Maya

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  1. Poor guy! Weird that school ... did not know....
  2. Well first ... it says something in the Bible about beeing modest in your clothing.. which includes the pearcing. It also says something about earrings aso that you should not have too many; one in each ear is enough. As you know people tend to follow others example. That means if one has extra pearcing many others will want one too. In your case as it is a memory from a dear friends death.... I think if you openly say it to people they understand better that you dont take it away. Yet it is a risk to them, as their daughters may start asking for one too... and they have no dead friend to take it for. I am afraid you will need a lot of patience with many LDS about this, but there are even more LDS who think it is ok and cool. After all you were not LDS when you tok it. ( I suppose some of us girls can get too found of their beautifulness) Flip Flops..... Well maybe not the fanciest shoes in world.... just laugh. Some peopel are a bit narrow minded even in LDS. There are wards that welcome peopel in jeans, it really is everyones own decition. Here too may eb the followig of example the gratest fear... think of everyone flpflpoing in teh Church There is also a thing you may learn later about a wish to show the best of you to the Hevenly Father in His house, which is beeing taught to the kids in Church ... but as you say he gladly welcome anyone and everyone. Members are just people and find it threathening when someone is not the way THEY think is respectfull and which they so diligently try to teach to their kids... About the teachings and missionaries... I am sure you dont need to take the discusitions over again, but as you like having misionaries for dinner.... I mean for a visit I am sure it would be good they still visit you and you can discuss everything. They know what you need to do over, if any. It also depends how long time ago you had the discusitions if you need to take them over... btw... there is no "discusitions " any more like there used to be so jsuta ask the missionaries to come to you so you can talk about it. My mother flipped too. I waited for 6 months for babtisement, but then I just had to as I knew thsin Church is true. She wanted me to talk with a gret big anti who knwe it all as he had been a memmber, even a leader (not bishop not sure if he made it to Bishopric), so he knew better. He had also got a "inside look at the LDS and knwe things usual memberd were not told" So she and my ex wanted me to meet with him... but she was too busy so she gave me a book by him I read it and felt totally sic! That book was a lot of rubbish! I stil cant understadn why peopel so much easier believe such rubbish than misionaries or LDS members. There was nothing that was not told... but waht was told was not told in negative way. A ood hint: After beeing babtised ask teh missionaries for dinner once a week so you get to meet them. I missed mine a lot but could not ask them for dinner as my DH was against the Church. It is not that the members do not care it is because they all have their own families and things and especially the tasks in Church. I hope you get one soon so you get more in to the group and get friends. Be open, smile a lot show you are happy to be there and laugh at the hurt, never let the hurt worry you or push you down, after all we all are just people and do make mistakes. I remember when I was investigateing and a lady drove me to teh church every Sunday in a small mini cooper with two kids of hers..... me and my girl.... adn when we got in the Church I just stod in the middle of the hall as she excujsed herself as she ahd to run for her tasks in primary... there I stod all aolne... I felt so lost and alone.... did not know waht to do ... just smiled and nodded the people passing me .... and after a few minutes found my way in the meetinghall and sat to wait. And here I am stil after many extremely hurtfull things I am still here. I am her because I KNOW that my Hevenly Father wants me here. This is His true Church and nothig can change that. ps... best to leave the exmormons and other negatives in their misery or you may become a foultsearcher.
  3. Many of these good people do feel drawn thowards us, but there are many things that stop them. I seen interest arise for our Church`s teachings among these good people pretty often, but that is where it stops as: The leader of their religion or family or other members of their religion tells them we go to hell and it is better to keep away from "heretics". Also they say that their leaders have proven us "heretics". They go on internett and find an antisite and choose to believe that. Sometimes they want to know everything before babtizement, which mean several years study and then the life gets them while they study everything. Many are just babtized, confirmated, maried and later burried in their Church and have no interest what so ever about what to believe, many dont even believe in Chirst... it all is just a cultural thing for them. A chain from parents to Children that is not to be broken. LDS is a strange religion to them, they dont know much of it besides polygamy, which ofcourse is very popular subject today and pushing people away. Many believe that everyone will be glorified by their faith.... no Church is nessessary. Many of the things above are very convinient. People like things to be convinient... they dont like changes, often they are afraid of changes. Around where I live 1% LDS 75-60% Lutheran (30-20% active) there are many stories about how difficult it is to get rid of any other religion than what most belong to.... where you just send an e-mail saying I resighn and nobody cares. In generall people are been scared from searching other Churches, especially LDS (even speaches are held against LDS) or it is indifferent to them. Good God believing people often agree that people are not to know things,so as they dont knwo they dont get interested. Some bad LDS examples also give bad name to the Church. Once JW came at our door and they gfave us material and my husband gave them a BoM which the younger wanted to take but the older said NO! They pass us by now In a Pentachostal discusition I was having a very nice discusition with a nice member but then someone noticed and came and told me to get out of there. It also looked like someone had a talk with this person as his attitude changed violently. The discusition was not any special LDS related, but parts of the conclutions did point that way. I was not converting anyone just talking... today I can not write anywhere with my name as they know I am LDS so they either dont answer, or change subject to somethign they take as negative in our Church. Even if I get a nice discusition someone runs there telling those who dare to talk with me that I am a "heretic" mormon and not is better not to discuss with me at all as I am goint to the hot place. If I write with an other name I can discuss in peace.... Those who are active in their religion, no matter how good peopel they are how they love our saviour and believe in Him are too scared to change. If one big evangelist leader would change religion many would follow... people trust blindly without studying themselves. They consentarte on grace and humbleness.
  4. Welcome 007! Enjoy!
  5. Thanks JAG that was an inteesting netsite... I need to pick up my Greek....
  6. With addictions... you just have to do a cold turkey! You just need to want the life without more than the life with. If that is totally impossible then try to minimize the addiction... have days, weeks without... then cut it. Find something else that is not so addictive instead. Pride... mistakes... you need to humble and ask for help if you cant do it yourself. It is not nice to confess to yourself that you really are addicted, it is not nice someone else knows about it, but it sure helps... you feel better and stronger adn maybe you can do the cold turkey... just DECIDE!
  7. Welcome to the site! Your plans sound really great! Enjoy!
  8. Maya

