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Or Joe Manganiello to play the next ?
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Is it WRONG to want Golem to play my Ex-husband? .
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I'm a mountains girl. For ME... They're necessary. I drove a Jeep for years, now a Subaru Outback (only buy a Jeep if you work on cars. Like helos, they rattle themselves loose on a regular basis. They also eat gas like its $1 a gallon. So they're expensive). Mountain driving is different, though. CAN I take a 2WD through the mountains? Yep. Just not safely.
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LOL... Not here, anyway!!! I'm a 'door knocking' convert from this year. I can promise you, they're still going door to door to door in miserably wet western Washington! And there are missionaries who stand on Red Square (UW), and other college campuses day after day. Being a mom to an older boy, coming from a family of boys, & having served in the military at their age... I make a point to feed the M's on a regular basis. (Hollow legs, and always starving ; ) They've got great stories. Most of which originate from door knocking. I understand there are some missions where there are so many investigators (literally lining up), that there's neither time nor reason to canvass. Here? They practically need a white van, duct tape and a taser .
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Whether or not marijuana is addictive is a scientific debate...HOWEVER... Cancer patients ALL get addicted to their drugs. Its an incrediably painful thing (and not something often talked about outside of healthcare and oncology), but patients usually have to be weaned off AT LEAST once during their treatments (and sometimes 2-3 times), because we need to get their tolerance down before continuing treatment (ideally), or have to wean them mid-treatment (so, unbelievably hard). The addiction happens. Period. The doses needed to make treatment tolerable (not pain free, just tolerable)are roughly 5x-20x what a person is Rx'd by their doctor following surgery, or dentist, etc. Does the person become 'an addict' in the 12 step sense? (Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually). Not usually. Its usually "just" the physical Addiction. Which is bad enough on its own. But its considered worth it to live.
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My short answer (living in WA, its come up). Alcohol, tobacco, & Rx drugs are all legal, too. But without an Rx... Mood & mind altering chemicals are a nonstarter. Its all about agency, right? As in maintaining your own, both in the moment and in avoiding addictions. _______________ Some examples LSD is not addictive. Still trashes your ability to exercise your agency. Percocet is highly addictive. Can't exercise your agency (or heal) when you're writhing in pain. Meds used to treat neural disorders (from ADHD to depression to schizophrenia to epilepsy) make a person WITHOUT those disorders high/ psychotic / etc. but for people WITH those disorders, it brings their neurochemistry into a normalized state. When THC/marijuana is Rx'd for medical reasons (chemo, glaucoma, etc.), Im 100% behind its use, just as Im 100% behind poppies (opiates).
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Hilariously... I've worn similar (leggings & rash guard) when I hadn't shaved recently. It was one of those things... I'm going in! Vs. I'm going to miss out because Im too self conscious. As a former rescue swimmer, those long skirts make me cringe for safety reasons... But confidence being the most attractive thing out there... I'd rather a lady wear what she feels pretty & confidant in and GO swimming, than miss out. Just don't try to drown your lifeguard, or we'll knock you/choke you unconscious and strip you before hauling you in!!! Aka temper your modesty with pragmatism, or stay in shallow water
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Its funny because its true. We make really good scouts-recon/ field soldiers/ scientists/ parents of toddlers (note I did NOT say house cleaners)/ artists/ doctors/ etc., though!!!
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Oh... The only caveat to the above: Jesus of Nazareth circa 0 IS a focal point in Islam (as are many other New Testament AND Talmud/Old Testament things). All Muslims believe Jesus to be a prophet (along with Abraham, Noah, Mohammed, etc.). SOME believe him to be the Son of God (but no trinity) AND a prophet. Depends on what interpretation of the Qu'ran one is reading / which sect of Islam one practices. ((Just like Cheistiantiy, while there are 3 main branches, there are dozens of offshoots... And more cropping up all the time. Islam IS going through a reformation same as the Christian churches did a few hundred years ago. Pray it is not as bloody as the Christian one!)) I would not character Muslims as Christian...But they ARE one of the Religions of Abraham... And just like Christianity adopted the Old Testament, Islam adopter both old & new.
