BadWolf

Depends on what kind of jealousy is in play! Jealousy out of fear? (Afraid of losing what you have) Jealousy out of desire? (Wanting what someone else has) Jealousy out of resentment? (Needs not being met) Jealousy out of insecurity? (Feels as if you don't deserve what you have) Jealousy out of anger? (Believing someone else doesn't deserve it) Jealousy out of ignorance? (Not knowing what a thing entails) Jealousy out of grief? (Having lost) Jealousy out of despair? (Irrevocable loss) Each of these has different strategies for coping. Some simple, some not so simple.

I LOVE kids in the sacrement meeting <3 <3 <3 I'm a convert, and while kids being allowed to be kids isn't the reason I converted, it DEFINITELY played a role. My son is 10. It doesn't apply to him (although to jump topics... He's ADHD, so I DO give him backrubs in Sacrement). Its a cultural thing, that children should (insert crude way of saying 'be quiet') that Ive ONLY ever found in America. In every other (child friendly to child centric) culture Ive lived in... Children are SUPPOSED to be children, SUPPOSED to 'be in public', SUPPOSED to be a part of the community. From Hong Kong with children playing under the tables at $500 a plate floating restaurants, to Italy wherein EVERY nearby adult keeps an eye on playing kids (any stranger who hassles the kids playing on the street, or kid who starts bullying others, hears about it... In stereo), to 100 other places in Asia, Southern Europe, Moddle East... Heck. Even upright England & super strict Germany are more child & family focused than the US. For myself... Coming into a Church where the very unAmerican attitude of 'Children Belong HERE' is one if the many reasons it felt like coming home. And for myself... I feel the spirit in the sounds of children's joy FAR more, than in the sounds of silence. Being on the murmuring, squeals, thump of dropped books, glint in the eye of an 'escapee', pure frustration, babbling, giggling, "whispering" at the top of their lungs, and all the rest. MHF is just far more present in the voices of children, than their absence.

Ooooooooh! CTW would be PERFECT though if he ever became a jewel thief!!!

I probably should have mentioned, totally non-lds area. Not a lot of these around. Teacher saw CTR ring and just sort of assumed he'd taken a ring from one of the girls in class, or mom's jewelry box, etc. My son doesn't have any kind of stealing history. He (my son) was more amused than affronted. He said he told his teacher "That wouldn't be RIGHT, would it? Never been big on hypocrisy." His teacher was confused. Got a note home about the incident. I clued his teacher in what CTR stands for. Whole incident just struck me as funny, as well.

Choose The Wrong ____________ Although some fun ones might be Chaste to woo Cry the wolf Cringe twitch wink Lol.... Sorry. I like playing with acronyms.

THAT would be a CTW ring.

My son's 5th grade teacher asked him if he stole his CTR ring.

An Arabic writing app (for kids learning aliphbat). I'm in an AWESOME class, but college level v kids? The kids version works a lot better!!!

Soooooo.... With blue & strawberry blonde... Do we get lavender??

I have the Charlie Brown theme song running through my head... But instead of Lucy sitting with "The doctor is in" lemonade stand style clinic... I have Calvin from Calvin & Hobbes visualized instead. Huh. Huh. Can't imagine why. Dooooooo dah do doodoo dah dooo, do! Dooooooo dah do!

Check state laws first. 1) age of consent is different in every state. 13/14/15/16/17 depending on the state 2) Most states have an age gap law. Which is normally between 3-5 years. 3) Most states don't count child molestation over the age of 12. It becomes various versions of assault / contributing to the delinquency of a minor/ lewd conduct/ exposure/ fornication/ statutory rape/ rape IF its not legal to begin with (see above) 4) If an 18+yo cannot reasonably be expected to know the age / underage of the person they're having sex with (fake ID, on a college campus, at a bar, etc.) they're usually not held culpable under statuary laws. 4.5) Similarly, if an 18+yo stops when they find out the age of their partner, they're usually not held culpable. Given the above, what they did could have been perfectly legal, or totally illegal depending on the state. So foundationally, look up age of consent since a sex act was in play. If the age of consent AND the gap mean it was illegal, speak with an attorney.

