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What a stupid couple, she is "healing emotionally" from their last miscarriage and she somehow thinks that aborting this baby will help? If anything it will screw her up emotionally even more. As Faded and I have mentioned before, we have gone through ten years of trying to have a baby, the thought of some other couple out there so flippantly putting the fate of their baby up for anonymous people on the internet to decide for them is horrible. And the really awful thing about it, currently when I voted it looked the the "Have an abortion" side is winning. People are sick. Hands down. Sorry if this offends anyone, but truthfully, as I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with our first child anything that is about killing babies (born or unborn) really bothers me a lot.

Sometimes, if you have a distribution center near you, you can find imperfect scriptures for sale and can find some of the harder to find types of scriptures. And when I say imperfect I mean that there is a flaw in the leather or that the tabs were not put into the side of a tabbed set of scriptures. Basically something went wrong physically with the creation process and the scriptures are perfectly fine except for some physical flaws. Sometimes you can find White scriptures in that case.

Wait, is this boyfriend the same guy you were talking about in October? The guy with Aspergers? If so it sounds like things have been moving quickly considering that he wanted or seemed to want to move slowly. Congratulations though! As for your mother, I think the best thing to do is to be honest with her. She needs to understand, especially if you are planning a wedding. She needs to know what the results of her choices are. And I think the best way for you to move into your wedding plans is to make sure that she knows what is going on and what may be the results of her week of drinking.

I have loved this site for years. Cute games, fun things, I used to send friends flowers from that site often. This was years ago though, thanks for posting the link it is good to find the site again.

I know it seems weird since from a artistic view of things all colors mixed together often make black, and no color makes white. But in the light spectrum white is all colors and black is no color. Strange but true. Like I said, science changes so many things.

It is interesting to me how science courses change things. I remember learning that on the light spectrum black is the absense of color while white contains all colors. However when you get into art and color tones and shades white and black play an entirely different role. I like what PeaceRoseRest has to say about that, without black you can't get some of the darker colors, which are some of my favorites.

I love black, it a great color, or lack there of. But I love black for its slimming effects. Either way though I think the roses you posted are beautiful! Truthfully if it was left up to me I would probably dress in monotone, blacks and whites. I love the contrast. But probably thankfully for me, the rest of my family has more fashion sense than I do and they encourage me to wear other colors.

So other than fleshy tones and bare backs we don't see any "parts" right? No bums or female torsos? I am asking because my mom is a HUGE Harry Potter fan and it would completely ruin it for her if there was anything extreme in it. Granted my mom draws the line at bum shots in movies, so anything worse than that would bother her a lot. Edit: I haven't told her yet that there are nude scenes. I don't want to ruin it for her before she even sees the film if it is not something that she would take offense to.

I have a BA in English, but truthfully have not done much with it in regards to where it can really take me. I am currently an office worker at a large corporation and am not doing what I was originally hired for. I currently am my area's expert on Business Recovery, or to put it into general terms, I am the person that figures out what to do if the building catches on fire, or is in a flood, or is taken out by a tornado, or if there is a pandemic, etc. Not exactly what I was planning on doing with my life at this point, but it works. And I am good at what I do. In the near future I plan on either quitting my job to raise a family, or agreeing to work part time where most of that work time is from home. Turns out no one in my area is even prepared to devote the amount of time to Business Recovery as I do, and my area cares about being 100% compliant over letting me leave. My brother in law has a BS in mechanical engineering (at least I think that is what it is) he currently works for the government and is the Lean manufacturing expert in his area. He seems to also like what he does. My husband is a computer techie, or rather to be more precise he babysits servers all day at a data center. As he said recently, he installs servers, he uninstalls servers, he moves servers, and re-installs servers, he updates servers, he runs cable, and when he isn't doing all that he stress tests the HTTP server (aka he surfs the net). He seems to like his job when it is busy. My dad does the same thing, but he started out as a building engineer after working as a engineer's mate on military nuclear subs in the navy. He worked his way up through the company and got enough experience from his work there that he now does the same job as my husband, with less education under his belt. But remember, he is 50 and my husband is 35 and they both just got the same job. I hope some of that helps.