    Hi

    Hi and welcome ... enjoy the site... any problems ask in How to....
  9. Maya

    Feeling lost

    You got a lot good advice here. Now try to get the energy to go to Church next Sunday... promise yourself something pretty a flower or somethig on Monday if you make it to the Church. You know your Hevenly Father loves you, even though peoples love may decieve, His dont! You are His daughter and He does love you and wish you well. You need to do your part, go where He wants you to go.
  10. Want the cold truth? Yiou get it anyway: No matter how may good friends, family ect you have in your life you are alone! When it comes to the most important things in your life you are alone! Not even a spouse helps! What you need to do is to make a decition about HOW you want your life... no matter what. A long time ago I decided taht I will attend the Church, I will do what ever asked in the Church and I will do everythig possible to maintain my faith. That is the thing that matters to me most. My faith is something no one can take away from me unless I allow it.. everything else dissapears, cahanges... and I will not allow it. I lost my family, friends, jobb, fortune... but those I can always find new ones to... but if I loose my faith I have lost everything. That is why I do a few things that have somethig to do with my faith. I have found out how to strengthen my faith... find out how to strengthen your faith ... then you will never be alone as the angles will carry you over the hardships. You may find your strength in serving, or in reading scriptures, or writting about your belief or trying to find Gods hand in everything or defending the LDS faith against the critics (might be dangerous to some, not to me), reading about the Church ... early Church... Be strong!
  11. Yeah you need to wait for Pam to do that.... This is really weird there is no members by your name?! Definately for Pam...
  12. Hello Cool. There is an other JW I know at the moment who is asking a lot about mormonism... but not here, not in this language. He has a very tough childhood and youth as JW and is very carefull not to fall for something like what his parents fell for. So I hope we can answer you. In .org there are often new misionaries, who try their skills there... and they dont always have answers. I know my son was there a while ago... and he knew nothing of the claims and how to answer them. So good luck, here are some really good people with a lot of knowledge.. so ask on... Oh and welcome!
  13. Never mind quot filled today...
  14. Glad to hear they got you good!
  15. Is there anyone I could bann here... I need to fill my quote ....
  16. Yesterday... Monday 6 September I finally got up at 7.30 to wake my son whose alarm went off at 7.00 and schoolbuss would go 7.54 or he if should drive to school at 8.10. I told him I can pack his books for him but he had to get up NOW. While looking for the books (he stil in bed) I came to notice a paper on his desk... 6-8.9 2010 excursion to the mountains ... bus leaves 7.50. That left us 10 minutes to find everythign he needs on a mountain trip... it had got cold on the mountains, snow, he neded wollen clothes and all! I told him to call school and ask them to wait a bit. Ofcourse cars in front of us drove VERY slow. We were 20 minutes late, but he made it. Later I noticed we forgot waterbotle... fleece pants had fallen out of the bag, it was monday... nothing to have on the bread for him to take with... no chocholate, some jerkies yes... 4 peaces bread with rest of the chees and salami.... forgot the fruit and plastic bags. Luckily his mountainboots were not put away... I hope the sleeping bag was for 0C. Gee what a morning! I really hoped he could take care of his school by himself now!
  17. Hello mater and well come. I hope you enjoy the forum.
  18. Hi and welcome. I am also a motehr of 4 ... and a grandmother of 4...
  19. Welcome... yes work is such a nuicense sometimes... See you around!
  20. Hi welcome! Enjoy! Nice to have new babtized people here!
  21. Hi Orrinan Welcome to the forum. I am from around Oslo Norway. My son is now in Denmark on mision. I been in Hamburg. my basketball mini girls... under 13 swept over Hamburgs 14+ year olds in I think it was 79 or 80. My grandmother was from Leipzig Fuchsel (fox). Enjoy the site!
  22. Welcome and enjoy! I think it refreshes nicely the faith to discuss or even just to read...
  23. I am ofte all alone here... at least then there is more mods on than, what do you call it? common people???
  24. Can I ask you to draw pictures in my storybook??? :)
  25. Maya

    Hello

    Hi gneiting and welcome. Enjoy the site.