, or 20° C) and that we want to heat it to 106° F (41° C). So we are heating the water up 21° C at a rate of one liter every 7.5 seconds.
A liter of water takes 1000 calories to heat up one degree. so we will need 21,000 calories (21 kcal). If you don't happen to remember the conversion of 4.182 joules per calorie, you can just Google "21 kcal to j" and find that you need to draw 87864 joules per 7.5 seconds, which is about 11,700 joules per second, i.e. 11,700 watts.
By comparison, the most power-hungry item in your house is probably your hair dryer, which probably does not burn more than 1500 watts. So you would need to draw the power of EIGHT HAIR DRYERS RUNNING SIMULTANEOUSLY to heat your shower water to shower temperature. You will need this for every shower in your house, and something similar for every place you want warm water to come out.
If power is voltage x current, then current is power / voltage, so you're drawing 11,700 watts / 115 V = over 100 amps every time you take a shower. Good luck getting your wiring and breaker box to accept such a load.

^^^^ This is what I would personally do. 
This reminds me of taking showers on my mission. Most were cold water, but there was the occasional house with a "water heater", a little electronic device attached at the shower head. So yes, electricity and water... each morning was "Is today the day I'm going to get electrocuted?"
Not my picture, but pretty close. In finding this picture they sell more advanced looking ones for $100 if you are really daring

You and your husband were married in England. As far as I know civil wedding/sealing rules haven't changed in the UK. Marriage laws in England require that couples have a civil wedding before they can be sealed. There are no "waiting a year" restrictions for LDS members in the UK. Since you received your endowments after your wedding, it makes sense that you were not able to be sealed right away; but now that you are endowed it makes perfect sense that your SP would mention a sealing.
As to your husband's family - they seem a strange bunch. In the majority of marriages the rule is "you're not just marrying the person, you're marrying their family"; but I think in your case that rule should not apply, your in-laws are too dysfunctional and I think it would be more healthy to distance yourself from them for some time. Enjoy your sealing day with friends and family that are happy for you and wish you well.
M. 

Hi ebie- 
Sounds like you have a choice to make. My wife (convert) and I had to make a similar choice at one time too. We had to decide: Happiness without her family OR misery with her family. It was painful to be stuck in such a decision, but we made it, rather my wife made it and I supported her in it. We simply stepped away from her family, took a vacation from them. Visits/calls etc. all dried up for a while. It was incredible to watch my wife's happiness increase 10 fold. Whatever benefit she was receiving prior from her sisters was always overshadowed by their harm/jealousy/insults. Her letting go was a blessing to everyone, including them.
I love this quote: "Arguing with a fool proves there are two" 
Once we stopped dealing with them, our lives were much better off. Once they had no one to argue with, their foolishness began to go away too. They slowly began to realize that we weren't going to be around them unless it was a healthy happy environment. My wife chose "our" happiness over theirs. 
Your in-laws had "hurt feelings especially surrounding our wedding", now that it is working out for you, they are still upset. Seems you can't win either way. You have already tried being around them. I would try harder at "we have been distancing ourselves for a while anyway in the hope that giving space may make things better."
Toxic is not good for anyone. You can't change them and their behaviors, but you can change yourself. They get to decide what kind of LDS member they want to be, but don't let it define what kind of LDS member you are going to be. If they already lie/insult/no interest now, what is the worst they could do without you around... say more lies/insults/no interest?
I would give it a real try. Good luck!
p.s. Once others have given their advice/suggestions. Have your husband come read this thread with you, as it could be beneficial for him as well.

So you're a Def Leppard fan too, huh?
What has nine arms and sucks?

I agree. This is probably one of the biggest divides between us and other religions. While we share many wonderful bridges of commonality between us, there remains this Grand Canyon below us.

