Valentines day?

[justaname]

Ive been married 10 years and am at a loss as to what to do for my wife this V-day. So a question for the women in here. . . what would be the best date your husband could plan this weekend?

Men. . . what have you done in the past that has impressed your wife?

[beefche]

Does she actually expect/want something more than just a card? Some women don't. I wouldn't expect my husband to go overboard for this day. A card and a date would be nice. No need to go into debt just to put money into the corporations who advertise this day.

I will say that most of my married friends talk about how romance is dead in marriage. So, think of what you did to court your wife and try some of those moves....especially if you do something nice each day leading up to it. Start today...leave her a quick love note where she'll find it (in the fridge, in her salad bowl, next to her toothbrush, etc.). Be specific "I love how your eyes sparkle when I walk in the door at night. Thank you. I love you." You can do little gifts like favorite chocolate bar (or fruit if she is trying to be healthy), her favorite lipstick, favorite breath mint (ooo! you could leave a note with this one "pucker up!"), etc.

[Gwen]

if you have kids take care of the sitter arrangements. i'm a very simple person, i don't need over the top stuff. having to worry about making all the arrangements for the kids so hubby can be "romantic"..... can be a killer for me. if he came in and started dressing the kids and just said, get ready, to not have to think about anything but myself, to have it all taken care of.... to me that's romantic.

[justaname]

My wife expects absolutely nothing, which makes it all that more fun, and deserving of something more. Im financially stable, so no worries about going into debt. That being said, I much prefer doing something romantic and thoughtful rather than buying her something. I like that idea you mentioned about random things around the house. I think that could be fun, especially if I put things in places that she will find throughout the next coming weeks.

A few weeks ago I sent her a list of 100 things I love about her. Maybe I should do another 50 and cut them out and place them around the house. What do you think?

[beefche]

If money isn't an issue...does she work? If so, send her flowers at work with a mushy over-the-top love note. It's embarrassing as heck, but a good kind of embarrassing as she is envied by her cow-orkers.

That's a good idea about putting the things you love about her in random places. Especially things that are unique to you two and your relationship. "I love how you eat sushi" can be funny if ya'll had a sushi date and she dropped it all over her and it has become a joke or something.

And Gwen is right. If there are kids, you arrange for the babysitter and things of that. Don't let her do anything regarding that. If she is a SAHM, arrange for her to have a day off. Get a babysitter for the day, get her a spa treatment and gift card for lunch.

[Wingnut]

Get her a sexy-ish card (maybe just a playful one, but one that has the potential to be slightly embarrassing) and stick it in her purse or scripture/church bag on Sunday morning, so that she finds it during Sunday School or Relief Society or something like that.

[Honor]

Couples massages or a couples spa day thing sounds awesome to me. Something relaxing together that you don't do all the time.

[justaname]

She owns her own business, but works from home. She has actually forbid me to buy flowers for her on Valentines day. She thinks they are a total waste of money, especially the way they jack up prices. I do have babysitting arranged for Saturday night, but dont know what to do. I guess I get burnt out of dinner and a movie, and want to try something different.

[justaname]

Get her a sexy-ish card (maybe just a playful one, but one that has the potential to be slightly embarrassing) and stick it in her purse or scripture/church bag on Sunday morning, so that she finds it during Sunday School or Relief Society or something like that.

Haha! I like that idea! I might have to go to Spencers and find a slightly dirty one. If she found it in church I would seriously bust a gut.

[Maya]

A date? Waht is that? IF my DH would even think of one it would be really great!

[Dravin]

/me makes notes for future reference.

[pam]

Does anyone want to be my Valentine? I'm taking applications.

[Maya]

I can see the LOOONG line of aplicates queing at Pams door :)

[Dravin]

Does anyone want to be my Valentine? I'm taking applications.

Did you have any particular application in mind? Or will one from Del Taco do? :)

[WmLee]

I got my wife a book, like a journal for her birthday last year. I wrote the romantic stuff in it and explained it was a card that kept giving. She keeps it on her nightstand and every once in a while sneak it out and write something. It's the romantic kind-a thoughts that don’t get wasted or thrown away with the card. She likes that a lot.

