KrazyKay

I think when a marriage ends, it is usually a very complicated mess. I know when I left my first husband after 6 months of marriage, it was very very complicated. He was not a member of the church and this was during the time I was not active in the church. I was also 19 when we married, 20 when I got the marriage annuled. But I left him for several reasons - the main one that broke the camel's back so to speak was catching him in our bed with another woman when I came home from work early one day. It turns out he had told that other woman that he was living with his sister. I was already so depressed - more depressed then any other time before or after, that that night I tried to kill myself by over dosing on Tylenol. Obviously didn't work, I'm still here, lol. Anyway, the other reasons were that he was bipolar - diagnosed in high school. He claimed he was in the Navy Seals for a few years - after I left him I found out that it was not possible for someone with bipolar to be in the navy seals. He was also sexually abusive - I won't go into here how just say it was very sick and deviant and has made it hard on me with my current husband. I am very thankful that my current husband has been so supportive. My first husband also smoked - promised me before marriage that he would try to stop... instead he started to smoke more often. Like I said, a complicated mess. It is possible some of these marriages could be ending for a number of reasons making them a complicated mess. Personally, the only reason I can see justifying ending a marriage is if there is abuse - physical, sexual, or emotional and the one doing the abuse doesn't think he/she is doing anything wrong and refuses to change his/her ways and/or see a counselor. Oh, I also wanted to say thank you to Pam. I didn't really want to reply with Fascim's comments going on and on like he was.

I believe self-esteem is seeing oneself in a positive light, or rather, having a positive self-image. Someone with a good self-esteem won't put themselves down by complaining about him/herself, but rather would only see the good things about him/herself. I believe self-confidence is the ability to know that a person can do something with little to no help from other people. For example, a child who has been learning how to tie his/her shoes can show self-confidence in insisting in tying his/her shoes by him/herself and then doing so. Another good example would be someone who has been studying for a test could have self-confidence that he/she will do well on the test. I believe it is ok to be proud of oneself as long as the pride doesn't become the bad type of pride. I believe the bad type of pride is when a person puts him/herself above other people or compares oneself to other people. The good type of pride is when a person accomplish something that was hard for that specific person - such as a person who was in a bad accident and had to relearn how to walk then accomplishes the ability to walk again can have pride in him/herself. In other words, I think pride is ok when a person compares him/herself now to how he/she was before and sees him/herself improving. But the person have to be careful not to get so proud of oneself that he/she forgets that Heavenly Father is helping him/her. There is a very very very fine line that is too easily crossed. We can be proud of our own accomplishments when we compare ourselves to how we were before, but always always always remember that Heavenly Father also helped us in our accomplishments.

I don't think this is worth national news - probably local. I would be very upset if my daughter was on a field trip and they stopped at Hooters. I know the one closest to us (about an hour drive from our house thank goodness) will only hire female servers who are bra cup size C or bigger. Males who work there are either cooks or busboys - don't remember the politically correct term now, lol. Not to mention the servers wear shorts that are so short they could be mistaken for underwear and tank tops that are skin tight with as low cleavage as would be allowed for a restaurant where kids are allowed by law. My family does not support those type of businesses.

I live in east Texas, about an hour north of Houston, and I have never had anyone ask me about garments, lol.

I love that response. I have never had anyone in the real world rather than online ask me about my garments. But if I had someone I didn't know that well, I think I'll respond the same as Vort above. But if it is someone I know well, then I would explain that it is a sacred reminder of the higher covenants I made in the temple with our Heavenly Father.

I admit, I've never read the book Pride and Prejudice nor have I seen any of the movies But then I've never cared for romance or drama movies or books - preferring action/adventure, fantasy, and science fiction, lol. I found one version that is available to watch on my computer from Netflix. It's from the UK with 5 episodes made in 1980. After I watch it, I'll let y'all know what I think.

Hi, welcome to the site.

Welcome to the church and to this site :) There are many wonderful people here. I don't live in Canada, although I admit there have been several times I have thought about it - especially in the last few years, lol. I live in south-east Texas about an hour outside of Houston.

