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You wrote about the issue of money here as your primary topic.  But I'm also seeing other red flags of lying, vastly different goals, and poor communications.  My recommendation is martial counseling to help you two improve communication and get back on the same page for life goals.  Once that root problem is fixed, the accessary problem (kids & money) will be much less of a mess.

First - Sorry you're dealing with this.  It's unfortunate that your kids are being enabled, crippled and stunted in their growth.  Some good insights have already been shared but I'm wondering if the underlying issue is that if your wife doesn't 'help' them with money, that she won't feel needed and/or loved by them.  I also see the kids as part of the problem. They are way too comfortable accepting all this 'help' so I would be asking them some questions.  Maybe they think mom will feel slighted if they turn it down so they don't or maybe they see Sam getting money and they don't think it's fair if they don't get their piece of the pie as well.  There are a myriad of possibilities but I think some discussions need to be had. Money issues usually aren't about money so I hope you can work through whatever the issues really are.  

I would also say that as much heartbreak as it is-let the kid starve.  I'm actually surprised this is an option though as if my kids ever forget their lunches the school forces them to eat the cafeteria lunch and then bills us; and since we already provided the kids with lunch that they just forgot-the bill gets passed to them in a form of fine taken from their allowance :-) 
It won't kill them, kids don't need that much to eat-the young ones anyways, if mom wants kid to have snacks she can send them.  Really, you could probably buy enough snacks for the kid for a week @ $10.  If they really are that poor, that's what Church is for (or since they probably don't go to church they can go on the dole and get welfare/WICA and suck on taxpayer money).
Now if you see that the child is getting emaciated, etc. clearly from not having enough food-that is another story entirely and that is when the Christlike thing to do is to step in and figure out what is going on for the kids health sake.

I understand.  I agree with zil, there is a better way to approach it.
There have been some very good articles on mormonhub, like:
https://mormonhub.com/blog/faith/learning-surrender-gods-will/
but contrast the above to this article.  The approach, the overall messaging, completely different articles, but in many ways related.  Ultimately, a PB is about learning to surrender to what God would have us do in this life-even if it is just to live a plain ol' boring life, go on a mission, raise a family, or even if he doesn't give us a whole lot of instructions.  Some PBs might contain a whole slew of things, some might not, but ultimately it is about learning to surrender ourselves to what God wants us to do in our lives.
And my guess is that if one does have an awe-inspiring PB, when you are young it might seem cool and awesome but the older you get the more weight and responsibility you might feel.  If it said, "you will one be called as a prophet" a young kid will say oh that's awesome!! and then as he matures it might be, "wow, that is heavy-how can I possibly live up to that" and then it might even crush him. I trust in what the Lord tells each one of use through the PB-if it is "plain" for some reason it is that way; but I don't think being "plain" is bad.  We learn (if we stay worthy in this life) that we are all if we live worthily Kings, Priests, Queens, Priestesses, etc.  
What could be more awesome than that!!  And when we boil it all down, what could be better in life than living a simple Christ centered life, focused on raising a righteous family? Everything and anything else we do in life should always be appendages to raising a righteous family.
 

I think it could be more comforting without the negative attitude.

Noted.

Again . . .what kind of drivel is this?  You guys are really putting out crap articles.
Snowflake generation . . .everyone must be the most awesome, most stupendous person ever . .. everyone will bow at your feet b/c your so awesome.  Oh, you mean I'm actually just a regular guy trying to make it in this world and that the most important things I can do are to raise a righteous family . .. boring!! Life sucks, I hate everything b/c I'm not God's gift to the world!!! 
And in order to pronounce my frustration at how I'm not God's gift to the world I'll write an article and I'll title it "I HATE my Patriarchal Blessing".  Well maybe that is your problem there-your attitude.  Maybe God decided not to give you more insight b/c of your attitude . . . . Why does everything have to be so drama filled these days?
Please, spare me the drivel. 

While I agree that he puts some good ideas in the second part of his talk, nowhere does he revoke or discourage the attitude of hate.  In addition to this showing ingratitude, it reminds me of all those times in the Book of Mormon wherein some wicked person(s) "stir[red] up the hearts of men with anger".  So you're disappointed with your own blessing.  Take it to the Lord in humility.  Cast that burden at his feet and ask him to teach you to read between the lines, to be grateful for what you have received, that you had the gospel in your life, etc.  Don't go inflaming others to think maybe they also should hate the Lord's blessings.

whoa . . . I speak turkish now!!! Awesome I hope it compliments my Spanish!  
Oh wait . . .that is just google translate-darn.  It's still cool to see what I wrote translated into turkish.

