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Thank you for posting the link for the youtube video. That was very informational.

At my house we nap. I don't care how old you are ... 4 months or 40 years or 80 years..... we nap. Now... babies are difficult. They do what they want regardless of what you want or you get to hear crying. An upset infant is not fun to listen to and an upset infant won't nap. If she's napping in your arms while rocking take advantage of this time. It will fly by fast and the day isn't very far away when you'll long to be able to sit and hold her while she sleeps. Its hard to not feel guilty about ... well, EVERYTHING! Afterall, we are mothers. Keep working on getting her to nap on her own, it will come with time and patience. Its sort of like getting a child to sleep at night: Put her down, she cries, go in comfort her, but don't pick her up, and leave - repeat as necessary .... keep doing that until she sleeps. My 5 year old grandson naps great most days. There are occasions when we don't nap but as a rule we do. There are occasions when he refuses to sleep, then its quiet time on his bed while Grandma sleeps. No exceptions those are the rules. :) Even Daddy and Grandpa nap when they are home. Nap time is sacred at our house. My sisters have done the same thing at their houses. In my family we all agree that naps are a necessary part of life.

I was looking for a place to "chat" with other LDS members and was not a singles site. When I joined we had a chat room. I miss it.

Here's an interview with one of the jurors. Zimmerman juror: He shouldn't have gotten out of that car - U.S. News

The people to contact when there are issues are Family Search personnel. They can help via phone, chat or email. The other resource is your Ward's Family Search consultant. Bishops usually don't have the time to keep up with all the changes that are happening. That's why there are consultants in each ward. The rule is if someone has been dead for 100 years you don't need permission from the nearest living relative. I'm sorry someone didn't pay attention to the rules.

Congratulations Soulsearcher. Great news!

Elantris and the Mistborn trilogy by Brandon Sanderson.

welcome back Bug! :)

When things like that happen to me I remember the Young Women values and colors.

You've given us lots of parameters for a discussion. The experiences you are asking for are all anecdotal and are often, for the person having the experience, sacred. So, these experiences are not often talked about by the person who actually had them. Thus the stories are more along the lines of just stories. Best wishes

10 truths to get a person to believe on lie?

Your first post doesn't say anything about struggling to keep covenants. Just because a widow/widower marries outside the temple doesn't mean they are struggling with faith. My brother is marrying a 2nd time after a divorce. The wonderful woman he's marrying is not LDS. Yet it works for them. They both believe in Christ and they both believe in agency. I also believe they are committed to supporting each other. Your post brought to mind the LDS "I'm a mormon" campaign.

One reason was to build up the Kingdom of God on earth. Another very practical reason was to take care of widows and children. At the time polygamy was practiced the Mormons had been persecuted and killed, hounded from State to State, to the point there were many more women and children than men.

Me too. When it comes to modesty many women in our world have the mistaken notion they can just do as they please with no consequences.

"Modesty is about revealing our dignity. We were made beautiful in His image and likeness." --Jessica Rey

That was perfect. I had to show it to my husband, son and send it to my sister. I'll probably make sure even more people see it. LOL I'm still laughing.

Any charges this man faces will just validate the kids actions. They will feel they got away with it.

standing ovation Edit: I hope public opinion is so loud whoever filed the charges reconsiders. The parents of 8-10 year olds, who allow them to run unsupervised at 9pm, are the ones who endangered their children by not knowing where they were and what they were doing.

I don't see condemnation in this thread. In a thread like this often we read someone's words not through their feelings but through our own feelings. When that happens we miss their intent.

I agree. We can't fix someone else. We can only fix ourselves. We also have to remember that Feelings are neither right nor wrong. They just Are. What we do with them is what affects our lives. Agreed. I think we also need to realize that the only person we can fix is ourselves. We should not attempt to fix others. Because we can only change ourselves for good or bad. Universal is pretty broad. There are other reasons why people stop going to church, such as, health issues, family issues. But being uncomfortable in church and then not attending has a cause. I don't believe a crisis of faith is a sin. But disobeying God's commandments is. So if a crisis of faith is our reason for breaking the commandment to attend Sacrament meeting to renew our covenants, aren't we choosing to sin? I realize saying that to your wife will not help. Only one person can change how your wife feels and that's her. Help can come from Heavenly Father, Christ, the Holy Ghost and you.

