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Yes you broke the law of Chastity. Talk with your Bishop.

After Earth. Good Movie. Great story. Suspenseful as only M. Night Shyamalan can do. I liked the points made about family.

Congratulations! I"m so very happy for you.

We all sin. Skippy posted a link that you might find helpful. It can be found here.

Robert Jordan Brandon Sanderson Terry Brooks Hickson and Weiss I also like Douglas Preston and Lincoln Child as coauthors.

Educational. Thank you for the link

I used to do data entry at home, but that was decades ago. I'm also interested in doing data entry at home again.

I"m seeing the younger generation take off their garments and wear strapless evening gowns for their anniversary or a wedding. Your question about not wearing garments on a date seems a long the same line. For me "Its a special occasion" doesn't seem like an appropriate reason to not wear your garments. I'm happy you've worked through the issues you've had and your marriage is stronger. However, I highly value my husband thinking I'm sexy in my garments. What his attitude tells me is that he wants to keep our covenants with Heavenly Father and be together for all eternity. I'm seeing more and more young LDS couples post pictures on facebook of their anniversary, wedding, or other special occasion where they removed their garments for evening or day. I'm saddened that more and more people are looking for reason to not wear the garment as commanded.

When my husband was in the bishopric there wasn't a list of topics. It's up the Bishop and his counselors to select topics which will be beneficial for their ward. Our last Stake President's suggestion was to study and pray and listen to the Spirit. :) Our current Bishopric uses the Conference issue or the Ensign/Liahona as a resource frequently.

I have not read through everything. I did see the post suggesting that permanent visitor status wouldn't be so bad. But... consider that if your records aren't in the ward you're attending you might be unable to get a temple recommend.

Yes it took longer. Yes the other wives were contacted. I don't know about your situation specifically. Only your Bishop and Stake President can give you any idea about how long the process will take for your circumstances.

They can only request, but I've seen people try to "insist"

The word I've heard used in the situations I know about is permission, but I'm sure that human nature plays a roll and vindictive spouses are taken into consideration.

Yes. My sister's 2nd husband. They are in the middle of a nasty divorce now. He's had two sealing clearances previously. My sister is his 3rd wife. The Stake President said he recommended the clearance because he thought this guy had changed and being married to my sister would help him. Wrong! There were lots of red flags. And his family has apologized to my sister for not being more forthcoming about some of the issues. Basically he lied to everyone. Heavenly Father is not going to step on our agency, even if and maybe especially when we insist on marrying someone and insist on the temple clearance in the case of a man and temple cancellation in the case of a woman. In my sister's case, she's choosing to honor her covenants regardless of whether her soon-to-be Ex honors his or not. Its highly unlikely she'll marry again.

Only with permission from the wife he's stilled sealed to.

I'm glad they finally released her. Nine day! What a nightmare.

Hydrogenated oils are all bad. Virgin Coconut oil is one of the healthiest oils. How it works? I'm not a scientist so I can't answer your question. I just know that the only thing he changed was adding the coconut oil and in less than 3 months his BP was back down in normal range. Stress didn't change either.

Thank you. I was wondering if anyone reading this thread would search what the Church has to say on the subject. :)

If there are no children then your heart will heal faster if you have nothing to do with him.j

Search the word "merit" in the LDS standard works. You'll get your answer in all nine verses. :)

A health issue is a good reason to turn down a call and/or ask to be released. Likewise, family issues are a good reason. Having said that I always feel asking in prayer if its the right decision always comes before asking the Bishop for the release.

And that is where we disagree too. Being perfected is different from being perfect. If Christ wasn't perfect then the Atonement wouldn't work. You're expressing not a truth but an opinion. Just because someone is subject to temptation doesn't make them imperfect. Condescending to come to earth and take on a mortal body didn't make Christ imperfect. That is my truth. Ripple, on this subject we're going to have to agree to disagree. :)

I would stop discussing anything with him other than anything related to children or the divorce. Tell him to stop trying to convince you that black is white that bad is good.

Three to Four years old..... totally normal kid. As you add siblings it will become easier. When he starts preschool it will get easier. In the meantime, you're not only Dad and Mom, but playmates too. I'm amazed that he sat quietly for an hour while Mom napped and didn't get into trouble. That's pretty self controlled for his age. :) Parenting takes a lot of time and energy parents often don't have. Get used to it now and decide to enjoy it. If he's not "helping" you build the track then do something else. Set some playtime rules. Sitting and watching Daddy play isn't playing. Give him choices, such as "If you want to play cars then we play together. If you aren't going to play with me then we'll put the cars away and do something else." At this age making decisions about how he spends is time is appropriate, just limit the choices. Giving a 3-4 yo 4-5 choices is overwhelming. Now would be a good time to start with art supplies. Coloring, painting, play dough, beads and pipe cleaner, etc. Also things that help him refine his fine motor skills. There are soft plastic beads you place on a hard plastic grid and when finished with the design then a parent uses an iron to melt the soft beads together. My grandson loves to play with them. He calls it designing. He doesn't always want them melted together so we've been able to play and play without buying more and more. Sidewalk chalk. An easel with dry erase on one side and chalk board on the other. A roll of butcher paper. Teach him how to work and make it fun. Making cookies with Mom and learning to measure will teach him math skills. Folding clothes and putting them away. A child his age can fold wash clothes (just don't get picky :) ). He is also old enough to put the silver ware away when you unload the dishwasher. When my grandson was 3 I often had him stand on the chair at the sink while I washed the pans and dishes that didn't fit in the dishwasher. He loved it. Now he's 5 and he's learning to load the dishwasher too. In a nutshell, make chores part of playtime with mom and dad. :) Good Luck! But most importantly, ENJOY! This time will pass too quickly and you'll wish you could go back.

Forgiveness isn't about him or her. Its about you. Its only through forgiveness that we are able to heal. Open the door and let Christ heal your heart. Recently I was struggling with forgiveness and listening the Mercy River's CD "Higher" helped a lot. I'm still listening to it this morning. A couple of their songs are on youtube but the ones that truly helped the most are only on the CD. I've shed a lot of tears while listening to their beautiful music which teaches a gospel principle in each song. I often need the outside "voice" to allow my thoughts and feelings to not get stuck. Maybe it will help you. A week ago I would have suggested going to her bishop considering her calling and what she's done. Today, I can't suggest that. This past week I've come to realize that I can't nor should I even try to dictate someone else's repentance. I can't change anyone but me. You'll probably get other advice. Only you can decide what will be best to do. I'm sorry you are going through this. Please open your heart and allow the Atonement to work for you.