MorningStar

We went to clean with our small children and were there for almost 5 hours because two other families bailed - one of them to go skiing. Coordinator said we were excused from helping for a few years.

Read this link:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (Abuse) - The Cycle
When a spouse throws an object, it sends a message that you did so because you were trying to control your urge to hurt them. So your wife isn't thinking, "Hey, at least he didn't abuse me." She's possibly thinking that it was leading to physical abuse.

I don't think women know what they're getting into when they knowingly marry a porn addict. Sometimes they think sex will cure their husbands, which is not true. You said she was tired of ultimatums. What kind did you give her? You said you felt entitled to her body. In what way did you show that?
It's pretty major for a woman to get a protection order from her husband, so I feel like we're not getting the whole story. My advice is to not do anything to violate the protection order in any way. When my friend had a protection order, her husband told his son, "Tell your mom I love her." That landed him in jail.
If you think there is some hope for your future together, write down everything in a journal and date each entry. Tell her you wanted to confess to her the massage parlor incident, but you couldn't. Maybe document any therapy sessions you go to, addiction recovery groups, etc. It's her decision to make if she wants to give you another chance.

I don't even know how long it's been!  Since before I moved?  I still live in the area though and yes, anyone should be afraid to marry me.  BWAH HAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA!!!!  Just ask Mr. Morningstar.  

I don't even know how long it's been!  Since before I moved?  I still live in the area though and yes, anyone should be afraid to marry me.  BWAH HAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA!!!!  Just ask Mr. Morningstar.  

You say Ted is your boyfriend. Does he call you his girlfriend? Maybe in his committment to the Gospel, he feels any physical contact causes him to feel things he shouldn't? Of the people I know who have disorders on the Autism spectrum, they are the most committed to being obedient that I have ever seen. Maybe he has a hard time verbalizing how it made him feel when you tried to make things move faster? Or it could be a sensory issue he has. If he is interested in marrying you, you will have a lot to clear up first. A woman in my ward married a man with Aspbergers and their relationship took years to develop. She also has to have different expectations with him than other men. She has to be blunt with him. If you're not good at being blunt, then you're going to have a tough time, especially when children come along.
Good luck! :)

During the next year I'm going to be collecting random things that have my kid's names on them.  Pens, pencils, magnets, just anything I can find. That will be their stocking stuffers for next year.  I don't do stockings every year.  Only when I have all 3 kids home and happily that will happen next Christmas.

Nuts, oranges, small accessories that go with the main gift under the tree. Small stuffed animals or other small toys. Money: unusual coins, like Sacagawea dollars, for younger kids. New crisp bills for adults and almost adults.

The fun part was when the drone was flying over our heads and we had to be careful not to look at it as it buzzed loudly.    Tel Stewart filmed it.  He has done some Piano Guys videos, Alex Boye, and Poopourri.  Hahaha!!! 

I'm somewhere in the front row towards the middle.  Wearing a black dress.    Haha!!!!  Thank you!
 
Connie, it's great to see you too! 

Beautiful is an understatement! You and all your company did an amazing job. Thank you for sharing this!

Very enjoyable !! Good job

My classroom of second graders this year... they're not what I would call the bad class and the group does not contain any particularly awful students, but it's such, to use a euphemism, an interesting mix! I have spent quite the time asking other teachers for input and insight into these kids! Not the typical challenge teachers think of, but certainly a challenge!
 
My maternity leave sub, a woman who retired several years ago after nearly 40 years of teaching but who realized her triplets will be soon graduating from high school and wanting to go on missions and therefore figured she'd pick up some sub jobs, messaged me today for chatting and confessed this was the oddest and most challenging class she recalls having in her career.
 
I'm not crazy! My class is an odd class!
 
 

I hate insurance companies.  All they are interested in is taking your premiums. 
 
The Affordable Healthcare Act just made health costs even more unaffordable.  The whole thing should be repealed in my opinion.

That is quite nice.
It must be a real joy to be a part of a production like that.
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I liked the music.  Thanks for posting this video.

wow and welcome back

Poor Morningstar! You should not be dealing with a this!

Have you talked to your bishop?  If not in your ward, there's probably a lawyer in your stake who would advise cheaply, and maybe write a letter or two for just enough to cover his expenses.  Sometimes just a "move it along before we get angry" on law office letterhead gets things going.

A few weeks ago my wife was in an accident and we went to a lawyer right away.  We too were initially reluctant because we didn't want to be the people who would try and take advantage of a situation to get a ton of money and enable ambulance chasing, but the simple truth is that insurance companies aren't going to give you a penny more than they absolutely must, even if it's your reasonable due.  A lawyer ensures that they pay out what they're supposed to.
 
