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    seashmore reacted to Sunday21 in Craziest situation ever   
    Good news! I may get a ministering sister! I called my former bishop’s wife and she feels that this can be arranged! Very happy 😊 
    Things are getting better! 
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    seashmore reacted to Sunday21 in Craziest situation ever   
    Thank you! But I am now entering a state of war. I will not be able to have my sisters enter my house. They are very vengeful. I may be serving food to the homeless at Xmas. Actually now that I think of this, I would far rather do this then spend time with my sisters! My sisters are fine but only if you do exactly what they say. Step out of line and there is nothing that they will not do.
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    seashmore reacted to Iggy in Craziest situation ever   
    @Sunday21 are you financially dependent on family money? Say a trust set up where you receive X amount of $ to assist in your mother's health needs? Then if you are, I would have an independent lawyer (yours and yours alone) go over that trust and spell out in bullet points your responsibilities, each siblings responsibilities, etc. Then if the other siblings are not doing what the trust lays out for them to do, have your own lawyer proceed with legal action against them. 
    Get your locks changed for heaven's sake - include your home office also. Are you on good terms with your neighbors? If so, ask them to call the police if they see any of your siblings traipsing about your home and yard when you are not home.
    I have a younger sister that is a "nut job" like @anatess2 says. Took the rest of the siblings nearly 15 years to finally realize just how toxic she is. Because of her screwed up actions she now lives a very, very lonely life. Her husband divorced her, her 4 children and their children have nothing to do with her, and her 4 remaining siblings and their 8 children and their children avoid her at ALL costs. Toxic is toxic. Last we heard even her Ward & Stake members are avoiding her.
    It was and is a continuing struggle to forgive her ~ in writing this, I am fairly certain I have forgiven her ~ I just will NEVER forget, or allow her back into my life. When asked by the neices, nephews, and their children why, I am forthright and tell them why. That story has been told so many times, that now I can do it without deviating (Oh, look, a shiny dime), and without hatred in my voice.
    Remember, remember that the gospel of Jesus Christ is TRUE. I suggest that your download the Come Follow Me for Individuals and Come Follow Me, Sunday. Study each weeks scriptures. What I am doing is also printing out the Joseph Smith, Jr Translation. This way I can fully understand the scriptures. ,  https://rsc.byu.edu/recent/joseph-smiths-translation-bible-electronic-library  Download Word Cruncher, then select the free books from the menu selections. Joseph Smith translated corrections to both the old and new testaments. Actually I copy and paste, then I paste in the verses that remain the same, change their text color to red. As I listen to the lds.org scriptures, I read along with my copy of the JST.
     