Hi ebie- 
Sounds like you have a choice to make. My wife (convert) and I had to make a similar choice at one time too. We had to decide: Happiness without her family OR misery with her family. It was painful to be stuck in such a decision, but we made it, rather my wife made it and I supported her in it. We simply stepped away from her family, took a vacation from them. Visits/calls etc. all dried up for a while. It was incredible to watch my wife's happiness increase 10 fold. Whatever benefit she was receiving prior from her sisters was always overshadowed by their harm/jealousy/insults. Her letting go was a blessing to everyone, including them.
I love this quote: "Arguing with a fool proves there are two" 
Once we stopped dealing with them, our lives were much better off. Once they had no one to argue with, their foolishness began to go away too. They slowly began to realize that we weren't going to be around them unless it was a healthy happy environment. My wife chose "our" happiness over theirs. 
Your in-laws had "hurt feelings especially surrounding our wedding", now that it is working out for you, they are still upset. Seems you can't win either way. You have already tried being around them. I would try harder at "we have been distancing ourselves for a while anyway in the hope that giving space may make things better."
Toxic is not good for anyone. You can't change them and their behaviors, but you can change yourself. They get to decide what kind of LDS member they want to be, but don't let it define what kind of LDS member you are going to be. If they already lie/insult/no interest now, what is the worst they could do without you around... say more lies/insults/no interest?
I would give it a real try. Good luck!
p.s. Once others have given their advice/suggestions. Have your husband come read this thread with you, as it could be beneficial for him as well.

Hi ebie- 
Sounds like you have a choice to make. My wife (convert) and I had to make a similar choice at one time too. We had to decide: Happiness without her family OR misery with her family. It was painful to be stuck in such a decision, but we made it, rather my wife made it and I supported her in it. We simply stepped away from her family, took a vacation from them. Visits/calls etc. all dried up for a while. It was incredible to watch my wife's happiness increase 10 fold. Whatever benefit she was receiving prior from her sisters was always overshadowed by their harm/jealousy/insults. Her letting go was a blessing to everyone, including them.
I love this quote: "Arguing with a fool proves there are two" 
Once we stopped dealing with them, our lives were much better off. Once they had no one to argue with, their foolishness began to go away too. They slowly began to realize that we weren't going to be around them unless it was a healthy happy environment. My wife chose "our" happiness over theirs. 
Your in-laws had "hurt feelings especially surrounding our wedding", now that it is working out for you, they are still upset. Seems you can't win either way. You have already tried being around them. I would try harder at "we have been distancing ourselves for a while anyway in the hope that giving space may make things better."
Toxic is not good for anyone. You can't change them and their behaviors, but you can change yourself. They get to decide what kind of LDS member they want to be, but don't let it define what kind of LDS member you are going to be. If they already lie/insult/no interest now, what is the worst they could do without you around... say more lies/insults/no interest?
I would give it a real try. Good luck!
p.s. Once others have given their advice/suggestions. Have your husband come read this thread with you, as it could be beneficial for him as well.

One that comes to mind, which I tracked down by googling:
In D&C 128: "and the summum bonum of the whole subject that is lying before us, consists in ..."

Hi ebie- 
Sounds like you have a choice to make. My wife (convert) and I had to make a similar choice at one time too. We had to decide: Happiness without her family OR misery with her family. It was painful to be stuck in such a decision, but we made it, rather my wife made it and I supported her in it. We simply stepped away from her family, took a vacation from them. Visits/calls etc. all dried up for a while. It was incredible to watch my wife's happiness increase 10 fold. Whatever benefit she was receiving prior from her sisters was always overshadowed by their harm/jealousy/insults. Her letting go was a blessing to everyone, including them.
I love this quote: "Arguing with a fool proves there are two" 
Once we stopped dealing with them, our lives were much better off. Once they had no one to argue with, their foolishness began to go away too. They slowly began to realize that we weren't going to be around them unless it was a healthy happy environment. My wife chose "our" happiness over theirs. 
Your in-laws had "hurt feelings especially surrounding our wedding", now that it is working out for you, they are still upset. Seems you can't win either way. You have already tried being around them. I would try harder at "we have been distancing ourselves for a while anyway in the hope that giving space may make things better."
Toxic is not good for anyone. You can't change them and their behaviors, but you can change yourself. They get to decide what kind of LDS member they want to be, but don't let it define what kind of LDS member you are going to be. If they already lie/insult/no interest now, what is the worst they could do without you around... say more lies/insults/no interest?
I would give it a real try. Good luck!
p.s. Once others have given their advice/suggestions. Have your husband come read this thread with you, as it could be beneficial for him as well.