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Having NOT been Christian for most of my life (am LDS, now, though) and having lived in non-Abrahamic Religion (Judaism, Christianity, Islam) countries (read Asia)... ... To ME anyone who has Jesus of Nazareth of circ 0 BC/AD (ha! That gets around some sticky stuff) as a focal point in their religion IS Christian. To a lesser extent, people who believe themselves to be Jesus Christ PROBABLY fall under the Christian heading (whether they're committed, cults, etc.). A person CAN be both crazy & Christian at the same time . Similarly, if they believed they were a/the Buddha, they'd be Buddhist, Athena: Pagan, etc. Thing is... There were HUNDREDS of offshoot Christian sects during (and immediately following the Reformation / HRMs Henry, Mary, Elizabeth, etc.. Only a fraction of them have survived today, but that doesn't make anyone not Catholic not christian. (It always cracks me up when Protestants claim Catholics aren't Christian. Ummmm... That was your parent religion more often than not. Greek & Russian Orthodox aside. Some of the Reformation Churches (Im not digging through my school books from 10 years ago for the complete list) - Adamites - Adventists - Amish - Anabaptist - Baptist - Barrowists - Behemists - Brownists - Callers - Calvinists - Diggers - Enthusiasts - Evangelists - Familiasts - Fifth Monarchists - Griggletonians - Lutherans - Muggletonians (you read that right, JKRowling UK joke that largely went over the heads of Americans) - Presbyters - Puritans - Philadelphians - Ranters - Sabbatarians - Seekers - Shakers - Socinians - Quakers ALL Protestant Christian offshoots. So my view is that if you're Christian, regardless of the 'flavor' of Christian, you're Christian. The sects can say this or that one isn't / we're ghe only "real" Christians... But they're just words. Which tend to fall flat when looked at tend the lens of history & non-Christian faiths.
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I just have to say... Every time I see the thread title (every. time.) My brain flashes a short sleeved rash guard shirt w / bikini bottoms as a 'modesty' tankini / what's more modest than a tankini. ((Don't ask why my brain doesn't flash a long sleeved rash guard at me. Or rash guard & board shorts.)) Wheeee. ADHD.
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This screams Ears / Sinuses to me. If she's FINE upright, but wakes &/or is a mess when laid flat... That's nearly always an ear infection or sinus infection. Both of which are largely asymptomatic (no fever, sniffles, coughing, etc.). During the day & upright both drain... But lay flat and they're miserable. Meaning Id schedule a Ped visit for the otoscope!!!
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1) Don't forget about 2yo molars. I ALWAYS forget about 2yo molars, and then its face-palm after a couple weeks of Aaaaargh! In my family the common thread seems to be: as long as we're awake & busy, we're FINE! But when its quiet time the pain kills sleep so its Awake-Awake-Awake! time. Ugh. Conversely, I feel exceptionally blessed to live in the era of Tylenol. Conked. Out. 2) Growth Spurts!!!! My family has a bunch of fast growers (also slow / more normal growers). The fast growers have the added fun of also being borderline to full on hypoglycemic until they're done growing. Point being: The normal growers do the sleep through the night & 3 meals thing. The fast growers? Need something fat & protein rich RIGHT before bed (to avoid not falling asleep due to, or to avoid waking at oh-dark-thirty Starvin'o'the'Hunger ), and for a couple weeks for a growth spurt need a full meal in the middle of the night (wake Starvin'o'the'Hunger). Its easy with the fast growers... Because one gets used to having food on hand and practically shoveling it in to keep them on par. Leftovers in the fridge ready to zap, bottles/sippies with either formula or full fat milk, ditto (LOVE milk-the-superfood! with proteins/lipids/carbs/vits/mins in it!!!). But the slow growers end up throwing is for a loop the few