EQ_Guy Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 Has anyone ever been Ward Executive Secretary and dated members of your own ward? If so, was it ever uncomfortable or complicate anything? Quote
Misshalfway Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 Why would it? Being the ES doesn't mean a person can't have a social life. Quote
Gwen Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 when my dad was branch pres i dated one of his counselors. didn't have any issues. Quote
Wingnut Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 Why would it?Because you're intimately familiar with who is meeting with the bishop on a regular basis, and -- in some cases, maybe even knowing why -- it could be awkward. Mostly I think others might not be comfortable with how much they think EQG might know about them, real or perceived. Quote
Misshalfway Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 Meh. If the ES respects the bounds of confidentiality and he keeps the lines between calling and personal life clear, I can't see there would be any real threat. I can see that some may feel uncomfortable. Of course that just means people need to talk it out rather than assuming things. But thanks for pointing it out. I'd hate to see a pretty girl sitting home on Saturday night cuz somebody assumed she'd be bugged. Quote
EQ_Guy Posted September 29, 2010 Author Report Posted September 29, 2010 You're right on the money. Some assume I know why they're seeing the bishop and sometimes I have to tell them I don't know because sometimes I don't know. And what if I dated a girl and it went bad and then she didn't want to talk with me anymore, but she had to see the bishop. Do you think she might delay going thru me and making an appt?This is addressed to whoever reads this post by the way.Because you're intimately familiar with who is meeting with the bishop on a regular basis, and -- in some cases, maybe even knowing why -- it could be awkward. Mostly I think others might not be comfortable with how much they think EQG might know about them, real or perceived. Quote
beefche Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 EQ Guy, simple answer. Don't let it go bad. Quote
MarginOfError Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 You're right on the money. Some assume I know why they're seeing the bishop and sometimes I have to tell them I don't know because sometimes I don't know. And what if I dated a girl and it went bad and then she didn't want to talk with me anymore, but she had to see the bishop. Do you think she might delay going thru me and making an appt?This is addressed to whoever reads this post by the way.If it went bad, I'd hope she'd have the good sense to call the bishop directly. Any bishop worth his salt would be understanding of that situation (whether it be rational or not doesn't matter...people aren't rational). Quote
Misshalfway Posted September 29, 2010 Report Posted September 29, 2010 You're right on the money. Some assume I know why they're seeing the bishop and sometimes I have to tell them I don't know because sometimes I don't know. And what if I dated a girl and it went bad and then she didn't want to talk with me anymore, but she had to see the bishop. Do you think she might delay going thru me and making an appt?This is addressed to whoever reads this post by the way.Stop trying to "take care" of everybody. You don't need too. We're all big boys and girls. Personally, if he was good kisser, I'd take the risk! Quote
EQ_Guy Posted September 29, 2010 Author Report Posted September 29, 2010 Yes, I'd think a bishop would understand if she didn't want to deal with the secretary if it went bad.If it went bad, I'd hope she'd have the good sense to call the bishop directly. Any bishop worth his salt would be understanding of that situation (whether it be rational or not doesn't matter...people aren't rational). Quote
jayanna Posted September 30, 2010 Report Posted September 30, 2010 Okay, so ask her out this weekend and let us know how it goes! The suspense is killing me... da duh DDUUUMMMMMMMMM..... Quote
EQ_Guy Posted September 30, 2010 Author Report Posted September 30, 2010 I've been thinking about it for weeks and weeks, but now it seems me and this other person really like each other and I just have no interest in anyone else right now. The funny thing is this other person lives over 1,000 miles away. More later on this maybeOkay, so ask her out this weekend and let us know how it goes! The suspense is killing me...da duh DDUUUMMMMMMMMM..... Quote
beefche Posted September 30, 2010 Report Posted September 30, 2010 Am I the only one confused by EQ Guy's last post? Quote
Misshalfway Posted September 30, 2010 Report Posted September 30, 2010 I've been thinking about it for weeks and weeks, but now it seems me and this other person really like each other and I just have no interest in anyone else right now. The funny thing is this other person lives over 1,000 miles away. More later on this maybeOk. Honey, Stop thinking!!!!! and ask this poor woman out!! She's prolly dying on the vine waiting. I'm dying on the vine waiting for you!(EQ, you need to know I am a really nice person. I'm just a wise-acker most of the time too. so forgive me cheek. OK? Enjoy your date. I hope there is kissing.) Quote
Dravin Posted September 30, 2010 Report Posted September 30, 2010 Am I the only one confused by EQ Guy's last post?Maybe it's a really, really, really big ward. Geographically speaking. Quote
pam Posted September 30, 2010 Report Posted September 30, 2010 So why are we asking about dating someone in the ward if the person lives 1,000 miles away? I'm so confused. Quote
Wingnut Posted October 1, 2010 Report Posted October 1, 2010 Am I the only one confused by EQ Guy's last post?The last one makes sense, but it makes the OP not make sense. Quote
Moksha Posted October 1, 2010 Report Posted October 1, 2010 So why are we asking about dating someone in the ward if the person lives 1,000 miles away? I'm so confused. Perhaps it has something to do with the relative distance from Planet Utah to Earth. Quote
nbblood Posted October 1, 2010 Report Posted October 1, 2010 I'm gonna guess that EQG has an interest in somebody in his ward, which started this conversation. But then there's this other girl, that's 1000 miles away, and something has developed since the start of this thread that has made EQG decide to put the issue of ES/ward member aside because he is really focused on #2, 1000 miles away right now. At least that's the best sense I can make of this. Perhaps I'm way off base, but that's how I put the puzzle together. Quote
Bini Posted October 1, 2010 Report Posted October 1, 2010 ^ That makes perfect sense to me, nbblood. But back to OP, yes I can totally see how that might be awkward. Really awkward. Quote
beefche Posted October 1, 2010 Report Posted October 1, 2010 It's just so much easier when people tell us EVERYTHING in their personal lives. Then we can judge so much better. Come on, EQ, spill it! Quote
mnn727 Posted October 1, 2010 Report Posted October 1, 2010 Being a Ward Exec Secretary I make it a policy never to date anyone in the Ward -- if I did I'm sure my wife would find out and she'd kill me. J/K Quote
nbblood Posted October 4, 2010 Report Posted October 4, 2010 Being a Ward Exec Secretary I make it a policy never to date anyone in the Ward -- if I did I'm sure my wife would find out and she'd kill me.J/KSo your wife is not in the ward? Or you don't date your wife because of your policy? Quote
Misshalfway Posted October 4, 2010 Report Posted October 4, 2010 This thread is a cliffhanger. We don't know if he asked her out! We don't know if she's pining away for him. We don't know if he was too late because his best friend got to her first. We don't know if he ran out of gas trying to drive the 1000 miles to her house. For gosh sakes! I need book II!!! Quote
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