classylady

I could feel the Spirit so strong in my home as I brought each new little baby home. Older brothers and sisters learned tenderness and sacrifice as they helped care for their younger siblings. It was such a joy to see young teenage boys/girls hold their new little brother or sister in their arms. Now, as a grandparent, I love to see the love my children have for their own babies. Children truly are a blessing!

My youngest son is nearly 18 and 1/2. It'll speed things up by only a couple of months.

My daughter's husband is changing his Korean name to an American name. He will be dropping his last name and using my daughter's maiden name as his last name. I'm okay with it, but at the same time I feel sad that he is giving up his Korean identity.

My husband and I met at a Singles Ward.

I would have a professional surveyor come in. Then do what Loudmouth said if she's using your property.

I was probably around 9 years old when I found out that Santa wasn't real. I wasn't scarred for life when I found out. By that time I already knew there was no such thing as magic, and I had stumbled upon some of the Christmas presents before Christmas day and was able to put two and two together. Just needed to confirm it. Christmas has always been my favorite holiday. I love the traditions. I love the Christmas spirit of giving. I enjoy seeing people in a giving mood rather than a give me attitude. People just seem to be in a better mood during the holiday season. I loved the excitement my little children would get in anticipation of Santa Claus coming. I love the excitement of seeing them opening their presents. I always tried to teach my children why we were celebrating Christmas. We are celebrating Christ's birth. Now that my children are all adults, (youngest is 18), I admit, that some of the magic is gone on Christmas morning when we open the presents.

I don't think I could talk to the other parents about it either. My personality just isn't one that likes confrontation of any kind.

Yikes! If one of my boys at 14 was receiving inappropriate texts like that, I'd probably do the same thing you did, Misshalfway, have a serious talk with him. This girl definitely sounds like trouble. I'd continue to monitor the situation. I don't know what else I'd do. Probably tell my son that I don't approve of her, and would appreciate it if he didn't hang out with her.

Didn't say my teaching of never pointing a toy gun was 100 percent heeded. Maybe I should have taught, "if you're going to point a toy gun at a person, at least aim for the legs or arms."

I grew up around guns. We have guns in our house. DH just took a class for concealed. I have a healthy respect for guns. They don't frighten me. I sent most of my kids to gun safety classes when they were young teens. I have taught my kids that you never, never point a gun at a person, even toy guns.

DH and I do not use "baby", nor "babe". We'll occasionally use "hon" but not "honey" as a term of endearment.

I'm grateful for the overachievers. I feel like I don't contribute as much as I should, so I'm grateful when someone else does. I would feel left out though, if my VT companion was helping our sisters, and I wasn't at least given a phone call to tell me what was going on.

My mother bought an old pioneer home. It had some beautiful features but needed some major upgrades that she was unable to afford. It needed a heating system and air conditioning system. There were beautiful fireplaces throughout the home, but they did not heat the whole house. The kitchen was a later add-on, and was awful. There was some termite damage too. The wiring was old, but I guess adequate. I would have an inspector go over the house and make sure everything is in good condition.

What makes my marriage great, is that DH and I are best friends. We can, and do, talk about anything and everything. Commitment to one another, and trying to meet each other's needs are what keeps our marriage going. We have read together the books, "The Five Love Languages", and "His Needs, Her Needs". They have both proven equally helpful. I just wish we had read these books early in our marriage rather than just a two years ago. What has made our marriage difficult is that DH and I were unevenly yoked when we went into marriage. He was previously married with two young children that he had full custody of. I had never been married. Dealing with the ex-wife has been very difficult, and DH didn't know where to draw the line of appropriate behavior with the ex after he married me. Some of his actions have definitely hurt me, and after 30 years of marriage I still have not been able to heal. When asking Heavenly Father why I haven't been able to find peace with our marriage, I received an answer "That it was impossible to give me the peace I desired because of my husbands actions and continuing actions through the years". (Every 3 or 4 years some new situation would come up with the ex, and unfortunately my husband chose to deal with them in a manner that was hurtful to me and undermined my security in our marriage). We are dealing with these issues. I don't know if I can trust my husband 100 percent that he is "over" his ex, even after all these years.

Anyone who has a temple recommend can do a session at the SL Temple. No reservations required.

