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PolarVortex, that is comical. I wouldn't have made a complaint on that. But if party A is mistreated and party B does everything but apologise, I think that's too bad, an apology is always nice.

I read everything. Very interesting. Also, regarding language, there's a YouTube of a woman that speaks in gibberish but sounds authentic in like 30 different languages. Read the comments, even native speakers are impressed.

This is a true story, though, I don't know exact details and am just relaying it as I recall. My thinking is that the ban wouldn't have been lifted if a mistake hadn't been made. So, if indeed a mistake had been made, someone is responsible for issuing some sort of apology. That's probably my thought process in any situation where someone has been proven in the wrong.

Do you give one when damage control is needed, regardless, of who is right or wrong? Maybe you don't at all because you've done nothing wrong? Or, do you because you've been proven wrong and it's time to own it? Here's a scenario: A woman is escorted out of a convention because security has determined her a risk to guests. She discloses on her blog that no specific reason was given for her ejection and was told she was banned from future conventions by the vendor. This goes viral, and as a result, the vendor responds. It's explained that vendor security does not survey crowds, and that security acted upon the instruction of one of the guest's head bodyguard. More speculation circulates. Eventually, the bodyguard addresses the issue on social media. He says that he's trained to look for red flags, and this person was a concern, too much of a concern that removal was necessary. He then screenshots a blog entry posted just an hour before the convention, that reads like a threat towards the guests. The woman fires back and claims they are song lyrics. The public agrees that it was taken out of context. Scrolling through her blog, it becomes clear this woman references song lyrics frequently. The woman is pleased to have her ban lifted and wants an apology but none is given. The bodyguard leaves one last response, saying he will not apologise for doing his job. Should an apology have been given?

I remember a family member took her three sons to the zoo. It was meant to be a therapeutic day trip. All boys are on the autism spectrum, but one, is much worse than the other two. He is also the oldest child. Well, apparently, something triggered an escalation, and he was full on panicking and screaming. The boy looked normal enough to bystanders, and many figured he was just a "bad kid" or she was a "bad parent" for allowing this kind of outburst. I remember her accounting this day to me. It was rough.

It's hard parenting. You do something right one day, and feel you've messed up on something the next. I'm definitely more tolerant of others and their children, now that I have my own child, but obnoxious and malicious behaviour should be addressed. I know that autism is on the rise, and affects a vast amount of our population, and realise that many children act out despite looking like a seemingly normal child on the outside.

I'm asking for my own curiosity. What are recent revelations from prophets since Joseph Smith? If there aren't any, through speculation, what subjects might be addressed by new revelation? If you are a member, do you accept new revelation without question, or do you seek confirmation from God through fasting and prayer?

There are fantastic support groups out there. Online and in-person setups. I've joined groups for personal struggles and there is always someone who can relate to what you're going through. You slip up and want to give up sometimes, but with a support system, it makes it just a bit easier to reclaim your life and not throw in the towel.

If "conservative" means shying away from or avoiding change, I would say that no, you cannot be LDS. Mormons believe that the prophet receives revelation from God, so if they subscribed to the kind of conservative mindset you describe, they aren't open to new revelation.

I won't even get started on Mormon tradition versus doctrine. There is way too much emphasis on the whole "women should wear dresses and men should be clean shaven" type stuff. It just isn't relevant to one's reverence, spirituality, or salvation. Again, my thoughts are aligned with common sense (to the best of one's judgment). I wouldn't recommend the yoga mat scenario or sporting a swimsuit to church. I made this clear before.

Point is still missed here. It is a matter of MYOB. What's considered appropriate or inappropriate, respectful or disrespectful, doesn't matter. Bottom line: we cannot control others, only ourselves.

Got it. Your opinion on what it means to be reverent.

I lost this discussion somewhere. If it's not about distraction but about spirit, who's to say that the spirit cannot be present or be felt when doing x? And what is the overall concern here? Minding the business of others and what they are or aren't doing? Or minding our own and using the best judgment we are able?

I use "common sense" as in majority and not everyone. I would wager that most people would agree that knitting is less distracting than juggling. In this regard, that would make it a common notion, and well, common sense. Still, my point is not this but rather, I can't control others. So what can *I* do to maintain focus and tune in? That much, is in my control. We need to redirect this matter in sight of what individuals can do to feel the spirit, no matter what else is going on around them.

My thoughts align with common sense more than polar extremes. Juggling versus knitting? I'm coming from the corner of within what's reasonable. I wouldn't recommend a member unroll their yoga mat in the chapel aisle, and proceed with their yoga ritual, even if it does allow for better concentration and focus. Let's use common sense. But regardless, I can't control what someone else chooses to do, so I'd better figure out a way that I can focus in without worrying about what others are or aren't doing.

Just started Dragon Age: Inquisition and I'm more than halfway through gameplay. I'm not sure what the rating is, I'm in my 30's, but I haven't found it to be explicit at all. There is romancing, which allows characters to flirt with and court other characters, but it is an optional route and can be avoided entirely if you so desire. To adjust the game to even more "kid friendly" levels, you can go into options and turn off "gore". You won't see any blood shed when your warrior swings his sword around.

If you find a way that better tunes you in, go for it. Like what's been said before, you can't control how others behave (anywhere) but you can manage your own actions. If knitting or crocheting (which is quiet by the way) makes focus better, then do it. If you're bothered by someone that is knitting, crocheting, breastfeeding, or otherwise playing Angry Birds - that is YOUR problem - figure out what YOU can do to better tune in.

Mon clavier n'est pas configure avec cedille. iPhone, oui.

Wow, we're all on the same page here for once. That's refreshing. Some things just don't need to be talked about. I didn't run down the list with my husband of all the men I had ever dated or made stupid choices with. No purpose is served by bringing that stuff up. The only time I'd disclose something of this nature, is if my husband really wanted to know, and it strained our marriage for him not knowing. But addictions, maybe even past traumas like molestation or rape, are discussions worth bringing up with a potential spouse, as these things often leave lasting scars even if we've overcome that trial.

Dialogue is so important. Just because we think it's come and done, it needs to be a conversation.

There's a difference between past mistakes and past addictions. BIG. Some mistakes are less likely to be repeated, but addictions, there's always a possibility of relapse. Might be a courtesy to give those details to a potential spouse.

I would not share that information on a first date and think it unnecessary to share it when casually dating. I think an appropriate time to share that information is when the relationship has become exclusive and you foresee marriage. Of course, you share what details you want when you feel promoted to, but don't overthink it and stress. To answer your question, yes, I believe past struggles are worth mentioning to potential spouses.

This is just a major problem in general. Can't count how many times parents have allowed disruptive kids to remain in movie theatres and restaurants. I'm tolerant of one or two attempts to redirect but indeed there comes a limit when the child needs to be removed.

Yeh, that's crazy. I mean it's an entirely different ball game of crazy when people have "oops babies". I don't understand why in this day and age people aren't wiser in planning.

I'd say becoming pregnant right after having a baby is crazy. One mother in a birth group I was in became pregnant shortly after giving birth. I don't recall how many months it was, but much too soon.