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    Bini got a reaction from Sunday21 in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    I was gifted an Ancestry DNA kit and I just received my results back. It confirmed what I already suspected regarding my ethnicity -- I am 100% Philippines! Now, I am wanting to discover more of who I am but I'm not sure where to start because I'm adopted. To make things more complicated, my birth certificate does not list my biological parents because I was orphaned, so I literally have zero leads into finding close relatives. I did spend the $100 to unlock my matches and the closest relative is 4th Cousin; I looked at their family tree, and because I have no names to work with, it meant nothing to me. What does someone in my situation do?
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    Bini got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    Thanks! I'm in and out, in and out
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    Bini reacted to anatess2 in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    Oh, and Bini... flights to the Philippines on EVA Air from certain parts of the US (IAH in Houston is one) is running for about $700 round-trip in March!
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    Bini reacted to NeuroTypical in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    BTW, Hi Bini!  Good to see you!
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    Bini reacted to anatess2 in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    The documented channels is more than likely not going to work for you.  In cases like these in the Philippines, your best shot is to go to that town and that hospital where you were adopted and start interviewing the entire town.  This is about the only way one can find things like these in the Philippines.  The good thing is... somebody giving up their baby is rare in most parts of the Philippines unless you were born in the Southernmost regions or in regions close to a US military base.  Chances are, a lot of townsfolks would remember the "tale of the baby left at the hospital". 
    And yes, @Just_A_Guy is right... there's a good chance you're going to find a cousin and that will give you an entire clan of relatives who all look like you!  It's amazing how sometimes, seeing a bunch of people with your features kinda gets you to make a lot of sense.  Like, oh, that's why I'm allergic to seafood...
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    Bini got a reaction from Sunday21 in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    I was gifted an Ancestry DNA kit and I just received my results back. It confirmed what I already suspected regarding my ethnicity -- I am 100% Philippines! Now, I am wanting to discover more of who I am but I'm not sure where to start because I'm adopted. To make things more complicated, my birth certificate does not list my biological parents because I was orphaned, so I literally have zero leads into finding close relatives. I did spend the $100 to unlock my matches and the closest relative is 4th Cousin; I looked at their family tree, and because I have no names to work with, it meant nothing to me. What does someone in my situation do?
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    Bini reacted to classylady in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    That is what I would do. I would email them and explain the situation. Right now, there may not be a close family match, but more and more people are getting their DNA done and, who knows, a close family match might just show up on Ancestry in the future.
    Best of luck to you, Bini. I’m hoping you can get some good results and that it won’t take years and years.
    BTW, I did my DNA with Ancestry. I have a lot of close matches, sister and 1st cousins, 2nd cousins, etc. it’s fascinating. I’m thinking that this may be a fairly new idea in the Philippines and not many people have started to request their DNA from there yet. Plus, the cost could be a deterrent. I wanted to do mine years earlier but could never justify the cost. My kit was also a gift. 
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    Bini got a reaction from JohnsonJones in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    That is why I wouldn’t meet any of them. Haha. I just want to find them online and complete my family lineage. 
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    Bini got a reaction from Sunday21 in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    I was gifted an Ancestry DNA kit and I just received my results back. It confirmed what I already suspected regarding my ethnicity -- I am 100% Philippines! Now, I am wanting to discover more of who I am but I'm not sure where to start because I'm adopted. To make things more complicated, my birth certificate does not list my biological parents because I was orphaned, so I literally have zero leads into finding close relatives. I did spend the $100 to unlock my matches and the closest relative is 4th Cousin; I looked at their family tree, and because I have no names to work with, it meant nothing to me. What does someone in my situation do?
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    Bini got a reaction from Just_A_Guy in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    JAG, I was adopted in the Philippines. I was found by a local and brought into a small “hospital” in a very small town. There was never any record of my bio mother or father. The signatures on my birth certificate are of the doctor and his wife who took charge of me, is how I understand it. 
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    Bini got a reaction from JohnsonJones in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    That is why I wouldn’t meet any of them. Haha. I just want to find them online and complete my family lineage. 
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    Bini reacted to Just_A_Guy in Help me with Ancestry DNA!   
    Pshaw.  This is where you email the fourth cousin, and it turns out to be @anatess2, and you’re all set with as many family members as you can stand!  
    Were you adopted in the state of Utah?  Asking the court to unseal the record is usually the first step, but the procedure for that varies from state to state.  If you were adopted from foster care, you might also try a freedom-of-information request from the DCFS-equivalent agency; but that’s sort of a long shot.
