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I have odd reactions to medicines, because of this I am careful when it comes to medicine and usually do not take something I don't think I need. Cold medicines effect me the most, on regular dayquil I often feel dizzy and loopy. I have had halucinations on cough medicines. In general when I get a cold I tend to turn to herbal remedies as I don't like what the cold medicine does to me. It could be that you have unusual reactions to the medications your doctor has given you, you probably should talk to him about reactions you have had.

To tell the truth in today's economy it is difficult to get a job with a degree as well. The truth of the matter is that to be a stay at home mom you don't really need a college education, you just need to take care of your children. In my marriage I have a college degree and my husband does not, however he has been certified in different networking certifications and those certifications give him a similar paycheck to someone who has a Bachelors degree, in fact he makes more than I do and I have the degree and he does not. If it were me I would ignore your brother in law and when the topic comes up tell him you know his opinion and you would rather not hear it as you do not agree. If he brings it up when he is in your home tell him he can either change the subject or leave. If you can stay at home and take care of your baby then great! But if you can't then just do the best you can do. And don't worry about other people's opinions of your actions.

Both my husband and I are fans of UFC (ultimate fighting championship) in which most of the fighters use some form or another of Mixed Matial Arts (MMA). We watch it because of the skill and technique that these fighters use. The sport though seeming to be all violence based is actually very much skill based, there are many rules in place to keep the fighters safe and to keep them from being killed or damaged beyond repair. In fact not one person has died in a professional MMA fight where there were professional refs watching the action. This is because the refs stop the action if it gets too close to someone being seriously hurt. Compared to boxing, MMA fights are rather safe in this way. When it comes to fight sports though there are really two types of fans, there is your beat them up more blood is better type fan, and there is your technique and skill type fan. Of course you are going to hear people cheer when there is a knockout or when there is lots of blood. There are a lot of those fans out there. But there are those fans who are really in it to watch the technique and skill of the fighters and to see a superior sportsman in action. This is the type of fan both my husband and I are. Are there bloody beat them up LDS fans out there, I am sure that there are. But one must remember when watching this kind of a sport that there is skill involved and that there are some people who are watching because they want to see that skill. It is much like a football or hockey game, there are some people who like to watch the sports because they like to watch people pound into each other, but there are others who watch the sport because they like to see the skill of these superior sportsmen in action. One thing to notice about most of the fighers in MMA sports as well (I say most because not all of them are like this) many of the fighters are very respectful of their opponent, many will bow to their opponent and many after winning will go over and make sure that their opponent is ok before leaving the ring. There are not too many other sports you see this type of behavior in. Football players don't generally check to make sure their opponent is ok after they clothesline him. Hockey players don't usually check to make sure the other guy is ok after checking him into the glass. It is often difficult to see good points of an activity we don't agree with if we don't make an effort to understand the ins and outs of that activity beforehand. I think MMA events are much like this, if you don't understand the background information, like the safety measures that go into it or the skill and sportsmanship that goes into it then I don't think you can really understand where fans are coming from.

As for the OP, I have been watching this thread and not really participating, mostly because of my own experiences. From what happened in my marriage and from the side of the cheater, I would say, if he is willing to work on fixing himself then I would advise trying to save the marriage. If he is not willing to change and repent, then I don't think you should stay in a marriage like that.

I don't really agree with this. Doesn't matter how high a man's hormones are he still has the option to choose what he is going to do with it. A person's hormones don't run their life. Trying things you don't feel comfortable with does not a happy marriage make. Especially if it is just to please your husband. When it comes to sex in marriage I think there should be a lot of discussion about what each person wants to and doesn't want to do. And whatever is decided should be respected, no matter the hormone levels. And yes, they do have medical treatments for high sex drive. There are medications out there that will lessen a man's sex drive, just like there are medications out there that will heighten it. Or you could always nuke the problem area and sterility will take care of any unwanted issues (sarcasm in case no one caught it).

Have someone in your family put a password on your computer that keeps you from using it. Avoid computers for awhile, find something else to do with your time. Fill it up with something that will keep you busy all the time, exercise, do service, find something that keeps you busy. If you have to access computers make sure that you only go onto them when there is another person around. Before you use a computer read your scriptures, put a picture of Christ next to your computer. These are all things that help. It sounds like you really want to quit this addiction, I know there are some programs out there that can help people stop their addictions. Most if not all stakes have an addiction recovery group. Look into that and start attending the meetings. If your stake does not, then look into your community and see what they have to offer.

My husband and I want to buy Kenshin, we just need to wait for a time when we can give it to ourselves as a gift. We have a growing collection of anime currently and it gives us some good together time to sit and watch them. I would like to comment on your link, but I can't listen to music until I get home from work. Which is why most of my posts on this are in the evening. So far I am really enjoying this thread and have found a lot of great music from what has been posted so far.

I'm enjoying it, it gives me something to do and listen to after work each day. Plus most of the bands they have listed so far are ones I have not heard of. Now if only more people would get involved it could get really fun!

You are right, I do like it. It is a different mix of Celtic type feel and rock. Most Celtic rock I have come across has a little more of a folky feel to it. You find some good stuff. I am going to share one of my favorite anime opening songs. It is by Yoko Kanno and it is the opening theme to Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex.

Wasn't there a blockbuster version of Redbox out for awhile, Bluebox or something of the like?

Very interesting, a bit too heavy rock for me, but it has a good rhythm to it. For a more folky Irish singer, I give you Kate Rusby singing I am stretched on your grave.

I figured it out, I had to delete the http's and just use www.youtube.com/user/m...25/5o2TU5ECj5Y, will comment once I get it to load and listen to it.

