FairChild

Personally? Hmm, I'm a pain weenie. I hate to hurt. And not have enough money to pay all of my bills.

Become stronger yourself and then, share your strength.

Welcome Ed. Glad you are back. FC

One thing you can do is create picture books for your son, simular to scrap booking, but when you are done, you just slide the picture into a page protector. If you get the smooth textrued page protectors, you can use a white board pen that wipes off to write on the page, wipe off the page protector and then use it again and again. I found out that for me, I could write a to do list, a schedule, with words, even using pictures, drawings or photos. I would draw a small box next to each item. If I started on something, color in half the box and when it was finished, colored the whole box in. You can make a list for a whole day or for bedtime or meal time or for getting ready for church. Use as many pages as you want or need. Creating something visual will help your son feel independent and good about himself. I also have used small photo albums and index cards as my page. I could check off as each item was done. Then my book could be wiped down and used all over the next day if I needed it. by using the photo albums or page protectors, you can easily change the book as often as needed. You can also create little booklets about the lessons, gospel, pictures of friends, family, church members, animals and school. Your child could look at his books during Sacrament. I hope what I said helps.

I'm female, served 5 + years as USN member. At one point in my life, I moved 25 times in 5 years. It's possible, but I think a lot of it boils down to one's personal dedication to the Gospel. If you think about the pioneers that settle Salt Lake, Utah, Idaho and Arizona way back in the late 1800's, when the physical distance was too great to reach others, especially in winter, there often was very little interpersonal fellowship between the members. Yet somehow, despite the problems they had, some of those members thrived in the Gospel, gaining testamonies that far exceeding that of some modern members. Whatever happens, I think it is going become your choice. Many people that have the chance to visit church every Sunday, often don't. Some can't attend as often as they wish, yet have spiritual growth. I wish you great success. FC

SomeWife, I am so happy to hear that you and your husband are together working to improve your relationship.

Yes gwen, a man can love an nurture a child as well as a woman. Love, caring and concern can come from either sex. Still, it is hard to grow up without a mom or without a dad.

Why no job? Perhaps some community service as a way of networking yourself into a job.

A child doesn't need a mother? Ask any woman that lost her mom at an early age if she felt any pain of growing up as a motherless child. Every child needs and deserves to be nurtured and loved, from the instant of conception beyond the moment of death.

Glad to meet you and can't wait to look up and listen to new tunes. FC

Do I get extra funky credit for being so despirate in need of funk-a-facation? Maybe I should just break down and get help. Or go for the cure, whichever is cheaper.

Could it be possible that he have a helper in Primary? I've seen that happen before.

My yongest son has Aspergers, my sister has 4 children diagonsoed with various forms of Autism. I think of Aspergers as well as my son's ADHD more as a learning style than a disability. Everyone has a problem with something. Our children's something just happens to have a diagnoses of Aspergers. I believe a big part of it is learning to bloom where you are planted and doing the best you have with whatever resources you got. Glad to meet you. Hope to chat more soon. FairChild

I twice married non-members. The first ex was ok about me going to church until we got near his family. Then it got to the point where I was physically abused to force me to go to church with him and he prevented me from going to church where I belonged. I think you need to back off and give him the space he seems to want right now. Remember, you can share your testamony, but you can't give another person their testamony. Go do some things just for yourself. Keep busy. Take really good care of yourself. God will provide the most amazing companion for you when the time is right. Use the time you have now to prepare yourself for then. This whole situation may hurt, but you will survive and be ok. You are amazing. Don't give up what is valuable to you for another person.

Yes, I see it as gambling. I think UrbanFool gave good advice.

Brother and Sister Smith, Thank you so much for your service. I'm so glad you are here to share and chat with us. FairChild

Welcome to the site. There are some wonderful people here. Please ask if you need some help. FairChild

Write anyway. Even if it is never published, it will help you hone your skills so that if one day you do get published, you will have done a great job using your polished writing skills.

Getting lost in service can help. Serve others as well as providing good service for yourself. Eating healthy, sleeping as you should (getting enough, but not too much), exercise and just taking really good care of yourself. Also this is a time to let yourself have indulges that you normally wouldn't have. Go into a new (to you) restaurant and get a beverage, dessert or small item off of the menu, go to the park or walk in a different park that you might normally go to. Get some new hand lotion at the dollar store and enjoy the frangrance and the way your skin feels as you rub it in. While you are there, go look at the fun greeting cards. Slowly eat a really good piece of candy and let the flavor of it roll over your tounge. Take someone you wouldn't normally share time with and share these things with them. Spend extra time with your children. They are probably hurting too. I wish your friend the best.

SomeWife, would you please let us know how you are doing?

It's also nice to have their photo and name placed upon the wall because if someone new comes it, it will help them learn names. Having the correct spelling of names helps as you are in a rush to put all the names on their projects to go home with. The kids also feel important to have their face up where everyone knows it is "their' Classroom. When we did that in our nursery, we also used the photos of the prophet and his counselors along with our nursery pictures.

It helps to wear comfortable clothing that will allow you to get down on the floor at their level if you need or want to.

Amazing how much good this man did, yet he was still tempted and gave into evil. May his family find comfort at this time.

You need to feed your spirit and soul, no matter why anyone else is there. Please, don't let anyone give you excuse to leave. Instead let them know you are visiting and by yourself. Where would be the best place for you to sit? You have a perfect opportunity to introduce yourself and start a conversation. You are so important. I hope your situation quickly resolves itself. FC

If you don't have children now, please don't think of having a child to save the marriage. Children should be wanted and loved, not used as an excuse to stay together. If he would treat you in such a crummy way, think of how much harsher he could treat an innocent child that has no ability to protect him/herself. Please follow through and call the shelter. Create a bag that if it was an emergency, you could leave for 2 or 3 days. Put meds and copies of important papers in it. Add as much money as possible. If you can, Hide it at home, leave it at a friend's house or even your locker at work. Change your computer passwords, don't let him have them. And please, find out what your legal rights are. Talk to your bishop. Mine was very helpful when I was dealing with an abusive situation. Don't let him know you are doing this. If he doesn't/won't treat you as he should, then treat yourself as you know your Heavenly Father would want.