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My sister had very conflicted feeling about the missionaies. She is very good to them, feeding them and bringing them into her home, however, it was very difficult for her because she has 2 handicapped boys that she knows will never be able to serve a mission. The missionaries are symbols of what her children will never accomplish. I agree, if your husband is a good man, treats you and your child well, focus on the good and let the fact he is a non-member go. I married non-member husbands, but in my case, each man was abusive. The more you love him, the greater the chance he will become a mamber.

If your children are doing well as young adults, they should continue to do so. You will miss them ever so much, however, I miss my youngest son and he lives less than 50 miles from me. He has been gone 2 years. You will always be their mom. Nothing can change that. The real question is, do you want to marry and start live over again with a new person? Good luck with your choices.

It's rained since then and dad has long gotten rid of that truck.

Hurt a little or hurt a lot? To break up now would hurt a little, to break up after marraige especially if there are children involved would hurt a lot. Some people recharge themselves through solitude and some recharge themselves in groups of people. You just may need some space to think and recharge. Either way is ok, it just is.

Hello NJWindow. I am so excited you are here. I can't wait to find out more about what you are doing and where you are. Please come to chat and talk with us sometime. FC

Some people really focus on signs. Once a bird pooped on my dad's truck and it formed a picture of one of his aunt's face. He called me long distance to tell me about his "sign." He refused to wash his truck because if he did that, the picture would dissolve away and would no longer be there. He would lose his sign. More than 20 years later I still wonder what that bird poop was a sign of. As far as I know, nothing really happened.

I saw film clips of the father throwing a cup of fluid on a woman in his house for wife swap. I saw a lot of bleeping out for swears and bad behavior from both the children and the dad. Maybe this is a good thing that can help change the focus of these children's lives so they will grow up to become better men. Let's pray so.

funkenheimer, you did a wonderful job loving your daughters this week end. You did an excellent job parenting.

Perhaps a better question would be not should I tell my children, but when should I tell them?

You are such a good dad and I know this is not easy for you. In this world there are choices and then consquenses that follow those choices, good or bad whatever the choices were. If it were me, I would tell my children that because certain choices are/were made, this is what follows. Most important, love your children. They are precious and times flies so fast when they are little. Perhaps people at AlaNon could give you some thoughts about how to handle your ex's screaming and blaming you. Tell the children that you will always tell them the truth and do that, even if it is difficult. Right now, they don't need the details. Keep a journal so that if needs be, they can read it and better understand what happened. There will be plenty of times for questions. Do your best to give your little ones loving and healthy memories. I hope my 2 cents worth helps.

I can understand dating more than one person at a time, however, to give you the plus and minuses of how each one is graded for their qualities is just plain weird. Do you really want someone that would critize everything you do for the rest of your life? I would run and run fast. even if I were wearing heels at the time.

Don't quit. I went through some very nasty depression and felt as you did. I was able to get help and the necessary medication and my life is much better now. Take care and you are in my prayers. FC

I hope you journal, cause if you don't, this would be an excellent time to start. You just may need to document all the craziness that is going on, what you did and what happened after that. If nothing else, one day your son will be able to have your side of the story and it may help him, make a difference to him. Good luck.

You got to remember that not everyone wil be pleased about everything you do. Just be the best person you can be and eventually, all the good will shine through.

Sometimes the best thing to do is do your best.

Twice I fell in love--> instantly. All it took was one simple glance at my newly born sons to know that I was forever and truly in love.

you really should be so proud of yourself. you are holding up well in a difficult situation. way to go girl!

Yea bug! Way to go!!

Nobody sets anything on fire unless I am in the house and am fully awake.

Hanne, just good to see you. That's all I care about. Take care. You as well as your little ones are so precious.

Call a lawyer and ask, many times the first visit is free. It was for me. Call the local abuse shelter. They should be able to tell you who is a good lawyer to work with. Also ask who you should avoid. Do things in a legal matter, dot your eyes and cross your t's. You may have decided on joint curstody, but if his behavior to you is an indicator of what is to come, it sounds as if your child is in for some hard times ahead and you do want him protected. It won't cost you anything to do those things. It's worth a try. Also get yourself medically tested. If you pick up the wrong STD it is a death sentence and if something happens to you, would you really want him to be the only one left caring for and influncing your child?

Either that or Alana is actually a spinster with a treasure horde of wild kitty cats.

I take care of elderly and disabled people in their home and have a very flexible work schedule. It might be something you could look into. I am a PSS, Personal Support Specialist and to begin working at my job, you can begin it with on the job training until you can take some classes (I did mine on-line), ususally the company sets it up and payed for it. It is like bing a mom and a wife work wise. I wish you well.

I'm concerned that if you don't go on a mission and marry her, you will regret that you missed out on many different experiences. Fortunatly you are young enough to take some time. If it is meant to be, she will be able to wait for you. What I worry about is the fact that you as you age, you change and you will not be the same person you are at 18. Honestly, you change a lot between the ages of 18 and 25. If you graduated so early from college, I wonder what your peer experiences have been like. You have not mentioned if she is a memeber of the church. I wish you both well.

You are an amazing, well loved daughter of our Father in Heaven. That is what you need to remember most. Everyone, I mean everyone has made mistakes. What shows growth is what you do when you make one.