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Why is a temple marriage so important?
 

I'm of the mind that men who want to practice it are likely among those most poorly suited for it.

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I'm a 25 year old woman and I do tell people (even jokingly) my parents own me. Even being financially independent now...They gave their life to raise me. They invested everything they had to get me to the point of adulthood where I CAN consent and legally make binding decisions for myself. And because I love them and trust them and know that I'm here because of them, I do want their approval in this. And that's the tradition. I see nothing in the tradition that the mother is not aware and consulted as well.

With the divorce you are no longer married for time (mortality) even if you are still technically sealed for eternity.  So yes, it is a sin, and unless the two of you work things out it won't matter one little bit that you are still sealed for eternity because that is still conditional on you both keeping your covenants and both wanting to be together and having the approval of the Holy Spirit of Promise.  If she doesn't want to be your wife now, she very likely isn't going to want that for eternity either.
If you both have feelings for each other, work out your difference, get married again then go for it.

What an awesome question! Just for the sake of sheer question-ness in question-dom this question represents!

First of all, don't overthink this and let a few bad examples color your perception of women in general. I married a woman who likes nerdy things as well (geeky LDS girls are awesome☺), so you can find girls with similiar interests. The important thing to remember is that a wife who respects you, would never ask you to give up cherished hobbies just because she isn't interested in them herself. Plus the fact that you are a worthy holder of the priesthood will be a huge plus for you. Marriage is based on mutual respect for each other and open communication, and trust me there are plenty of good LDS gals who believe firmly in those two principles. Get out there and start dating. Be honest about all your likes and dislikes. Dating is all about finding someone compatible with you, and if you date a girl who isn't compatible, you move on to the next one. Remember Paul's admonition in 2 Timothy 1:7 "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." Best of luck in your search brother.

Wow.  It has been over 4 years.  I had nearly forgotten about this post, but I'm sure some random internet lurkers are bound to happen upon this thread and want advice about their own situation or just want to know how things turned out.  First of all, thank you all for the advice.  To all the lurkers, there is some awesome advice here.
I married her!  Never regretted it!  We're loving life.  Now, a few things that I've learned:
1. She was never the problem.  It was always me (basically, I was an idiot).
2. The idea of virginity is just that, an idea.
3. What matters most is that you're best friends.  Best friends are loyal to each other no matter what happened in the past.
4. The past isn't real.  The present is everything.  The future is a dream.
 
My advice, is that if you're in this type of situation, get over yourself.  Assuming your significant other is completely loyal to you, if you still find yourself "haunted" by their past then the most important thing you need to ask yourself is, "Can I be the spouse my SO needs?"  If the answer is no, then stop jeopardizing your SO's happiness by constantly dragging your thoughts through the nonexistant past.  Get out of the relationship for their sake.  If you can honestly answer yes, then go for it.  You've got an entire lifetime to make amazing memories together.
I was taught growing up that it was better to die than to lose your virtue.  I disagree with that.  I was also taught that those who had lost their virtue were like "licked ice cream" or "chewed gum".  That way of thinking is wrong, and it's very harmful.  Let go of that type of thinking.  It benefits no one.
Elizabeth Smart talked about what it feels like to be a "chewed piece of gum" and it sounds terrible: http://fox13now.com/2013/05/06/elizabeth-smart-i-felt-like-a-chewed-up-piece-of-gum/   Don't put your SO through that.  If you're best friends, nothing else matters.
 
Best of luck to your SO (and you) if you're in the situation I was in.  In conclusion, this image sums it all up:

That's such a heavy emotion you are dealing with.  i am so sorry.
All i can suggest is to maintain some hope that when you first hold that child in your arms everything will change.  Everything i've seen indicates that the little rug rats grow on you after a while .  

Optional blessing i get.  Shows respect - and respect is great.  A horrible relationship with MIL/FIL can really mess things up.
But i really don't get permission - where the parent gets the final word.  People are not property.  
Do you support a society in which the parent would be able to prevent a child from making their own choice in terms of who they can marry?  Not an accusation, just a request for clarification.  i actually don't think you do - you are just explaining Costa Rican society, right?

