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  1. jewels8

    Newlywed on the brink of Divorce...

    or you can look up your nearest temple online, find their phone number, call it, and ask for the prayer roll. uusally there is an option for that, and you just select it, then you follow the instructions to say the name or names you want on it. It is pretty easy. When your done, you hang up.
  2. jewels8

    Family members who dislike each other immensely

    It sounds like you have done all you could. and really, the other family members have a responsibility they aren't shouldering and its not your job to tell them or anything like that. You are nice to them, you've made peace, tried, and gone out on a limb. They will one day look back and see that you were the one who tried. You have opened the path. Maybe sometime someone will come down your path because you paved it, but at least you have done your part and are there.
  3. jewels8

    Across The Hills

    I mean ponder
  4. jewels8

    Across The Hills

    That makes me stop and think. So much to pnder. Thank you for sharing. Very insightful.
  5. The Lord has cautioned men that they will be judged by their thoughts, idle words, and I imagine idle things they write, their deeds, and would be glad if the rocks could hide them from the presence of God at the last day, if they are guilty of certain sins. Of the nature of those sins and what is in a man's heart, that is between him and the Lord. I beleive that the Lord should find it offensive when men speak lightly of the benefits of polygamy, in a way that is not sacred, and in which is not conducive to the spirit of the Lord. Today, in the Church, and in The Book of Mormon (which we should all be studying daily), it professes monogamy as the Lord's standard for marriage, and surely if there were more righteous men , there would not be so much of a need for possible polygamy. Ofcourse no one, men or women are perfect, we all are trying, but I see this as an issue that bears a need for obvious sensitivity, which some have shown, and that is to be appreciated. Jacob told the husbands of the covenant, who knew better, that they were breaking the hearts of their wives and children because of there selfish desires, and behaviors. They were stupid, willing to embark on a path of destruction of their eternal family, disregarding the feelings of those they covenanted to protect and cherish all for some superficial fling that means nothing. How dumb, how tragic! Willing to give up any chance for eternal peace and glory for something that would only brand them as a coward, a bastard and a fool. Why would a priesthood holder sink so low and pay such a high price? Ofcourse no one is that silly today. (who are we kidding?) Lets turn the coin around: What are the disadvantages of polygamy? Men can't concentrate on substance, they only see the surface. Men are visual by nature anyway, now the problem is compounded even more. We already live in a society where men are taught to treat us women as objects, and even in the church its obvious some men still have a hard time with that, just look at one of the flippant comments that was made on this thread, will men , even "some so called "priesthood holders" ever get beyond focusing on a women's looks and capabilities to be a baby machine, a cook , a laundress, and see her really as a human being, an equal, a person, a daughter of God, and not even that, but just a friend. Someone to treat with respect. When given multiple wives, supposedly by the Lord, how quick is the man to lose sight of the whole reason for polygamy in the first place. A man that thinks this way, surely shouldn''t be practicing polygamy anyway, nor would the Lord grant it to him. A quote in church history says that a man may refuse to take the 2nd wife in eternity and be justified before the Lord. Monogamy is something the Lord does allow. Perhaps it is a test for men , as well as for women. Some men may say, "well, polygamy is a commandment, so my wife just needs to go along with it," but in looking deeper in church history, I have seen otherwise and I have seen that really it is up to us and our attitudes sometimes as to what we cause. I mean a man may inflict something on his wife that she doesn't necessarily have to