Not my first ticket... But my first "arrest". I was home on leave (USMC). Got up to go for a run at 4am. Arrested for coming out of my parents house. Cops thought I was a burglar. Cuffed. Mirandized. In the back of a squad car. While theoretically, a person jogging from a lakefront home at o'dark'thirty MIGHT be suspicious... Keep in mind: Running shoes. Shorts. Tanktop. Ponytail (Im a girl for anyone wondering). Walkman. (Dates me). I didn't even have pockets. Where was I supposed to put said loot? The "justification" (aside from "fleeing the scene", although for the record, when their lights went on, I just jogged TO them) after they initially talked to me, was that I was "claiming" to have lived there for 4 years and they'd never seen me. Um. Because I never got in trouble? I'd only been in the military 6 months!!! Go wake up my parents!!! They wouldn't "bother upstanding citizens" based on my say. Sheesh!!! So. Much. Fun. The irony is that Im currently applying for a sworn officer job. Which means Im going to have to explain that arrest. I haven't quite figure out how to do that with a straight face.

This is one of those things that may be nothing, but it is a red flag/warning sign. What's "this"? An unequal relationship... Where one person feels above the other enough to chastise/ yell at / browbeat/ etc. The "feeling like a child" isn't that one actually treats children like that... I do t treat my dog like that, much less my son when either of them do something on accident. The "feeling like a child" is a dominance/control thing. An inequality. A lack of respect to putright disrespect. Where one person places themselves above the other. Which is generally a very BAD way to start a marriage. It's also a warning sign of an abusive relationship. It may not be. It may just be a bad day. But it's a waving red flag. Strong 2nd for premarital counseling.

I just wish they'd teach moderation in all things. Instead of these wild pendulum swings.

<grin> I'm going to put on my devils advocate hat for just a moment (aka totally geek out for a minute): Not all fruits & veg ARE good for you, and not all fast food is bad. - Fruits are loaded in sugar, and are essentially desserts / empty calories in most cases. One of the first things a nutritionist I'm pals with does when dealing with obese kids is to ban all fruits from their diets for 6 mo. (She says her average 8yo client is eating 2000-10,000 calories in fruit each day. Not including juices. Straight fruit. A few bananas, a couple apples, some grapes, avo slices, tomatoes...A couple hundred calories per banana Start adding up FAST ) So many people think "fruit is good for you" that they let their kids have total access to as much fruit as they want. Which results in many cases in massive sugar overload (type 2 diabetes in kids is partially linked to sugar rich diets: fruits count in the well known "simple carb". Fructose is a VERY simple sugar) - Babies and young children (5 and under) need high fat diets for myelinization of the nerves and neural development. Studies are currently ongoing looking at the impact of restricting fats, as well as quitting formula & breast milk early (aka starting solids at 6mo) and putting children on an adult diet (low fat / high fiber) in the OBESITY sphere. The prelim correlations are outta sight. The restricting nutrients pre-menses is very documented by now, but the low fat/high sugar diets most American kids are on is pretty mindblowing. Sure it's pretty obvious that if they're eating 5,000 calories a day in fructose alone, that's not good... But creating the deficit in fats triggering a system wide altering of physiology (slowed metabolisms, calorie hoarding, fat redistribution, lethargy, high blood fat levels, increased cholesterol levels -made by the body, not ingested- is pretty mindblowing. In general its healthier for a 2yo to have fries instead of apples. Because they have radically different nutritional needs than teens/adults. - Jumping out of that sphere... For us grown folk: best sick food on the planet? McDonalds. The same uber processed quality that makes it bad for us when healthy makes it PERFECT convalescent food when ill. - Cancer patients need to avoid antioxidants (and certain other key nutrients) like the plague. LOL... Like I said, this just me being a geek. My son learned most of this in preschool (so Montessori), in no small part because they had someone with type 1 diabetes in class (so the whole class worked out the sugar content of fruits, veg, bread, etc.(, as well as a chemo kid in class. Now that he's in public k12 though... He's gotten in trouble for saying that fruit/veg isn't healthy for everyone. In fact, I got a call home at one point... Because he wouldn't admit that fruit is healthy for diabetics because of vitamins (which they can get elsewhere without having to jack up their insulin levels to accomudate for the sugar overload).. So some schools teach fruit veg is healthy!!!