It's sad that it's a necessity, but it is.  Insurance companies take advantage of people who DON'T get lawyers to help take up the slack from having to pay out more to those who do.  Is it fair?  No.  Would it be better if that weren't necessary?  Absolutely.  But the reality is what it is.

First of all, WHY can't I find mini cereal boxes this time of year anymore?  I feel so bitter about that.  We always do mini cereals and then that's breakfast.  Last year I had to do Pop Tarts!
 
OK, my non-candy ideas:
 
Mini flashlights
Fun duct tape (like camo for my husband)
Toothbrushes (a tradition in our family)
Scented hand sanitzer
Hot Wheels
Small bottles of bubbles
Silly putty
Chapstick 
Pocket knives (says my son who's reading over my shoulder)
Fun socks (also says my son who's reading over my shoulder)
A small book on not reading over your mother's shoulder
 
What are some of your ideas? 

Just get a lawyer. Well, if you're injured.  I should have done that from the beginning because it could have avoided a lot of stress.  It's been over a year and I'm still trying to get bills paid.  I thought since it was a simple rear ending and it wasn't my fault, it should be easy, but my insurance has been paying the medical bills and will get reimbursed by the other driver's insurance.  My insurance is still dragging their feet about paying my bills.
 
I felt like if I got a lawyer, that shows I just want a large settlement.  No, it shows you want to avoid a huge hassle!
 
I was 35 weeks pregnant and had to go to the hospital to make sure me and the baby were OK.  It doesn't take a huge impact to cause a placental abruption.  Thankfully we weren't in danger, but before the evening was over, I could barely lift either leg up.  It was even painful to put on my flip flops.  For months I couldn't roll over in bed without screaming in pain and my baby stayed in bed with me because it was too difficult to put her in her crib. For weeks I couldn't even lift an empty pot, let alone add water to that to boil some pasta.  I couldn't carry laundry up and down the stairs and my husband had to stay home for a month because I couldn't carry our baby up and down the stairs either. 
 
 
After my 36 hour labor (on top of my injuries), it was even more fun when I got the labor and delivery bill for $9,700.  My health insurance had denied my bill because I had an "open liability claim".  They had to reprocess it after I explained the car accident didn't get me pregnant or cause me to give birth. 
 
I still had to wait a month for any diagnostic tests because the doctor was giving me time for my spine to return to normal after giving birth.  I also had to wait until I was healed enough from delivery to go to physical therapy.  After a round of that, my doctor declared I wasn't feeling better enough for his liking, so he sent me for two MRI's on my spine, which was also very painful because I had to lie on my back for long periods of time.  Some degeneration was found, so that's when it got really fun.  I kept explaining that whatever was there before wasn't causing me pain. I was fine before the accident - jumping on trampolines, dancing, cleaning all day, carrying toddlers, etc. 
 
It took months for them to pay for my MRI's.  The insurance kept saying they needed "more documentation" and the MRI people said they were just playing games.  Then the insurance said my MRI's were medically unnecessary, so I had my doctor write a letter stating why they were necessary.  They finally paid for part of them, but left me with the rest because they said the office charged more than was reasonable.  The office said they don't have a contract with any PIP insurance, so there's no discount offered.  I had the same problem with my xray bill.
 
I then had to fight for my chiropractic bills to be covered and that was starting to help a great deal.  The insurance said their chiropractor was leaning towards calling it "chronic".  I had to have the chiropractor right a letter even though he documented in my chart that I was improving.  At our first visit, we couldn't do any tests with me on my stomach because I was screaming in pain.  I then wrote a letter to put in my chart and sent it to the insurance as to the ways I had improved. 
 
Then I got shingles.  I couldn't have anyone touching me because I was in so much pain.  My adjustor said if I took a break from chiropractic treatment, they wouldn't cover it when I went back. Seriously?!
 
They are claiming they never received my January bills for PT and PT is saying they resent them and that I owe over $1,000, yet they haven't sent me the balance.  I don't know who to believe.  And they still haven't covered one of the doctor visits.  I'm $400 away from exhausting my PIP and then everything else can go to my health insurance.  No one understands why my car insurance doesn't just pay the remaining $400 towards PT or whatever.  So frustrating.
 
I have spent countless hours on hold/on the phone/writing letters/writing emails, etc. when I could have been getting the rest I needed after delivery or just enjoying my baby the best I could.  If you get a lawyer, you're not being greedy.  Lesson learned. 

I don't make Christmas treats. I just eat them.  So feel free to send me some and I'll give my honest review of them.   <--me waiting for your tasty treats....

I made my first round of gingerbread men the other day from a very trusty recipe. They turned out awesome. I frosted them with an orange vanilla icing.

Pretty much anything goes. If it doesn't fit - get a bigger stocking :)