go through. In the Bible God told a prophet he would destroy a city, and the prophet asked him to not if so many people could be found righteous in it. And he plead with God, and kept changing the number, and God worked with him. So maybe God wants to see where a man's heart is. A woman would definitely be glad to see if her husband wouldn't be so quick to just embrace polygamy. I mean, ofcourse we should follow commandments, but that doesn't mean we can't ask about do we really have to do this if our spouse has a hard time with it, etc. And I don't think that makes us a bad person or unfaithful necessarily. Sometimes , we may have to change to succumb to His will, but sometimes He may let us choose and it would be right for us. Polygamy in church history, though condoned by the Lord did cause many trials. Of course it was hard to live the law. Some accounts show that men, went behind there wife's back in marrying another, due to The Law of Sarah or obeying God's Law or for whatever reason. However, this made it hard to have a trustworthy relationship in a marriage. And did these women ever get STD's without even knowing what was going on? It raises some hard questions. These could even be passed on to babies being born and babies dying and comprimise the health of the women. Also, it was hard emotionally on the women and the children and the husbands. Providing for all their needs financially and time wise was a burden. The more wives and children you have, the more laundry, the more mouths to feed, the more quarrels, the more illnesses, the less of you to go around. Studies have shown that children from polygamous families have been at a disadvantage , they are generally (and it doesn't matter FLDS, LDS or otherwise), less educated, lower income -don't have their needs met as much, emotionally not as stable, then children from monogamous families. Also wives from polygamous marriages fair worse statistically, the same reasons apply. And statistically, women in monogamous marriages have more babies each, then women in polygamous marriages and enjoy a stable, closer , more loving relationship with their spouse, because they don't have to share him. And she knows he is 3 being faithful to her. There is a stronger bond of trust and mutual love and respect. I'm sorry, but I would have a harder time respecting a man that was not being faithful to just me. Marriage should be between one man and one woman. Now, let's turn the coin and see what benefit there could be from polyandry, I mean , not that I need another husband, but I sure could use some things fixed around the house! 1. things could get fixed in a reasonable amount of time, and get fixed 2. have more interesting men to talk to, a variety of male adult companionship, not be just bored with just one 3. a greater appreciation for the uniqueness and gifts and talents given to the family 4. greater protection 5. more priesthood power 6.. more date nights! 7. I might even get flowers finally! 8. have an intelligent conversation 9. have more friends 10. expand my horizons 11. better providers 12.. be able to serve others more 13. take vacations 14. choose to work or stay home 15. have many attractive and interesting husbands, but that's not what its about 16. increase the adventure in my life 17. have more kids and give them more enriching experiences Ok, well, I prefer monogamy. I don't think that anybody should be dreaming of polygamy or polyandry. I know I'm not. I think the Lord's standard today is pretty clear. A modern prophet has said to choose your love and love your choice. The seminary or institute of religion manual has cautioned that polygamy should not be taken out of context and not alluded to as what will be practiced in eternity. We really don't know. We have been taught that monogamous marriages are sufficient to enter exaltation. And our hearts need to be pure and right before God. Joseph Smith would not allow his brother to practice polygamy because he was too eager, his heart was not right. Joseph Smith hesitated for years to practice it. Brigham Young at first desired the grave rather then practice it. Please be sensitive what posts are made regarding this subject and what you choose to say about it all the days of your life, and thank you to those who do.
  6. jewels8