She likes the notes I sometimes leave in her scriptures or purse when I have to leave town. That’s normally something I wrote on a little note pad and leave the page in her scriptures or wallet (if that’s what you call the wife’s money/card holder thing).

Something you DON’T DO . . . One year she told me not to get chocolate; she was trying to lose weight. So, for breakfast I surprised her, in bed, with breakfast. Fresh fruit, some juice and an ice cold glass of Slim Fast, chocolate of course. Man, things hit the fan! Never listen to your wife when she says she is trying to lose weight and show your support by getting her something like Slim Fast.

Get her chocolate and ask for forgiveness.

[beefche]

I guess I get burnt out of dinner and a movie, and want to try something different.

Can you get last minute tix to an opera or other some kind of performance, play, concert, etc.? Something to dress up for? Maybe a museum she's been wanting to go to? Go to your state's website for things to do--they often have information on things. Some restaurants have live jazz with dancing--that would be fun.

It's too cold to do anything else, otherwise I would suggest a historical walk--getting a book on some local history and pointing things out to her (you do the studying and give her the info--she can read the book later if she desires).

[Maureen]

Ive been married 10 years and am at a loss as to what to do for my wife this V-day. So a question for the women in here. . . what would be the best date your husband could plan this weekend? Men. . . what have you done in the past that has impressed your wife?

justaname, this is a question out of curiousity. Since Valentine's Day should be a celebration of mutual love that happy couples share - what does your wife do for you on Valentine's Day?

[justaname]

justaname, this is a question out of curiousity. Since Valentine's Day should be a celebration of mutual love that happy couples share - what does your wife do for you on Valentine's Day?

What? Wives are supposed to do stuff for their husbands on V-day?

Well, I might get banned if I say what she does for me on V-day.

[Wingnut]

I guess I get burnt out of dinner and a movie, and want to try something different.

It doesn't always have to be something romantic. Doing anything together can be enjoyable. My husband and I so rarely go on dates that I would love it we just went to Subway for dinner and then a couple games of bowling. Having fun and being together would satisfy me.

Does anyone want to be my Valentine? I'm taking applications.

/me thinks Pam should visit the Olive Garden in Sandy.

[Churchmouse]

Get her a sexy-ish card (maybe just a playful one, but one that has the potential to be slightly embarrassing) and stick it in her purse or scripture/church bag on Sunday morning, so that she finds it during Sunday School or Relief Society or something like that.

Wingnut, I never would have thought it of you:o:o:):)

[Churchmouse]

We usually go out, but not this year. Our old wedding bands no longer fit out chubby little fingers. I'm taking my wife to a jewelry store to buy a new ring. She doesn't know it yet.

[StrawberryFields]

Wingnut, I never would have thought it of you:o:o:):)

I was thinking the same thing. lol

[StrawberryFields]

You know your wife better than we do. What kind of thing gets the best reaction from her. If you go out to dinner a lot like we do it is nice but doesn't stand out. If my hubby were to surprise me with something different like a train ride on the Heber Creeper or something out of the ordinary that would thrill me.:) After being married a few years you need to keep her guessing.

Good Luck and I want a full report.

[Laureltree]

Valentines Day is suppose to be romantic, if you are in SL take her to the Joseph Smith building for dinner, it over looks the temple.....If not Try a quite romantic italian place, flowers etc.....I think she would love it no matter what if its romantic and thoughtful :)

[Dravin]

Can you get last minute tix to an opera or other some kind of performance, play, concert, etc.? Something to dress up for? Maybe a museum she's been wanting to go to? Go to your state's website for things to do--they often have information on things. Some restaurants have live jazz with dancing--that would be fun.

It's too cold to do anything else, otherwise I would suggest a historical walk--getting a book on some local history and pointing things out to her (you do the studying and give her the info--she can read the book later if she desires).

There was an ad for the symphony on the radio earlier today here in Utah. They were even suggesting it for a Valentine's date.