From a legal standpoint... A SAHM (or SAHD) income IS their spouse's income. - Taxes - School Aid (FAFSA) - Federal Aid / State Aid (WIC, welfare, etc.) I haven't been able to go to school for a year, because until my divorce is final, my income counts as my soon-to-be-ex-husbands. We've been sep for over a year, and Im only JUST being able to (Well, come Jan 1) start applying for aid. Nice thing about the church, they're not including my STBXH's income as mine (ESP since I make 5% of what he does, that would be tricky!), and I know one other person with a totally abusive spouse who does not allow her any access to their money (yes, legally she has 100% access, but practically, through no choice of her own... She's not able to access family funds... She could if she wanted to be beaten for it... But the bishop isn't asking her to take a beating to pay tithing. Currently she's trying to save up enough to leave him.). Which, to me, is a key distinction. Through mutual agreement my ex and I each had an allowance that was "ours" to spend as we pleased. BUT we never put our 'allowance' money as our income. That was a budgetary decision. I obviously cannot speak for your bishop, nor would want to!, but unless its an abuse situation or other extraordinary circumstance, I would be surprised if your household income wasn't counted as your household income.

I hope I wasn't being offensive. When I'm stuck between laughing or crying, I try to laugh whenever possible. I forget that can come across badly. I can understand intellectually (we'll take this horrible and disgusting thing and turn it into a symbol of solidarity & 'can't keep us down' ... Like the N-word in the black community... Transmuting hatred into something good), just not emotively. On a gut level, well, I'm not there, yet. ::blushes:: I have a little difficulty switching gears from reality to symbolism, sometimes. If what I said at any point was disrespectful, I apologize.

There's some really great series of articles here http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-20127398 That do a good job at outline the whole series of issues at play: food, fuel, flooding, freezing, and a lot of other things I wish the marathoners would step up and help out instead of running. Granted, I'm sure the city needs the money, and that some will.. But on a gut level, the marathon sits wrong.

Yeah.... No bueno. It's still used in parts of the world as a form of torture. I used to schlep medical supplies n stuff to some of those parts for various NGOs. Shudder. I will NEVER willingly ever wear a crucifix. An electric chair (wireframe bed & battery, noose, guillotine, dental drill, etc.) is warmer & fuzzier. The only thing worse would be an impalement spike. Granted, I suppose I'd be all set for vampires wearing a sharpened wooden stake around my neck.

Oy, vey. I have a double coated (aka the normal kind) of lab. I have to dust mop once a day year round, twice a day in spring. I get a quarter to a half a grocery bag full of hair (from my 1032 sq ft house) every day. Spring, it fills the bag. I have enough for a whole new dog, every day!!! He gets one bath a week, brushed daily, and furminated in the spring every other day. The hair! I love him, but oy vey, the hair!!! He sheds about as much as our husky used to. You can get mutt-labs that don't have the undercoat + waterproof coat... But true lab retrievers, you will be dealing with HAIR every day for years. The nice thing, is no mats. But hair and waterproofing oil (hence frequent bathing) have just become part of daily life. 20-30 minutes every day. Super glad the fabric furniture I got as zip off cushions. Those get washed every 6weeks.

I've only ever witnessed one crucification... But that was enough to not have a cross (or metal spring bedframe and battery, etc.) ever provide a source of comfort. Instruments of torture make me VERY nervous. Granted, its one of the many, but one of the things I like so much about the church is the focus on his life, instead of his death.