The bolded is the root of the problem. Our faith should be rooted in Heavenly father and His Son Jesus Christ. When our faith has a good foundation then these human failings (for lack of a better word) don't shake us so badly. Its not a sin to have doubts. We're still back to the definition of sin and therefore "fault." I don't believe there is fault in having doubts. We get in trouble when we allow our doubts to move us away from Christ. I know that is hard to hear when you're in the middle of a faith crisis, but nonetheless, its the truth. What LeGrande Richards said was not a judgement but a fact. I understand and have experienced being offended in a similar way. The fix is to root our testimony in God our Heavenly Father and in His Son, Jesus Christ. Maybe starting back at the basics would be helpful for your wife? My suggestion to put her doubts on a shelf and focus on the core of her faith will help her resolve the faith issues.

Let me try to understand by restating: A Sunday School teacher, Primary teacher, parent understood and taught that God painted the sky blue with a roller brush. The person being taught grows up and teaches the same thing. Then years later learns from a respected researcher and author that in fact God used a paint gun and not a roller brush. This person is bothered by the inconsistency to the point he/she stops going to church. This person now is upset because they were taught something inaccurate which in turn they taught to others. Did I get that right? Rhetorical Questions: Instead of realizing that people are imperfect I stop going to church? Instead of asking my Heavenly Father to confirm the truth, I stop going to church? Instead of working to resolve the conflict I allow Satan to build on my doubts which in turn moves me away from my Lord and Savior and I stop going to church? In my opinion, when we assume we will be labeled for asking honest questions we leave the door open for Satan to move us further from our Savior and from the healing power of the Atonement. Being labeled doesn't change our standing with our Heavenly Father and our Savior. What changes our standing with God is allowing our fear of labels or our pride to move us further away. Its good to question. Its not good to allow the questions to go unresolved. Nor it is good to allow the questions to move us further from God. I'm older than dirt and I've found that our testimonies are regularly tested. As I get older I've learned to recognize when my faith is under attack a little bit faster. But the constant or the Core of my faith is: "God lives. God is the Father of our spirits. He loves us and will help us especially when our faith is under attack. He provided a Savior for us. That Savior is Jesus. And Jesus Christ atoned for our sins so we could return to live with our Heavenly Father. There are commandments from God, one of which is to attend our meetings." If something in church history or a neighbors opinion keeps me from keeping a commandment then the fault is mine and I need to humble myself, let go of my pride and return to the place Heavenly Father wants me to be so I can continue on my journey back to Him. Its not easy to let go of our doubts sometimes. But a first step is to recognize who is growing our doubts about our faith. I guarantee its not Heavenly Father or Christ who is growing those doubts. I hope your wife will be able to return to the core of her faith and let the peripheral things go for a awhile. When she's stronger and the spirit is back, her doubts will be resolved (quickly if she asks Heavenly Father to help). I know from personal experience when I focus on the core of my faith then any doubts I may be having often just go away, or something happens to resolve the issues which caused the doubts in the first place. I pray you and your wife will find the peace and resolution you're seeking.

I'm so sorry Anatess. Its hard to lose a parent.

Define sin. If we truly look into our own hearts at what is keeping us from church or even from the Lord, it is because of something in our life. To me anything that takes me further from the Lord is a sin. And if I take the time to look up scriptures and conference talk I'm sure I'd find references to support that. LeGrande Richards is my grandfather's first cousin. There was a time I heard "If you're not going to church its because of some sort of sin" more than once and as a teenager and young adult I was offended. But isn't being offended a sin of sorts? At the least its a lack of charity, which can be defined as a sin. Truth often makes us uncomfortable especially when we need to work on our personal growth. Right now I'm struggling to go to church. Some of the things that keep me from growing are health related. I'm exhausted and in pain. But... when I finally was honest with myself about the excuses I was making I realized that I was sinning. My sin? I didn't have a forgiving heart about some issues in our family. I'm certain there are other sins I'm not aware of. We're all a work in progress. I'm also certain that as I resolve the sins I know I have more will pop up that I need to work on. Once we accept Christ as our Lord and Savior, when we step away...even a tiny half step.... we are sinning, which in turn will make it harder and harder to feel comfortable going to church. How do we heal those feelings of being uncomfortable? We go to Sacrament meeting and partake of the Sacrament. We search out the cause of our feelings and repent of whatever we're doing (even unconsciously) that would make us uncomfortable in the Lord's presence. I'm sorry your wife is struggling with her faith. I've been there more than once in my life. My heart hurts for her. I hope you'll both be able to allow healing ability of the Atonement to work for you in this issue.

Interesting. I loved the movie. My husband enjoyed it too. Neither of us thought is was boring. :)