applepansy

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  1. Its hard to send our children on missions or college or anywhere away from home for an extended time. Its suppose to be hard we love them. but it really gets easier after you go through the teen years.
  2. With a smile say "Choosing to be modest doesn't mean a person is abused. It just means I have chosen to be modest." Thank the person for their concern and then maybe say something along the lines of "when anyone who knows my husband hears about this they will laugh at the thought of him every abusing anyone. He's kind and caring." Do not every compromised your standards to "fit in". Its not worth getting angry over.
  3. Thank you PC. I didn't your post this morning. My world is looking a bit bleak lately. It seems the more service I do, the more I try, the harder it gets. Your post reminded me of a few things I've been forgetting. :)
  4. Soy can cause thyroid issues. I'm sorry he's allergic to it but that might be a blessing in disguise.
  5. Us too. Half way through I turned to my husband and said, "These are all the same."
  6. Oxiclean doesn't usually take the original color out of clothes but when I used it on coloreds I don't soak as long. The table cloth was not white, it was ecru.
  7. If you're known me long here on lds.net you know that the subject of garments is near and dear to my heart. :) I have removed ink stains from a lot of things. I start with Aqua Net hairspray because its least expensive and I've sometimes used the whole can. Spray the stain with the hairspray and work it through until all the stickiness of the ink is gone. You'll be left with a black, blue or brown stain. Next soak in hot water and Oxiclean as many times as needed. My husband put a black Bic pen without a lid in my "mary poppins" bag. In the bag was a crocheted table cloth that I had spent about 3 years working on and it was almost finished. The ink went everywhere. This was not a case of cut it out and fill in. This was crocheted lace. So . . . I did the hairspray and then the Oxiclean. The hairspray worked fast. The Oxiclean took a couple of times and I had to let it soak for hours/days. The second time I soaked it I just filled my largest bowl (holds 50 cups) with hot water and two scoops of Oxiclean and then I left it and forgot about it until I had time to get back to it. All signs of the ink stains were gone. This tablecloth now covers my sweet neighbors table and unless she reads lds.net and knows this is me, she has no idea there were once bad ink stains on that tablecloth. As for ink on garments or other stains.... as I've stated in other threads, my husband works construction. He has work garments and church/temple garments. I try hard to keep the work garments free of stains and as white as I can get them. I soak them in Oxiclean and the Rit whitener at least once a month. I also mend them. He doesn't wear the work garments to church and the temple because they aren't perfectly white and sometimes it shows through a white shirt. But .... if we think about it what are garments for? They are to remind us of our covenants. I do not think the Lord intended for our garments to be something that derails us because they become stained. I can't afford to buy new garments every month. I know the Lord understands. (When we were newly endowed I accidently turned all our garments pink. Something red ended up in the washer with them. I cant' even remember what it was. This was before Oxiclean. We wore our pink garments because we couldn't afford to replace them. I truly believe the Lord didn't judge us harshly for that.)
  8. I would fast and pray a lot. I think its important to remember that those who first practiced polygamy did so after being called do to so. I think that's how it would happen if it was reinstated.
  9. The Racketeer by John Grisham Pleasantly surprised. Fast summer read. Entertaining. The last few months I have been re-reading Diana Gabaldon's series which starts with The Outlander. They are historical fiction and a love story. I enjoyed the story the first time I read the books and I've enjoyed it more this time. There are scenes in the story I skip. The characters are well fleshed out. The reason I decided to re-read the series is she release another book in the series and the first book is being made into a TV series for the Starz channel (unfortunately I don't have cable TV ).
  10. Does it need to be fair? As a parent I have found that its impossible to be "fair" in the eyes of my children. They are all different and require different interactions, different discipline, etc. If Heavenly Father has stated that those under the age of 8 are not sufficiently mature enough to be accountable then that's all I need to know.
  11. Sin is abhorrent. We should never become immune to the awfulness of sin. But human nature gets used to things: “Vice is a monster of so frightful mien As to be hated needs but to be seen; Yet seen too oft, familiar with her face, We first endure, then pity, then embrace.” --Alexander Pope While we are all sinners we should always strive to be righteous.
  12. We are all sinners even those who the world considers "righteous."
  13. 100 Cupboards by N.D. Wilson. Great book/story. I liked it so much I read the 2nd book in the series "Dandelion Fire" and as soon as I can get the 3rd one from the Library I'll be reading Chestnut King and the other books. Its a story about a boy who was adopted. His adoptive parents are abducted on vacation so he goes to live with his Aunt and Uncle and three cousins. During the summer he's there he finds a cupboard door which leads him to finding the other cupboard doors. By going into the cupboards he ends up in another world and discovers who he really is and who is Uncle really is. Well written and a very engaging story. I will probably start reading this author to my grandson soon. added: I didn't realize they made trailers for books
  14. I definitely wouldn't take younger children to Maleficent. Its too dark. It should have been a PG13 rating not PG.
  15. I completely agree. . . Only the Lord knows our hearts. We all get to choose! What a marvelous gift Agency is. I am thankful for the gift of Agency. No one should judge and most likely no one is noticing whether you have garments on or not unless you are wearing tank tops and shorts. :) And yet, the Lord has commanded us to be obedient. Blessings come when we make the sacrifices necessary to be obedient. Endowed members are commanded to wear the garment.
  16. Maleficent. Dark. Boring. Not sure what the hype was all about. I kept wanting to see the third good fairy change the curse. I was disappointed.
  17. I guess since I'm not following the "hot button" women's issues closely I see this as a parenting issue and not a "women's issue".
  18. Not me. I've lived a similar situation with a teenage child before there was internet. Sadly, truth is stranger than fiction.
  19. She doesn't get to decide parental concessions until she's a parent. Just sayin' Hang in there. Keep her name on the prayer roll at a temple. Will she allow you to give her a blessing? #8 Be the perfect daughter means she has to be obedient. If family prayer, scripture study, etc. are what the family is doing then she needs to be obedient and do it with a good attitude. There will be plenty of time after she's 18 to not be active in the church. However, she still has her agency and you cannot force her to believe. You cannot force her to have faith. She gets to decide those things for herself. Personally, I wouldn't force church attendance and participation. She's made it very clear she can't be trusted when she doesn't agree with an expectation and other adults are in jeopardy. I would continue to insist on her participation in family activities such as scripture study, prayer, family home evening, etc. Again. . . . she doesn't get to decide the parental concessions. What she can decide is to be a good girl and do whatever is necessary to gain your trust again. She might not like the Bishop but she owes him an apology. That would be one of my first things on her "to do" list.
  20. I don't believe it has to be 3. But I do believe that trouble and hardship seems to come in groups of some sort. Sometimes I think we get to repeat lessons until we "get it." Other times its just life. But never have I ever been in a situation where only one hardship happened at a time.
  21. I completely 100% agree with the bolded. This was the definition of modesty I was raised with. When we have an attitude of modesty it becomes very easy to follow the dress standards of the Church. When we have an attitude of modesty we don't look for excuses to tuck or hike up. When we have an attitude of modesty we don't look for excuses to expose skin. I believe an attitude of modesty goes hand in hand with the attitudes of humility and obedience very nicely. :)
  22. I read the blog yesterday. I agreed. And because the previous day an endowed young friend posted that modesty standards are outdated, and saying things like showing shoulders shouldn't be a modesty issue, I posted this blog in reply. It saddens me to watch young women (including young married) look for excuses to put modesty aside. It was refreshing to see a young married do the opposite.
  23. oh my.... I'm not sure I'm strong enough for that test. LOL