FairChild

We always knew you were a rare gem of a man.

I can understand how hard it is to fit in. I miscarried a baby I desperatly wanted and made the mistake of going back the first time after it happened on Mother's Day. I was so hurt already and doing that made the pain even worse. I wish you well. Remember sometimes the best thing to do is take baby steps. You will still get there, just may take a little longer, that's all. FC

Welcome. I am so glad you found us. Enjoy. FC

I have done come college in a classroom and I took an online course so that I could become a certified caregiver. I got a 97% ave on the online course work and a 100% on my certification test. If I could do it all over again, I would do it in a classroom. In a classroom you can ask immediate questions and quickly get answers to problems. You also have a lot of varied experiencce in your fellow classmates. They may be able to teach you things the coursework on-line may not be able to. Time wise it is not as flexible to go to a classroom, but I think I learned much more by being in one.

I hope you are able to make and keep copies of everything and I mean everything. Text messages, phone messsages, letters, notes and anything else you might think that is important. If your children have negative behavior after visiting dad, journal that as well. Journal about what you are doing to care for your children. It might be a good thing to do trades in a public place. That will help your ex to behave better during trade (hopefully it will be easier on the children) and if nothing else, give you witnesses on bad behavior. I know it is hard for your children, but they may be blessed to know and to never ever do this to their children. Breaking the cyccle of abuse is hard, but it is possible.

I'm not sure what you are asking? Are you talking about what comes after dating? What happens if you would marry? To be sealed in the temple you would have to be a member a year with a temple recomend. I am just curious and if I am wrong about anything I have said, please correct me. I hope the two of you greatly enjoy your friendship and relationship. FC

Just another single divorced mom welcoming you here. One thing that helped me was the fact that I realized instead of using the time fighting with my hubby and being very unhappy, I chose to use that time to work on the relationship between me and my children. And also used the time to do somethings for myself. Everything will work out in time. Welcome. FC

Don't worry about your friend's advice, so what you have to do remembering it will take both marriage partners working together to rebuild and strengthen your marriage. If you don't journal, now is an excellent time to start. Also if you have good mental health professionals to work with, please do you. A lot of damage has been done and everyone, including your children will need to heal. FC

Go for the education. If you are meant to be married in this life, Heavenly father will certainly send you an appropriate man if not several honest and good men. I married the first hubby because i wanted family and was homesick. For me, it was an awful mistake. FC

He's abusive. You really need a lawyer. If you can't afford one, try calling the local domestic abuse shelter and talk with them. They will give you ideas on how to document and possibly find a lawyer that will work with you. Prayers are come to you from me. You will make it. It won't be easy, but it will be possible. FC

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I'm so glad you are here. FC

I think Heavenly Father is blessing me with single time so that I can get my act together before I add another person to the mix.

It's a great place to learn. When you go two by two, you have a ready made, built in teacher giving you OJT.

In the song, "I am a Child of God" the words were changed from what I must learn to what I must do. doing is very important.

I wonder if there is a calling for the ward to have a professional brat? If so, I will volunteer.

Sometimes when we ask our Heavenly Father for things that are important to us, we need to follow up with the work required to have the blessings we asked for. Have you gone to your school counselor and tell him that you feel socially insecure? Have you joined any groups or clubs? Do you do scouting or any volunteer work? Tell him that you are having problems with some of your classmates? I know it isn't easy because I was bullied all through school. It hurts like nothing else hurts. But now, because I have done the work, I have the blessings of having friends. I am safe and I feel safe. I enjoy my life in ways I did not know that it would be possible to do. I will put you in my goodnight prayers tonight. Please, keep talking and searching for answers. FC

There is such a thing as auditory dyslexia. If your wife is able to better process information through text and emails, then use that form of communication. She may also be passive-agressive, but still could have other undiagnosed problems as well. As for the counceling, if she won't go with you, go for yourself. The more you learn how to work with her, the better you will be able to do so. It sounds as if you have some major decisions to make. I wish you the best. FC

I have not been diagnosed with PCOS, but have wondered if I have it. In my 30's I used Clomid, concieved twice with it, miscarried early with the first Clomid pregnancy and became pregnant again 3 months later (Clomid again). My son is now 20, soon to be 21 years old.

Might sound crazy, but write down things you really like doing and write a list of what you really hate. Take the list and start looking on-line at all the job websites. It might give you some very interesting job choices you may have never thought of. With your brain injury, would you qualify for Voc Rehab? It may be a way to pay for some of the costs of educating yourself. Good luck and best wishes.

Happy birthday!

I keep having "issues" with the chat room since it changed. I tried loading FoxFire. Any other suggestions?

Stay safe. You are very important. FC

Since you have been talking with him, he send one not a one dozen roses, plus the candy and cat were a nice touch so it wasn't over the top expensive, I would think he is nice at this point. I think it was sweet.

This man is an abuser, manipulator and very scary. If he harasses you in church again, pull your bishop aside and hopefully a 2nd brother (perhaps one of your home teachers), go into the bishop's office and have a talk. Talk to your bishop and give him a heads up on what is happening here. Tell this man that you want no further contact and that includes no contact for your child or family. Refuse any further contact from him. Start documenting. Talk to the PD and give them a heads up on what is happening. Ask them what can you do to help yourself stay safe. If your son is in school, I would take a picture of this man to the office and explain this person is to have no contact with your family. If he shows up or calls, please inform you of this. Always carry a cell phone. On your list of contacts, I would use A 911 as the name and number for the police. By using the A as the first part of the name, it makes the phone number go to the top of the list. That way you won't have to look up the number, just punch it in. Talk to your child about the fact that this man is to have no more contact. Teach him how to dial 911. You need to explain that this person is not a good person for you to have a friendship with. This is a really sick guy. Don't allow him to hurt you or your family. You need to stay safe. You can also call the local abuse shelter for advice on how to best handle him and protect yourself. Don't let manners or kindness get in the way of your safety.