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I married 2 non-members and admit, that creates problems all by itself. I have been divorced twice so I do know about what not to do to have a strong and healthy marriage. What concerns me is the fact you aren't able to trust her enough to be telling her what you are telling us. Marriage is so hard and communication is one of the most important ingredients to a successful one. As a mom, if one of my sons came to me with what you have said, I would tell him to talk to her, you aren't ready to be married yet and to take a break from the relationship. If you are not ready to break up yet, is there an adult you both trust that would sit and counsel with you both concerning this situation? I hope and pray the best for you. FC

It's ok to say I love you and care about you, but I admit that to follow through or do this is a choice I can not approve of. Let him know that your friendship is important to you as well as he is.

You did the right thing. I pray that everything gets resolved quickly for you and that you will be alright. Perhaps this could be an opprotunity for an even better job with an even better boss. Poor wife has no clue what her hubby is up to. That just sucks.

Although there may be too much me, I am pretty useful when cleaning needs to be done, a sandwich needs to be made, a boo-boo needs a bandaid and if you are young or old enough if it is in the right spot, lightly and lovingly kissed. Let's see a beautiful person pull that all off.

I actually fed my child breakfast in bed to get him up in the morning early for school. Can't sleep with pancake and syrup on your chest. Crazy, but it worked.

Where do you get rid of your trash? Call and ask them how do they want it handled. Also the town hall may know.

I don't know how safe that would be Maya. She could tip him off before Mirancs8 is prepared enough to follow through.

Hello and welcome to the site. I'm glad you are here. FC

Eskimos freeze salt water, melt the ice and drink that. Wouldn't kill germs, but something to think about.

You were just too cute and attractive for them, that's all.

Call the shelter and ask them if they can tell you anything about legally having him removed from the home and what it requires. You can even call the PD for advice. If his name is on the lease, what do you need to make happen so it is removed? Make a safety plan. It only takes a few hotheaded minutes for someone to do something that is very damaging and can't be taken back. If you get a restraining order, keep a copy of it in your purse, car and house. How do you know exactl;y what happens when he is alone with your kids? I think it is great you are planning long term and I understand that can take a bit of time to process everything and do it right. I agree, tell him in front of your therapist. If he blows up, she can document it and it will help you. I'm proud of you and what you are doing. It isn't easy, but it is possible.

Has anyone here have any sucess on eHarmony? Just curious.

Hi Carissa. I've been thinking about your posting. I know it is hard when you want to do something and for whatever reason, timing, age, distance, lack of transportation or lack of resources can be so frustrating. The best advice I can give you is to work at having healthy and strong relationships. I know what it is like to be in an area where there are not many LDS. I've been military and moved around a lot. As I have aged, I am finding out that the best relationships, LDS or others, are the ones that are healthy, help us support each other, help me grow, and remind me to focus on what matters most to me and grow to become a better person. A lot of people come to the church thinking that if you are LDS, you automatically have your act together. Sadly that is not true. Many of us are converts that come from unstable homes and have yet to learn how to let the Gospel help us completely heal. It can take several generations for disfunction to leave a family. Do your best to love your family. We are eternal and will be together for a long, long time. I have know people that have converted to the church and as their behavior changed (to become more like the Savior) they influnced their family to also grow and convert to the church. Being 15 is an exciting time. You have a unique perspective of the world and so much energy. I hope you enjoy yourself as you grow into the person you will become. At 53, I am still growing into the person I will eventually come. The Gospel will be here for a long time, so use the time you have wisely to become the best person you can. I hope you journal about your life, you wants, desires, hopes and goals. Best of luck. FC

Wish you only the bestest of luck and that you make an exceptionally wonderfully exciting new friend. One that gets a working cell phone.

The next time he threatens you by saying he will commit suicide or bangs his head against the wall or threatens to hurt you and/or your children, walk out of earshot, pick up the phone and dial 911. If he is behaving in that fashion, he really needs to have a psych eval done. If he is threatening to hurt himself or others, he needs to be in a safe place where he can harm no one, including himself. Don't threaten you will do it, just do it! If something happens to you, who will care for your children? Would you really want a man that would treat them the way you are treated raising them and giving them his values? Stay safe. Call a hotline for domestic violence. They can give you a lot of free advice and help. They can help you come up with a saftey plan in case you need one. Good luck and I really hope you follow through. FC

Welcome, let your hair down if you have any (hair that is). Make yourself and home and enjoy yourself. FC

Before I drive myself crazy, what happened? Why did the site go down? And pretty please with sugar, never, ever let it happen again!

I thought it was broken.

Congratualtions and the very best of what life has to offer, may it all come your way. FC

Stay safe and make your you babies are all safe too.

Curtis, keep trying. It will be ok. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but it will come. FC

The child that attacked your son, is he getting any help for his agression? does he have special needs? He needs help and prayers too.

I am so sorry this happened to your family. FC

I haven't had a client on a ventilator yet, so I can't tell you what I don't know cause I really don't know anything. I do know I am glad that you have an appliance that will help you do what you want to do. I know it will help you feel better and you will be able to do a bit more than you are now. I am so glad you come chat with us and that you are my friend. FC

Crazy? Don't know, haven't decided that yet, but! And this is a big BUT, I do know you are valued, important and loved. I think that should count for something. FC