Jewelry isn't really all that difficult once you get the basics down. Now making a leather bound book is another matter entirely. Just the other night I made up three necklaces as thank you gifts and all three took me under an hour. (that is total time for all three, not each individual necklace)

I was much the same way, which is why I have similar regrets as you do. You can find the reason for my regrets here: http://www.lds.net/forums/single-adults/14092-worst-date-stories-6.html#post423430

When we went through the repentance process our Bishop suggested we attend marriage counseling through the LDS Social Services. We went to the counselor on a regular basis, I think it was either weekly or bi-weekly (I can't remember). Once she felt we were helped as much as she could help us she told us we could either continue to come or stop coming. We decided to stop coming. The counseling was mostly focused on our communication skills with each other. At the time we commuted together and spent our commute time talking about everything, so we had actually had the conversations the counselor was building us up to long before she ever got around to them. For your marriage it will really depend on where you both are regarding the situation and how the counselor feels you are doing as a couple.

I tend to do a lot of crafty projects for gifts. Often I make jewelry, or leather bound books, or crocheted things. Jewelry can be pretty easy, I know recently Michaels had a sale on charm bracelets, turned out really pretty when done and were really easy to put together. Another option is necklaces. There are a lot of great ideas being shared here already. Let us know what you decide to do.

When I was single if a guy asked me out and I was interested I would say yes, sometimes I would say yes even if I was not interested, because I understood that it often took a guy a lot of courage to ask a girl out.

I make jewelry as a hobby, so if I am thankful to someone I may send them a card, but if I am really thankful for what they have done I often will make them a piece of jewelry and give it to them with a hand written Thank You card. (So far I have only done this with women) I don't think that would be creepy, as it is a gift between friends. Is there anything that you do as a hobby that you could make and give, or something you know she is interested in?

Consider that I have used the counseling services out in the Chicago land area. 1. I found the counseling service to be pretty good, the focus was mostly on communication skills and not on who was right and who was wrong. 2. The counselor we used seemed to be pretty objective 3. The counselor we used seemed to have a bit of a balance of that. For example we talked about the repentance process and such but all the homework she gave us was not from a gospel source. 4. Yes, you should be able to get a referral from your bishop, or you can even just call up LDS Social Services and use their counseling service, you don't need a recommendation from your Bishop. If you want your Bishop to encourage your wife as a way of getting her to go to counseling then yes you may want to talk to him.

Does anyone think that it fits the conditions of The Miller Test? Miller test - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia If so does that remove the right of free speech from this book? I only bring this up because someone on the facebook news page brought up the Miller Test and I was unfamiliar with it. I thought I might bring it up and see if others here might be more familiar with it.

From what the article I posted stated, Amazon took the book off its site on Wednesday (yesterday). I am just curious about people's thoughts on the matter. I personally will not be boycotting Amazon because only part of what I buy there is books and when it comes to what they choose to sell or not to sell is really up to them as a company. As Dravin has mentioned the site has many books already that conflict with my morals and I still buy stuff from them. As for attempts at the legalizing of pedophillia:

Wandering around my facebook page today and came across this article which was brought up by a news group that I follow on fb. Amazon.com title defending pedophilia sparks boycott call - CNN.com Reading the article made me really wonder about a person who would write such a book. But mostly I saw it as another step taken by the pedophillia community to make child molestation legal. Looking through the comments I found that people are generally split between censoring it and not censoring it due to freedom of speech. Many people plan to boycott Amazon and some do not. Almost every comment I read was a comment of disgust. It made me personally worry about the already declining morality of our society today, and made me wonder about what people here think about the whole thing, or if anyone had heard about it. Is anyone here planning to boycott Amazon due to this book?

Some of these are more opinions than sources, but some of them are news stories. Either way, it is evident that Sharia law is making its way through Europe and Canada and into the US. SHARIA EUROPE - Sharia Law In Europe: UK, France, Germany ... Sharia's Inroads in Europe - Italian Court: 'Beaten Up for "Her Own Good"' :: Hudson New York Dr. Laurie Roth Ph.D. -- Sharia Law...in our future? Blair and the Problem of Muslim Integration | John Rentoul | Independent Eagle Eye Blogs 'Britain's Islamic republic': full transcript of Channel 4 Dispatches programme on Lutfur Rahman, the IFE and Tower Hamlets – Telegraph Blogs

