FairChild

It sounds as if whatever problem there is concerning this matter is completely owned by you. The problem here is yours and you own it. If you weren't completely perfect and never, ever did anything wrong, you might have more of a case to be upset. Since you haven't been translated, I assume you too are not perfect. Holding on to this and allowing it to control your thoughts and life just isn't healthy. Perhaps it is time for you two to go to some marriage counceling or person counceling so that you can figure out why you are so obbsessed with this. FC

Congrats! May this be a happy peaceful time for you all all those that you love. FC

Strengthen yourself. Love him as a friend, but at this time, I suggest your relationship be a friendship rather than a romance. The stronger and more knowledgable you are, the more you can help your friend. Take it all one step at a time, babystep if you have too. Be good to yourself. FC

Hi. Welcome. Glad you came. FC

Go to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and they have a meeting house locator. It will tell you where the closet meeting house is. It will show the locations of the closet Chapels and times the meetings start. It will even give you a map on how to get there. Just go. If you feel shy or bashful, show up a few minutes late and if you need to, leave a few minutes early. Next time try and start at the regular time. After that, you can go a few minutes early and meet people. Just go. Many of us have been in your shoes. We just want to welcome you back. Start there. FC

Perhaps you can find a job as a live in nanny? It's a thought.

Welcome. Come chat with us sometimes. It will be fun to learn more about and enjoy you. FC

Well, you took the first step and it was difficult to be sure. I give you credit for doing that. These forums are a great place for getting advice, comfort from friends, education and oh so much more. Perhaps it is time to start thinking about returning to church. You don't need to be perfect to come, just come. You are wanted at church because you are a very important child of our Heavenly Father. You have much to contribute and learn. Personally, I have lots left to learn myself. And if I haven't mentioned it, Welcome to LDS.Net. Take care until we talk some more. FC

Slow down and hold on to your horses. With whomever you decided to date, take your time, enjoy a courtship and build a relationship that will create a firm foundation for all the joy and the problems to fit upon. I am not saying this person you mention will be or will not be the one, but whatever you do, take your time and start with an honest friendship first. That will help you survive whatever comes.

I'm so glad you came here. Please know that you are always welcome here. Come chat with us whenever you can. FC

Start documenting each specific incident. Date, time, where, who and what happened. you don't need to be lengthy, just a few lines as each event occurs. If mom is abusing your niece's dad in front of her, that can be considered abuse in several states. Be careful how you proceed, because you don't want to lost contact with this child. As for having enough evidence to turn in a report of abuse, that will be up to you to decide. Prayers for you all.

Evil loves to hide in darkness and secrets. I think that is why it took so long for this to come to light.

I think it is one thing to forgive or not forgive an abuser. It is not connected with allowing an abuser to continue the abuse or preventing an abuser from abusing again. The primary goal should be to stop abuse whenever possible.

I got a swine flu shot today so I figured I would combine the best of both world. I got a bacon cheese burger, to go of course.

I decided that just for you I would go out for lunch and eat a great big, juicy hamburger. I know cow burps create methane which leads to gobal warming, so by eating beef I am encouraging farmers to grow more beef which in turn will lead to more cow burps. Way to go Burger King, McDonalds and Wendy's!

So glad to met you and hope to be able to enjoy your presence for a long time to come. Welcome. FC

Oh, I forgot, as women we also hate sex, but are forced to have baby after baby.

Women wear no makeup and are very plain, dowdy, subserviant and depressed.

I would assume since you have all chosen in the pre-existance to become a family, you once did chat and know each other in that realm. I don't know if they communicate freely with each other now, but you all did once.

I was married to a Church of Christ member and found out that CofC are very anti-Mormon. I wish you very good things and just be the best person you can be and hopefully it will all work out well for you. If I forgot to mention it, welcome to the site, there are many wonderful people here. Come to the chatroom sometime and let us enjoy you. FC

I had a little old man I used to help care for, since he had 70 hours of caregiving a week, spread over 7 days a week, plus nurses and as well as other people involved in his care, he just called us all sweetie cause he just couldn't remember all of our names. Since I take care of so many people and they have children, siblings, grandchildren, pets, other caretakers, doctors and such, I now call everybody Pumpkin. I can't remember everybody's name, they all think I like them as being extra special (they are, but that is besides the point) and we all enjoy each other and I have very good relationships. I do ask permission before calling them any endearment and everyone so far has agreed that I shoul do that. I just wanted to add my perspective. FC

Welcome. You are wanted here, come chat with us in the room sometime. FC

Take care of your family and don't worry about hurting your daughter's abuser's feelings. His mother is also abusing your daughter in a different way. Get a restaining order and let the other family just deal with it. If they break it, call the PD and prosecute. They will know what the rules are concerning it, you don't need to modify your behavior or where you go or what you do. FC

I'd talk to the bishop. I don't know if he could actually do anything that could help but he may be able to give you some advice. I always figure that two heads are better than one. I wouldn't write this woman a letter. She already knows what her child did and is not going to change her behavior. Is your daughter getting any therapy? Perhaps for a short time if you are not, also go into family therapy to find out how to best help and support your child. If you wanted, you could aslo go to the police department and ask if there is anything you could do legally to protect your daughter. If this woman is only looking at your child and not saying anything directly to her, they may not be able to do anything, however, you could make a journal of when your child and her meet and what happens at each meeting. It doesn't need to be long and lenghty postings, rather a few short statements of when and what happened at each meeting. Ask the PD for any advice. Perhaps you need to file a restraining order against this woman. Your daughter is a strong and courageous young woman. Your daughter needs to feel safe and empowered. If this man has not yet gone to jail, press charges. It really sounds as if an evil apple did not fall far from the tree.

Welcome to the site. Are there any questions you want answered or would you please come chat with us? FC