Can you post another link to it? The one you posted is showing for me as a broken link.

In the town we will be moving to they have a Family Video, and when you ask most locals about which they use more often Family Video or Redbox most say Family Video. That video store has gone out of its way to make itself more marketable in that town than the Redbox. Often you can get videos for cheaper from the Video store than you can from the Redbox. That being said, I will say that the way Redbox and Netflix are running their business is very smart, I am not surprised at all to see the bigger video stores going out of business.

Nice, I often listen to KLOVE, mostly because I find Christian Rock often helps me feel the Spirit as I drive to work. I currently have a Casting Crowns song as my ring tone (my phone has this thing where it plays a song for people who call me). The song I have on my phone is this one:

Interesting, their instrumental playing reminds me a bit of Disturbed. But the voice is higher, oddly though it was what I was expecting to hear when the song started. Very nice song. Speaking of Disturbed, here is one of my favorites of theirs.

Interesting song, I liked the tune and the way they sung it. Then again I am a fan of heavier rock. The music video was quite interesting as well, it had a slight Steam Punk feel to it. The band definitely sounds like something I could easily listen to on a regular basis. I am going to post a link to one of my favorite Irish singers. This is one of the first songs I stumbled upon of his. It is more along the lines of Irish folk music.

Ok, now that I am home I can share some more of the sad songs I like. Sanvean by Sarah Brightman Who will sing me lullabies by Kate Rusby Cruel by Kate Rusby Falling by Kate Rusby I am stretched on your grave by Kate Rusby Broken by Lifehouse Why should I cry for you by Sting Ghost Story by Sting Fragile by Sting Like I said in my earlier post, I often prefer to listen to music that makes me sad, so there are quite a lot of music that I find sad. If given the opportunity I would probably find more songs to list, so I should probably stop now.

My husband and I actually met in a World Religions class. It was a very interesting course and I learned a lot from it. The semester we started dating we actually focused quite a bit on Catholicism especially on the lives of the popes.

I love Welcome to Flow in Games a game by "That Game Company", the game is pretty and easy and has wasted much of my time at different points in my life.

Most of what Gaelic Storm produces makes me happy. They are an Irish rock bank and I love almost everything they have done. Some of their exceptionally fun songs are: "What's the Rumpus?", "Kelly's Wellies", "Born to be a Bachelor", "Beggarman", "Johnny Tarr", "Go home girl!", and even though it is all intrumental I love their song "Thirsty Work".

I have a list of songs that make me sad, they are in my Sadness folder at home so I will have to wait till I get home to list most of them, but one of my favorites is Shadow of Doubt from the soundtrack to the anime Escaflowne I find it to be sad because of the character it is tied to, as well as the emotions that listening to it bring out in me. Much of what Loreena McKennitt sings is sad, but that is probably why I like her music so much. Bonnie Portmore, Anachie Gordon, are just a few and the fact that she takes beautifully sad poems and put them to music is wonderful as well. Jennifer Haines has some beautifully sad piano pieces. I love the three parts to the Decemberists song "The Crane Wife" Much of what Seth Lakeman sings works for me as well. Same thing with Kate Rusby, I especially like her lullaby "Sho Heen" When it comes to music often I go for the stuff that makes me sad, the sadder the better. I am also a big fan of Irish Folk Music, so much of what I have listed falls in that category. I love the hymns in church that make me feel sad so some of my favorites include, "Abide with me", "Be still, my soul", "Nearer, My God, to Thee"

Mine would. She loves car rides and she will bark at any person she sees in her territory, which is any area that falls within her range of vision. Both cats and dogs tend to extend the lifespan of their owners. I think that is pretty useful. Besides, I feel safer having my dogs.

I Don't Really Care? Did I guess right?

There was a point in my marriage where I was sure that my actions would result in a divorce. Not that I wanted a divorce, but I had a feeling that it would happen. I had talked myself into telling my husband about my actions but I didn't want to ruin the holidays for him, so I put off talking to him about my actions until after the holidays. This meant I had about three months to wait, I made a decision in my mind that I wanted those three months to have good memories for him, I didn't want our marriage to end on an absolutely terrible note. So I began working to make those three months good ones. I went out of my way to work on things that I knew were bothering him. I tried harder and did more for our marriage than I had in years. I really put forth an effort. And our marriage changed, it got better, and when I told him of my actions he chose to stay with me and work through the problems with me. Lately when we have talked about it he admits that my actions during those three months really changed the way he looked at the marriage, and because of how I acted during those months he was more open to the idea of staying with me. What I learned during not only the time leading up to me confessing to him, but also the repentance period afterward is that what we see as needs in our marriage, aren't always as needed as we thought they were. Often we really want something in our marriage, more attention, more sex, more talking, more whatever, and we get to a point where not having those things gets to a point where we feel that we are missing something we need. Truth is though that we don't actually NEED them, we could do just fine without them but we feel that to be happy we must have those things. What I found was that we can often get the things that we "needed" by finding a way to give our spouse what they think they need. Often the things that we needed are being withheld, maybe not intentionally, because our spouse is also feeling bad about the relationship and part of their feeling bad is not doing their best at the marriage themselves. It will probably take more than a week to see things change. I would suggest trying to do your best for the marriage for half a year and see if there are changes. It will take a lot of patience, but then again that is part of marriage, making marriage work takes a lot of work and a lot of patience. A healthy marriage is much like a healthy body, if your body gets overweight the best thing you can do for it is to exercise, but the effects of exercise take awhile to show, if you exercise for only a week you probably won't see the results you were hoping for, but if you are patient and keep at it eventually over time you will see the results.