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    seashmore reacted to JohnsonJones in Craziest situation ever   
    I am not sure of all what happened at the church, but I think you have a testimony.  It sounds to me that you may be experiencing what some call "burn out."  This can happen to the best people, especially if they spend a LOT of time doing something.  I know you did a LOT of things and when you get super involved in things, sometimes one can experience a great degree of burn out.  This can be exacerbated if one is ill or has disabilities. 
    I can understand anger at those who abuse you (or others).  They are NOT the church, and the church is not them.  Also, the gospel is not the church and the church is not the gospel per se.  The church is the vehicle or vessel in which the gospel is taken to others and how the ordinances are administered.
    It sounds as if terrible things have happened to you.  I would hope that in regards to the church, you would take a step back and relax.  Read the Book of Mormon as time warrants and do not stress over whether you are doing your callings or succeeding in specific tasks.  Focus on yourself and your health and your difficulties.  Continue to read the Book of Mormon and pray for help and aid.
    I hope that you can separate the specific Church buildings and leaders from the gospel itself and love the gospel for itself.  The gospel is not the callings or leaders or others such items, but the teachings of salvation.  You don't have to be super involved in the church.  Instead, just work on you.  If you are keeping the commandments and being faithful to your covenants, you should be good with the Lord.  That's all that doing your best really needs.  It's not doing what a leader tells you to do, or letting a local leader get away with things, or anything else to that degree. 
    Jesus created the World.  He apparently believes in a great deal of freedom.  With this freedom he allows all sorts of evil to occur without punishing many of those who do evil.  That is because this Earth is not necessarily made for him specifically, but for us.  It is the vehicle where we prove whether we choose good or evil. 
    In many ways the Church is similar.  It is a thing made for and led by men.  Jesus Christ is at it's head, but he is not there as you would view other leaders at the head of their organizations.  It would be more similar to George Washington is the Father of our Country (USA, not Canada) or the Constitution (USA) leads our government.  There are other leaders that may not follow that example or do not agree with what the Constitution states or has a different interpretation.  It doesn't dictate every thing and many times they (constitution or the example of George Washington) are there covering the more broad categories than the more intricate items.  Even as we say the Constitution is the basis of our government we have other leaders that many would say lead the USA (such as a President, a Speaker over the House, a Supreme Court Justice, the Leader of the Senate, and many others).  Not all of them will necessarily do what is right or follow what the US Constitution says.
    The same could be applied to ANY organization which is led by men.  Thus, even as we hope that leaders feel the spirit and are led by it in the Church, this does not always happen.  There may even be bad leaders and those who are quite evil at times.  We may be on the receiving end of these people and they may do terrible things to us.  At those times, even if they are leaders in the church, I would hope that one would recognize they do not necessarily represent the gospel and can separate that they and the gospel of Jesus Christ are different things.  We should have faith in the gospel of Jesus Christ.
    I am sorry for the difficulties you have had with your local unit and the leaders there.  I hope that you can separate them from your testimony of the gospel and even if you disengage from them, engage in the gospel itself with the Scriptures and prayer.
    In your personal life it sounds difficult and once again I am sorry for the difficulties you are experiencing.  If you have to change the locks to keep them from trashing your house or experiencing Identity theft, it sounds as if you are in a very bad situation. 
    I would probably change my locks as quickly as possible and have a deadbolt (or two or three along with a latch from the inside they cannot open from the outside when you are in the house) or two as well that they do not have keys to.  If they try to still enter, I may get a restraining order (if that exists in Canada) or otherwise to prevent such assault.
    Family can be difficult to deal with at times, especially when they are as seemingly aggressive as you paint your family.  I wouldn't say that you need to get them out of your life (though you say some rather scary things in relation to them that is very concerning and might warrant police protection) but I'd say there definitely needs to be boundaries set between you and them that all can agree upon.  The first thing you need to do is to worry about you, your health, and your own well being.  It is hard to care for others when you are not taken care of yourself already.
     
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Craziest situation ever   
    @Sunday21, sometimes for health (mental and/or physical) we need to take a break from people and/or put up healthy boundaries.  I myself had to stop attending Church for a while due to mental health issues.  There's nothing wrong with this, and we can still keep nursing our love testimony and love of God.  
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Craziest situation ever   
    Get a locksmith.  The fact that you NEED to do demonstrates just how bad the situation is.
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    seashmore reacted to classylady in Craziest situation ever   
    I would politely tell my family that “due to my illness I can no longer assist.” Or, “due to my illness I unfortunately will have to cut back. “ “Doctor’s orders.”
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    seashmore reacted to Vort in Craziest situation ever   
    Sister Sunday21, based on your report, your sisters are using you (and so is your mother). The solution? You must learn to say "no". You need not be nasty or even unCanadian to say "no"; you need only be firmly unequivocal. "Sorry, I can't do that." "But WHY NOT? I'm only asking you to blah blah blah!" "Sorry, I can't do that."
    Will you get criticism for this? Yes. Will you be called selfish, and other nastier names? Probably. Will that make you cry? I guess that's up to you and your personality. But you can say "no" and mean it without being unkind. So do that. There's my advice.
    You may want to consider a change in employment, as well. A bit of further advice, unasked for, that you're free to take or leave.
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    seashmore reacted to JohnsonJones in What warrants a talk with my bishop, did i break the law of chastity?   
    We have no idea what you did, but as Pam says, if you are concerned about it, then go talk to the Bishop.  He can clarify and if wrong doing or sin was involved that needs to be confessed to him, he will be able to tell you.  Since you would already be there, it would already be done.  If there does not need to be a confession of it, he can ALSO clarify this.
    HOWEVER, seeing a Bishop is NOT just for major sins and help to over come them.  He's not just there to confess breaking the law of chastity or other things related to that.  Whenever someone has difficulty in their lives and need help overcoming it, questions pertaining to the gospel, or questions in regards to their own lives and the gospel they can ask the Lord about it, but the Bishop is also there if they need it.
    A Majority of the discussions with the Bishop are about very mundane things such as finances, disagreements, and other issues that have nothing to do with the things many people think Bishops are primarily there for. 
    If you need help, the Bishop normally will do their best to help you out with it, regardless of what it is.
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    seashmore reacted to unixknight in So um... I have an announcement.   
    Mission Accomplished.