times (generally age 2, 6, 9, puberty) that THEIR bodies get the screaming feed me's. My exhusband didn't have a lot of sympathy for hungry kids... But I remember being pregnant (growing bones, organs, muscles on a micro-scale, much less what KIDS are growing), with the screaming feed me's / must-have cravings. He insisted feeding hungry kids created bad habits. I've never found that to be the case. 2-3 weeks of feeding, and the spurt tapers off, and they're back to their regularly scheduled sleep habits. The whole 'Feeding on Demand' thing has always just WORKED for me. (I should note: I only have 1 biological child. But did kinship providing for some time). Nannying, though, for parents who insisted on water only (seriously it takes 30 seconds to rebrush teeth), has meant MONTHS of sleepless nights and cranky days. This is NOT a cure all, but when I finally got the approval to night feed 3 families toddlers... Their 'bad sleepers' & 'spirited children' overnight became the BEST sleepers and were no longer holy terrors in the daytime. Full bellies and good sleep works wonders!!! ((Again, I can't underscore enough: NOTHING works for everyone, and there are MANY 'best' ways of doing things. Not all hungry kids have sleep issues, and not all kids with sleep issues are hungry. These are PURELY my own experiences with the 8 Ive seen though toddler years. There is NO one/right way for every family, much less every child!!!)) 3) We don't do 'Cry it out', per se. But when there's a contest of wills going on, I don't play. Because I 'win', period. (This also goes under the heading of 'never get emotionally invested in an argument with a child'. In cases like these, I don't play by (after checking for any true cause)... Walking. Away. 3.1) Common 'True Causes': (Many of which you've already checked for... But I'm a bear if very little brain sometimes & need to list out most ... I'd say 'all' but always end up forgetting one, kwim?) Medical / pain related (Tylenol Test) - sick - recovering (within 2 weeks of illness) - ear infection - sinus infection - teething - reflux - solids too soon (only 50% of babies can digest solids at 6mo, 75% at 9mo, 99% at 12mo... Peds say "try" solids IF you want at 6mo, but parents often hear wrong) - gas - diaper rash / yeast infection - UTI - allergy Others - Growth Spurt / Hungry - Overtired (put down 30-60 min earlier) - Overstimulated (chill out routine) - Too hot / Too cold (change clothes) - Too small clothes or diaper (you'd be surprised how oftenTHIS happens, ditto above) - schedule change (infants & toddlers will often adjust sleep schedule to be awake when parents are home... Even if that's night time. 'Going back to work curse' is the great sleeper is STILL a great sleeper, by napping in the daytime when parents are at work, and awake-awake-awake at night... I listed this under 'true' causes, because there's a fix for it... Even though its a pain.) Alright... This probably isn't a COMPLETE list, but its the best I can do with a head cold.
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Words of Wisdom?
BadWolf replied to mustang90's topic in Learn about The Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-day Saints
My mum has a favorite quote right now: Commas Save Lives. Lets eat, Gramma! Lets eat Gramma! -
Invest in a good corset. Corsets generally - need 'liners' between them & the skin (So garments should actually help, booyah) - are ADJUSTABLE, unlike bikeshort / catsuit style body shaping, so you can choose how tight/where - are PRETTY!!! There's no rule that says you have to be 'waist training' to wear a corset (in fact, a pal of mine makes a line of corsets specifically for women who've had c-sections, other abdominal surgeries, low hanging 'flaps' due to pregnancy or weight loss, etc.). You do NOT have to tie yourself in so your ribs are crushed and you can't breathe. Instead, you buy your real size (instead of 2 sizes too small), and just lace up for custom body shaping / a smooth line.
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differential requirements for salvation?