Hi ebie- 
Sounds like you have a choice to make. My wife (convert) and I had to make a similar choice at one time too. We had to decide: Happiness without her family OR misery with her family. It was painful to be stuck in such a decision, but we made it, rather my wife made it and I supported her in it. We simply stepped away from her family, took a vacation from them. Visits/calls etc. all dried up for a while. It was incredible to watch my wife's happiness increase 10 fold. Whatever benefit she was receiving prior from her sisters was always overshadowed by their harm/jealousy/insults. Her letting go was a blessing to everyone, including them.
I love this quote: "Arguing with a fool proves there are two" 
Once we stopped dealing with them, our lives were much better off. Once they had no one to argue with, their foolishness began to go away too. They slowly began to realize that we weren't going to be around them unless it was a healthy happy environment. My wife chose "our" happiness over theirs. 
Your in-laws had "hurt feelings especially surrounding our wedding", now that it is working out for you, they are still upset. Seems you can't win either way. You have already tried being around them. I would try harder at "we have been distancing ourselves for a while anyway in the hope that giving space may make things better."
Toxic is not good for anyone. You can't change them and their behaviors, but you can change yourself. They get to decide what kind of LDS member they want to be, but don't let it define what kind of LDS member you are going to be. If they already lie/insult/no interest now, what is the worst they could do without you around... say more lies/insults/no interest?
I would give it a real try. Good luck!
p.s. Once others have given their advice/suggestions. Have your husband come read this thread with you, as it could be beneficial for him as well.

I suspect that 1) not every parent is cut out to be a teacher 2) some parents do not want to spend more time with their children 3) some children do not want to spend more time with their parents. 

We have this bumper sticker:

Yep, Home Alone as well. DVD in the mini van for a month straight almost.
1. Once a year we watch all the Star Wars Movies & all Harry Potter movies.
2. Each Sunday after church we watch a "family" movie. Yesterday was "The Race to Witch Mountain".
Our local movie theater invested in automatic lazy boy style leather recliner seats along with in movie dining... we enjoy that now and it makes the "regular old" theaters seem boring Only problem is sitting next to drunk people trying to talk or make out during the show. It lasts about 10 minutes and then they end up asleep instead.

That is wonderful AI! I was just at church today wondering about you, but thought it was going to happen towards the latter part of this month. This was a wonderful thread to read today!

I could have expanded my previous brief thought further. When my kids were home schooled, they had plenty of non-member friends. They had friends from other home school groups, boy scouts, city sports, volunteering at the library, etc. Home school is often mislabeled by outsiders as producing anti-social shy hermits, when it really is quite the opposite. 

Part 2:
Sorry not sure why the other half of my post got cut off:
continued...
Only "Real" advantage is:
1. My wife gets free time
2. My wife gets free time
3. My wife gets, yes, more free time

The person that has any advantage is my wife, but none that we can see with our kids. 
 

I'm wondering - is he filing?  Is there moving out happening?  Or is he just stomping around saying he's getting a divorce, and not doing anything about it?
My thoughts and feelings echo the other posters here, but the practical side of this demands that I ask again - do you have a lawyer?  You need to get one.  As long as he's saying he will divorce you, you need to protect your children.  
"You're getting a lawyer?  I thought you wanted to work through things!"
"Sorry - I'm reacting to your statements that your mind is made up.  I need to protect our children."
[Hubby then proceeds to start doing whatever he does when you do something he doesn't like.]
"I'm sorry - you are telling me you will divorce me, I am protecting our children.  If your plans have not changed, how about you go to lds.net and go argue with the people there."