I have had two legitimate phone calls from the Church Offices--Membership records department. They were actually calling my mother who resides with me. They were trying to find current addresses of two family members who are inactive.

What helped me the most was attending several sessions in a row. Don't be embarrassed if you need help with the wording. The workers are there to help. It's okay if you don't remember. What I didn't realize when I first went through the temple was that the wording needed to be exact. You'll be fine. Just continue going to the temple and it will get easier. I don't know of any guides on the topic.

Thank you for all your replies. It means a lot to me. My daughter's death was such an overwhelming, emotional trauma. I don't know if I could survive going through that again. My testimony of the Plan of Salvation, is such a comfort. But, it does not take away the sorrow of losing my daughter. I miss her so much. I still do, and always will. My brain tells me that, statistically, chances are we won't be faced with having to go through another tragedy like this. But, I also know that it could happen again. I receive so much strength from the Comforter, and I know that I will be able to handle all that is given me. I'm grateful for knowing that I'll see my daughter again, and all my other loved ones in the next life. The Gospel truths surely are the "glad tidings" from our Heavenly Father.

Is he at work, where you could contact him on a landline? If there's no way to contact your husband I'd probably go home. Or, is there a neighbor you could contact and they could leave a note for your husband to get?

Many of you know that I had a 19 year old daughter die in a car accident. That was ten years ago. For the most part I feel that I handled her death with grace. I still grieve, but the pain isn't as sharp as it was. Since her death, there have been times when my imagination gets away from me, and I start thinking "what if" something like that happens to another one of my children. Take today, for example, our car won't start, so my 18 year old son will need to ride his bike to work. We live along a busy highway, and I started to panic thinking about him getting hit by a car as he's riding to work. I even started to cry, getting so stressed about this, and thinking that I just couldn't handle anything like this happening again. This type of behavior is not typical of me. I'm usually calm and rational. Do you think this is "normal" after losing a child, or other loved one to death? Do you think this is part of the grieving process, or am I just "losing it"?

I had one month to report to the MTC (then the LTM) after I received my call.

Yes, there are days when I have felt that way. But, I am just so grateful for being a woman! Is that a strange thing to say? I love motherhood, sisterhood, being a wife, and being a daughter. I loved cuddling my children to me when they were little. I love being a wife. What I do not like are the mundane tasks of being a homemaker. Daily dishes, never ending laundry, vacuuming, cleaning a room, and as soon as I'm done, it looks like I didn't do a thing. What has also been hard, is when I did have to work full time, I still did the majority of the housework. I can probably count on both hands how many times DH has done a batch of dishes in our 31 years of marriage. I need to be looking for work right now. But, the thought of working full time, and then coming home to house work, is almost more than I can handle at this stage in my life.

Sorry you're feeling so lonely and stressed. If I could, I'd reach out and give you a big hug. I don't know the answers to your problems. I know how hard it is to have only one car. I'm in the same boat. I very seldom get the chance to go anywhere. My husband's job very often goes into the evenings, because that's when he can schedule appointments with clients. If your husband wasn't so busy, I'd suggest signing up for a community class, and maybe you could meet friends that way. I'm a Primary teacher, so I understand about feeling left out of the RS loop. I'm on the RS committee too, but the program seems to be functioning in my Ward. So, I do feel involved somewhat with RS. It sounds like you've talked to the RS President about your assignment within the committee. Is it possible to tell her you would like more involvement? Also, it's okay to ask for a change of Visiting Teachers. But, then again, you never know what you'll get. You may get a set that don't do their visiting. Hang in there. Maybe someone new will move into the Ward and you can befriend them. When you do attend any of your meetings, look to see if anyone else might be lonely. Try befriending them. I've found that age doesn't particularly matter.

I don't post political stuff on fb. I don't reply to any of my fb friends political posts. I rarely even read their political posts. So, that means I'm doing a lot of scrolling down through all the fb posts. I love fb. But, I have a few pet peeves: inane sayings that everyone feels they have to share, some random photo with click like and my dad will quit drugs, photos of people with disabilities and click like if you think they're beautiful, etc. I prefer posts that tell me what's actually going on in a friends life.

I like to ignore this possibility.