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    seashmore reacted to Iggy in So um... I have an announcement.   
    You do, it is called Garments. 😃
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    seashmore reacted to unixknight in So um... I have an announcement.   
    My wife @Dollfacekilla and I have been married for 12 years.  
    And this coming Saturday...
    ...at the Philadelphia Temple...
    ...we're getting Sealed.  
    ..finally.  
    Just, ya know, thought some of you might like to know 
     
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    Yes, usually for cultural reasons: they come from an LDS family, everyone was baptized at 8, and they want their kids to be too.  There was a lot of feeling excluded because the answer was "no" and feeling like the kids were being punished for the crimes of the parents.  
    Speaking personally... I know a lot of people will disagree with me, but I liked the kids having that protective shield: policy protecting a small one from being put in that horrible awkward spot of choosing between Christ and their parents.  
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    seashmore reacted to MarginOfError in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    The more likely scenario is that a child's parents divorce and one of the parents enters into a homosexual marriage.  The child in that situation would be affected by the policy.  
    Revoking the policy means that the same policies that apply to children of divorced straight parents apply to all children.
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    seashmore reacted to Midwest LDS in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    Okay I dug a little deeper and read the whole press release. There is not a change of doctrine going on here, just a change in a small specific policy. President Oaks:
    "Previously, our Handbook characterized same-gender marriage by a member as apostasy. While we still consider such a marriage to be a serious transgression, it will not be treated as apostasy for purposes of Church discipline. Instead, the immoral conduct in heterosexual or homosexual relationships will be treated in the same way."
    The sin is still serious, it's just going to be treated the same as any other sexual sin. I have to admit, though this is my first experience of not having a testimony of something the church does right away and I don't like it. Hopefully conference will clarify things a little bit. I don't have to believe this immediately, I can take my time with it as it does not affect the testimony I've had my entire life in Christ and his church.
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    seashmore reacted to Just_A_Guy in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    I think it’s been pretty easy for apologists to categorize past policies as, at least, being appropriate for the time and place in which they existed.
    This one is harder, because as @Midwest LDS says—what has changed in the last three years, really?  
    (Other than, the mass apostasy of featherweight Mormons who couldn’t reconcile themselves to the 2015 policy.  Hmm, maybe that’s it.  Maybe it was supposed to be another “Zion’s Camp”/wheat-versus-tares sort of moment . . .)
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    seashmore reacted to NeuroTypical in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    I'm sort of in the process of spitting out my drink here...
     