Environmentalism is a religion, and Earth Day is its holiest pseudo-holy day. Environmentalism is a little like feminism, in that when you hear (some) people describe it, it sounds perfectly reasonable and even good. But seeing the reality tells you just how off the popular descriptions are.

hello everyone.ı'm from izmir in turkey.ı've been attending meetings since 3 mounths.There is no church in here.I found this site while researching on the internet and I think this site will be useful for me.
 

Again . . .what kind of drivel is this?  You guys are really putting out crap articles.
Snowflake generation . . .everyone must be the most awesome, most stupendous person ever . .. everyone will bow at your feet b/c your so awesome.  Oh, you mean I'm actually just a regular guy trying to make it in this world and that the most important things I can do are to raise a righteous family . .. boring!! Life sucks, I hate everything b/c I'm not God's gift to the world!!! 
And in order to pronounce my frustration at how I'm not God's gift to the world I'll write an article and I'll title it "I HATE my Patriarchal Blessing".  Well maybe that is your problem there-your attitude.  Maybe God decided not to give you more insight b/c of your attitude . . . . Why does everything have to be so drama filled these days?
Please, spare me the drivel. 

Well let's see considering this is the same author that wrote the following articles:
https://mormonhub.com/blog/buzz/congrats-trib-pulitzer-prize/ (no need to comment on this trash as the Trib is pretty anti.) and
https://mormonhub.com/blog/life/celebrating-earth-day/
Celebrating Earth Day like a Mormon?  For real?  Do you even know the history behind earth day?
http://www.briansussman.com/environment/earth-days-real-history/
http://www.wnd.com/2012/04/do-you-know-why-earth-day-is-april-22/
In other words, Earth Day was sponsored and promoted by Communists to celebrate Vladimir Lenin's 100th birthday.  It was promoted by a man who had just written "The Population Bomb"-in 1970 and likened the Human Race to a cancer that was getting out of control and how we should control the Earth's population.  Nothing but evil in those opinions.
Is this guy just a useful idiot for the left or does he really believe these things? 
I think your authors need to do some more research before they start writing moronic articles and MormonHub should do a better job screening who writes for them.

Translation:  I hate what God has decided I need to know in order to achieve His purposes for my life.

Ah. A clue into what's going wrong in the world.

Not to mention how offensive it is to treat something so very sacred with such flippancy.

Again . . .what kind of drivel is this?  You guys are really putting out crap articles.
Snowflake generation . . .everyone must be the most awesome, most stupendous person ever . .. everyone will bow at your feet b/c your so awesome.  Oh, you mean I'm actually just a regular guy trying to make it in this world and that the most important things I can do are to raise a righteous family . .. boring!! Life sucks, I hate everything b/c I'm not God's gift to the world!!! 
And in order to pronounce my frustration at how I'm not God's gift to the world I'll write an article and I'll title it "I HATE my Patriarchal Blessing".  Well maybe that is your problem there-your attitude.  Maybe God decided not to give you more insight b/c of your attitude . . . . Why does everything have to be so drama filled these days?
Please, spare me the drivel. 

Again . . .what kind of drivel is this?  You guys are really putting out crap articles.
Snowflake generation . . .everyone must be the most awesome, most stupendous person ever . .. everyone will bow at your feet b/c your so awesome.  Oh, you mean I'm actually just a regular guy trying to make it in this world and that the most important things I can do are to raise a righteous family . .. boring!! Life sucks, I hate everything b/c I'm not God's gift to the world!!! 
And in order to pronounce my frustration at how I'm not God's gift to the world I'll write an article and I'll title it "I HATE my Patriarchal Blessing".  Well maybe that is your problem there-your attitude.  Maybe God decided not to give you more insight b/c of your attitude . . . . Why does everything have to be so drama filled these days?
Please, spare me the drivel. 

