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Note what I bolded above. I would like to point out that a person can be sexually selfish even if the guy is always on top which is the most traditional position. A person can be sexually selfish during any sexual activity and that selfishness has nothing to do with what exactly you are doing with your spouse in bed. That selfishness also bleeds out into other areas of life as well.

Me too Pam. I don't get it either. Porn counts as including other people btw. Yes, there are couples out there in this world that view porn together. Ick.

Okay, that's fine. You don't need to go into details, and you don't have to reconcile with your husband. However, he is not your ex, until you are divorced. He's your soon-to-be-ex. I'm glad you are going to go see your Bishop. :)

Okay, I *thought* we had started going into China, but my sister didn't think so. How do we find out about this stuff?

No no, and more no. That's cheating. Period. Right now you are in rebound mode, and you will be for a while after getting a divorce. Most rebound relationships end. You are on an emotional high from meeting someone so wonderful and nice of the opposite sex. I don't know why you are getting divorced, but what if you end up not divorcing? What if something occurs and you and your husband have a change of heart and are actually able to work things out? If that were to happen what a complication your infidelity would be (just because sex isn't happening doesn't mean it's not infidelity). You may not think such a thing is possible, but that has been known to happen. Even if it doesn't, do you really think that Heavenly Father would be happy with you, a married woman, dating someone other than your husband? Until you are divorced you are off limits. Or should be. I know this is probably sounding really harsh, but I have seen first hand what happens when a divorce is in process, or even separation, and one spouse decides to cheat, excuse me, date, before the divorce is final. It is not worth inflicting that kind of pain on another human being. Even if you do not believe your husband deserves consideration, be a virtuous woman and wait until you are no longer married. If this man you want to date really is as wonderful as you say he is, he will respect you more for choosing to wait and he'll be waiting for you when you are no longer bound in matrimony.

Don't rock back and forth too fast. You'll get dizzy if you too fast. Really.

Hey all, have we started missionary work in China yet. I wasn't sure, but couldn't find any modern info on it.

The PDF of the manual is available here: Program Study Guide

It makes me wonder what Dr. Amen forgets to mention! LOL. I find this stuff interesting because our brains are the most complicated thing known to man, but we can damage it so easily. Satan is probably pretty pissed that we have this visual against all the things he tries to get us to do that is contrary to the word of wisdom.

Or it could be that your image is simply too big. And IMO it IS too big. Large signatures are obnoxious. Also, you need to host it on your own web space. To link it is fine, but to cause the image to show up as Hemi did is bandwidth stealing. Every time someone loads your posts it loads not only the text but the images for every single post, and thus bandwidth from lolcats.com is being used. So, please, save the image on your hard drive and upload it on your own web space if you want to do more than provide a direct link.

Okay, I have some understanding of what you are going through. The problem is that selfishness is what is preventing you from wanting to follow Heavenly Father's guidance in this matter. You are focused on YOU and YOUR pain and YOUR feelings. You know what? I'm going to PM you.

And this is why I feel that Janice's friend is not completely bonkers. Swift to judge on the matter, but she does have valid concerns. It is possible to have fairly modest leotards. Too much exposed back, spaghetti strap sleeves, low collar line, and with a bikini line in the crotch area to show more leg and hip, are NOT necessary in a leotard. I wish people understood that you can still dress beautifully while being modest!

But one you can no longer force upon her. Badgering her about it won't help. I understand that you are worried about her, and I agree that your in laws are being a bad influence. I do not know what's going on in your daughter's head. Maybe she likes the doting and bistaches to them to continue getting the sympathy and whatever else it is your in laws give her. Maybe she's seeing how far she can go with getting away with things on her own that she never was able to get away with before. Maybe she does have self esteem issues, but if that's the case then she needs to feel loved and supported in all her righteous doings. People with self esteem issues do NOT need to simply feel better about themselves. They need a GOAL, something greater, something outside of themselves that they can reach for, to work towards. What is your daughter doing with herself? Is she really living on her own? Or are your in laws paying for everything? Does she work? Does she go to school? What does she want to do with her life? What skills does she want to acquire? My suggestion is to stop focusing on her appearance and start focusing on life goals. Help her find her passion. And of course, in doing so, take it up to the Lord and see what He has to say about how to go about it.

