FairChild

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  1. You need to find out what you have to do legally to evict your friend. Some states if you have someone stay 30 days or longer, rent or no rent, you have to go through the legal process to get someone evicted from your home. Document everything you can with a time on it. It doesn't have to be fancy, or lot of words. Just the simple truth would do. Have people around you for safety's sake. Call the police. Tell them about your concerns. They can be there when you tell him and be there when your person removes his possions from your home. Change the locks. If you can, take pictures of everything before you tell him. That way you can show you didn't damage his possesions before he moved. Question, cause I don't know, why would your friend have a script for pot? Because of the bipolar? Something doesn't seem quite right there.
  2. Many people minimize verbal and emotional abuse and really don't understand how deeply painful it can be. They may not see it as abuse, but it is still abuse. Perhaps it is time for you to take a break from the relationship and be able to give yourself a fresh perspective. When he is saying it is ok for you to take medication, but not him is a way of placing all the blame on you. It's your fault because you need the help, but I really don't. I hope you are writing down what is going on in a journal. It will help if you wind up going to court. When I did the journal writing, it helped me make healthier choices. I wish you well. Please take care of yourself and stay safe. FC
  3. I had one bishop that served for about 3 months and was released because he chose to move.
  4. It sounds as if you are happy and I am so glad for you. The best of things really should come your way. FC
  5. Does anyknow know about donating your body to a med school so that it would be used in training new Doctors?
  6. I am so sorry this is happening. You are doing an awesome, difficult job. What you are doing will make a differrence to these children for their entire life. As they grow and change, they will affect everyone they come into contact with, so you have no real way to measure the entire number of people your choices will influence. I want only the best for your family. FC
  7. May an awesome person have an extra awesome birthday! FC
  8. Sometimes a person receives a calling, not because of what we need from them, but rather, what it is that they can learn and gain from us. It sounds as if some people really are needing a lot of growth and help. I too deal with emotional problems and have had time where I have been completely overloaded to the point where I did not function well at all. Take good care of yourself because you are a very important person and a child most well loved by our Heavenly Father. FC
  9. I agree, you all need to get together and have a meeting on house rules. They should be followed by all people (especially children) in the house. Would be good if there are chores as well as rewards for good behavior. You can't do everything, but you are doing something. A very important something. You are teaching these children that they have value and are loved. If I haven't mentioned it, you are an awesome person doing an extra ordinary job.
  10. So nice to meet you. Welcome. FC
  11. Call the shelter yourself and tell them what you are telling us and ask them how they would best handle the situation. She needs to be safe, but you need to be safe too. Take this guy seriously. Your lives could depend on it. FC
  12. Hi David, I grew up in St. Clair, Missouri. I am living in Maine, but all my family is back home. Welcome to LDS Mormon Network.
  13. You have had quite a struggle with this Ma. I feel as if you are doing the right thing. Forgiving an abuser is one thing, but allowing an abuser to continue her abuse is something else. No one needs to be bullied, especially a child. Working to guide, support and help your daughter will greatly enhance her life. I am proud of you for being such an amazing, loving mother. FC
  14. You could say "Friend, I so enjoy you and value your opinion. I saw a forum at LDS.NET and have been reading it. Would you look at it and tell me what you think?" Or just tell him what you have told us. Let him know. And then, go out once again to ejoy your friend and enjoy him.
  15. First and foremost, they are still children of our most loving Heavenly Father. He has provided a way back to him whatever sin it may be. I think that is where you need to start. And love them both like crazy. I wish you clear thinking, loving and kind words and inspiration from our loving Father to help guide you through this.
  16. Welcome. This is a site full of amazingly good and wonderful people. We come from a variety of backgrounds and experiences. I'm glad you come here and hopw to see you posting and chatting here for some time to come. FCe
  17. Oh yes! Do chat here. Welcome to the site. FC
  18. I had a sister-in-law with mental problems. I went with her to her psychiatrist during a visit one day. He had been working with Emma for a long time. He said that she doing the best he had ever seen her be. Just a few hours later, she took a handgun out of her purse, aimed it to her temple and shot herself. She survived, but had many physical problems after-wards. Now if a trained professional that had worked with someone over a period of years could miss something, then why should you have the skills or ability to pick it up? You need to realize he chose what he chose (free agency) because he was in a great deal of pain and all he was trying to do was change his circumstances to remove pain. I don't believe he was trying to hurt anyone else nor chances are, he really didn't want to die, but stop the pain. As for how you feel about your sister's choices, right or wrong, they are hers to make. The best you can do is be an example to her and her children. Please let the little ones into your loving home as frequently as you can. As for your husband, it sounds as if he need a very good health check up and possibly some antidepressants. Sometimes, when you are sharing another's burden you have to be the stronger one for awhile until they can catch up again. It might be good to make an appointment with the Bishop as well as the missionaries. Have as many positive people around you as you possibly can. You have lots of prayers and support here. I believe you are doing the right thing, wanting to strengthen your family and make everyone as healthy as possible (emotionally and mentally) FC
  19. Overhauls and zip up sleepers. Put the sleepers on backwards if you have to. You may need a bigger size to do that. Duct tape works. If you are putting diapers on backwards for a little girl, try using the boy's kind since the padding is the opposite of a girls. Prayer. Lots of paper towels and spray on cleaner. More than just it being poop, it contains E. Coli and that is a nasty critter to get. It can make you really sick.
  20. My mom starved when she was a child after her mother died when she was 4 years old. My dad told me that once, when she was in school, she went to the outhouse cause she had to go potty as all little kids do. She found a sandwich in the outhouse with a couple bites taken out of it, it was just sitting there in the outhouse. She ate it and said that eating that sandwich just made her day. If the time is right and the person is right, then that bread could have been eaten with great joy and satisfaction. Just something to think about.
  21. I know this may be a crazy thought, but I was thinking about how emotionally your husband is connecting to you and I wondered, does he has Aspergers? Just curious.
  22. I expect the elderly, sick and disabled people that I care for to start getting less and less of what they need. I love my clients and worry about them all. FC
  23. I wish you guys would get together to create a very spiffy and funny bumper sticker for me to create and put on the bumper of my car.
  24. Count me in. I have been actively getting myself in gear. I joined TOPS for support, nutrition and diet advice. I joined a gym this week. I now have a workout buddy to help inspire me into going. I have been trying to make healthier food choices and finally as of last week on a regular work schedule so that I will have time to eat lunch between clients. I am excited and ready to go.
  25. My favorite bumper sticker states "LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO DANCE WITH UGLY MEN"