It's so much more FUN to be around people we can freely emulate :) That said... Some of the most growth Ive had as a person has been when Im around people I respect in A-V, but I radically differ from in x, y, z. It's one of those concepts that messes a lot of people up. Just to use an example I'm 92% sure doesn't apply to you so we can keep it academic for a minute: There are some incrediably kind, compassionate, intelligent, honorable members of gangs. Just because they're a gangbanger doesn't make them a terrible person. BUT just because they're deserving of respect for all of their admirable qualities... Doesn't make being a gangbanger a good thing... Right? And it definitely doesn't make gangs a good thing. I'm hoping this example doesn't apply in your situation, because its a lot easier to see some things when our heart isn't involved. There comes a point in most people's lives where we see our parents not as our Parents, but as people. Who not only do things differently than we do, but are actually 2 people, with flaws/ struggles/ challenges attempting to do what is best and learn in their own lives. And LOVE us. Sometimes their struggles and challenges make them not safe people to be around. Sometimes their struggles and challenges just. Drive. Us. Up. The. Wall. (In no small part, because when you live someone you can see how they COULD be "if" they'd "just" start/stop ______.) Whenever I really and truly love someone... I can SEE the potential they have. It makes it soooo exciting when they're working towards that. But conversely, it makes it scary/disappointing/frustrating when they're not. Whether its a minor thing (like saying the wrong thing), or a major one (think toxic behaviors)... Being able to take a step back and grant them their humanity is hard-hard-hard when you love someone. Small things feel huge, and huge things feel almost like a personal attack (both on you and on the person you love). It's very easy for those things to actually be devastating. Either in prompting you to do the same stuff as they are (joining a gang, losing faith, etc.) to make it okay/less painful, or in prompting totally condemning them/losing all respect for them... When its really "just" this one area. To jump back to the banger... Being in a gang doesn't negate his kindness, generosity, honor, etc. Having a crisis of faith doesn't negate all of the faith, love, support, etc that your parents showed you in the past NOR their good qualities now. They're struggling. But that doesn't have to be devastating, and it doesn't have to define you. Just my .02!!! Oh. Just as a heads up: It's okay to tell people "Theyre struggling, right now." Or "They've been pulling away from the church for a bit." Not only does that let people know that YOU might need some support, but most people Ive met have gone through those same struggles for a time, themselves. So that will change in how they're dealing with your parents. Also, you. It's POLITE to let kids know that we like/miss your parents. And it makes parents feel good (when they were just swamped, or working, etc.) to know they're being missed. When people know they're struggling, though, you probably won't find yourself put in the middle so much. Because the 'rules' change. Instead of teasing/jollying/passing on their wishes to "Get out here, already! We miss you! Via "When are we gonna see your parents?!?" ... You're dealt with as individuals instead of a "Where's the rest of you?!?"

LOL. No. Just done believing that you might just not realize you were arguing that all rectangles are squares, because all squares are rectangles. I thought you might honestly not GET that you can't argue faulty logic / reverse logic. I had thought you were so wrapped up in your own stuff that you might just not be able to hear &/or were afraid that if the reverse logic wasn't true, that it invalidated your personal truths, or that you might be suffering. Since that's NOT the case, and you're just being deliberately obtuse, I don't have to care that you might be actually be trying, or even more compassionately might be trying despite a neurological condition. I was rooting for an "Aha!" moment. Now I can just say you're wrong, when you're wrong ... without worrying that you might have good intentions. Whole premise of the argument hinges on beliefs most terrorist groups do not espouse.

LOL... Fun fun fun. The part I always get hung up on is new ways of thinking. Not just new thoughts, but WAYS of thought. Always makes me pull a Pooh Bear "Think Think Think" before I realize that if I can think it, then its not new. Darn! Then I invariably try again. It's a repeatable experiment. Result: I am not an evolved being. By definition. Drats! Then again, keeps persecution out of my daily list of things to deal with. Evolution has never bothered me, though. Science answers how Religion answers why 2 totally discrete / non-competing questions

It's precisely the point. Your argument: If terrorists didn't believe they were justified by god then peace would ensue. BUT Many, if not most, terrorists DON'T believe that there're justified by god. Just like you propose would bring about peace. Peace has not ensued. Because one CAN'T make a narrow to broad argument. Or, one can. It's just wrong.