BadWolf replied to searching_questioner's topic in LDS Gospel Discussion
I wasn't born LDS, but my family has always been HUGE into the 'Lo do I see my father, and my mother, my sisters and my brothers, stretching out in a line, all the way back to the beginning... And they bid me take my place amongst them' / family history thing. Meaning not so much geneology, but literal history. We're storytellers, and travellers, almost to a man. With the advent of Internet record systems... Over 90% of the oral traditions have proven true. What on EARTH does this have to do with your question??? In constantly amazed by the number of people who don't even know what their grandparents did for a living, who they were, etc. Much less cousins, 2nd cousins, nieces & nephews, etc. For some... The past may be lost to them. But the present ISN'T. Themselves. Their parents. Aunts, Uncles, cousins, children. History STARTS 5 minutes ago. Our present is ancient history for our grandchildren. Collecting our PRESENTS is also history work. LOL... And its more 'work' than most of those who were born into the church shall ever 'have' to do... As its already been done by those who came before them :) _______ But that's only a small part of what you're asking, right? When I was a child, it used to INFURIATE me that there was a child in Afrika who was the greatest piano composer who ever lived. I could SEE him, in my mind. He'd live and die never even seeing a piano. His genius lost to every generation by an accident of geography. I grew up Travelling. That little boy was representative of thousands of times where I could actually see lost hope & potential that would never be realized. As a child, I saw their lives 'wasted'. As a teen, and still Travelling... I would see my peers in high dudgeon about clothing, when 6 months prior Id been spending time with kids who'd lost limbs in the mine fields, or walking through streets where the 13 year olds had been in prostituion for 'so long' they were getting 'too old'. I had this 'How DARE you be upset over something so petty??? I've "grown up" several times. One of those times was when I realized that that little boy in Afrika had a GOOD life, not a wasted one. That the same mind who could have composed scores to make Beethoven weep & Bach storm out muttering to himself... Was still in the world. It still heard sounds, with the same genius, but the magic of his mind was reserved for his own heart and his own eyes. Every rustling arapeggio of water, every booming base of winds across the grass, every tone of voice... His gift was still his own. He didn't live a 'wasted' life. He led one full of wonder. Another time was when I was taught that pain is pain and suffering is suffering. Whether its the death of a child, or a "petty" thing like having "nothing" to wear. That one should be GLAD that someone is in pain over something "little", because then one can HELP that person, and know that the pain will pass quickly, instead of existing for a lifetime... NOT sneer, deride, or compound a persons pain. That the only difference in pain/fear/suffering/loss is how long it hurts for & how many people it affects. I FORGET these things all the time, although my Heavenly Father is kind enough to remind me of these lessons (and others, oy, so many others) on a fairly regular basis. Sigh. I need more thwacked upside the head than most. Point being... Its EASY for me to say "Every child is different" in regards to parenting... Its harder to act on it. Its easy for me to say... We all have different trials and blessings, it hard for me not to compare my own life and others. Its easy for me to say... The requirements are different for everyone... It can be hard for me to see how that's actually "perfect", instead of wrong/ unfair/ not well thought out/ etc. Which is my answer. The commandments may be the same, but how they apply (and when, how 'hard or easy', what the effects are, etc.) is different for everyone. Because life is different for everyone. We work with what we've got, learning the most we can, being and becoming the best people we can. Easy to say. With a gazillion variations. Rarely fair, but 'right' in a sense that I can't really grok, except in glimpses. -
Sehr Schön!!! Now... If it weren't for those pesky safety rules (which will cease to be annoying when its MY son ; )
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Does Santa diminish Christ from Christmas?
BadWolf replied to Star_'s topic in LDS Gospel Discussion
My personal belief is that Santa is the Holy Ghost. How's THAT for throwing a wrench in? -
Does Santa diminish Christ from Christmas?