I agree with the others, talk to your bishop. Now, let me tell you my story. Right now, neither my husband nor myself work. I have done some substitute teaching this past year - but that isn't steady income. By parents give us just enough each month for bills. What my parents give us is considered a gift and also is not taxable according to the government. But we are still paying tithing on it. Although we aren't being blessed with my husband getting a job while I finish college, we are being blessed with good health on all of us. My husband has type II diabetes, but he has been controlling it with just diet and exercise. I know Heavenly Father is blessing us by helping my husband to not need to become dependent on insulin or the diabetic pills. I also know Heavenly Father has been helping me with passing my assignments and tests while I finish my college degree. So even though the money from my parents each month is considered a gift, we are still paying tithing on it.

Daybreak79, what is in the water where you live? lol. My husband and I have been trying for a second child for about 10 years now, and there are some in my ward who have been trying as well but have been unable to have another child.

RipplecutBuddha, you aren't the only one. What is sad, I used to know html programming - made a website in 1998/1999 that is now gone, and I took C++ programming class twice in college... and those first posts still looked greek to me.

There is also this adorable little kitten :)

My husband used to have a problem with swearing - especially with taking God's name in vain. He finally realized how much he was hurting me with his swearing when I told him that each time he said a cuss word or took God's name in vain, it was like an emotional knife was literally cutting me from the inside out. Since then he has started trying to not cuss - at least not around me. He still has a way to go to stop completely, but he is working on it.

Happy Birthday :)

You can't wait till the first week of August? We are planning to be in SLC during the first week of August - hoping to also do a live endowment session in the SLC temple (if they are still doing those). That first week of July we will be in Vail with my parents at their condo.

Can we also talk about embarrassed moments either we ourselves had not at work... This happened to me when I was a teenager - I don't remember the exact age, but I was in high school. My family just arrived at church and my skirt got caught in the door. I didn't realize it until I walked away and got tripped with my skirt falling down to my ankles. Most of the other members were showing up at the same time. I still blush remembering that experience even thought I quickly covered myself again and my dad unlocked the car to release my skirt.

I guess I'm very old fashion... I don't like swimsuits with any cleavage at all, and completely covers the mid section all the way around, and lower on the hips on the sides. It's been getting harder and harder for me to find a swimsuit I consider modest for my daughter and myself.

I think you should do a FHE lesson with her about the Sacrament - make sure to include the scriptures that talk about the Sacrament. I like going to the lds.org site to get past magazine articles when planning my family's FHE. There is also a lesson in the CTR lesson manual. I'm used to answering questions on yahoo answers, lol. So I automatically went to lds.org and got the links. But these should help if you choose to invite her to your house for a FHE lesson. list of friend magazines about the sacrament: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Search the primary CTR lesson: Primary 3: Choose the Right B Lesson 33: The Sacrament Reminds Us of Our Covenants

I think some people are becoming so accepting that morality has fallen to the back-burner, so to speak. Sometimes I hear people complaining about the lower morality in our society to others who they know think as they do, but I have yet to hear someone who has taken the next step to try to teach higher morals to others. I know many in my ward who do stand up to their beliefs and teach their children that morality matters. But it appears to me that the children are being taught that morality matters to what they do, but to let others live as they choose to live. I know some people who will be friends with someone who has lower morality. While it is true that their friends morality did raise some over time, but those people with the higher morality I noticed lower their own morality further down. I like numbers, so I will use numbers to hopefully help y'all understand what I mean. If say person A's morality is at level 70 and his/her friend's morality is at level 40. Over time their morality will eventually meet - probably around level 50. This is where the higher morality went down further than the lower morality went up. I think we should start to stand up for our beliefs more outside instead of just in our houses and at church. I have started to do this with my daughter's friends who are not members of the church. I ask them to not cuss at my house and I ask them to dress modestly when they come over - meaning no tank tops, no halter tops, and no really short shorts.. They are all 10-11 years old and starting to mature. I have also explained why. Their parents are supportive of my beliefs in my house and are helping to make sure their daughters are dressed more modestly when they come to my house. I am blessed to have a daughter who has a high sense of modesty herself. I have never had to fight her concerning how she dresses (if it is modest or not), nor have I had to fight her with her language. We do have to be careful when we do speak up for our beliefs that we do it in a way that we do not sound judgmental, like saying "because those two participate in homosexual acts, they are going to outer darkness" or "because that girl wears tank tops, she won't go to heaven". We need to remember that our judgments need to be righteous judgments. We do not know people's hearts, we do not know if the person has an understanding of what they are doing is wrong - this includes members of the church. So any judgments need to be based on this temporal life. For example, it would be ok to say "That girl in that skimpy dress needs to dress more modestly, otherwise she can cause men (in general) to have adulterous thoughts"

