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In my opinion, the most important thing parents can do for their children is very simple. Just love them. And make sure they know you love them. If children know they are loved, it will go a long way in overcoming parental mistakes. And be assured, as a parent you will make mistakes.

Maybe, I'm just not getting it. I don't see why sitting would be submissive.

My husband and I were discussing divorce and what happens to the Sealing Covenant between the spouses. From what we understand, the sealing is basically no longer in effect because of the divorce. But, what happens in the next life if the sealing is never cancelled in this life? We understand that the Lord will never force anyone to be together in the next life if that is not what they want. But, assuming the couple both merit the Celestial Kingdom, and all has been forgiven, everyone will love one another, and be able to live in peace and harmony together, would said couple feel that they should honor the sealing covenant they made in this life? Is there any doctrine on this? Or do you think anything we say would all be speculation? DH and I are in this situation. He has been previously married/sealed. His ex-wife has never been sealed to another man. DH says he just doesn't know what he would do if his ex came to him in the next life and asked to be with him again. He doesn't know if he would feel responsible to accept her because of Priesthood Stewardship and the eternal covenant he made with the Lord and her. Breaking a covenant is serious business. What's your opinion on this? Again, this would be after all have repented and assuming they both merit the Celestial Kingdom and ex-wife does not have a husband. For you men, would you feel that your Priesthood stewardship, feelings of responsibility, and the sanctity of a covenant, lead you towards accepting a former spouse?

My husband is sitting here next to me and I read all the posts on this thread to him. Then I asked him if he would like to help me write our story. He says "sure"! This is what I remember. I had a coworker who wanted to line me up with this "great guy" that had just moved into her ward. Only negative she told me, was that he had just gotten divorced. I told her, "Okay, I'll go out with him," even though I wasn't too interested in a divorced guy. About a week later I was attending my Single Ward's Family Home Evening Group's activity at a roller skating rink. There was a young man there that I didn't recognize. I could tell he was attracted to me, and he wanted to skate with me. After he introduced himself, I wasn't too interested in him because he told me he was divorced. So, I tried to pawn him off onto my roommate. But, he wasn't interested in her. A week after that I was at a dance (same Singles Ward), and this same young man came up and asked me to dance. We got to talking more, and realized we had a mutual friend (my coworker), and then it dawned on us: she was wanting to line us up, but hadn't gotten around to it yet. We beat her to it. We started dating. And seven months later we were married. It's been over 31 years and five kids plus his two from his former marriage, which he had custody of. We've had some hard times, but pretty amazing times too. I'm amazed at how well we get along. We hardly ever fight. But, our hardest struggle has been his baggage from his former marriage. We're still a work in progress. What my husband remembers: I went to church with my friend out in SLC. I attended all the meetings, but wasn't too excited about anyone I met. After Sacrament Meeting I stood up, and was looking around, when I saw this very cute gal across the chapel and out in the other foyer. I made my way across the chapel, which was no easy feat since there were so many people there, and she was gone. Later, my friend invited me to his FHE group the next day which was a skating activity. And guess who was there? It was the same girl I saw at church the day before. I fell in love at first sight. I would try to talk to her, but she kept pushing me off to her roommate. I tried to be courteous to her roommate, but I wasn't interested in her at all. I only wanted to skate with the dark haired beauty I saw across the foyer after Sacrament meeting. Then a week or so later, I saw her at an outdoor dance. And I saw her all the way across the parking lot. Again, she stood out from all the other girls. She was trying to be a wall flower, but it wasn't working. I went over to her and started talking to her "playing 20 questions". That's when I found out she was working at the Church Office Building, and I told her I had a friend who worked there also. Found out they were coworkers, and my friend was trying to line the two of us up. Coincidence? I think not. About a week later, I got the courage up to call her on the phone to ask her out, but during the conversation, she asked me out instead. That was a relief, and an answer to my prayers. The rest is history. I feel she was an answer to my prayers, an angel. She took a broken man with two children, and made us into a family. I probably haven't been an answer to her prayers, though. But, we've made it work. And, I'm so thankful for her patience with me. Edit: Learning that my husband had seen me in church before we actually met, was something I had never known about until just recently.

Applepansy, a lot of the recipes I've seen call for 2 cans of cream of chicken soup. When you make it, do you use one can or two?

Talk to your bishop. Explain how you feel, just like you expressed here. Let him know that your stepfather would like to baptize your daughter. The bishop will advise you as to what needs to be done in order to accomplish it. My granddaughter, who lives in WA, is going to be baptized next month here in Utah. Not exactly the same situation as yours, as her family is active. So, I do know that it's possible to be baptized outside of your ward boundaries.