BadWolf replied to Star_'s topic in LDS Gospel Discussion
I'm an archaeologist. Who has dug in Israel. Aka... Has also lived there. And has studied the historic climate change of Northern Africa & Middle Eastern regions (because then current wearher systems are pretty key in finding, much less describing where & how people live)... as well as having lived in both. So Ive lived there, studied the region extensively. I don't think its possible to "research my claims" MORE thoroughly. But beyond that... You AGREED with most of them (while saying I was wrong, which is confusing to me). Points of agreement : - My comparing Israel's weather to southen California is not only NOT misinformed ... But you yourself say that Los Angles and Jeresulem have the same climate. Whereas I said southern califorbia (Los Angles is IN southern california). Both are coastal deserts with mountainous regions. - While its still rainy (as you and I both say) from Dec-Feb, which makes it a crappy time to travel NOW ... it was ideal, then. The cities were fine. Israel has had some of the best (and oldest) plumbing systems in the world. Its Point A to Point B that is the issue. Modern times... People travel by motorcar, buy water as needed, and trips last hours. They don't want the view spoiled by rain, washed out roads slowing things down, and cold snaps. So its recommended to travel AFTER the rains. When things are still green & haven't been bleached out by the sun. (For the record, I loooooove the 10,000 colors of gold in the summer, ESP in contrast to the cultivated areas). Historically... It took days to travel, and the average person could not afford he pack beasts to schlep their water with them. They depended on seasonal streams & fixed wells. - We have word definition issues (I describe Southern California & Israel as having 2 seasons: Spring & Summer... Although there are pocket ecologies in both areas... Coast vs Highlands, for example), whereas you're following a 4 season calendar... But we're both describing the SAME weather systems. The weather 2,000-3,000 years ago was a BIT different (warmer in most cases)... And the cultivation/erosion/etc. has definitely played a role in modern systems.. BUT Its CLOSE enough to modern weather we can use this weeks forecast as a general guide. Which is NOT 12 foot (3meter) snowdrifts, where the beasts of burden have been slaughtered for food, and the first rains of spring happening in April or May, along with the lambing season. Which is the northern winter. Which makes a December birth during Lambing impossible (by 4 months). Whereas the rains start in Israel in December (typically), not April & may. Am I saying that Jesus of Nazareth was born on December 25th? Nope. Course not. Not until someone comes up with one of those handy Roman lists or ostraca. But the idea that he COULDN'T have been born before April is just one more (of thousands) of ethnocentric Northern European concepts. Where winter means snow, meters and meters of it, from Nov-Apr. And "spring" means 40-70 degree weather, with rainfall, cold winds, and the occasional snowfall. -
There's no 'best' way... Just do whatever feels right (and/or least scary) To you. Here's an 'inbetween' option Chat with Us | Mormon.org You can chat with missionaries online, and they'll set up a time for the M's to come see you. The M's DIG when people seek them out. You can imagine... Turned away all day, after day, after day. To have someone reach out to them is an exciting thing. Even if they're nowhere near where you are in your head and heart and they only see them once. It'll take longer doing the chat & meet, than just ringing them up... But its also less scary for the shy crowd, more convenient for the night owls, etc. AWESOME tool.
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There are some FUN things here: I only have time for 1 right now! 1) When we have children... We hope & pray & work for the best... But they make their own choices. We try to teach them, use learning moments, create artificial (and real) challenges for them. But we CANNOT live their lives for them. You raise them up, close your eyes, cross your fingers, and send them out into the world. Some will be hurt, some will hurt others. Some will learn, others will keep making the same mistakes over & over again. Some will reach their full potential, some will struggle. I lovingly and knowingly have a child... That could be ANYONE. The sneaky kid who grows up to serve our country as a spy, or the sneaky kid who spends half his life in jail. The sunny obedient child who is loved by all who see them because she sees the good in everyone, who marries an abusive man a d is killed by him, or who grows up to teach others her compassion through her award winning human rights work? *** Just because I know my children MAY fail, may be hurt, may suffer for their choices... Doesn't mean that I don't have (and love) my children. Kwim?
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I feel 2 inches tall. I've overslept the past TWO Sundays. We just switched from 1pm meeting time to 9am meeting time. I get up at 730 M-Fri I get up at 430 Sat Sun? Was my day to sleep until 10. Last week (first 9am shift)... I didn't even have clothes ironed. Because I "do" that Sunday. Ditto hair washing, etc. So when I woke up at 10 (totally shutting off my alarm!), there was just no way it was gonna happen. This week I was 'ready'. Clothes pressed, washed & dried my hair the night before... And woke up at 1045. Grrrr. Stupid time shift, with it stupid stupidness. ((Yes. I totally blame myself.)) Sigh. Anyone else totally mess up? I know most don't... But it takes me WEEKS to groove a new routine. X_x zzzzZzzzzZZZZZZ Boooooo....