So sorry for you going through this. It sounds to me like either he is not telling you something that is going on that makes him want the divorce, or his mood disorder is playing a big role in this.  If what he says is truthful and this isn't related to his mood disorder then normally that would be a marriage that could be restored by seeing a good marriage counselor.  Would he be willing to give it a try?  Healing the marriage would be a far better outcome for everybody than any kind of divorce.
I don't have some magic wand to make everything the way you would like, but I might be able to answer some questions on church policy (my calling gives me access to handbook1).  A legal divorce does not by itself cancel your being sealed for eternity.  A woman may only be sealed to one man, so if at some future time you remarry and wish to be sealed to your new husband, you would need to get your first sealing canceled which requires approval from the First Presidency (or you and your new husband can be sealed by proxy after you have both died without needing FP approval).  Your husband can not request a cancellation, but since he had a divorce if he wishes to be sealed to another woman he requires permission from the First Presidency to do so, even if you have obtained a cancellation, and even if you have died.  
So, you are sealed to him and he can't change that, only you can.  He might become sealed to another woman as well as you.  If both of you stay faithful and after this life both of you want to be together for eternity and if you don't get the sealing canceled, then you could be together for eternity (but that's a lot of ifs).
I would say fight for your marriage.  If this is from some mood issue then he'll regret doing this, if there is something going on he hasn't told you, you deserve to know the truth.  You both have a lot to lose here, don't let the shock of this make you just roll over and accept it without a fight.

Part 2:
Sorry not sure why the other half of my post got cut off:
continued...
Only "Real" advantage is:
1. My wife gets free time
2. My wife gets free time
3. My wife gets, yes, more free time

The person that has any advantage is my wife, but none that we can see with our kids. 
 

Gut reaction on my part... if your friend has the means/time/resources to continue homeschooling successfully for her education, I would pull my kid out in a heartbeat. 
My oldest ended home school after the 6th grade and entered Jr.High. My wife felt that she had maxed out her personal resources at that point, otherwise he would still be home with us. For whatever small perceived "advantages" our son gets, they are overshadowed by the disadvantages. 
Some (pretend) advantages:
Sports (but he could do this via the YMCA or city leagues)
Dances (but he could do this with the YM/YW at church)
Band (but home school groups have those too)
Friends (YM&YW take care of that also)
 

That is wonderful AI! I was just at church today wondering about you, but thought it was going to happen towards the latter part of this month. This was a wonderful thread to read today!

The answer to your question is, "Yes."
Anyone who says he has never questioned his faith (among us or any other group) is probably fooling himself or trying (and failing) to fool others.
It depends on how he approaches the question. If he wants to find fault, he will. In this case it would be better to wait a bit. If he's trying to identify the source of his faith, then it will be a fruitful pursuit.
Again, yes. But those boundaries change over time. For the most part, it's not useful to search beyond the well known (if "faith" can be well known). However, as long as the foundations [faith in the Lord, Jesus Christ; Repentance (and the Atonement); baptism; and the Gift of the Holy Ghost] are kept firmly in hand, exploring a little further afield is not only wise, it can be very much a strengthening exercise. The problem is, people assume they can explore beyond their wisdom, and they can get mired in their own pride.
See above. The Gospel of Jesus Christ is very simple. The Gospel of Jesus Christ is deep, broad, and swift. The answers are easy to  understand, and require constant reflection, meditation, and prayer lest one choke on the simplicity. In the book of Jacob (in the Book of Mormon), we read about those who "look beyond the mark". Therein lies the danger of questioning: like going into a swift river without a firm anchor, one risks getting swept away by the current.
Lehi

Congratulations. The right thing, the right place, the right reason. Don't git better'n that!
Lehi