From what I have heard (currently I have no sources for this), there are European countries whose laws are opposite that of Sharia law, however because of large influxes of Muslims the majority vote has voted in Sharia law. In those countries Muslims will go to Sharia law enforcers rather than go to regular law enforcement. They will take judgements made by Sharia law above judgements made by government law. There have been countries where the Muslims have told the people there that once they outnumber the native citizens they will make Sharia law the law of the land. The Quran even prophesies that at some point Sharia law will be instituted in every land, and there are many Muslims that look forward to that day and strive for it. Considering what the law allows to happen I would be for banning that law pretty much anywhere, and it has nothing to do with any anti-Muslim sentiment on my part. I have a few Muslim friends, but that does not mean I would want Sharia law instituted in my country. Considering what is happening in Europe, I have no problem with America banning Sharia law when they can.

It is good to hear that you both are willing to move forward with your marriage and are working to make changes together. Keep us up to date on how everything goes. We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

I have got to remember to not read the comments on these news articles, they just upset me with the ignorance and animosity of people.

From someone who has gone through all of this I have a unique perspective on it all. When it comes to adultery it usually is a sign that something is wrong in the marriage. The greater blame falls on the sinner, which is right, but this does not mean that the spouse who was cheated on does not have things that they need fix as well. Very often you will hear that the spouse who was cheated on does not and should not have to change anything about themselves because they were the victim. Problem is, for the marriage to work change does need to happen on both sides. This was something that became very evident to my husband and me as I went through the repentance process. Someone mentioned love languages, look into that and discuss it with your wife. If she says that talking makes her feel more loved then work out a way with her for her to feel comfortable opening up. Instead of getting upset with her over the house find ways to let go of those feelings of anger over the house. Watch the movie fireproof, or get the book that goes along with it "The Love Dare" and start doing the things in the book. Now don't get me wrong, the greater part of effort really needs to come from her. The fact that this is the third time you have come across something showing that she has been unfaithful means that she didn't truly repent of it the last two times. If she truly wants to let go of her sin then she really needs to work at it. She really needs to focus on letting go of this desire she has for men other than you. The reason I recommended earlier that you read my story is because when I told my husband about the affiar he and I went on a long walk and he set down some requirements. The requirements were what I needed to do to prove to him that I was really serious about repenting and saving our marriage. When he posted them on these forum boards there were many people who thought he was going too far. But the truth is, he did exactly the right thing. An affair destroys trust in a marriage and for that marriage to work again that trust needs to be rebuilt. And to rebuild trust very often drastic measures need to be taken and the trust needs to be proven time and time again. Rebuilding trust is very hard, destroying it is often very easy. My advice would be to sit down with your wife, discuss where you want to go from this point. Do you want to stay together? Is she willing to repent of her sin? Is she willing to let go of it forever? Is she willing to put forth the work needed to rebuild your trust and rebuild the marriage? Are you willing to put forth the work needed from you to rebuild the marriage? What do you need her to do that will help to rebuild your trust in her? Talk all these things through, and if you both decide to try to make this work and stay together make sure to support her. If she is serious and earnest in her intent to repent then it will be a hard and long road for her, she will need support from you for her to make it through to the end. You will need support as well. It is a long and difficult road ahead if you both decide to make it work. But if you both are earnest in it the end result is worth it. But you will both have to work very hard at it, because getting there is not easy.

My advice is this: Read my story, and if you would like, pm my husband, Faded. About two years ago we went through a similar thing. I had an affair and we worked through it. As someone who has been on the sinning end I know there are certain things she needs to be doing if she is going to get through the repentance process. I know it can be done, but she really needs to work at it and really needs to have a desire to repent. http://www.lds.net/forums/advice-board/17111-blindsided-dumbstruck.html From my experience she really needs to want to repent from her sins, and currently it sounds like she is continuing to fall back into the same sin again and again. See about counseling, and see about talking with her about everything. Possibly include your mother in law again as it sounds like she has taken a mediator role in your marriage before. And if you need someone to vent/talk to please feel free to private message my husband. One thing I found during our whole experience was that my husband really needed someone to just talk to. There is a way for all of this to get better, our marriage is proof, but it does take a lot of work from both spouses to get there.