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I would always wonder whether they converted due to testimony or lust. So... No. Nonmember? You betcha. Convert? Good deal. Investigator? No bueno. _______ I was teasing one of the Missionaries about going home and converting a wife. He said something that really stuck with me: "Yeah. But then I'd have to wait 3 years before dating her, to make sure she was really solid." Oh, snap!, son. Durn good point.
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What to do legally?
BadWolf replied to Internationaltraveler's topic in Marriage and Relationship Advice
It sounds like she & I have the same ExHusband. EXCEPT, mine isn't LDS. So the church AND the church BUILDING are safe places for me, safe places for my kiddo. People Ive come to know, never knew my Ex in 'charm mode'. They never feel betrayed at having been around during the years I was abused and having done nothing to stop it (or see it), they don't feel guilty. They don't have to reconcile feelings of betrayal and guilt with the smiling Superactive member, and "choose" between feeling terrible about their own past inaction and feeling good about themselves (and the smiling charming man). They don't have to be afraid that abusers CAN be nice, upstanding, charming, etc. MOST of the time. Far easier to cling to the (wrong) idea that they'd be able to SEE the wrong, and swoop in and stop it. Siding with an abuser is the EASY choice. So its what most people do. Denying the abuse could ever have happened. Not on THEIR 'watch'. I counsel that your friend MOVE. Becayse, quite frankly, it is unlikely that the members of her ward will EVER be supportive of her. Even if she carries around her medical records and court rulings. I think of it this way: My husband had ME fooled enough to marry him. Was convincing enough I chose to stay with him, time after time. I can hardly blame people for falling for the same load of malarkey that I did. But I DO need support. People who aren't so wrapped up in protecting the IDEA of who they are (who would swoop in and save battered wives/children), that they in turn are causing more pain and suffering TO those selfsame battered wife & children. New people will be able to see the situation clearly, because they won't be wrapped up in protecting themselves. Your friend is right. She DOES need a new 'church' (aka building/ward)... Just not a new Church. My hugs to ALL involved. Losing GOOD people hurt one heckuva lot more than booting my ex. And I was far too hurt/exhausted/etc. to carry around my records "proving" myself. Had 'em. And if I have to drag them out and relive the whole sordid mess so that you'd stay my friend? Then you were not a friend. When you're trying to keep your kids alive, most don't have that kind of energy to fight an uphill battle against other people's self defense mechanisms. -
Does Santa diminish Christ from Christmas?
BadWolf replied to Star_'s topic in LDS Gospel Discussion
Please remember that Bethlehem is in the MIDDLE EAST, not Northern Europe. In equatorial desert (middle east, Southern California, etc.) "the rainy season" tends to happen in December & February. For a few short weeks the desert blooms, and everything turns bright green. During this ACTUAL Spring is when babies of all species are born. From lambs in Bethlehem to coyote pups in California. This also would have been an IDEAL time to travel, as wells would be running full (so too, streams, etc... That would be dry a few short months later. Game would be plentiful, the weather temperate, the roads easy. So, too, back to the NORTHERN idea of winter... The Greeks & Romans nearly never fought in winter. Instead, they'd come home to plow their fields and plant for spring. Administrative tasks were also largely accomplished during the long winter months between harvest & planting. So as far as CA not expecting people to travel on personal business in Northen Winter... The idea is backwards. Along the Pax Romana roads inns were spaced at regular intervals to shelter any storms, and winter was the ONLY time people had to travel on personal business. Come spring, they'd be Travelling on the Emperor's business, with the legions more often than not. It just sort of works out nicely that Dec/Jan is the MILD (aka spring) time of year in NE Africa & Arabian Peninsula.