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When everything overwhelmed me, I took a sheet of paper and wrote down my goals. I drew a square box next to each to-do item. When I had started on a project, I colored in half the box (in a triangle fashion just cause I like that shape) and when I finished it, colored the whole square in. That way, if I had finished just a few of my list, I could actually get a better feel of my productivity. Turned out I did a lot more work that I thought I had. I felt as if I did more (which I actually had done) which encouraged me to do even more. Some of the things that I do every day, I put into a smooth plastic sheet protector and used a dry eraser on it to mark on it what what I had done using my box, then erase and use again when I needed it. It also helps when you write a to-do list if you break larger jobs into the several steps that it will actually take to finish it. I wish you good luck. Don't quit. It will get better as your skills and resources increase. FC P.S. I need to thank one of the Relief Society Sisters for showing me this. She worked in a very busy office and it helped her greatly.

Nice to meet you Walrus78! I hope you come around often.

If you sign up with eHarmony, if you wait a little bit between joining the site and paying so that you can use all the services, they will give you a discount incentive, 3 months for the price of one. $60 to use it for one month compared to $20 a month for 3 months. The offer cycles and repeats every so often.

I want a "DANGER, DANGER!! Will Robinson!" button to directly link my computer to Mahone's so that anytime I had a puter problem, I can get Mahone's attention so that he could fix my puter immdiately.

If I weren't Mormon, what would I be? In a world of trouble. That's all.

Couple of crazy questions: Did your perfection to detail create problems such as machines being down to tweak them causing loss of production or any other problems and why were you laid off?

Could you get one of the teen aged girls in the ward with cute and trendy hair to come babysit and show you how to do girl's hair? That way your daughters could have someone to look up to, you could learn how to do girl's hair and once the babysitter knows your girls, someone to protect and mentor them as they grow. P.S. Not all women are good at doing hair. Some of us, the best we can do is a bun or ponytail ourselves.

You did not deserve to be treated in such fashion braver3. I think all the ugliness was there during the marriage, but noW he has no reason to hold back and feels justified at thowing whatever trash and abuse he can your way. I hope you are documenting all of this so that you will have it when you need it. FC

I am guessing, but if he was having an allergy attack, asthma medication would not have helped. The real problem is that you really don't know exactly what is going on. If you want a specialist, your Dr may be required to provide a referral. Call and find out. Couldn't hurt.

Way to go! Congrats! Dance extra good for me. (I step on my own feet when I dance.) And have a great time. You deserve all good that comes your way! FC

Perhaps it comes from my past history of abuse, but I am really concerned that your wife feels the need to control where you may or not take your (meaing your as in both mom and dad's children) children. I think it is an issue that needs resolving. If she feels she needs to "forbid" her children's other parent for other than safety issues (like the kids are not to ride in the car while you are driving if you have been drinking) I think you have a few more problems than you thought. Please, go to church, love your wife, be the best dad and example that you can be to your children. Keep a journal and in it you can write how your church return has shaped and changed your behavior as well as any good or necessary thing. I wish you well. FC

With the documentation you have, why do you not have a restraining order in place against him? Just curious and want you safe.

Hey Sarah, a hearty hello from Maine here. Welcome. FC

So glad you came here. Glad to meet you. Hope to catch up to you in Chat sometime. Till later. FC

It may take awhile for more people to welcome you, but Hi from me right now. FC

You may not be teaching them as much as you want, but you are teaching them important social skills, the skill of coping without having a parent present, conforming to a schedule, even though it may not be the Primary schedule you want, listening skills, so many more things that I have mentioned. You are doing a far better job with your nursery than you could possibly imagine.

Bubbles, they love bubbles.

Evil comes in many different forms.

When she tries to interupt or get off track and/or change the subject, say, "Yes, we can talk about that later, but right now we were talking about "****" and get back to the subject that you needed to talk about. if it doesn't work, then just walk away when it happens and when she ask why, tell her "You were interupting me, so I understood that you were not interested in anything I had to say." Put the shoe back on her foot. If she is doing it to you, she must be doing it to everyone. It's time she breaks a very bad habit. Let us know what you try and how it all works. Good luck. Use prayer and a blessing if you need one. FC

P.S. It would also be nice to know if you like dogs and cats.

Hi, nice to meet you. Would you please tell us a little bit more about yourself? Things like where are you, are you married and what is your favorite food? FC

Hyrum Smith's widow blessed an ox after it had fallen in it's traces and died. The animal was able to continue pulling until it reached the great Salt Lake. Not only was it an animal that was blessed, but it was a woman that had blessed it for there were no priesthood holders with her at the time.

Sounds as if he was seeing how far he could push you until you said no. It was really hard, but you did the right thing. Lots of prayers are coming your way. Please go get a blessing for yourself. You need all the strength and help you can get. FC

Sounds as if you are going through a great many struggles. I was married once to a man that forbid me to have anything to do with the church. It even got to the point where I was physically abused over it. One of the things that I could and did do was find what I could like and gain from the situation (forced to go to his church) and studied that and used that to my best advantage. Are you in scouting? Do you enjoy that? Like history? Learn that. Cooking and suvival? Learn that. Travel and what is going on in the world? Learn that. The list is long and I am not going on, but it seriously sounds that you need a councelor to work through some of the issues that you have with your mom. I am concerned that you say that you are a great liar and have no regrets about some of your behaviors. You sound as if you are acting out against the church. I think you are acting out against your mom. You are not a freak, but struggling. We all struggle.

It sounds as if you are more wanting to get away from the pressures your mother is putting on you than possibly the church itself. All I can say is you need to find a secret place of your own and create some down time.