    I guess my initial impression, is we've always been trying hard to do that last paragraph.  And our leaders are altering the policy because they figure we can do it better this way.
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    seashmore reacted to Jane_Doe in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    Honestly... while I realize a lot of people will be happy about this, it makes me really worry.  I worry that it's going to put families in an awkward position -- kids being taught that their dad & papa's relationship is wrong in one venue and that it's totally ok in another.  That unrepentant dad & papa's would resent that.  Primary teachers being caught is the middle.  Little eight year olds feeling like they have to choose.  ... 
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    seashmore reacted to mirkwood in Church policy change on same sex marriage   
    In my mind this was the issue the whole time and probably will still cause issues in those homes.
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    seashmore reacted to 2ndRateMind in Metric ruler in inches. Best. Ruler. Ever.   
    Ummm. Can't help thinking that if the world went metric, it would be an awful lot easier for US scientists. Base twelve has much to recommend it, such as the divisibility by 1, 2, 3, 4 and 6, but if no one else is on that scale, that poses a problem. On the other hand, we did evolve to have 10 digits, so maybe God is trying to tell us something.
    Best wishes, 2RM.
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    seashmore reacted to NeuroTypical in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    I'm doing well.  3 digits, and they're all the same number!  And the number isn't 3!  The last time I weighed this little was July 3.  June-July 2018 held my previous low record - I'm 5 lbs away from that.
    Now that I'm at the low end of things, the challenge is to keep losing that extra 10 that has been my constant companion for more than a quarter of a century.  I will tell myself "Hey, my all-time low is good enough.  I can be happy here.  Let's move to maintaining - I get more burgers that way!"    It is a persuasive argument, because it's true.  I can be happy as a fit and active and strong 10 lbs over.   But I can be ecstatic in the stable 210s, or, dare I dream, have a zero as my middle digit for the first time since the late 1980's?
    I rocked January.  Now to rock February.  Now to fight the apathy and entitlement that comes after I've made a bragging post like this.
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    seashmore got a reaction from SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Something I felt silly for not knowing/realizing until someone told me, but if you have a multi speed bike, the lower numbers make it easier to pedal, which makes hills seem less intimidating. There are some pretty steep hills on my favorite trails (they're actually switch backs in some places) that I rode while training for a 60 charity mile ride. I memorized hymns as my "soundtrack", and loved the wordplay of the chorus of Praise to the Man as I ascended and conquered those hills.
    I can hardly wait for the weather to nicen up so I can go riding, although she needs a good tune up before that happens.
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    seashmore got a reaction from SpiritDragon in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Something I felt silly for not knowing/realizing until someone told me, but if you have a multi speed bike, the lower numbers make it easier to pedal, which makes hills seem less intimidating. There are some pretty steep hills on my favorite trails (they're actually switch backs in some places) that I rode while training for a 60 charity mile ride. I memorized hymns as my "soundtrack", and loved the wordplay of the chorus of Praise to the Man as I ascended and conquered those hills.
    I can hardly wait for the weather to nicen up so I can go riding, although she needs a good tune up before that happens.
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    seashmore got a reaction from NeuroTypical in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Unpopular opinion: Arby's salads are a winter life hack for me. Here, they're closer to $5 and generally constitute a full meal for me. I look at the cost as a convenience fee. I don't have to prep any of the lettuce, tomatoes, or meat, nor do I have to clean up after any of it. The energy it would take me to do all of that is well worth the financial cost when I'm feeling a little lethargic. 
     
    I've not been attending volleyball, as it has been polar vortexing so once I'm home, I stay there. I also haven't done any yoga since I got sick three weeks ago. Curling league returned this week after two off, and my stamina and stability are improving. The social and strategic aspects are also helping with my mental health. I've been eating less sugar and have been on a soup kick this month. I'm trying to stick with low sodium and veggie heavy options. Not as close to my goals as I'd like to be, but closer than I was a month ago.
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    seashmore got a reaction from NeuroTypical in 2019 Weight Loss Group   
    Unpopular opinion: Arby's salads are a winter life hack for me. Here, they're closer to $5 and generally constitute a full meal for me. I look at the cost as a convenience fee. I don't have to prep any of the lettuce, tomatoes, or meat, nor do I have to clean up after any of it. The energy it would take me to do all of that is well worth the financial cost when I'm feeling a little lethargic. 
     
    I've not been attending volleyball, as it has been polar vortexing so once I'm home, I stay there. I also haven't done any yoga since I got sick three weeks ago. Curling league returned this week after two off, and my stamina and stability are improving. The social and strategic aspects are also helping with my mental health. I've been eating less sugar and have been on a soup kick this month. I'm trying to stick with low sodium and veggie heavy options. Not as close to my goals as I'd like to be, but closer than I was a month ago.