classylady

I don't know what to call it either. I've heard some call it "Heaven Day", or the day they became an Angel, etc. When the "anniversary" of my daughter's death comes around I usually like to post some remembrance photos of her on Facebook. My husband and I always mention it to one another. It's like we can't help but remember. It's a day that is engraved upon our souls. My father died when I was a young child. His death date will come and go and I don't necessarily remember it. I think, because I was so young, that his death has just been incorporated into my life. Yet, his death affects me to this day. I have missed so much in growing up without a father. I love him and look forward to meeting him again on the other side, and hopefully, really get to know him. We grieve because we have loved. There is never a "getting over" it. I will never get over the death of my daughter. I will miss her until the day I die. I look forward to when I can hold her in my arms again and give her a hug. I look forward to telling her how much I love and missed her. Most days, I am fine, but there are days when the grief can overwhelm me and I will cry and cry. Those are the days I "hole-up" in my bedroom. It's been twelve years.

This is why the written word is so difficult to understand. I did not read this comment as being sarcastic, but took it at face value. I do believe that a lot of Christ like love, compassion, and understanding has gone into this discussion. I think we are being wonderful examples of the Lord's church. We may not be perfect, but I think that over-all most are trying to be understanding.

The articles I read have been placed on Facebook and it catches my attention there. I read quite of a lot of them that way. I rarely go directly to lds.net to read articles.

Being on the forums here has taught me a lot. I have learned that I better know how to back up any statements I make. I remember in one of my very early posts I had mentioned something that I believed was church doctrine, and I was immediately asked where I had heard this, and would I please show documentation or references. I was completely at a loss. It was just something I had assumed and had heard somewhere. It's been good for me to research and find answers. And, I have actually learned that Classylady doesn't know everything about the Church, there's a lot out there I can learn, and there are people on these forums that I have learned a lot from. Thank you, all.

Vort, I wish I had read your earlier discourse on the Europa Report. Maybe, then I would have been more prepared for the fact that everyone dies!!! An acquaintance of mine had also extolled the virtues of The Europa Report, and along with their recommendation and yours, I decided to watch it last night. I was totally unprepared that everyone dies!!! As you say, it was a very good movie. I wouldn't call it great, but it was good. But, I don't like movies where everyone dies!!!

I come from Mormon stock where both maternal and paternal lines have been in the church for generations. Much of the genealogy is done. Verification of dates and information is still important. For me personally, I love reading the journals of some of my ancestors. This brings me closer to them and I can see similarities with their personality and mine. I feel a kinship and appreciation for them that I never felt before. I have had several deeply spiritual experiences regarding temple work needing to be done for extended family members. One was a cousin who died when she was 13 years old. Her family was not active. And, for those of us who were active we never thought of getting her Initiatory and Endowment work done. Shortly after my grandfather passed away, when I was meditating about wanting more spiritual experiences, I had a distinct impression come into my mind, (and I knew it was from my grandfather), that this particular cousin needed her temple work done. I remember jumping up and running to the phone to ask my grandmother if she knew if anyone had done the temple work. Long story short, I submitted her name for the temple work. Some 30 plus years later, I was able to be her proxy as we sealed her to her parents who had by then passed away. About one year ago, I attended the funeral of the father of my son's brother-in-law. So, no blood line for me. That night after the funeral I could not sleep. As I lay in bed for hours, trying to sleep, I was going over the funeral in my mind. This family was also not very active. Now both parents were deceased of this particular family member, and he also had a brother who had passed away about 2 years before that. And I got to thinking, I wonder if that son had his temple work done, and now that both parents were dead, we could seal him to his parents. I got super energized thinking about it, which of course kept sleep further away. We were able to get permission to have the temple work reserved, and we are working on going to the temple to get it done within a month or two. I believe the Spirit of Elijah was working on me in this case. Also, we have come to find out that there is a family connection on my husband's side to the mother of this young man. So, now my son knows that he is related to his brother-in-law. The reason I share these two experiences is that we often think, "oh, the genealogy is already done for my family", but there may be recent family members from less active branches of the family who need their temple work done, and often times permission is granted to have the temple work done by less active members. Another way I do Family History is by scanning all the old and new family photos I can find into the computer. And, then I share them with extended family on FaceBook or in any way I can. There have been many family members who have been very grateful to receive copies, even if it's only on the computer. I also have requested the Patriarchal Blessings from Church Headquarters of my deceased Grandparents, G.Grandparents, and so on. It has been very rewarding to read these blessings.

This forum is to build up the Mormon faith, not to denigrate it.

And, they do get caught. Eventually, they make some mistake and we (the mods) catch it. And, then they are banned. So, if anyone is reading this and actually thinking of doing it. Don't!!

My grandson is 12 and we still have to remind him to shower. He is at that age where his armpits start to stink if he doesn't shower. We buy him deodorant, but it seems like it just sits on the bathroom shelf and he doesn't use it. If we don't tell him to take a shower he won't. So, we remind, and we cajole. I have him smell his armpits, and he says "yuck". But, it still hasn't made much of an impact. When he gets out of the shower, I will have to "smell" him, because he doesn't wash. He just stands under the shower, and might only wash his hair. He has come out of the shower and his armpits still stink. This particular grandson has Asperger's (high-functioning), so I don't know if this has something to do with it, or if it's just his personality.

https://www.lds.org/liahona/2015/10/joseph-the-seer?cid=HP_TU_10-27-2015_dPFD_fLHNA_xLIDyL2-4_〈=eng This article goes into great depth on the seer stone, the urim-and-thummin, and how the Book of Mormon was brought forth. Good read.