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    Bini got a reaction from Fether in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Ugh. Those are the worst kinds of Mormons. People aren’t projects. If I even get an inkling that is what he’s doing, I’ll be gone so fast. I don’t think it’s responsible to get involved with someone just because you want to change them.
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    Bini got a reaction from Vort in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Good to hear. Two babies but not quite baby-babies anymore. Oldest is 7 and youngest is 3! 
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    Bini reacted to Vort in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Pshaw. My oldest is 26, and I still call him my baby. In front of his wife, even.
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    Bini reacted to Maureen in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    IIRC, Bini has a daughter and a son.
    M.
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    Bini got a reaction from Morgaine in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Thanks for your in-depth reply.
    I am fine with others choosing faith and attending church, however, as an atheist I have zero interest in participating in any extent. I suppose further discussion will need to be had if we decide to see each other again, but I don’t want to attend church services, but I am fine if he does. 
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    Bini got a reaction from Fether in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Ugh. Those are the worst kinds of Mormons. People aren’t projects. If I even get an inkling that is what he’s doing, I’ll be gone so fast. I don’t think it’s responsible to get involved with someone just because you want to change them.
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    Bini got a reaction from Fether in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Ugh. Those are the worst kinds of Mormons. People aren’t projects. If I even get an inkling that is what he’s doing, I’ll be gone so fast. I don’t think it’s responsible to get involved with someone just because you want to change them.
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    Bini got a reaction from Morgaine in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    Thanks for your in-depth reply.
    I am fine with others choosing faith and attending church, however, as an atheist I have zero interest in participating in any extent. I suppose further discussion will need to be had if we decide to see each other again, but I don’t want to attend church services, but I am fine if he does. 
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    Bini reacted to anatess2 in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    To answer your question...
    The thing about religion and politics is they both touch on morality and how we want to live our lives.  It's not necessarily the religious or political affiliation that is the issue.  It's the morality/principles/ideology that are behind both of those.
    Two people of very varying, especially conflicting, beliefs on morality/principles/ideology can have very exciting conversations as they traverse their differences and try to understand each other.  The problem is when you get deeper into the relationship and the other person's beliefs start affecting how you want to live your life that it becomes very very dicey.
    So that's where the decision has to be made - on whether you can live with a guy whose morality/principles/ideology affects you on a daily basis.
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    Bini got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    I’m happy to meet him but I’m more or less just trying to decide if there’s any point in meeting. I’m very up front about my wants and needs, and I’m not going to compromise on those. It sounds like we’re likely not a good match long term but maybe this could be a nice friendship. 
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    Bini reacted to Morgaine in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    I feel like it all depends on you and the guy. You can make it work out but it takes two to do so, and a lot of commitment from both sides. One thing to keep in mind is when you are marrying/dating someone of a different faith, that it will be 2x harder to keep the relationship stable than if you were with someone like-minded. Don't get me wrong, people with the same beliefs face their own problems. 
    With that being said, it's good to start out getting to know each other's beliefs on small things. If you two mesh really well and actually have things in common in those topics, then it's easier to move on to getting to know their deeper beliefs. It's good to have this foundation before you follow through with something serious. To make it work out, I would suggest that you get to know each other's things that you have in common and dwell on those. Do things together that you like doing, go to church with him to be supportive (if it doesn't go against your beliefs to attend), etc. And he would need to do the same for you. That's why I stress that making it work needs to come from both sides. 
    Another thing to add (I could go on forever trust me haha I'm trying to refrain myself) is that you need to have some respect for what he believes. You don't have to believe it, but accept that he does and that it's his life. And he must do that for you. This makes it so when he does things to enrich his spiritual life, that you won't get annoyed or angry at him. Vice versa. 
    I hope it works out! LDS guys are great 😀
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    Bini reacted to anatess2 in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    BIIINNNNIIII!!!!!!!!
    Glad to see ya!!!!!!!
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    Bini reacted to Jane_Doe in Your advice to a member wants to court a non-member?   
    LDS lady married to an inactive Evangelical dude here.  We are extremely happy together.  Still--
    Marriage is HARD.  Adding another layer of differences in there makes it harder.  Interfaith marriage is a LOT of work.  I would advise caution about proceeding, along with a lot of extra conversations & reflections (self and together).  You must 100% respect, love each other, and support each other AS THEY ARE-- not as a possible future *if* they change their minds.   My marriage is happy, and I know other interfaith couples that are happy.  I also know lots of couples that have split over these issues and/or had changes of faith.  So proceed with caution.