Bini

So Bini, you gonna stay posting on this forum?  You'll remain welcome here, ya know...

Ditto what NeuroTypical says.
 
Love you Bini.

Don't wear them but... Is it wrong to wear garments under clothes and still hate them? At least you're wearing them.

Crypto, I think that depends on your upbringing and culture.

LM, I remember when I first saw that "scare". He's a good sport and encounters crazy stuff almost everyday it seems.
No, he doesn't know me. But he'll do the kiss. I'm certainly not the first fan. To clarify, no saliva will be swapped, at least that's not what I'm planning...
Haha @ TFP! That's a fair trade.

I'm sure I'll get a lot of different opinions on this, which is great, I'd love to hear them. Long story short. I'll be meeting The Walking Dead's, Norman Reedus, and I'm wanting to pose a staged kiss for my photo-op. My friends like the idea but there's been an opinion that it's super inappropriate. Really? I can totally separate reality from "not real", and this, isn't real. It's all done in fun, nothing more. I see little difference from a married actor kissing his on-stage or on-screen costar. None of it's real :) What's your opinion?

I would agree that this situation is not comparable to Ordain Women, mainly because the issue of beard or no beard does not affect LDS doctrine. As for these sort of events being public instead of private, I think it has a lot to do with how society as a whole has changed, wanting to bring current issues to the forefront of social media. This is something both sides of the fence does.

I think our biggest monthly budget area is Costco. It's amazing how much money you drop there stocking up on supplies, but we always go in with a list in hand, so it isn't mindless shopping. Still doesn't change that checkout can be sticker shock sometimes. The idea though, is that stocking up and buying groceries, will help encourage us to eat more healthy at home versus eating out a lot.

I would agree that this situation is not comparable to Ordain Women, mainly because the issue of beard or no beard does not affect LDS doctrine. As for these sort of events being public instead of private, I think it has a lot to do with how society as a whole has changed, wanting to bring current issues to the forefront of social media. This is something both sides of the fence does.

MOE is right. Not worth this discussion on endless loop. Saying that, I always enjoy reading the comments of certain ladies - there's several of you and you should know who you are - you do a great job of being tactful. I don't have the energy to debate over this stuff anymore. If somebody wants to clump all feminists under the same degree, that's really their lack of understanding, and not my problem.

It is difficult, I know. It can mess with your self-esteem. Sometimes you wonder who are the angels and who are not. Those who adopt (and do so for the right reasons)...are those who will reap the rewards of the added family and blessings and whom God will call, "mine good and faithful servant". So as one who knows the blessings and the heartaches and all of the unanswered questions, I will ask that our Father-in-Heaven and he who becomes so by adoption (See Mosiah 5: 7)...because I know the questions that all in yours and my position would want to know.
God Bless You. :)
You and I were lucky to have come into the lives of our parents so young that all we know is their love and little of rejection.
Sunday night my daughter, who was "born of my heart" was talking about a friend who is seeking adoption. My 8 year old granddaughter was getting confused, and went over and whispered into her Mother's ear a question that I knew the answer to already. I told her; "sweetie, I chose your mother to be my child and in so doing gave my life purpose and gave me you as well". It was difficult for any in the room to hold back the tears of joy.

I grew for the fist years of my life with a different last name. When my mother found out that he had married another woman and fathered a child, she started moving toward divorce. By the time I was 5, I had a new father and a new last name...along with my sister and brother. As a result of his actions we found ourselves evicted as he took all the money in their accounts to flee to Texas, as what he did was a crime. There were times I wanted to know what he looked like or what his personality was like. I never did so because I had a wonderful father who adopted my brother and sister.
I found that when my bio-father died that my sister had gone to introduce herself again to him...as her little brother I went to help her get through the funeral. When I met my wife she had a baby girl and her bio-father (my daughter's), because of the great man who made me his own, it a simple thing for me to adopt my oldest daughter. So I approach this as someone who knows what it means to be adopted and as one who did "adopt" my oldest. She is now 40 and has given her mother and I 5 beautiful grandchildren. I can tell you that if my daughter tried to contact her bio-father without telling, it would a serious betrayal!
Also, I still knew where to find my Pa Pa Nation, and could have found him, but again did not feel the need to do this. Later in life I met my half-sister and brother, but it was not like having family. Sometimes it is good to do it just to get the romance (mystery) out of the entire event. So precede with prayer and caution, you above all are the one that could be hurt. But above remember this...trust your parents and seek out their advice.
Hope this helps...
Bill Lee (formally Bill Nation)
Atlanta, GA.

I recently attended a professional conference where one of the presenters was with International Social Service-USA.  The presentation was geared towards finding placements with overseas family members for children who are in state custody, but they also seem to do post-adoption tracings.  Can't vouch for the quality of their work; but if they're doing presentations to lawyers and judges I'd assume they at least aren't a fly-by-night operation. 

I was going to suggest reaching out to Troy Dunn but I'm not sure if he does international situations.  At any rate, best of luck and it's nice to see you here again.