I believe there is a very fine line between healthy competition and wicked competition. Healthy competition is where all involved have fun, all are happy for the winner(s) and the winner(s) doesn't boast or try to put down those who didn't win. Look at the BYU sports teams for examples. Wicked competition is where the winner(s) make fun of those who didn't win, those who didn't win get so upset that they bring in the spirits of contention, anger, jealousy, and /or resentment. I don't watch professional sports, but from what I've heard the teams themselves don't participate in wicked competition. But that it is their fans who do these things - not all, but enough.

I had to live with no power for about 3 weeks last year after Hurricane Ike hit the Houston area. It was hard but doable. I had no problem living without power, my computer, TV, etc. But without AC in this humidity I thought I was dying, lol. I wouldn't mind living without all the luxuries brought on without electricity but please let me move somewhere with less humidity first so I can breath.

I am living proof of this scripture. During the few years I was very inactive and sexual involved with a few men, I also started experience very strong same-sex attraction. However, I never did act on the same-sex attraction physically (just mentally, which is bad enough). Then when I returned to the church during my pregnancy, I prayed and prayed for Heavenly Father to help me overcome the same-sex attraction. It took a few years, but I did mostly over-come it. Now, occasionally I do get that same feeling - but when I do, I say a small prayer for Heavenly Father's help to make that feeling go away, then after the prayer I start humming my favorite hymn: The Spirit of God. Immediately that same-sex attraction feeling goes away. So it is true, God gave us weaknesses and once we humble ourselves before Him, then our weaknesses are no longer weaknesses. If God did not give us weaknesses, then He wouldn't make our weaknesses become strengths when we pray for His help.

There's another one to add to the list of the world's stupidest criminals.

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Your welcome When I had prayed, I didn't know what to expect either. I knew what other people had said happened to them: a burning feeling in their bosom (at the time I didn't know what a bosom was so didn't know where I would have a burning feeling if that came), hearing a voice, having a dream that night to tell them, and many other ways. Before that prayer and after I have never heard a voice tell me the answer to a prayer nor had another vision. Just that one when I prayed about the truth of the Book of Mormon. Now, when I have prayed to see if a decision I want to make is the right decision - like my decision to learn Spanish, I have received the warm feeling in my chest or a very strong impression on my mind that that decision is the right one if it is right. If it is wrong, my mind goes blank and I feel a cold feeling all about me - like getting out of a warm bed into the cool air of the room. I can't speak for everyone who is LDS, but I can say what I believe. I believe people who see supernatural visions that those visions can either be from Satan or from God. With your friend, I think he is seeing an angel from God who is helping him along his way - however, because of your friend's belief system he believes it is Ganesha. I have heard of others who seen one of Satan's angels who tried to get them to do things they know are wrong. When I was young, I asked my mom if I saw someone claiming to be from God, how would I know if they are and this is what she told me. You ask to shake their hand, if it's someone in spirit form that is from God, they will put their hands behind their back and say something about how they can not shake your hand. But if it's someone in spirit form that is from Satan, they will put their hand out to shake and you won't feel anything - your hand will go right through theirs. She explain the reason for this is that Satan and his fallen angels are out to deceive the children of God where as angels sent by God will not try to deceive us.