Vort, I totally agree. Halloween is the favorite holiday of several of my adult children. I, personally don't get it. I don't mind the trick-or-treating, or even the costumes (as long as they are not extreme) for the kids. Now, there are Halloween parties for adults and the adults get all dressed up in expensive costumes. It's become a big holiday! The homes are decked out in expensive displays. I used to put up a few decals on the window when my kids were young, but that's about it. IMO, Halloween has become a "Nightmare"!

Bini, my feelings would be hurt if I was in your shoes. If the issue is truly her OCD, would it be possible to get a motel room? Is there any other family in the area where you could stay? I wouldn't want to miss a family get-together.

Family favorite would be oven beef roast, mashed potatoes and gravy, green salad, and hot rolls from the oven. The rolls are usually the Rhodes frozen rolls.

Often times, after the death of both parents, children of divorced parents will seal their parents together so they (the children) can be sealed to their parents in order to have the blessings of the sealing covenant in their lives. It's also done in Family History for the same reason--in order for the children to be sealed to their parents. This is sort of answered in the last paragraph of this Ask Gramps question. http://askgramps.org/4297/can-a-member-have-their-non-member-family-sealed-to-them

Congratulations to you and your family! Now your marriage is more than just a hope and a prayer, it is an eternal commitment!

Does your Ward have your membership records? The ordinance dates should be on your membership records and you can ask the clerk in your ward to help you with the dates.

I loved all the talks. For some reason this conference, whenever President Eyring talked, and he would get choked up, I would just start crying. I felt the Spirit so strongly with his talks.

Windseeker, if I remember correctly you have custody of your children. Do you think your daughter has issues due to your divorce to her mother, and you being the custodial parent? She may be in a lot of emotional pain due to her mother not having custody. This may be her way of lashing out. It may be that she is in so much emotional pain that she can't understand how a loving Heavenly Father can allow this to happen. My husband had custody of his two children from his previous marriage. It was extremely hard on my stepdaughter, more so than her brother, though, they both have issues. My stepdaughter understands intellectually why her father had custody, but emotionally, even though she is now 38 years old, it is still very painful for her. Even, as an adult, like a young child, she still wishes her parents were together. She won't admit that, but her behavior is often like a small child wishing her parents weren't divorced. And, to this day, she feels like her biological mother wasn't "there" for her. I understand why my stepdaughter has emotional issues. How could she not have issues when she believes her mother more or less abandoned her? She will tell us she's okay. But, she is not. She has a good relationship with her biological mother now, but she has those abandoned feelings from when she was a young child. I don't know if your daughter is having similar issues like my stepdaughter. But, I would imagine she most likely would. Your daughter needs to know of your love for her. She needs to know that her biological mother loves her, or at least cares about her to the best that she is capable of doing. And, I agree with the other posters that she needs professional help. I wish we would have gotten help for my stepdaughter, but we didn't know how much she was suffering. She was a prickly pear all those years and never shared her true feelings. I still feel guilty that we didn't know this.

I imagine the Lord is very much interested in what is said here. I look at this site as a missionary tool to both members and nonmembers alike. I know I'm not perfect, but, I do try to temper my postings and say what the Lord would have me say. I often pray about what I say here on the site, and as I type, I often ask, "is this what You would want me to say? Please help guide me."

I served a mission in Europe many years ago. Prior to going on my mission I dyed my hair to a strawberry blonde color (my natural color is light brown). While on my mission, the only way I could maintain the color job was to do it myself. And, even then, after a short time in the mission field, I got tired of the time it took to do it. There were more important things I wanted to do. So, I went back to my natural hair color. I would never have expected a missionary companion to sit at a salon while I had my hair done, and that is exactly what they would have had to do. After my mission I went back to coloring my hair on occasion. I do highlights to this day. Also, keep in mind, depending on where you are sent, you may not have access to hair color. And, I don't know if there are mission rules on the matter. Things may have changed since I was on my mission.

I remember it well. I was working for the Church at the Church Office Building in the Genealogy Department. My Supervisor brought all of us together and read the announcement with tears in his eyes. I felt the Spirit very strongly and was grateful to know the Priesthood was now available to every worthy male.

I haven't gone to all my class reunions, but the ones I have attended were awesome. For the five year, most of my classmates had matured and the cliques seemed to have disappeared. We were all just glad to see one another. The ten year reunion was fairly unremarkable, but still enjoyed meeting and talking. Then I was pregnant for my 15 and 20 year reunions--like ready to have the baby any day, so didn't dare travel out of town to attend. Finally made it back for the 40 year reunion in 2013. I was so glad I attended. I was able to reconnect with a dear friend who had moved back East to live with relatives after graduation. (His mother committed suicide on the night of our graduation, leaving a note saying now that her son was 18 he could care for the two younger siblings). It was tragic. Anyway, it was so good to see him, and give him a big hug. The following Wednesday after the reunion, he had an embolism and died. I would have regretted not seeing him one last time before his death.

I know that my church leaders are human and have human frailties. So, I guess by that I am not a hero worshipper. But, I love my leaders and appreciate their inspired messages and try to follow the counsel given even though I fall short. I do not look for faults in them. Why would I do that? It makes no sense to me. We all have weaknesses. Something that has been going through my head on this is that when I meet my Maker, I would rather be a hero worshipper than one who was always finding fault with my church leaders.

Eowyn, was you ward split?

For awhile, we did not have a land-line. We have since found a very inexpensive way to have one. The only reason we have the land-line is because my grandson is very often with us and I want him to have a way to contact us or 911 if needed.