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    You need to let them have the needed time to work through their mourning.
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    Ok, we got to back up way up here-- First @LewisC, your children are still mourning the loss of their mother -- which is a completely different feeling that you mourning the loss of your wife. Be there for them. Build that relationship. Visibly honor their mother, and their mourning. You got to be there for them. Listen to each one individually. Don't ever try to forcefully speed up any one of their grieving process and working through things. This comes first and foremost. Next, there is this idea of each of them welcoming another adult woman into thier temporal lives (not even talking about sealing yet). This woman will never ever be their mother. But the idea of you marrying her is... obviously unsettling. Yes, you can and have found another woman you love. But they will never have another mother. So this obviously brings all of those feelings of mourning to the surface -- feelings that a mature adult would obviously struggle to work through, let alone a kid whom loss his mom at age 6. This needs to be taken slow and respectfully. Loss of a parent is a gut wrenching trauma, especially at a young age. No rational conversation is going to make that feeling go away.
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    Howdy!
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    The Church as recalled all missionaries not native to S. Korea.
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    My first college was BYU-Idaho and it was a terrible experience for me (partly due to culture clash, partly due to handling things bad on my part). I left after 3 semesters. Afterwards, I was look for places to finish my degree, and seriously seriously considered a local Catholic college, to which I had good ties and really admired a lot about them and their atmosphere. I very much enjoyed the many visits I had there, but visiting friends and checking it out for myself. Ultimately, this school took runner-up place, and I instead enrolled in a state school which had much stronger academic connections in my chosen field.
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    Tithing is largely a personal + the Lord thing. If she feels like this is something that should be done, I would seek to understand her point of view better rather than to argue. Especially over $20 / month.
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    Listening and asking questions is a good thing. That's how we learn more about each other, and how to better love each other
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    LDS Christinas don't view the unity that is the Godhead as "just an organization". It's very... off base when you put it that way, and hoesntly it kind of feels offensive. That unity is HUGE.
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    You really don't seem to understand the LDS Christian view here. It's not just "agreed on an organization". It is a way of being: your heart, your soul, your ways, everything you are.
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    I was single when I left the Singles Ward, because I found church to be too unnerving without wiggling children involved. So I went to the local family ward. I was 100% welcomed, and everyone laughed at my reasoning. I made friends with the young families, the older empty nesters, and the always single folks there. Despite the fact that I was technically a early 20's single person, I felt much more connect there than I ever did in the Single Wards. And then I moved cities, and had an equally welcomed experience in that family ward. And in the third city I lived in as well.
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    it's a reaction when there's disagreement. Eve, you're of course entitled to your views. But do they do contrast significantly to LDS Christian views of the Gospel. So the challenge for all is to try to disagree politely.
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    There's a Trib article stating that a bunch of missionaries in countries XYZ are being postponed or given new assignments. The Philippines wasn't on the list, so I'm not not sure it's helpful, but I did see that.
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    ^ Fantastically said.
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    I have a couple of thoughts here— (the “you” here is generic) Are you welcome? Of course, everyone is welcome. Welcome to come to your local congregation (aka ward) for everything. Also welcome to chat about the light and goodness you do have. A seedling of a testimony is indeed beautiful. Though seeding are indeed meant to grow, not stay seedlings forever. Sometimes that growth can be scary or involve a leap of faith – in fact, most times it does. Growth is seldom comfortable. We need to give a seedling light and water, encouraging it’s growth. We don’t want to give it a weedwhacker because we’re scared of it, or be any of those other reasons seeds die in the Parable of the Sower. All in all, it reminds me of a saying by Elder Holland: “Come as you are, but don’t expect to stay that way”. It’s from one of my all time favorite General Conference talks: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2017/04/songs-sung-and-unsung?lang=eng
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    God's game plan is bigger than ours. God is EQUALLY with both sets of parents, and will bring blessings equally to both. Even when we don't see them today, and it does hurt a lot today.
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    The most serious sins being denying the Holy Ghost, then killing, then sexual sins are very BROAD categories. Denying the Holy Ghost is pretty straight forward. But not all killings are equal in their gruesomeness. They're all very serious situations, but there's a huge difference between a serial killer whom does things for the thrill, versus somebody in a situation of war or unavoidable self defense. LIkewise not all sexual sins are equal in their gruesomeness. They're all serious situations, but there's a huge difference between a serial pedophile whom does things for the thrill, versus a stupid teenager alone in their bedroom. They ARE serious and they ARE sins. But they're not the same.
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    Howdy! I'm another person whom loves learning about other faiths, including studying Lutherism before. Welcome welcome! Feel free to ask any question you'd like.
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    Administrative policy book for all of the administrative-how-to-do-this stuff. The big "update" with it is that they took the old two books, and combined them into one online for everyone. Honestly, it's not groundbreaking at all.
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    I see much bueaty & majesty in His Plan and gifts for us. You... seemingly don't see it, and instead want it to go away. It make me sad.
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    Eve, I got to be honest: you and your beliefs here make me very sorrowful.
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    Why hate and disregard His any of His gifts?
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    This world, this life, this chance for grow are all among of the gifts He has given you. Don't disregard it just because HE also gives other gifts too.
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    Eve, this world is a gift from God for you, so that you might have true joy. Everything about it is for your learning, your growth, and your joy.
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    Find out later this week
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    Pardon my bluntness: but this an EXTREMELY unhealthy attitude. E v e, this world and your life is a beautiful gift from your Father in Heaven. It is a place He specifically designed for you, in His infinite wisdom, to learn and grow. Yes, this does involve some sadness and pain, but that's part all part of His plan to help you grow and learn about true joy. Don't bemoan / spit on His gift, wishing for death instead.