Adult children may be sealed to a parent and a step parent. It does not need to be done by proxy. My DIL did this. She is sealed to her mother and her stepfather. She was already an endowed adult when her mother was sealed to her stepfather. She chose to be sealed to them at the time they got sealed. I was able to attend. Very special occasion.

Anddenex, unless the policy has changed, stepchildren do not need to be adopted by the stepparent. The biological parent will need to give permission (a letter of consent). In the letter the full names of the children will need to be listed, the names of the parent and stepparent the children are to be sealed to, and the name of the biological parent giving consent with their signature. Edit: I'm assuming the children are minors.

Unless the policy has changed, I was under the impression that adoption is not necessary. This is what I heard was necessary, assuming the children are minors: The biological parent will need to write a letter of consent. The letter will need to state the children's full names, the name of the step-parent and parent the children are to be sealed to, and the name of the parent giving consent with the signature of the consenting parent. You can call the temple, and they should be able to advise you. Edit: My thought is: a parent doesn't need to give up their parental rights in order for children to be sealed to the other parent and step parent. But, they do need to give permission in order for it to happen.

Pam, how early do you think we should get there to get seats?

My experience: I never know when I've been unfriended until I happen to look at the number of FB friends I have, and the number has gone down. Then I page through my friends to try and see if I can figure out who unfriended me. Usually can't figure it out because I have too many FB friends. When one of my friends deactivates their own account they automatically are dropped from my friends list. And, yes. I am always curious as to the whys of unfriending me.

What network is this on?

Pam, it's just an additional 2 Tbl. of butter to the cornflakes. (I think)

It's a comfort food, often served at funeral luncheons or other get togethers. My granddaughter's baptism is coming up, and her dad has requested funeral potatoes to be served at our family's potluck dinner afterwards. So, I thought I'd better start experimenting now, and get a good recipe.

I've lived in Utah all my adult life. I finally made funeral potatoes for the first time this evening <gasp>! I'm not too happy about the recipe I used. It wasn't bad, but I've definitely had better. Anyone want to share their recipe? Are funeral potatoes mainly just a Utah dish?

I wouldn't say I'm obsessed in my feelings about the other person, but because the consequences of the actions still impact me today, I often feel the need to discuss it with my husband, who is my best friend and confidant, in order to come to terms about the actions/consequences. I guess I want to know the whys and the wherefores, which may not be able to be answered. The past is history, and cannot be changed. But, I still feel the need to ask "why"? Not in an angry or accusing manner, but more of curiosity, and hopefully to be able to finally put it behind me, if possible, because it's part of my life and the life of my family member--our history, so to speak.

So, if I no longer feel anger towards the person who has wronged me, but I still have issues because of the consequences of the actions, and still feel sorrow over it, have I truly forgiven?

My husband and I had a discussion about forgiveness the other night. He feels that once we have forgiven someone for a wrong, then the pain we feel over the deed will be gone. Also, I've heard it said that many can hold grudges, but it takes someone with character to forgive. When forgiveness is given, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn't mean the events were okay, and it doesn't mean the person who did it to you should still be welcomed in your life. It just means you now have peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go. One example in my life: when my daughter died in a car accident, I almost immediately forgave the driver for falling asleep at the wheel. I feel no animosity or ill feeling towards the driver. I love the driver (a friend of my daughter's) and do not fault her for the accident. But, that doesn't take away the pain, sorrow, and grief I felt and still feel for the death of my daughter. Another example, and this is where my husband and I disagree: A beloved family member did a number of things to me, over the course of many years, that were very hurtful. I felt betrayed. I feel I have forgiven the family member, but I still feel pain and sorrow over the events. My husband says that if I have truly forgiven the family member, then I wouldn't feel pain over the events any longer. I admit, I still feel the need to discuss the events with my husband in trying to come to grips about the situation. Does that mean I haven't forgiven the family member if I still feel pain over the events, and still feel the need to discuss it?

My first inclination is to say go on a mission. It was a wonderful experience for me, and I grew so much in the Gospel. But, you will need to get your own answer from the Lord. Pray about it. Follow the promptings of the Spirit. I believe the cut off age for young men for missions is age 25 (not sure of this).

Praying all goes well.

Dr Doofenshmirtz is a character from the cartoon "Phineas and Ferb".

Be safe!

My first thought that came to mind when reading this was of Seven of Nine in Star Trek Voyager. She belonged to the Borg collective. Wow. I can't believe I still remember this. Her character obviously made a big impression on me. lol

How about some oldies with Vincent Price. "House of Wax", or "Pit and the Pendulum", just to name a few.

Sorry to hear that. Did this come as a surprise? Or were you expecting it?