Backroads Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 Yesterday, when I was at my family's, we were discussing the less and more tacky wedding invitations on my parents' fridge. Which led to an observation on one of them: We have a friend who is getting married this week. He is a great LDS guy who is marrying a great LDS girl in the temple. However, their invitation doesn't say that. Merely announces bride, groom, and location of the reception. My mother made the comment that several people had, in a hushed voice, ask her if this couple were getting married in the temple. The reception location of an LDS church seemed a little suspicious. Frankly, I don't think it's anyone's business where they're getting married and why, but is it a little more... tactful and less set-up for gossip to just state you're getting married in the temple?
applepansy Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) I agree. It was tacky of people to suggest by asking in a hushed way that they weren't marrying in the temple. It amazes me how nosey people get about these things. They also get bossy when you don't do things the perceived "right" way they get all offended. Edited August 8, 2011 by applepansy
Jenamarie Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 I think it's more tacky on the guests' part than on the bride and groom's part, to be speculating about where the wedding is. None of their beeswax where the wedding is taking place if they aren't invited to it, and it's those kinds of attitudes that makes it a terrifying experience for young couples who slip up to confess their sins, rather than go to the Temple unclean. I'd rather commend a young couple for waiting to go to the Temple until they're truely ready, than see a couple go to the Temple inadequately prepared in order to keep the gossips quiet.
NeuroTypical Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) a great LDS guy who is marrying a great LDS girl in the temple. However, their invitation doesn't say that. Merely announces bride, groom, and location of the reception.Any particular reason they didn't add "Sealing to be solomnized in [wherever] temple?The general idea, is that whenever human beings see a gap in the information they're given, their brains will automatically fill that gap with something. And it's often more melodramatic or negative than the real explanation. It seems to me, that to omit a line like that, especially if you've got a lot of mormons in your circle, you are inviting gossiping.Of course, maybe they're like me, and omitted it on purpose to see who would gossip and who wouldn't... Edited August 8, 2011 by Loudmouth_Mormon
Backroads Posted August 8, 2011 Author Report Posted August 8, 2011 I don't know the bride well enough, but I've known the groom literally since the day he was born--and he's not the prankster sort. His bride very well could be. However, thinking about my mental picture of the invitation and its layout... it's possible they just didn't have a lot of room to give every little detail. The invitation's purpose did seem to be inviting people to the reception.
applepansy Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 Any particular reason they didn't add "Sealing to be solomnized in [wherever] temple?The general idea, is that whenever human beings see a gap in the information they're given, their brains will automatically fill that gap with something. And it's often more melodramatic or negative than the real explanation. It seems to me, that to omit a line like that, especially if you've got a lot of mormons in your circle, you are inviting gossiping.Of course, maybe they're like me, and left it on on purpose to see who would gossip and who wouldn't...They aren't responsible for the gossip. Its wrong to "fill in the blanks" and assume.I could see you stirring the pot
pam Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 I can't believe there is a thread on someone not putting something on their wedding invites.
Jennarator Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 Sad that people make assumptions. And how is the reception at the church suspicious? Most everyone I know has thier recption at the church.....
Backroads Posted August 8, 2011 Author Report Posted August 8, 2011 Sad that people make assumptions. And how is the reception at the church suspicious? Most everyone I know has thier recption at the church.....I wonder if it's the... obviously they're associated with the LDS... is this a reception or a wedding?
MarginOfError Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 I just wish they'd been clever enough to put on the announcement that they were registered at Babies R Us. Now that would have had people talking!
NeuroTypical Posted August 8, 2011 Report Posted August 8, 2011 My wife had about half the ward believing that we were planning on naming our first child Moonbeam, and our 2nd child Granola. Controlling the gossip machine was fun.
Guest casiehiness Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 (edited) · Hidden Hidden Why don't people just consider an invitation as an invitation in someone's happiness. They would take up the card and make a postmortem of it regarding why, how and when. Edited December 4, 2012 by skippy740 removed website link
mirkwood Posted December 4, 2012 Report Posted December 4, 2012 I just wish they'd been clever enough to put on the announcement that they were registered at Babies R Us. Now that would have had people talking!lolThat reminds me of my meddling in laws. They spent several years making sure everyone knew how horrible we were because we did not have children according to thier time frame (immediately). I made sure my MIL "overheard" me tell my sister in law that we had finally gotten the test results back from the doctor. "Yep, confirmed I have no sperm count." You should have seen the look of horor...heh heh heh (evil snicker).
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