I used fly with a Korean flight attendant who's husband was born in Korea and adopted at a young age. He was raised in the U.S. When they got engaged, cheap flights made it easy for him to return to Korea and look for his birth parents. He ended up finding his mother who bragged to the whole town about her rich American son (American yes..Rich? No) and demanded he care for her. This Korean flight attendant was super irritated that she abandoned her husband and now demanded he care for her, his mother even demanded that she be the one to walk him down the aisle at their wedding and the adoptive American parents reluctantly stepped aside to accommodate her. 
 
I'm not trying to discourage you, but just try to be realistic and understand it might not turn out how you expect. I also feel for your adoptive parents and feel like they are making a mistake by withholding information. Sometimes love means letting go, something most divorced parents have to cope with as children are torn between the two. My sister is supportive of her adoptive daughter in this way and has even taken her to see her brothers and sisters and mother at the age of 10. 
 
I've shared the story about my first wife (Adopted from Thailand) and feel we were led to find the truth about her circumstances. We found the Nurse who was there when she was born and got the story of her parents. We didn't get any names however. 
 
I do think it would be cool for my kids to meet their possible cousins, aunts and uncles and even grandparents in Thailand. If they are interested I will help them do so. I look at my family tree and feel bad that my children are missing half their tree when it comes to tracing their genes. 
 
One bit of advice we were given in Thailand is to contact the media in the birth country, they love a good story and will sometimes provide resources to help you if they can televise the story.
 
Good luck in your search. 

Fasten your seat belt, because it may be a bumpy ride.  I'd also invite you to think hard about how this will affect your real mother and father (not your biological parents).  I have a friend who was adopted and he decided to seek his biological parents in Ireland.  When he found them, he acted as if he had won the lottery... and his adopted parents were very badly hurt.  They are still healing, and my friend is now distant from both sets of parents and is quite miserable.
 
But if I were adopted, I'd be curious, too.  Wishing you well.
 
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/06/magazine/i-found-my-biological-parents-and-wish-i-hadnt.html

Have you tried tracking down the nurse (Moreno)?  Is there a chance that she might have some information?  I wish you the best of luck in this journey!
 
(And I'm glad to see you on here!)

It may not be against the law, but I agree, opposite gender shouldn't be dishing out compliments pertaining to physical appearance in the workplace. Keep it professional. Keep the compliments professional. I would never in my lifetime ever say to a male colleague or employee (if I was his boss): "Hey, nice pants". To me, that's an inappropriate and unnecessary comment to make, regardless, if I was just being friendly.

TFP, not quite so.
 
By definition, murder is to kill or slaughter inhumanely or barbarously. So technically, even taking one's life justified, can still be considered murder.

I dunno, this is a very sensitive and intimate topic, might be closed. I'll just say, there is NEVER a valid reason to engage in infidelity, period. Don't care if you're married or otherwise in a long term committed relationship, it is WRONG.

Watched an hour, two actually, of Forgotten Planet. It's a bit spooky and eerie, as it highlights abandoned towns and cities around the world, and explains the history behind why people fled.
 
ETA: I should mention that these are ghost cities and towns. Really creepy because some of these places are literally paused in time. You'll see homes left with beds unmade, decaying toys, and desolate playgrounds... very interesting though!

I have some thoughts on what Spamlds said.
 
People outside the loop might find the African-American Sunday dress culture to be flamboyant, but that's just what it is, culture. I remember having gone to a funeral of a co-worker, obviously not a joyous occasion, and one of the attending guests who is African-American wore a bright yellow dress with a multi-coloured design flashed across it. This wasn't the first time I'd seen that, however, I'd seen her "Sunday best" type attire before, and typically it was bold and vibrant. If you go to Africa, a lot of their clothing - especially traditional - is very colourful and loud. This isn't mean as a "look at me look at me", it is simply a cultural thing. Just something to keep note of when we see our African and African-American brothers and sisters.

Are heinous sins forgivable? Yes. But is everyone forgiven of them? No.
 
I agree with Anddenex. It depends on various factors, such as; what is your knowledge and understanding of the gospel, have you made covenants with the Lord, and are you genuinely seeking forgiveness through humble repentance? If you've committed rape or murder, and show no remorse, or care not for resolve with the Lord - you won't be forgiven. It's not an automatic thing. At least, not from what I was taught.

Suzie, I know the wiki suggests that droit du seigneu may not have happened, but there is a town in Italy where it was recorded as having happened. I cannot recall the name of it, I could look it up, but I'm sure it's probably Google-able. I wouldn't be surprised if there were other places that have some sort of record of this.

Well, first of all we should discuss if droit du seigneu ever existed. But if we entertain the idea, a simple answer would be a "no". However, those who have issues with Joseph Smith or even Brigham Young marrying women who were already married would say it is a variant of droit du seigneu. However there are several issues with that reasoning:
 
1. There isn't irrefutable evidence that these marriages involved sexual intimacy (specially in Smith's case although I personally believe there was).
 
2. Some of these marriages were merely sealings and these wives continued living with their husbands until they died.