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How old are your children? Is his behavior having an adverse effect on his and your relationship with them? I would say you are justified in leaving. Both for past sins, and for his current relapse. However, you have children, and their needs are paramount. If you can fake it until the last one is out of the house, then you might look at that option. If his addiction is to the point where it is making home life unhealthy, then you need to remove your children from that environment. Abuse Addiction Adultery all good reasons for divorce.

Scott. You're a smart guy. But you don't really think the bible contains stories of actual events do you? I mean did Jonah really live inside of a whale for 3 days? Was Job a real person? The church is true, the doctrine as currently revealed is perfect, the scriptures are true as far as they are translated correctly.

I also like the starwalker line. I think they are cool. I have one of the ball point versions. Here is their fountain pen. http://www.montblanc.com/en-us/collection/writing-instruments/starwalker/8482-StarWalker-Platinum-Resin-Fountain-Pen.html Very cool looking.

My next fountain pen will be this one: http://www.montblanc.com/en-us/collection/writing-instruments/meisterstueck/112670-meisterstueck-red-gold-legrand-fountain-pen.html I have several montblanc's from the legrand line, and they are nice chunky writing instruments.

Fountain pens are great. I use one almost everyday for signatures, and important documents. Cross makes an OK pen, Waterman makes very nice pens, as well as Montblanc. Getting a fountain pen has actually inspired me to improve my penmanship. I am actively trying to improve, as before it was the worst.

I agree with Omega on this one. If he is that bad, then you should speak to an attorney. Are you really willing to sacrifice your happiness for a nice house? How about the happiness of your children. Omega is correct, if he is the breadwinner, then you will likely get child support and alimony. OP, you state no alternative. See above. That's your alternative. If he is a monster, then you are harming yourself and your children by staying there. In my mind you have no alternative but to leave. Unless of course you choose to be selfish, and like to subject yourself and your children to abuse on a continual basis.

Tell her you would like to be friends with her after her mission, and ask for her home address, or friend her on Facebook. Then forget about her for 4 months.

OP has a disorder. He should seek professional help. If he wants to be logical, then the question is the following: Will my life, and the life of those I love be better as a consequence of being an active participating member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints? If the answer is yes, then reactivate, baptize the wife.

Do you have a current temple recommend? If so, then no problem. Go to the temple, enjoy the wedding. Trust me, your bishop isn't going over roll sheets, and comparing them to temple recommends held. If you have an expired temple recommend, and you are new to the ward, then the Bishop is required to contact your former Bishop to discuss if there are any problems or reasons why he shouldn't issue you a new recommend. If that conversation goes well, then you should have no problem. If you are concerned about your attendance, then discuss with the Bishop. He will understand your constraints.

This sounds good. All women should walk around topless. I for one will take responsibility for my own thoughts. I will not hold any woman responsible for my thoughts if she chooses to associate with me with no shirt on. Modesty is completely over-rated........

OP, Get a book called Fireproof. Read it and apply it. In the absence of one of the 3 A's (Adultery, Addiction, Abuse) you cannot leave. You have to think about your children. You have at least until the last one is 18/out of the house. Your wife can learn to love you, and you can love her. Find a real counselor that doesn't suggest divorce. Talk to your bishop, he can help. If your wife doesn't want to go to counseling, then you should go alone.

Montblanc makes pretty good pens. Skeleton fountain pen is not my style. I like the Legrand series: http://www.ebay.com/itm/Montblanc-Signature-for-Good-Meisterstuck-LeGrand-0-9mm-Mechanical-Pencil-/112333360230?hash=item1a27970c66:g:JmEAAOSwSlBYxheB

If I believe that 7 year old children should be allowed to smoke and drink, and in fact support that notion, then am I contrary to question 7? If not, then why not? If so, then can we categorize same sex marriage as being covered in question 7?

So do people just get an idea to support same sex marriage all by themselves? For the same sex marriage supporters, is there just a nebulous decision to support same sex marriage, independently derived from no particular source, or is there a group or individual promoting this?

See below temple recommend question: 7 Do you support, affiliate with, or agree with any group or individual whose teachings or practices are contrary to or oppose those accepted by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints? I would want to reconcile somehow: Is same sex marriage contrary or opposed to teachings or practices of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints? Note the word "support" in the question......

Omega. Pretty sure you're late to the party on this idea: http://eom.byu.edu/index.php/Reformation_(LDS)_of_1856-1857 I however think we should do it again. It's been 160 years, and our ward has 506 members on the rolls with only 180 attending on a regular basis. Time to clean up.....

really???? Dude, really? time to lay it out and see what happens.

OP, You need to lay your cards out. You have been friend zoned. If you do not tell her how you feel, you will remain friend zoned, and have a broken heart at the same time. If you tell her how you feel and she shoots you down, then you will have a broken heart. No big deal, that's where you're headed anyways. The upshot, is if she doesn't shoot you down, then you will have achieved "love" Quit wasting your time. Tell her how you feel. Girls think about friends differently than guy's do. If you're honest with yourself you will understand that even right now as "friends" she doesn't feel the same way about you that you do about her. This is why it is important to find out asap. P.S. You posted on an anonymous forum asking advice from strangers. You need to tuck your ego, and sense of self righteousness. You're completely right, we don't know you, we don't know her, and you don't know us. If you want validation, or a hug, go ask your mom.

If your tipping point on finances is one meal out for your anniversary, then you need to reassess where you are financially. I say go out to lunch. Make it someplace nice.

Dump the girl. Don't worry about your future wife. I wouldn't mention this mess to anyone once you have repented and are forgiven.

OP killed the thread with the additional information. Seems to be a lot of disingenuous question asking going on lately. When they don't get the validation they seek, all of the sudden the conditions change, and the sympathy is expected to pour in.

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I think you might have a comprehension problem. How is the commitment to wear them night and day any different than a commitment to wear them day and night? We do wear them like regular underwear. In what way to wear them would make them special? Think about the endowment, and the symbolism of the markings. These are to be CONSTANT reminders to us, not just when we need a little pick me up. Perhaps your bishop and stake president didn't explain the wearing of the garment? The 3 S rule?

All of the advice here is pretty good except for the above. Whatever you do, never ever tell your wife about this. Just stop it. You're a grown man, act like one. You know what to do, don't pretend you don't.

So, this thread is dead right? I'll answer your questions: 1. Yes 2. Your original post did not outline this as the reason, so it is invalid as a response to my response (that is my response and answer). Since you have decided to change the parameters of your original posting, none of your following posts will be valid. If you want to start a new thread asking the same question, and stating truthfully all of the facts, then I would encourage you to do so. You would likely get significantly different answers.......