    Newlywed on the brink of Divorce...

    I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this trial in your marriage. However, it is better that it was caught earlier on than later, especially before children may enter the picture. I am just thinking how I imagine you would not want your children raised with that kind of influence. Having babies, daughters and sons with a dad that is focusing and "addicted' to those behaviors is damaging to his spirit , your spirit and will be to their spirits, as well. He might even, act out things, heaven forbid, on the venerable. Perhaps that isn't something to be too concerned about for now, but you probably want to make sure that that doesn't become an issue for the time being, you have enough to deal with right now. It sounds to me that this husband of yours is not repentant. What is it that attracted you to him? Did you know he had these kind of tendencies before marriage? Sometimes things are hidden before or a person doesn't realize the magnitude of a problem until later. Sometimes people think that marriage will solve the problem. Forgive me if you already answered those questions, I did read your post last night, but just started responding to it now. Anyhow, bless your heart, I feel for your situation. First of all, regardless of anything else, your worth is more precious than gold, more precious then rubies, you are a virtuous woman, you are trying, you are loved by your Father in Heaven, the Savior too, and I am sure many others. Do you have family nearby that are supportive? And friends? How about your bishop? Will your husband talk to the marriage counselor and is there any signs that he wants to repent? I am sorry if I came across as harsh. It just sounds from what you have written, that he needs to have a major change of heart. It can be hard to fathom why some men, especially once they have had the gospel, would delve into such things, especially the way you are describing. I have had a friend (she died of cancer recently,), but she had to divorce her husband when he started going to lets just say an unholy establishment, after other problems with pornography, etc. They have 4 daughters. It was an awful situation, and they were LDS. I went to the funeral, and heard he was trying to get custody of his girls, and her family had been taking care of them. I don't know what the outcome was, but I prayed for those girls and for him and her side of the family. It was a situation my friend couldn't control. She was trying to protect her daughters. They had a loving environment with relatives and anyways, you could just feel so much love at that funeral and concern for the well being of her children. Your husband is not honoring his priesthood right now. Was he ever honoring his priesthood. What do you want in a man? Did you ever have a list of what you wanted? If your goal is an eternal marriage and family, which I believe in your heart it is, what do you think willl make that happen? Have you prayed to ask the Lord what direction you should take? Sometimes praying and then acting upon doing the best we can do, like seeing a bishop, going to marriage counseling, living our lives, helps us see what truly will and will not work. Will he ever be willing to see a therapist? Is it worth waiting a day, a week, a month, a year? Could you get pregnant in that time? What problems will that bring? Raising a child in that household or joint custody down the line, hopefully no abuse or neglect? As far as I am concerned, when a man uses pornography, and this fantasizing, he is being unfaithful to you, in the spirit of the law, at least, and it is a form of abuse, Its emotionally abusive, at the very least, and probably has other reprucussions, as well. Is this the spirit of a Christ -centered home? Please don't get me wrong, no home is perfect, no marriage is perfect, no family is perfect. And you are not alone in this struggle. Unfortunately, it is a problem in society. In our ward recently, we had a visitor come speak to us from an institution that works with teens who struggle with this problem. The church has programs to help adults and teens overcome this addictive behavior. There are also programs for overcoming other problems, perhaps seeing an LDS based mental health professional is a goal, that can be prayed for. Sometimes praying for things opens the way up. I once had a problem, our car window was broken. My husband wouldn't get it fixed for 3 months, even though we had access to resources, even a good deal. I prayed about it more after trying to keep telling him we needed to fix it. Finally, he gave in. But if it doesn't work, or if you can't deal with it that long, and no one will think any less of you for it, you may want to ask yourself: What would be the worst possible thing if there was a separation? Sometimes it may give you space to think, feel the spirit, not have to worry about putting up with those things that make it so hard. Your worth is not dependent on something so superficial. You have so much potential, so much goodness, you have talents, and abilities and there are resources out there for you. There are other valiant women who have gotten through some tough things that they never thought they would, amazing women. Perhaps the Lord will lead you to the help you need at this time in your life if you ask for it. Sometimes life gives us things we didn't anticipate, but remember, the Lord doesn't want you to be trapped, he can help you try to resolve things, help your husband if he wants to be helped, but your integrity of your soul is important regardless of his decisions, ok? Just remember that. I will be praying for you and for him.
  7. jewels8

    Daughter of God

    I feel for you, but why was your ex husband not tried and put in jail for doing this to your son? I think justice is called for, this was not fair to you, you were trying in many ways, and I;m sure there were some hard decisions, but he is accountable for what he has done, as well. I wish you the best, and that you can be reunited with your children. The Lord will guide you.
  8. jewels8

    water into wine

    Interesting. IEveryone is so different as to what rhey can handle, be it water, milk, etc. I have heard that indians cannot handle alcohol well, and I am part indian. I have never had any, nor has my husband and kids. My sister has, and she and her son are recovering alcoholics
  9. jewels8

    water into wine

    That makes sense, but I just see no good point in drinking at all, even back then.
  10. jewels8

    water into wine

    but thanks for the clarification
  11. jewels8

    water into wine

    I appreciate the insight, even though I don't know why he wouldn't just follow a more spirit of the law and abstain from all liquor all togrther, I guess we just know how bad it is now. I would think a prophet would avoid even the appearance of all evil; I have respect for people who are like that
  12. jewels8

    water into wine

    If Joseph Smith is drinking alcohol after being commanded not to, then that would have made him a fallen prophet, but I imagine there must be some misunderstanding or he was forgiven, though a prophet should be above reproach
  13. jewels8

    water into wine

    distinctly
  14. jewels8

    water into wine

    I know a friend who said when on his mission he needed to make a phone call. the only place they could find was a bar. Reluctantly, they went in. He has never felt the spirit so diatinctly leave as at the entrance of that bar,
  15. jewels8

    water into wine

    I think the effects of alcohol in wine, beer, and other alcoholic beverages can definitely be regarded as sinful because of what people do when under the influence of this substance. It is addictive, it impairs judgment, the Holy Ghost leaves, the result is often loss of responsibility, loss of control, of self esteem, separation from God, getting into the wrong crowd, drunk driving, contention and abuse in homes, immorallity, job loss, murde, suicide, withdrwal, etc. At first it starts out so slightly. Pork is nothing compared to alcohol.