findingmyway

I think you need to tone it down a little and i'm saying this in a calm manner. I could imagine an angry wife yelling this to her husband. I agree with you on the fact that we dont and we will never know if she is cheating. Its not our job to find out. However this is an advice board. Its his responsibility to find out and figure out what is happening. The advice we offer, is just it.... but I dont think you should belittle this man and call him insecure and say he deserved this, and he is to blame, and I dont think he is kidding..... DC..... It kills you because you keep assuming. The thought of your wife cheating on you is something hard to bare and I can see how it can drive one crazy. Keep praying, look forward, and keep working on yourself. Things will come out eventually if she did. But if she didnt, and if you are insecure, it will drive you mad and also her away. Be the best person you can be.... take her out and continue to love her. Turn all this arguments and fights around.... let it go for a bit. You will know if she did cheat or not.

WHY is there chocolate in my tub ?!!!!!

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Its the right site . Welcome !

Its an error to measure yourself against other people, to see if your perfect or not. Noones perfect, actually..... its perfectly normal to feel imperfect. Thats why we go to church. As far as people playing on their phones.... if they're not using it to look up scriptures, then yes, thats kind of disrespectful. Don't let that stop you from progressing though. Focus on why you're at church. Congratulations on the baptism decision. I hope everything goes well. Be aware that sometimes..... sometimes, the right thing can also be the hardest. You may be tried right up to your baptism day. Is your dad going to be okay even after he finds out you're baptized ?

Honestly thought of you during Elder Scotts talk on Sunday session. Not trying to say anything, other than you were in my thoughts Touched my heart too.

Welcome..... give us a sec to all get here. So.... I hope you feel comfortable enough here to ask youre questions, and hopefully you can find your answers, and find yourself. Welcome again, and enjoy.

I am almost insulted.... Almost :)

I find..... If I stare hard enough, the husbands will make SURE they will cover it up....... Magic !!! :lol: Dont try this at youre home ward. Side effects of getting slapped or even kicked out ! On a serious note. A quick word with her can solve the issue.

By not waiting for your road to Damascus. Hey man.... all these questions you have, just shows you're faith is tried. You're either becoming truly converted or ...... well..... not. You heard the prophet and the speakers today and yesterday, did they answer any of your questions or concerns ? They answered a lot of mine. I hope you found yours.:)

I'm almost insulted..... Almost :)

I second that, Loved it !.... even the hand movements made sense.

I'm open minded, shoot..... where is this wedding at ? Is there going to be food ? ..... kidding. Happy wedding and congratulations!!!!!

Yes. You have nothing to be scared of. Youre gonna be fine. You will feel much better afterwards.

Let Jim play. You can always kick him out (in a nice way of course). Maybe Jim needs to be around your brothers or your family to counter that bad influence he has. Maybe he will leave feeling like 'WOW.... I like what they have'. Something positive. If he starts getting out of hand, well, youre responsible. You can ask him to stop cussing, or being so negative... and you have your brothers to back you up. This could be a good experience for him, but if he shows up and cause problems in the family, and hes not respectful..... worse case scenario, you can all gang up and execute him with the paintball guns (jokes of course)

I dont want to focus much on your husband since theres been lots of words about him. I want to focus on you. I dont know you that well, or what your situation is exactly or if you did something to contribute to this sadness, or if youre a victim of abuse..... but if you focus on you, then you wouldnt have to feel guilty or be angry, but walk with a clear conscious. You already know you cant force him to do anything he doesnt want to, so theres no point. You've done self improvement , and maybe this is what you did. If you do you, whether it be counseling on your own, or watching a help-video, or if you strengthen that Father-Daughter relationship with Heavenly Father, and if you are being the best person, prayerful, forgiving, positive, patient, and you're happy...... then you can say, I've tried my hardest, and it didn't work out. Easier said then done, I know. But marriage is for better or worse, and its worse right now. If your home is a battleground and its just depressing to be there, man.... who wants to be home, even the kids feel it. I suggest you continue to stay pro active and not fall in to the misery. Change the atmosphere in the home, some good music, some family activities even if its just you and kids, church activities, whatever it is, so your children can see you happy. Hopefully as you become happier, youre husband will either see your example and want to be happy again, or he will try to shoot you down to be miserable like he is, at which point, in my opinion, its beyond worst.... and you dont need that. And you are right. Why would you want to spent eternity with someone you dont want to be with on earth ? You both deserve to be happy, even if its apart. p.s Also, try writing letters. Talking face to face can lead to arguments, but maybe in a letter, you can get both your words in with noone interrupting and cutting each others throat.

Go for it !!!!! You'll never know if you dont give it a try. You seem like you know your boundaries, so , I say On your mark, get seeeet..... GO! Again, thats just me. Im in the process of getting a divorce and its lonely, and I miss the same thing you do. So, I dont know if my suggestion counts.

I agree.... this was in the back of my head, but thought I'd throw it out there. I ordered mine a couple of days ago, it took a day to get all the info, but i got it ordered, and I hope i get it soon.

If someone had mention something not directly, but in the lines of how the plan of salvation blesses them or how struggles strengthens our relationship with our savior because hes felt all our pains or knows everything weve gone through..... it would have helped. She was visiting and she left afterwards. Either way, i guess i need to work on not controlling other peoples testimonies.

Yesterday, this lady stood up , gave a sincere heartfelt testimony. She hasnt been to church in a long time, they just had a death in the family and it led her back. She didnt know how to bear her testimony properly, but it was heartfelt. The follow ups were talking about the previous night activities. Please.... someone please say something to acknowledge, comfort her instead of joking around and who you were grateful for, and how blessed you are !!!! Its probably small.... but it did bug me and it still does.

Wow..... I am excited! Its like getting my blessing for the first time again. I havent seen it in years and years and years and have forgotten most of it. This should be good. And this time , I will take better care of it. Thanks again.

Theres a lot of information I dont have, I need to start looking for it. Problem was, It was done a long time ago, in a small country, and Im trying to remember the patriarchs name and also the stake, not to mention the dates....well. Thank you Dravin.

I lost my patriarchal blessing. I cant find it, since I've moved around a lot. Is there a way to get a copy of it ?

I have two close friends, 1 is gay, the other is a transsexual. I love em , we all know our boundaries. We laugh, we joke, we have fun like normal folks, and I would rather much see them happy like that, than to hide in the closet, and be angry at the world. I may not agree with them in lot of things, but we respect and love each other. All I can do, is be myself and they respect who I am and my beliefs. I promote love foremost and I would never judge less I be judged. However were born , I was born the way I am. Most important is not what we label ourselves, but what Heavenly Father sees us. I am a child of God.

I actually found being on this site helps a lot. Also being around loved ones, whether friends or family, and serving others whose had a hard day. Too bad food is not an option.... I find Thai food really really good, and Tres Leches light me up !!!