Facebook Advice

[MorningStar]

I would like to offer some advice about Facebook. My friend just went through a very unpleasant experience with her husband's ex-fiance contacting him through it. Everything worked out, but I learned that you can actually block people from searching you, seeing anything you post on other people's walls, etc. He thought it would be a fun experience, but she started sending him private messages, saying she still loved him but in a different way and would like to keep it between them. She said he was welcome to tell her he loves her and appreciates her anytime. Anyway, he was very upfront about the whole thing with his wife and ended up telling the woman it was inappropriate and that they should delete each other off of there.

I thought this might help someone avoid a similar situation. :)

[Hemidakota]

Talk to TomK, he can assist.

[FunkyTown]

That's... Wow. That's crazy. If I had an ex do that to me, I think I would flip out. :|

[Lbybug]

i have my facebook page completely blocked to everyone except my picture. only my friends can see the things i post. i make all my pictures "available to friends only"...unless i want to show it to someone not on facebook, and then i promptly change my pictures back to "can only be seen by friends". i've talked to a lot of friends who don't know that you can change those settings, and thing that if you are in a "network' everyone automatically can see your info. that's just not true. play around with the settings. also, you can block people if they are harrassing you. again, just look through the privacy settings and set it to a level you are comfortable with

[Wingnut]

Just sounds like common sense to me.

[skippy740]

I contacted an old flame from back in high school through face book. I showed my wife all the messages just to be sure that she knew what I was doing.

I did ask her why we never went out (although I never did quite get a definitive answer, hmmm) but left it at that. She is happily married as well as I.

I think facebook is a much better service (and better reputation) over myspace. I've reconnected with over 100 people during my first month of being on there!

Keep it fun but know where your limits are.

[lisajo]

I recently got a friend request (on face book) from a person i use to be friends with in high school. she got really mean and back stabbing then and 25 years later she wants to be my friend again? i decided face book was only for close friends and family and i really didnt want her in my life again, and for her to see personal things and pic's that are posted. after talking to my best friend from high school (she also knows this person well) i declined her as a friend. then i get this message on Classmates.com from this gal begging me to be her friend on face book, EKKKKKK i am staying away from that!

Edited December 9, 2008 by lisajo
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[StrawberryFields]

I tried facebook very briefly. I just didn't like that they force you to use your real name. I don't like when I google my name to see it pop up on facebook. I deleted that account within a short time and I prefer being here as StrawberryFields. I wonder what would happen if I googeld that...

[Heavenguard]

Further than that, you can assign people to lists, and choose to let only people on certain lists see particular items, or block certain lists from seeing particular items.

This is a feature I use much, as the young teens I do stuff with at church are Facebook fiends, and we (my friends - who also work with them - and I) simply can't let them see some things that we do. And I don't mean we do anything that we have a particular need to hide from the world, but we're trying to teach our kids respect. If they see pictures of us when we run pranks on each other, well it just works against that.

[Lbybug]

I tried facebook very briefly. I just didn't like that they force you to use your real name. I don't like when I google my name to see it pop up on facebook. I deleted that account within a short time and I prefer being here as StrawberryFields. I wonder what would happen if I googeld that...

you can have your name be unsearchable from not only facebook search, but so it won't show up on google.

[MorningStar]

Good tips! I didn't realize at first that you can send messages to people who are not your friends. Now I've got this person sending me messages asking why I'm not on her friend list (didn't accept her request). Ugh. With the way she is, I knew she would use it to keep tabs on whether I'm home or not. Also didn't know at first that people who are not my friends would see my comments, so she knows I'm on there.

[Cra-Z]

I have everything as open as possible. I'm pretty sure you can see my address even if you're not my friend. Everybody's welcome. Come on over. ;-)

I'm not too worried, seeing as my brother and I are fairly large in stature and my father is even bigger. :-P

I can see though, why many would want to be more discrete.

[Aesa]

I have everything as open as possible. I'm pretty sure you can see my address even if you're not my friend. Everybody's welcome. Come on over. ;-)

I'm not too worried, seeing as my brother and I are fairly large in stature and my father is even bigger. :-P

I can see though, why many would want to be more discrete.

And being that you're Canadian.

Urban legend has it that you don't lock your cars or doors over there - like in old days. Is that true?

[Lbybug]

lol aesa. i think it depends where in canada you are. i'm from a small town in southern alberta and a lot of my friends don't lock their cars or front doors. they're starting to more and more though. a lot of them will leave their car running when they run into the store too....which has lessened since one of our customers did this and got his car stolen out of our parking lot. the kids that stole it totalled it. also, a lot of my friends (including myself) have a habit of leaving our purses unattended while in shopping carts...a bad habit, i know...but that's small town canada for you.

[Cra-Z]

Well, yeah, it really depends on where you live. I lock my car doors, but I think that's only because I have a remote for it and it's worth quite a bit. If I had a cheap car (like I would if my grandmother hadn't given me this one) I wouldn't lock it.

[Tough Grits]

I tried facebook very briefly. I just didn't like that they force you to use your real name. I don't like when I google my name to see it pop up on facebook. I deleted that account within a short time and I prefer being here as StrawberryFields. I wonder what would happen if I googeld that...

You are absolutely NOT obligated to use your real name. My "name" is Tough Grits. Nobody knows my real name, and it is going to stay that way. In the first name field I typed "Tough" and in the last name field I typed "Grits". There is no way I would have joined ANY site that required my full name be visible to anybody and everybody.

So, try it again...this time type "Strawberry" as your first name and "Fields" as your last. There are so many unique names nowadays, that how would anybody verify that Strawberry Fields was not your real name?????

:lol:

[Lbybug]

i have a friend who's fake profile is "ummmm notdylan" for his first and last name....i'm pretty sure that's not his REAL first and last name...i could be wrong though. he's an odd duck.

[Tough Grits]

i have a friend who's fake profile is "ummmm notdylan" for his first and last name....i'm pretty sure that's not his REAL first and last name...i could be wrong though. he's an odd duck.

So true!!! LOL

[Wingnut]

And being that you're Canadian.

Urban legend has it that you don't lock your cars or doors over there - like in old days. Is that true?

lol aesa. i think it depends where in canada you are. i'm from a small town in southern alberta and a lot of my friends don't lock their cars or front doors. they're starting to more and more though. a lot of them will leave their car running when they run into the store too....which has lessened since one of our customers did this and got his car stolen out of our parking lot. the kids that stole it totalled it. also, a lot of my friends (including myself) have a habit of leaving our purses unattended while in shopping carts...a bad habit, i know...but that's small town canada for you.

Gee, my in-laws live in a small town and don't lock their doors. They live in Canada, too. Oh wait, that's Indiana.

Locking your doors and cars or not has nothing to do with being Canadian or living in Canada.

[Lbybug]

lol i agree wingnut...although let's be honest here....it's a canadian thing

[Liesl]

What can I say.... I love fb.... yes I've accepted some ppl as friends that ended up being a bad idea, but that's what the delete button is for.....hahahahahahaha

[MormonMema]

I like Facebook because of the LDS Application. I have my testimony on there, as well as quotes from President Hinckley, favorite scriptures, etc. Most of my friends there are LDS, and I also have my family on there. My main problem is too many applications. My friends, and family, are always sending me new applications, and I usually don't have the heart to ignore them! That takes up a lot of time, but it is fun.

[pam]

I get them all the time. Join this join that. I just ignore them.

[MorningStar]

Two of my friends won't stop poking me because they know it annoys me. So I made one of them play Scrabble with me. That'll teach her.

[pam]

ksl.com - Provo woman protests Facebook nursing policy

Of course don't do this on facebook.