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You mentioned she is married, what about the husband? Is she receiving medical treatment to deal with her health anxiety? (and I assume there are also other problems such as depression or even OCD). I believe the Bishop and the members can help. Can the ward organize something with regards to transportation for this lady when she comes to Church or activities or is it that they do not wish to do so because she behaves a little different than the rest?

Can we get a little background information about the person in question? Male/female/age/diagnosis if you know?

From the set of quotes I posted earlier: Basically, don't even start thinking about marriage until you can take care of a family and be independent. It does not mean, you will have to wait until you are wealthy but it does not mean either that you will be foolish enough to get married, have children and you do not have the means to take care of them financially (basic needs) and otherwise. I think this quote summons up what the Church feels about the topic.

Some good quotes to keep in mind as well that come from the Eternal Marriage Student manual revised in 2003: https://www.lds.org/manual/eternal-marriage-student-manual/mate-selection?lang=eng

No need to apologize. :)

Issue? No lol. I assure you, I do not. I asked a simple question and you was kind enough to answer it and I thanked you and ended right there for me so..it's all good The Folk Prophet.

Oh great, thanks. For some reason after reading the follow up comments I had the impression there was an issue with him/her sharing his/her personal opinion/advise. Thanks for clarifying.

I am very concerned after reading this Quinn. Is your son living with your ex-husband at the present time?

If I was you, I wouldn't be in a rush to get married just because everyone else is doing it or what is worse, if you feel pressured to find someone and tie the knot. Since you didn't have the opportunity to socialize much due to your health issues, I think it would be very important to get to know people and make some friends. Just be yourself and try to have a good time.

Even though I understand that this counsel is not in line with the counsel of the Church as you pointed out, I am wondering what is wrong with omega sharing his/her personal advise? Maybe I misunderstood but I thought the OP just asked for advise rather than asking what is the Church stance on the issue?

1. How exactly intellectuals deny the full concept of the Priesthood? (if you believe so, I would be interested in reading your opinion if you do not mind sharing) 2. If we believe as you said that some fall short of the mark, then we can say that some also do not look beyond it. The problem seem to lie in the generalization.

Thanks for sharing. I believe having a healthier, happier, less-anxious, less-stressed father and husband for your family is more of a priority than young children leaving behind a few friends. I understand they are your kids and that you do not want to disappoint them. You seem like a sensitive and caring father, having said that I believe your health IS a priority and whatever is needed to be done in order to get you back at a point where you can function better and be happier and healthier, well..needs to be done whether it means, going back to therapy, trying new meds, moving, changing doctors or asking for a release of your present calling. Your first responsibility is towards yourself, it is not selfishness.When you feel good about yourself you are able to serve better and more effectively to your family, friends and others including Church members. Depression is an illness and as much as I believe in the power of the Priesthood, God also blessed us with the use of medicine and good doctors to help us deal with these challenges. Remember also that depression is sometimes disguised as anxiety in almost 70% of the time and there are many triggers. If you don't know what are those triggers, your therapist can also help you recognize them. It seems like you have been struggling with depression for a long time which could have a bio-chemical cause rather than a situational cause and the proper use of medication to treat it would have a dramatic improvement in your present lifestyle. Also, a very important element to remember is that depression affects the entire family specially your spouse so she is also in need of some counseling. Whatever you decide to do, remember you need to feel better in order to accomplish all the things you want to do including family and Church callings. Right now, I believe your first priority is about feeling better about yourself and help for your family. The rest can wait. All the best. :)

We seem to play the game differently. We don't count prayers in our game and believe me or not, very few times I hear the word "Jesus" in Sacrament meeting, I am not trying to be critical but just factual.

Hi JacoJohnson, can you please tell us a little bit more about how exactly are you feeling since you was called to the bishopric? What exactly makes you anxious and depressed? What makes you feel inadequate? Examples? Thanks.

I can think Pam said it all. People confuse testimony meeting with "let me catch you up with my life". When my kiddos were younger in order to keep them somewhat quiet, I would choose a "magic" word in Church so everytime a speaker mentioned that word and they quietly told me about it, they would get a tiny M&M. Testimony meetings were the worst because if the magic word was "Jesus", it was hardly ever said. Yes, they were upset.

When my oldest son was a baby, we went to the house of a good friend who is Hindu. I cannot recall the name of the celebration but they had objects representing Hindu Gods all around the house. My son in a matter of seconds, ran towards one of the objects and broke it. My heart literally sank because I wasn't very familiar with how Hindus perceive these things. They were very understanding but I wanted to leave right away after that. It was hard.

Thanks for all the replies so far. Eowyn, that's my fear: you know, to cut my hair and then regret and wait for my hair to grow back. I am not sure what I am going to do yet!

It is true that it doesn't say she was divorced from them but I find interesting that when Jesus asked her to call her husband, she only answered what was asked of her (she didn't lie but at the same time, she clearly did not want to disclose the fact that she was living with someone that wasn't her husband. Also, I find interesting when she goes to the city and talks to the men there, she says: "Come, see a man, which told me all things that ever I did".

In my opinion, we have been blessed with certain faculties for a purpose which is to prayerfully study, analyze, dissect if necessary and come to our own conclusions after much analysis and prayer. It is a combination of both, study and faith. When we talk about Mormon intellectuals (generally speaking) we seem to assume that the persons in this group only believe what sciences such as Psychology, Sociology or Philosophy has to say about certain issues and they disregard completely the Scriptures. It is not so. Real intellectuals use a combination of both. The article is very generic. Overemphasizing the importance of personal revelation? One can say that those against Mormon Intellectualism overemphasize that once a General Authority has spoken, the discussion is over and we shouldn't question at all their words. Overemphasizing the importance of "Thus said the Lord"? One can say that those against Mormon Intellectualism overemphasize that once a General Authority has spoken, he speaks for the Lord. Overemphasizing the importance of Church history? One can say that those against Mormon Intellectualism overemphasize that when you are studying certain topics about Church history, you are given a warning that you are in the road towards Apostasy because of course, you cannot be a good member in good standing and study the good and the ugly in Church history. The best part is when you discuss a certain topic in Church history and you are given raised eyebrows and suspicious looks and someone asks: Have you been reading Anti-Mormon literature? Overemphasizing the fallibility of Prophets? One can say that reminding ourselves the responsibility to pray and seek confirmation from the Holy Spirit after hearing the words of the Prophet it is vital to our eternal/spiritual journey. In conclusion, I believe we can achieve a balance in both. One OR the other isn't a solution. One OR the other does not demonstrate "greater" faith or "greater" understanding. We aren't a cult, we are Christ's Church.

I didn't understand this part. 32K more missionaries from developed countries will have ipads and pay for it? What about missionaries in underdeveloped countries?

My hair is long, I have been trying to let it grow because I really love long hair. I like that straight and at the same time loose curls ends. I am going to the hairdresser soon and I would like to do a subtle ombre :) I am in my 30's (still lol) but was wondering, is there a particular age where you think women should keep their hair medium or short in length or age doesn't really matter?

Hey! You just read my mind, I was now going to post about it and was wondering the same thing! I don't like that ring at all, not sure why, kind of creep me out. x_x

If he is in a good mood, he will probably quote you this: If he is in a bad mood, he will probably just kick your behind.

I have this quote of Holland I really like . It is not about modesty but touches a bit at the end what you just shared.

Better be ready to talk with Benson on the other side of the veil.