mrmarklin

If there is any chance of child porn being on a computer you own, you need to consult an attorney. This includes "deleted" files. Deleted files are still on the hard drive. Dealing with child porn is a felony and a federal crime if done on the internet. If your child is dealing with child porn, you need to report him to the proper authorities. And why you are tolerating any of this is a total mystery to me!

Alice Eve is in it. 'Nuff said.

The sad reality is that ArcticTofu is correct. Most people that are inactive are that way due to social reasons. I think using the word "offended" might be too strong for most, however. The reality is that if we don't feel comfortable in a situation we don't tend to stick around. And for better or worse, the church is a very social organization with its own culture, norms etc outside of the formal doctrines.

Smart people buy low and sell high. Most rich people are above average smart, and realize that the market is at all time highs by many measures. Just makes sense to skim some of the cream of the profits.

After two dates there is way too much angst on your part. Just roll with the flow of dating him, if there are other dates that is, and really concentrate on getting to know his character. In relationships of any kind, character counts.

My wife went to see the "Book of Mormon" with a friend. In the program there were three paid ads by the Church for the real Book of Mormon.

IMNSHO you should have stayed out of other's family affairs in the first place. It's really none of your business how a mother and daughter relate who are not related to you. Accept the apology, and go to dinner.

The three prime rules of real estate are: Location Location Location If your new house is in a better area with more appreciation potential, you should buy it, and relocate. Don't drain your 401k if it has any significant $$ in it. That's a waste to send your hard earned $$ to some government. 401ks are a very efficient way to save, and are tax sheltered until you retire, so don't mess it up now. Based on your own statements, you are not landlady material. I would advise you to sell you current residence, and move. If there is cash left over from your downpayment, you can also invest that, or alternatively just have a lower mortgage. Interest rates for homeowners are at historical lows. Be sure to get a fixed rate.

Have you considered re marraige to a good woman in the church? Having a companion can certainly smooth out the rough spots.

It's certainly a choice in the vast majority of cases. How spititual it is YMMV.

If by leaving the church we're talking about name removal, I doubt that this is going on in large numbers. Inactivity is a large problem. But it is in any organization. I have been in leadership roles in other "volunteer" organizations, and can say that the 20-80 rule is in full force and effect. The church is no different, although in general, considering the types of oaths and vows taken it should be. I've also been in leadership in the church, and can say that the vast majority of so called inactives will readily, easily, and even proudly affirm that they are Mormons. In general they like the church. Just like the other volunteer organization inactives do. Having been abroad, I would venture to say that the vast majority of hard core inactives are in foreign countries where the church infrastructure and leaderships capabilities are not as strong as here in the US. It's interesting to note that when I went on my mission there were 20k missionaries and 2million members of the church. There are now over 14 million members of the church but only around 60k missionaries. Based on sheer "growth" of the church it would seem that it should be able to send a proportionate share of missionauies in the field. Obviously, this is not the case, hence the concern in Salt Lake.

Here in the SF bay area we have two teams each of Pro Football and Baseball. Hockey, basketball and soccer are also here. I've been to all except soccer. These pro athletes are really something special.

You have obviously never been to Europe. All my German and other European friends would like to know the source of your information!!!!! Of course a used Benz could cost more than a new Toyota. Does here in the US too.

I'm in business, and I have a moral aversion to ever paying cash for any depreciable item. So I have no problem with vehicle debt. For most of us a vehicle is a necesity. I too live near a big city where many people don't own cars. There are services for very short term rentals for when a vehicle is necessary to travel out of town. Check into it. I see these vehicle all over. It's a lot cheaper than actually owning a car when all is said and done. If I didn't have to own a car, I wouldn't.

Only love at first sight I have ever experienced were my children and grandchildren.:)

This.:)

Attend Sacrament and go to the party. But don't have any fun.

Am I the only one who thinks that this whole "relationship" (if you can call it that) stinks??? What part of dysfunctional do I have to describe to say to stay away from this woman??? Is the world gone mad???

This is not a relationship made in heaven. You are ignoring a lot of red flags in this relationship, and I'm only reading YOUR side of it!! Move On. Plenty of fish in the sea.

A person who would give you such an ultimatum is the love of your life??? Can someone - anyone explain this in a rational manner to me???? I really have a hard time with this. OP, I hope you never have children with this man, because you are heading for a life of big problems.

I don't know how old you were when you got married, and I'm sorry for your situation. But I was too young, and didn't see the red flags (actually I saw them, but didn't recognize the significance). Not sure I would recognize them now if I hadn't gone through what we have done together, because I read a lot of things that ordinarily I wouldn't. I'm very lucky, as we have been able to have a long and now better marraige because some of the things that caused problems such as finances, etc are now off the table as arguing points.

Begin in the church of course!! That is usually the source of most people who you would want to date. And the church has a lot of activities that lead to friendships, and ultimately dating and marraige.:) Next would be to join a club that meets your personal needs and interests. Again, these organizations lead to friendships etc. in a totally non-threatening way. And even better, you'll have something in common with the people you meet. I joined a hobby club 25 years ago (not for marraige purposes, I was already married)and it has been the source of very good friendships literally all over the world for both myself and my wife.

Well, Parakeet My intention was not to offend, but perhaps help others. We all make decisions in life, and most of us marry too young to understand the consequences of the choices we may make. I realize that it's not my wife's fault that she is the way she is. If it wasn't for the church she could only have been worse. She doesn't have the attributes of the OPs wife (a very common attribute in these cases), but there are certainly other behaviors that if I had been able to see the signs (which were there) before I was married I would have avoided. After all who would knowingly marry someone with a behavior such as Tourettes for example?? Maybe some would, but not me. There are enough problems in life, that to deliberately enter into them seems a little silly. Yeah, 20-20 hindsight is very enlightening.

This is some of my point. Why would anyone marry in this artificial environment (of college)? I did it, and the road was not easy. A son of mine did it and he is now divorced. Marrying young is a problem because most of us don't have the savvy to evaluate our future spouses. We make assumptions out of our own fairly narrow life experiences. But even at that symptoms can be discerned. Does he go to class on time and regularly? Have a part time job that he does well in? Obviously, books have been written about this.

She probably does deserve better. I'm not perfect. What I meant was that knowing what I know now, I wouldn't have brought that type of personality into my home. Why would anyone? There are a lot of good people out there without these sorts of issues. However, I can say that we have worked through these problems and are still married. More than some can say.