Spencer W Kimball calls this idolatry towards yourself 

Thank you!!! Exactly my point. I did not want to Google it (anti alert)  and I don't want to ask male leadership in my ward because that seems provocative. And my ministers are unendowed women. 
I just am really defensive about my garments. I probably wear them even in times when I could not 'reasonably do" something with it on (missionary handbook, anyone?) But the missionary handbook is the only thing I have had and it's unclear what applies to missionaries and what doesn't.
And I see a lot of men hiking or playing sports with shirts off or bro tanks which seems unnecessary. And sister that seem like they don't even bring their garments on a vacation or trip lol. 
Point being I see all of these active members taking off their garments in public but I can't do it in private? I'm fine with protocol but I didn't know it.

Why would she need ask my parents permission? My mother is my only parent and she gave me permission to propose so my fiancee know we have my family blessing or I wouldnt have propose to her. If my fiancee wanted to propose to me then I expect she speak to my mother and her parents before so when I accept her proposal I already know we have blessing. 
 
Most people do yes. I have 4 sister and I expect any man who want to marry them to ask me for at least my blessing if not permission. 

Why would the spouse feel bad because they aren't having sex. That is nonsense as long as you are showing affection by hugging, kissing, holding hands etc, there is no reason to feel bad about not having sex. 

I don't have any kids but my wife is pregnant 

I do cleave only to my wife but that doesn't mean I can't love my mother more than her. 

Is respectful and her father would have kill me and murders in Costa Rica are usually not solve. 

I see haha. My mission president gave me the greatest advice ever.
”When your parents ask ‘when are you getting martied’ Say ‘it is none of your business’. When your parents ask ‘who are you going to marry?’ Say ‘it is none of your business’. When you parents ask ‘when will you have kids?’ Say ‘it is none of your business’. When your parents ask ‘how many kids are you going to have’ Say ‘it is none of your business’”
Once 18 hit, my life was mine. No man was going to keep me from marrying the girl I love in the temple and slowing my progression toward exaltation. But I’m the states, going against the status quo is pretty typical and murders are solved all the time.

She is best woman after my mother. 

No she told me no because she only wanted engagement after she did her mission. She did love me

Mmmm... that’s fair 

You're perfectly entitled to your view on this, but don't call someone else's view "ridiculous" just because you don't share it.  That "ridiculous" view went a long way toward helping my future son-in-law to bond with me and my sons (whom he also contacted).  And before you ask, yes he asked her mother too.
Traditions exist for a reason.  Be dismissive of them if you want, but doing so doesn't strengthen your argument.

I don't have a problem with this tradition, as I think it shows respect to the family you are marrying into. I don't think many people truly think that the parent's permission is neccessary anymore (if it was I got totally screwed on my wife's dowry, where's my slice of Poland😃?) But, like it or not, you are joining your wife's family for life. Why not take a little time to help start things off on the right foot? 

This... is not advice I'd give someone.
When you marry somebody, you aren't just marrying that person, you're marrying their whole family.  You don't have to like it, it's simply how it is.  Is it really wise to  begin that way? 
This is your future father-in-law we're talking about.  Not  just some custodian who happens to have been taking care of this woman up until now.  He's one half of the team that raised her, and until this moment was probably the most important  man in her life.  Does it really seem wise to disrespect him that way?  This man will be grandfather to your kids.  Think the family will appreciate the awkwardness at family get-togethers knowing her dad doesn't like you - and with good reason?
Besides, to disrespect her family is to disrespect her.  "Yeah baby, I know your dad loves you more than his own life and you love him too, but why should I bother showing him any respect?"
Pffft.
Last year a very respectful young man called me to ask my permission to marry my oldest daughter.  He'd have asked me in person but they live in another state and he was unable to make the trip.  We talked for a while and he earned a ton of respect from me by showing me a  ton of respect.  I'm looking forward to calling him my son-in-law and he and my daughter have an ally in me. 

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