You mean they're as dark as the DM/GM (Game Master) make it? Also, dark does not necessarily mean evil or satanic. You can have a game with some serious subject matter and things going on. I ran a game of Shadowrun 3rd edition that had all sorts of aspects to it. It was dark, it had some very serious and very sobering tones to it. However, it also had some hilarious moments and zanyness. It was a great game until tow of my players broke up. >.< I like parts of the world of D&D, but I find the system too restrictive. My favorite RPGs are Shadowrun 3rd edition and Exalted 2nd edition. I'm in an Exalted game right now, but it only runs whenever we can because two of our players go to college outside of the area. I avoid campaigns that would require me to be evil. I have never RPGed with a group of religious people before. I would love to run a game of Shadowrun for a bunch of Mormons. You're a bunch of Mormon's without a SIN (Serial Identification Number), you're stuck living in the slums with the rest of the sinless. You nave no way to prove who you are. What do you do? Do you turn to a life of crime? How do you keep an honest living when the best way to make money is to become a runner? How do you pick and choose who to deal with and what runs to take? Etc.. That's the sort of thing I'd never get to do with a group of nonreligious folk. Alas. PS: Ram, your coolness value just went up yo.

That was uncalled for. This girl loves him, but right now doubt and paranoia are creeping into her. What if they ARE supposed to get married sometime after his mission and Satan is trying to put a wedge between them? She has waited sixteen months. That means she loves him enough to wait for him and does not want to date other guys. She wants her missionary. She simply needs to be trained on how to write appropriate letters and how not to let her anxieties rules what she writes. If anything she needs to write a letter apologizing for her behavior. Maybe even mentioning that she believes that Satan is fueling doubt and paranoia to make life harder for both of them and she refuses to be privy to that. Then she can continue on about some wonderful talks at church or scripture passages and afterwards sign it Love, so and so. No I love yous or I miss yous. That would uplift him and he would respect her more.

But they start the pathos NOW, so that if they don't get their way in the courts they can put it to the vote of the people and still get their way in four years.

Maybe he just forgets. Maybe when she bugs him about it then he doesn't really feel like it? Who wants to say I love you after being nagged? I personally would not worry about it. They're just words anyway. Actions speak louder than words. He still writes to her, and that right there tells me that she is still in his heart. She should feel loved that he is taking the time to write to her because he does not have to. The only person he's required to write to is his mother as far as I know.

Seriously? Because that's totally how I read it. I was completely confused as to why you were taking Misshalfway's post so personally. I was assuming that you had become all hyper sensitive to anyone posting anything in this thread.

Well, invite him to YOUR youth activities and to YOUR camps. LDS folk have that stuff too!

Trust your Bishop. Continue to be in therapy. When a new Bishop comes along you can talk to him too. What does your therapist mean by self love? I do not understand the concept.

I know lots of stuff about brain health. Not because I have a degree in it. But because I've read lots of stuff about it. I have a degree in Early Childhood Education, which while it talks about development doesn't talk about the actual brain and how to keep it healthy so you'll work right. So, you know, read all you can. I never took a class on brain health, but it's awesome stuff so I read about. When it comes up in conversation people think I went to school for all that knowledge! Nope. Thought I'd let you know that learning on your own can be quite valuable. :)

It concerns me greatly that no one has spoken about this. Sleeveless dresses ARE a problem. It sets a precedent that there is nothing immodest about those clothes, and causes strife and rebelliousness when it's time for the transition. It can also be difficult to know when to make that transition, since to parents who witness the development of their child tend to have a difficult time seeing the difference between a four year old and a five year old. We should dress our children as though they were wearing child sized garments. That way there is no transition. It's simply how modest people dress. It is also a part of preparing them for the Temple. If you have cute sleeveless dresses then have your children wear cute sleeved shirts or blouses underneath them to match. Kids can still be kids while dressed modestly.

I am sorry to hear that.

I do not believe that you will be able to figure out if this girl is the one to marry until you talk to your Bishop and confess that you lied to get into the Temple to see a family sealing and that ever since you've kept up the lie. Everything you told us, tell your Bishop. He will have the answers you need.

Priests are the ones who pray over the sacrament yes? Deacons are the ones who pass out the sacrament yes? Priests can do pass out the sacrament too, so can Elders and High Priests. But Deacons can't bless the sacrament. . . So, if a Priest is on the island with them what's the issue? Just A Guy and Hemi you both have me rather confused.