I suppose I could offer a somewhat cheerful case. I had a buddy I grew up with, always in the church. One day in adulthood he announced he was leaving the Church, he and his wife. So, yeah, they left the church, though the neighborhood rumor mill suggested it was largely the wife's idea and he was going along with it to preserve the marriage. Same rumor mill continued to say the marriage was still rocky despite a husband LEAVING THE CHURCH to please his wife. A couple of years' later, she divorced him and pretty much threw full custody of the children on him (for those anti-church folk who haunt these boards, I'm sorry, but in my personal experience I have yet to know anyone who was left the church and not abandoned their family in the same breath). So... he returned to church and has since remarried in the temple. 
It's difficult being married to someone of a different faith and seemingly even more difficult if the spouse doesn't even like your faith. 
Not saying, OP, you can't make this work if he repents of his adultery, but it will be difficult for you. And this is your decision to be made with prayer and discussion with your husband and bishop. I don't think many would judge you harshly either outcome.

When I was a teenager, I often lied to my parents. I was gone with girlfriends. And came too late because "the bus had been delayed". We wanted to have longer fun. As a teenager, parents are seen as annoying, paternal and old-fashioned. Until we become parents. Parents of teenagers. Then we understand our own parents better.

Four. She just miscarried their fifth.

Basically, the deeper you dig into Western feminism, the more of a cesspit it becomes. 
Too many figures at the top are corrupt to the core, and too many rank-and-file are Tumblr princesses or special snowflakes who don't understand life outside of their bubble. 

I actually have a daughter, and I don't want her to dream about any of those things -- except being a mom. I want her to strive to be a wife to a good, caring Priesthood holder and the mother of nations. I almost literally could not care less what she studies in college or what she does to earn money, as long as it's moral.
A woman's place is in the home. That's where I hope my daughter puts her heart. (The same holds true for my sons, by the way.)

And thus the destruction of society  . . . I want my daughters growing up to believe that the most important job they can and will ever do is raising a righteous generation. Nothing, they do in life will ever come close to that monumental, sacred task. I want my son to grow up believing the most important job he can ever have is to lead his family in righteousness towards God.  That no job he will ever do will make up for a lack of him being a proper leader, mentor, provider in his family.
The above is (and I don't mean offense MG) is the modern secular humanistic view of the world-that it is important to do something "great", that being whatever you want is good.
Except that every single one of us will die at some point-life is very, very short and very transitory.  God cares not if we are "great men/women" in the eyes of the world. God cares whether we have done our best to learn to become like Him and whether we have learned the right lessons on this Earth.  And those lessons do not include "being whatever you want to be" but "how do I emulate my Savior more and then how do I teach that to others?".
I work to provide for my family-not for the praise and gain of the world.  It is a difference of world-view.  One is very secular and humanistic; the other is a focus on the things of God.

No, the best thing for your children's sake is to be raised in a home where father/mother are first husband/wife.  Children have a right to be raised by parents who are more committed to each other than they are to the children. The best thing for your children is to be raised by both a man and a woman who are committed to each other in a relationship called marriage. In an ideal circumstance this would mean by the individuals who created them, in a less ideal circumstance by individuals who love them as if they created them.
Oh he knows, he just doesn't want to either admit it to himself or tell you.  Over time something happened to your marriage and to his faith. . . I actually do not believe that he is being a coward by suddenly proclaiming he is leaving the Church.  My guess is that inside quite a while ago-he had already left the Church and God, but simply went through the motions b/c it's what you do.  It was probably the same thing with the marriage-he did it b/c it is what you do, but somewhere along the way he stopped doing it with feeling and eventually he just "snapped".  The road to Hell is paved one brick at a time. Nobody in a marriage just wakes up and says "Today I'm going to commit adultery!"
He was already dead inside (and the marriage) before the actual adultery and before he decided to leave the Church-it's very possible that the first part in the deadening dealt with pornography. 
I disagree with the others that say don't feel sorry for him.  I say I don't know how you can't not feel remorse, sadness and sorrow. He is someone you were planning to spend eternity with, raise children with, grow old with and now all of that is turned on its' head and may never come to pass.
Personally, I've never really gotten the emotions of revenge or hatred towards those who have given away their birthright. More than anything, I have a profound sense of sadness for the potential that was but may never be realized and for the very, very rough road all the affected parties must now travel. He is solely responsible for his adultery and for that he will have to answer to God; but you are both responsible for a failed marriage and that can be quite a shocker.
What should you do now . . . only God can answer that question.